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Asking females to go with them to events
June 12 2021
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Freaky_Fun
4 years ago
The owners or management of clubs are more than happy to show you around if you haven't been before. Time to put your big boy pants on or lose interest either or 🤷♀️
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Kokoflamingo
4 years ago
Some guy you dont know from Adam messages you to ask if you will go with him to a swingers club. Once you arrive and he feels comfortable, tatty bye. Being used by someone as a means to get into a swingers club isnt too appealing. I have been asked a few times myself. I see a little business oppurtunity here, Kokos Gateway Services. Let me take you through the magic door. Then I will disappear into a puff of glitter. Or something like that. 😀
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RHP User
4 years ago
Good morning Chrispp6, Am curious, have you had a No Thanks response as yet? The ladies have smorgasbord in here so I have read so many times. We are on a couple of sites and this site I find is very difficult to read or even understand.. We wonder how many are real in here! And as for manners or courtesy well that leaves somewhat to be desired. In their defence I will give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they get so many rude approaches that they have chosen to set the same standard in return and not even to respond to polite approaches. Haha, reminds me of my past at a expensive school with clickie groups and it is very hard to get into a circle Good luck.
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teamaj2
4 years ago
There was a post in the forum about this topic last year , sadly I couldn’t find it . I understand your hesitation in going to an event /party alone . It can seem daunting . We still get nervous of the unknown . All parties /events are different. Even the same event a week later will vary . It’s dependant on the crowd present that particular night . Having a lovely lady by your side , in essence is comforting . There isn’t many that would take it on . Perhaps if you developed a friendship with her prior asking her , maybe ? As I have co hosted parties previously, I know many hosts are happy to show you around , introduce you to some people and be there should any questions arise . This is not relevant to all parties . If you do find someone that accepts your offer . Like any other interaction, it’s best to have each other’s expectations, boundaries sorted . I have seen ‘the friendship couple ‘ turn very angry at a party . The lady in question felt the guy was her ‘date ‘and wasn’t impressed him venturing elsewhere. On the flip side , I’ve seen the guy fraught with jealousy over the attention the lady was receiving and he was disgruntled that he wasn’t invited to be part of the action . Yes , the women out weigh the men on RHP . I cant speak for all women but being invited along to simply be ‘a meal ticket ‘ isn’t very appealing . She is capable of taking herself without you covering the cost of her getting in the door . We have been to parties that weren’t worth the cost or effort of attending . Like dating and everything in life not everything we do will be worthwhile . Good luck and be brave . Ax
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ElectricDreamers
4 years ago
Your profile has zero info written to give anyone an idea of what your personality is. In the UK it is very common for single guys to pair up with ladies and escort them to events for the night. Not to ditch them after 15 minutes but to navigate through the night in a social circle. Single women and couples are putting themselves out on a limb, taking risks to engage with this scene. There's more thought going into their choices than that of guys hoping to 'get some action' or whatever the motivation may be to sign up here or try to go to clubs. Agree with comments above - we ladies, single or partnered, are not free prostitutes - newbie couples need to get this too - other people here have not signed up simply to be used in whatever. Start with respect and an intention to share something of yourself with others and you might have that matched by someone out there.
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jessica__rabbit
4 years ago
I get it, going to events alone is awkward AF. But going with a random would be twice as awkward if you ask me. I wouldn't take someone i'd never met to an event as I would never vouch for someone I didn't know. And I also wouldn't reply to someone with no info in their profile. While you seem nice and with good intentions, there absolutely nothing about you or what you're looking for for potential matches to go off. As others have said, write a profile first!! I would suggest meeting someone for a drink and see from there how you get along, and THEN ask if they'd be open to going somewhere with you. It sounds like you want to go as "friends" with no expectation of playing together so you'll need someone on the same page. It's not a hopeless idea, just change your approach. And if you go alone, tell people you meet there that it's your first time and I'm sure most would love to chat to you about how it all works.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Wait! So a guy with ZERO words in his profile, who has made NO effort to indicate the kind of person he is, wants women he just randomly approaches, to go to a sex club with him!?! Have I got that correct?
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Sawadee
4 years ago
Goes to show just how hard this can be ? You would think there are both women and men on this site willing to go together just to experience what its all about.. But noooo... No such thing as trust these days and l understand all the reasons why not. Pity really ,
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RHP User
4 years ago
Sounds like your main issue is trying to save money. Single women are often free entry or just a token amount, so there is no benefit for them to walk in with you for 5 minutes, trying to deceive the owners of the venue. And FYI, some management will ask a single man to leave the event if they enter as a couple, then tell other guests that they are single. They dont like that.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Spend the $100 and go solo. You've got to back yourself - no point asking random women of they'd like to give you some credibility. What's in it for them? And besides why would you want to complicate your options by "being" with someone? The reality is a lot of people on this site are all conversation, no action and maybe a little aggrevation. If you want some satisfsction it is probably easier to go to an event, catch a ladies eye, share a witty anecdote or two and you'll know pretty quickly where you stand, but that's just my opinion.
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RHPCountry
4 years ago
You can attend some events as a single guy or maybe go to a meet and greet first. Each night at a club can be totally different. Depends on the night or the theme and or event. Even different organisers run completely different nights. Maybe get to know a woman first before asking her to go to a swingers club with you. Once inside most clubs you have to stay as a couple and maybe not knowing you makes them standoffish but i cant talk for them. Good luck and stay interested.
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nightingale8
4 years ago
It’s daunting, I get it. And tough if you’re on your own and not used to cold approaching people, let alone at a sex party. I’d say take the risk anyway, ask the organisers to show you around and be prepared to go and chat about everything but sex. It will be a pleasant change to the stereotype of the newbie guy, even if you are a square leg.
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Chrispp6
3 years ago
Sorry I tried to keep it succinct and not go into too much details. It’s never been about money. It’s never been about being creepy up front. I’ve been more than happy to meet before for a coffee. It’s always been about manners. I’ve always at every stage of my life tried to be respectful and up front rather than waste someone’s time which is valuable by lying and cheating. I never expected the person with to introduce me to partners. I never expected that person to have any eexpectations that I wanted something in return. It was only ever about being someone who appreciates the rules and protocols.
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Chrispp6
3 years ago
Sorry and I also thought I had a fair bit of profile info ?? I only recently joined. If anyone wants to assist on beefing it up let me know.
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Mischeviouslad
3 years ago
I shake my head……., that a guy cant see what would be the problem with asking a woman he has never met to a swingers club The end
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SensualGuy
3 years ago
Is the problem that you are choosing a night that’s for couples and women only ? Why not choose one of the many events that also allow single men, that way if you don’t want to go alone, bring a mate.
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RHP User
3 years ago
This thread is now starting to make me laugh. I keep seeing the “Tell me you’re a _______, without telling me you’re a _______” meme. And the blank word? “Narcissistic Abuser” He’s screaming to every woman and couple in Australia, ‘I am the most toxic cock in Australia, danger Will Robinson. Danger. (I know! Mixed metaphors. But it’s just SO FUNNY).
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RHP User
3 years ago
Lol..try to put yourself I the ladies shoes.. You SERIOUSLY expect someone to say yeah, ok, let's go! She doesn't know ow you from Adam, and being as you escort her to the club/party, she would rightly or wrongly assume you would "expect" some.sort of compensation..
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MsSuperFoxy
3 years ago
< Pops in, reads original forum post and posts following. I ain't touching this one! Sorry dude, you're on your own with this one. Ms Foxy
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CumRideMe
3 years ago
I go.. by invite to one of Perth's best club's.. regularly by myself.. yes I have a FWB that we can go as a couple.. but our timing don't always line up.. I still go.. pay the entry.. don't always play.. but our club's need the support.. no income. They won't be there long term.. go .. pay and enjoy
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ArdourMuse
3 years ago
Go solo. It's $100 well spent to at least say you've been, get a feel of a club if you like the scene and just maybe you'll have some physical fun as well. My partner and I go to the clubs specifically seeking that nervous solo male. I turn into a predator for those 1st timers and he loves to see me in action. I rarely play with a confident regular. I get a high blowing the mind (and other things) of that guy who took a chance to come alone.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Hello 😊 As someone who has been to quite a few events it really comes down to challenging yourself on a social level. These events aren’t really about the sex…hold on and let me explain; It’s like walking into a bar. People are clothed, in fancy dress let’s say. They are chatting about normal topics (sport, politics, fashion etc…) Someone is playing pool, someone is ordering a drink, someone is checking their coat in. Despite the subtle nuance of it being a swinger or kink club, humans are connecting as they would anywhere else. Be good ant conversation. Attend with no other motive than to engage mentally and observe and it will be worth the $100 alone from a character building perspective. That’s the nuts and bolts. Many a time I’ve been and just chatted, drunk and watched and been highly content with takin log that away from an evening. Good luck sir.
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shaneandfelicity
3 years ago
There may be a market for greeters at parties hmmm… anyhow my advice is to just go. If it’s something you really want to explore then get the courage to do so. Even if you just spend the first night sitting at the bar just watching. And always ask questions… never do anything without consent and don’t be shy to tell people you are new at this and just learning you will find nice people willing to take you under their wing. I tend to look out for those guys sitting on their own and just introduce myself and offer to discuss things if they have questions. So I am sure you will find someone also
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RHPCountry
3 years ago
We have taken a single female with us to an event and we all had a really great evening. Single females are real on here and just talk to them as a person and ask what they want and you should go a lot better. Maybe there are women interested in going but often put off with being left high and dry. We have a gorgeous girlfriend who had thet happen to her. They arrived and once he was in he was away. Terribly dissapointing for her.
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Seachange
3 years ago
So Events have triggered your curiosity. So why not go on your own? As someone previously posted, management is fine to show anyone around - male or female. My first was ok, went on my own with no expectation. Was shown around by one of the hosts and was just happy to chill and chat. I was quite nervous and was not really interested in playing that night, just happy to observe the movements of the natives and learn the ropes. The thing is that, pay your entry fees and go on without expectation, Don't expect to be hanging your dong out in the wind and hope some poor wench would come sniff it and worship it. There are still rules, respect and decorum even in swingers' events and clubs. Why not walk before you run? Make some connections here, get to know them a bit and if you fancy them enough, meet up and find out more about each other. For women, it is all about trust and not feeling used. I heard of many horror stories of meet and dash leaving the women on their own, traumatised by the experience of a ticket entry. No thanks Why don't you put yourself in our shoes and gain some insight in the discomfort of the situation and maybe you'd change your approach. Best of luck
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Nuclear_Fallout
3 years ago
Maybe just maybe -- ask them out for coffee, drink anything first so you can develop some sort of relationship - so they don't feel like you just want then to save you some money and you will dump them is someone else comes along at the party. Also -- if you are worried about going into a party cold -- imagine what it would be like for a single women to go into that situation.. She's more likely to be the one garnering all the attention once you walk in - she may not want that situation...
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