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Asked how many people you have met
May 12 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
I get messages asking me how much 'luck' I'm having on this site. WTF? I guess people just want to know if its worth their while being here. Sometimes I think they are sick of 'fakes'. Others just want to wank over your stories of meet ups because they haven't met anyone. Lots of reasons really. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
does it really matter how many you have met,,we all know why we on this site ,,come on ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
God I coud tell some stories from adventures over the years I should put a few up and let he wank feast begin they would all be stories from south America .........but I would still never ask anyone nor tell anyone
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RHP User
12 years ago
They wanna know how much of a man whore you are!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
None of their business either, you've met who you've met and it bears no pertinency on WHO you are or how you treat people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm genuinely interested. And because I always hope the "RHP experience" has been as pleasant for others as it has been for me. I've met between 20 and 30 people through this site. Some I ended up having sex with, some not and a fair few I met at social events. I wouldn't tell how many I slept with, but apart from that I'm happy to talk about my experiences (anonymously of course).
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RHP User
12 years ago
Think people ask that question to break the ice to start a convo.I tend to find a lot of people have a hidden agenda and judge people by trivial things.I have met a few people ,hell i met heaps of people at the drinks night at sexpo ,was a great night ,no hidden agenda just people having a laugh and enjoying one another's company.No sex for me that night but ,plenty of drinks .I must say it was one of the best nights i have had in a long time. Not everything is about sex,even tho we are on a sex site!If you enjoy peoples company ,anything else that comes i consider a bonus.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If a woman is pressuring you for a response, I think she is trying to assess if you are a player or if you get around a lot. Otherwise I think people ask just because its common ground and something you can discuss. I often ask about experiences rather than how many or who they have met.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes I agree the women would be looking to see if I'm a player but my profile is pretty straight forward and honest but I'm also discreet and maybe just maybe I'm ashamed at my lack of action on here :-( but I also get the question from couples and just random messages asking as well
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
I've been asked, and I've asked myself.Its been a simple case of a "tell me about your experiences" kind of conversation.No big deal made of it..... no big deal thought of it in return.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
I actually don't feel comfortable with people who are players.......who are players ? That's easy, anyone who s getting more than me :) I had one woman, we had been messaging quite a lot, and she told me one morning that she was feeling great because her long term fwb was back on the scene, and that he was coming back again that night....... Until that point I was hoping to meet. I had no right to expect exclusivity, and I really didn't expect it, but unless I was being invited to join them (which I wasn't) then I really don't need to know. Hp xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
I went on a date with a man who told me he'd been on RHP for two years. When I asked him how many women he'd met from here, he said: "Ehhh.... well, actually I think you may be the first one." You THINK? He wasn't even lying, I think he was embarrassed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My guess is that it's probably the newbies that ask the questions! We are quite new and I've been guilty of asking it probably just to make conversation tbh! I guess the longer you have done this sort of thing the more confidence you gain but I think you need to help the newbies settle by being patient and realising that there will be many questions going on in their head. Just recently we met a couple and I thought "fuck check out how many validations they have" it made me feel quite intimidated but tbh it was all good. So basically I'm saying its prob the newbies that ask such questions!! Just my pennies worth :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot' They wanna know how much of a man whore you are!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile Especially if you were asked by women. But it can be any reasons really.I personally tend to think that the majority of people who would ask this kind of question, and then pressured people to answer it, are either nosy or carry double standards! I too get asked this question by almost every man I met from RHP! It annoys me to pieces and is an instant turn off! So, I just pick a random number to feed their curiosity and shut them up! LOL Well, that's what they've asked for by asking stupid question like that!The reason I mention double standards here, because the minority of men who come on a sex site like this carry it (speaking from my own experience only)! They think conservatively and think only men should be allowed to pursue their sexual desire openly and freely!I never ask anyone this question as I have the intellect to open a conversation with broader topics lol but I guess some women (minor portion only) would like to know because they might want to see if you would be a suitable choice for a boyfriend/husband relationship later down the track??? I don't know, I am only guessing Please note:The above comment is made purely based on my own experiences and my gathering from the observation of other people's circumstances. I am not pointing finger at anyone or criticsing! Therefore, please nobody gets upset and come and attack me
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RHP User
12 years ago
hey hey hey im hearing yah.
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RHP User
12 years ago
exactly you are right why else be such a fasciast. would love to get to know ya babe........
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RHP User
12 years ago
...Number One ! GG♒ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lol attacking you would be hot I think lol :p. but I much prefer to use the word RAVISH!!!! Lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
If there's a couple and I think they may be a fake profile or single male in disguise, I will ask about experience. Also I will ask if their profile says they are complete noobs. It's more so we can get a sense of where the couple's enthusiasm levels, confidence levels and play levels might sit, rather than a comparing stories etc. I would not discount a person due to their "fuck number" but sometimes it's good if you're trying to gauge comfort-with-swinging level in the lead up to a meet. - Ms Otori
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' I went on a date with a man who told me he'd been on RHP for two years. When I asked him how many women he'd met from here, he said: "Ehhh.... well, actually I think you may be the first one." You THINK? He wasn't even lying, I think he was embarrassed. I've been on here for about 8 months now and have only met 3 people. My excuse is that I live in a smaller regional city that is thousands of kilometres away from even the nearest capital. And ok, yeah I am a bit picky as well. I would certainly hope that if I lived in Sydney, or even Brisbane though, that I'd be getting more action than I currently am.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I pretty much always ask for a couple if reasons, firstly to see if they are fake or not, as you'll all agree there are heaps of those around. And secondly it's nice to know they've had a bit if experience, and know what they are after. I think it's also a pretty good conversation stater.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Curiosity, killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back! Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
because they are gauging their own success...or lack of...against yours?
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RHP User
12 years ago
is enough to show them that If I put one more in the bed will fall to bits.
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RHP User
12 years ago
sarapis, I agree with you. when posed with that question I naturally recoil. I really don't get the need to ask it. I don't give two shits how many people the person I have just met from rhp has seen. it reeks of insecurity and as such , a turn off. I like me a strong wench. haha
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Honky...... So next time youre asked.... make shit up! For those who've seen the movie "This Is Spinal Tap"... you'll recall the section where one guitarist is describing the individuality of his amplifier.... because instead of going to 10... his, goes to 11.So give them the answer they want to hear, and turn it up to 11.Her - "so how many have you met from RHP?"C_A_H - "How many what?.... women?.... Gee.... dunno......do couples count as 1? What about a netball team... is that 1, or 7? Do I include their pets? I mean, we've had some reeeeeeally freaky nights you know"Keep it up, and they'll soon drop the question if youre funny.DG
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Sweetnspicy1
12 years ago
I ask the question so that I can work out if I need to go slow with them (beginners), or just dive right in. :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Now that would be kissing & telling wouldn't it?? Gypsy- Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot' Lol attacking you would be hot I think lol :p. but I much prefer to use the word RAVISH!!!! Lol- Posted from rhpmobile A game of words indeed sirlurkalot lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
I usually ask this question for a few reasons: 1. i want to know if they have ever actually MET anyone - or are they just looking for chat etc 2. I want to know if they are experienced - depending on the experience i may prefer someone more or less experienced than myself. 3. I want to know their attitude to their success or lack of. Can't stand people who lack self awareness or are bitter. 4. It's an easy conversation starter where i know we both have something in common. Back when i was married and only played with married men, i also didn't want to be their first affair. None of these have anything to do with insecurities and i don't want names and details, just an overall view.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'Ms_Devious' I went on a date with a man who told me he'd been on RHP for two years. When I asked him how many women he'd met from here, he said: "Ehhh.... well, actually I think you may be the first one." You THINK? He wasn't even lying, I think he was embarrassed. I've been on here for about 8 months now and have only met 3 people. I didn't mean to imply there was anything wrong with the fact I was his first date. It was the fact he pretended to really have to think about my question. It sounded like he wanted to lie, but then decided against it. I felt bad for him because he was expecting to be judged, when I was just curious.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...for some people (including us) is just a way of finding out how much a person has been around...not being hypocritical here...it is a swinging site, and people are on here to have fun with others...but we ourselves haven't played with many ...and prefer too play with others who are also a little selective...so if a guy said yeah, doing pretty good...met 5 women in the past few weeks...i would lose interest and politely decline meeting them...we all know why we are on here, yes...i am not judging anyone...each to their own...but the idea of standing in a long cue with a ticket that has a two digit number on it, is not an exciting idea at all...i am not naive...and do not expect to be the first one/only one, etc...but don't want to be number 6 for the week either...after all, i think most of us would like to feel a LITTLE special
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RHP User
12 years ago
some people can't think of anything more scintillating to say....whenever I am asked that question now ,I always say,''Why do you want to know,what difference does it make?''.....for me it is the word equivalent of a bucket of cold water.....puhleese
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have told me they don't get many messages or attention, however, I don't ask the amount or who they have met... But I do question why you would pay money to a site where you do not get results? So to me, if your paying a membership, you are getting the desired results, enough said :).
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just recently had a first RHP meet and was nervous as hell. I told him It was my first meet and I was freaking out, he was sweet and said it was his first meet too. It helped our situation. We kept laughing about how strange it was shagging a stranger you've just met at 10am. I wouldn't like to be asked in messages. I guess it's context.
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