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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I believe in the KISS principle ( keep it simple stupid ) . I come here to meet like minded people who have the same itch to scratch.. minus dramas.. I don't want to know your life story or family history although I do respect your right to have feelings for the same..

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Just after a fuck? I get frustrated when guys move too quickly to meeting up without having a proper chat to see if we have the banter. It feels formulaic, like: Hi I'm (age) and I'm a (occupation). I enjoy (hobby1) and (hobby2). I live in (suburb) and I (have x kids/live alone), I'm great company and amazing in bed, how about a coffee? It's like some people think info is the key to getting in my pants. But it's actually cheeky banter. I don't wanna know all about you straight away, I agree some mystery is good, but I need a back-and-forth chat about something/anything for a while to see if you have a sense of humour or can handle me being cheeky. The problem I face is that not everyone can be themselves through written communication. Some people have a wooden persona through text, unable to express themselves the way they naturally speak. And that is a shame because without seeing their personality online, I rarely agree to meet. I'm sure I'm missing out of meeting many amazing men because of this. But hey, that just means more for you Chubz! (God I feel rude calling you that, you are brave to use that nickname!)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I like a bit of chat before hand but meeting someone is the best way to get to know them. As Raven said, people are different on line, and can be more open and relaxed face to face. Id rather chat about each other during a meet. One meet for a drink (with someone who is a good friend of mine now) lasted 3 hours. We just found it so easy to talk to each other. So Id rather leave any questions until I met the guy face to face.

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  AnnieWhichway

  9 years ago

  My messages consist of half lines with the main question of being how i take cock.....oh to have a chat...

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Absolutely perfectly put, couldn't have found the right way to say it, 100% agree, what she said 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Cazz61

  9 years ago

  Annie how do you take your cock??? Personally I like mine hard with a bit of pre cum on the side Sorry OP I got a bit side tracked hehehehehe

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I use the back and forth chat for screening, for me it's a crucial stage of screening, you can be happily chatting away, all good, and then they drop something into conversation that turns you off, simple things perhaps on the surface but I have very clear filters, which i'll never reveal, only failed me once, and if i'd met that guy for a coffee, it wouldn't have made any difference, he still would have had hidden cameras set up to film me and he looked and sounded perfectly normal, but the key thing I did wrong was hook up too quickly with him, never again. Very few get through, which means I rarely have sex anymore, I don't care, i'm pretty much over it anyway. Time to change my age to 125 and take a break lol 😎😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I'm on the opposite side of this one, I like a bit of chit chat before getting to the bedroom stages. helps me feel more relaxed around them then i can be my true self in the bedroom

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Of course communication is very important to know if we want to jump each other or not.. but until we're face to face having a coffee somewhere, you never know..

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I don't know Chubb. You've asked 4 questions and shared 4 or 5 things about yourself. Slow down my friend, your scaring me!! But seriously. I think a question or two is kind of necessary to keep the repartee going. If I wasn't interested in keeping a message conversation flowing, I will probably try to end things politely, without questions. I'm curious though...if you don't want to share much with a Potential, and you don't want to know much about them... ...what do you talk about?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  you're asking us to label you into a stereotype then it's not going to happen, well, not from me at least. I believe that meeting is essential. I believe that sex should be the secondary focus to the interactions. Fun, laughter, and good times should be the main focus, as the rest will naturally evolve if all is healthy. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Mischeviouslad

  9 years ago

  BanterBanter& more BANTER If someone can't communicate with me in a manner that is fun, funny and engaging..... then I'm just not going to want to go any further. So to me..... hearing about guys sending messages which are disturbingly sexualised when they've never even spoken to the recipient.... is just plain odd. (yeah yeah, don't come at me with the "but its a sex site" excuse. If you offer that, you just don't get it, and probably aren't getting it)

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  rupamohan

  9 years ago

  We need some information to build trust but if discretion is important one should think before asking questions. Why I need to know something? What benefit I have when I know answer what disadvantage is if I don't. Unfortunately real world is not that logical. In practice market forces and habits determine questioning. If the relation is unbalanced and one party needs other more that will be men has to compete more to get a girl. He is left with no choice but to either answer all unnecessary questions or walk away. I am surprised it is turning out other way for you.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Im happy to have more than one coffee meets . As long as its face to face in a neutral place where theres no pressure put on either.. It might be a " I'd like to see you again for another coffee " or Thanks for your company ' I enjoyed you and the coffee but I think we need something more, take care... I don't believe in leading anybody on and is why Im happy to meet first.. goes both ways...

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