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Asking if you are going?
January 15 2015
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Hottie1
10 years ago
A generic message with just a few questions to be answered should be ok. As long as you're not expecting them to answer too many questions, I think it should be fine. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Having organised a few Meet and Greets, I have gotten messages asking about what people can expect on the night, how many people turn up, etc. I think that's great, and would be happy to answer any questions like that if I was going as a guest as well. I'm not the biggest fan of personal questions from strangers though, for example if I liked the people there last time, if I scored, if the person writing can be my date, etc. That's just me though, and I actually wouldn't consider any of the questions above rude.
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
How someone can think it's rude is beyond me. Rude if you weren't planning to go yourselves maybe, rude if you followed you're query with 'because if you are we won't' but otherwise it's encouraged as long as all parties know contact before doesn't guarantee an in person connection on the night.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Due diligence I'd say
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
that was one of the reasons they had the list to pre-empt contact. The ones I have attended I had hoped someone had cold contacted me prior so as to avoid standing around like a stale bottle of piss on arrival. Nothing better than being able to at least acknowledge someone on arrival to break the ice. I think they are the rude ones.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think that is the reason why we can see the "Guest List". It gives the Organiser a rough idea of the number of people attending the Event and the proportion of males to females, should it be a mixed gathering. It also gives "paying" Members a chance to contact other Members going to the same Event, for reasons as you have described. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been to an event and messaged some people on the guest list in advance just as a means of introduction and to acknowledge it was my first time there. This meant on arrival we had already broken the ice and basic introductions were done. Admittedly I was guilty of carefully selecting who I messaged on the list. In terms of what specific questions you ask, its the age old...... "The only stupid question is the one you don`t ask"
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RHP User
10 years ago
We do it and others contact us.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have organized several parties and I don't see a problem with people messaging each other. Isn't that what rhp is for, networking. I answer lots of questions prior to a party. The only things i can't really answer is, How many will show up, How fun it will be, How many men and women will be there. I invite lots of different people with differents sexual flavors. But if I new exactly how many who would show up then a be a millionaire on Lotto. But I guess out of 75 people invited there are about 25-30 people showing up. Half of them would be men. So i think i get a good mix. But I think it's great that people get in touch with each other. It's always a thrilling feeling to go to a party. Me myself don't want to kn ow to much. It takes the edge of the excitement away. I like strangers. Check out Nymphomania by Lars von Trier :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's okay as long as there are no expectations off the back of it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not rude...perhaps the person was a little sensative? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not rude. If they have a profile and you can message them that kind of means they accept that people will contact them. If they think its rude then they will say so on their profile, or change their account to not allow messages. Respect the looking for criteria and message away, thats the point of having a RHP account is it not?
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havingfun40
10 years ago
Thanks all. Seems from this we should not worry but it did surprise us. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
:) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
Who would follow it up with a completely unnecessary blocking... Some people are tetchy...
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