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BDSM Curious
January 21 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Google it Taby
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RHP User
13 years ago
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller and Molly Devon its a good start and as DGT said, google google google and play safe
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RHP User
13 years ago
Get a Fetlife account Taby, sniff around. Google. Take a peak at BDSM porn, see if it works for you. How did i know? A boyfriend did something really simple and subtle and i freaked out completely.....in a good way It's the psychological side that is so fascinating and so seductive and that's where I get most of my thrills.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...that we could somehow separate out some of the terminology and create a different image of the experiences in our minds, which by the way is where much of the incredible sensual and sexual experiences of this lay...within the confines of the mind. | My "kit bag" if you will, is a bit exotic....soft and very sensual ropes, hand crafted and leather bound cane clips, pure silk blindfolds, specialty candles that are in a conic shape, a selection of large scented candles and most always something that can be frozen or remain cold whilst sharing in the adventure. The other is a knowledge of how to use these and a bit of a practicum on the art of kinbaku aka shibari. I won't go into the whats or whys of these...getting there is half the fun and Google is your friend. | Bondage, discipline and sado-masochism are very definitely three different things and the range of the sensual experience equally as diverse. Always stay within your comfort and knowledge range and don't be fooled by someone who may tell you they know "exactly what they are doing" particularly in the more extreme forms such as breath play...that can be dangerous and more so if it involves restricting the blood flow to the brain. | I enjoy the sensuality and stay within the exploration of the body and mind...equally shared, within that realm. I find steel far too cold and hard...and never push past any threshold of pain that is not right there on the finite edge of pleasure. | Most of all...enjoy the journey.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have searched Google and I'm having no luck which is why I thought I would ask and see if anyone on RHP knew of any sites or such I could visit? And yes I am an avid watcher of BDSM Porn, I find the whole aspect of it enthralling. Taby
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
I'm not kidding. Join a site like fetlife and ignore every message from every "master" who offers to "teach" you until you've read all the warnings and advice on all the newbie groups you can find, then you can start considering playmates. Don't be an idiot when it comes to your safety, yes you do have to trust people eventually in order to play with them but first and foremost it's your responsibility to make sure you negotiate and make INFORMED choices.Here's a good article with tips for novices http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_10TipsNoviceSubfem.php
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks MissSarahCurious Taby.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Read Jay Wisemans SM 101 A Realistic Introduction (2nd edition) and get on fetlife.com. Sarah that is spot on advice about "masters"
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RHP User
13 years ago
...please, MT as you know the fair young maiden would be in good hands with me, right? Although I rarely get called a master unless I have my rod in hand or someone confuses me with a member of the Bater family. | Quoting 'MistressT' Sarah that is spot on advice about "masters" | Oh and I get told "Give me your Master Card" when I take a woman out shopping for some of the bare essentials...particularly suitable lingerie and nice shoes! | Damn...that makes me a fashion slave, huh? | | ...and there is not a submissive bone in this body. One may appear similar, but it's really not a bone.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Taby i came into the life style relativly later in life i feel i missed out somewhat , and the advice about Masters is spot on , maybe visit a few munchies first and dont confuse a Bully for a Master or Mistress and if any Mistresses would like an obedient slave please look me up regards ian
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thank you MissSarahCurious As someone also curios as Taby is that internet thread was most helpful
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RHP User
13 years ago
Taby, Four years ago, I was like you. Very interested however had no idea. I researched a lot on the internet, there are a lot of websites (I found a lot). I met a wonderful guy who explored the wonderful side of BDSM. I love everything about it and the sex was much more rewarding. A sense of total satisfaction through mind, body and soul. My advice is use websites, reading and maybe joining bdsm chat rooms which I did. I only wish I could remember the websites I used. Good luck
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...please, MT as you know the fair young maiden would be in good hands with me, right? Although I rarely get called a master unless I have my rod in hand or someone confuses me with a member of the Bater family. | Quoting 'MistressT' Sarah that is spot on advice about "masters" | Oh and I get told "Give me your Master Card" when I take a woman out shopping for some of the bare essentials...particularly suitable lingerie and nice shoes! | Damn...that makes me a fashion slave, huh? | | ...and there is not a submissive bone in this body. One may appear similar, but it's really not a bone. There are those that call themselves "Master" or "Sir" but the reality is that they are nothing more than nasty pieces of work, masquerading behind a title. Or they are rank amateurs who have no idea what they are doing but a dom always attracts girls at parties and is more macho than being a sub.Master Midnight I am sure Taby would be safe in your shibari ropes. Especially if she had nice shoes......
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RHP User
13 years ago
Are spot on. I have only ever met 3 real Doms in my life, i have turned down 60 in a two year period. 99% are just people who claim the title but aren't worthy of the capital D at the start of that title. Just because you stand in a garage, that doesn't make you a car.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...and coming from you quite a compliment. I have of course often enjoyed sharing ideas and advice to others with you and would encourage anyone to listen to what you have to say. | Quoting 'MistressT' Master Midnight I am sure Taby would be safe in your shibari ropes. Especially if she had nice shoes...... | Certainly, as well as exquisite hosiery and those delicious complimentary accessories. The greatest part of the adventure is the realization that you gain back much of what you give...and this is indeed a sharing of the mind, body and spirit. | | All except for the shoes and the accessories...those are my shout!
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twowithnolimits
13 years ago
While i appreciate people pointing at books, and "safe" groups, and google etc etc my suggestion is to look within yourself...... If you truly have a D/s, S&M, BnD or fetish conenction..you will have dreamt about it, thought about, engineered it in relationships, discussed it with your closest friends...good D/s is heavily psychological...if it IS for you, somehwere insode you already know it, and you probably know what aspects intrude into your thoughts and images the most too
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hello Taby, Please understand firstly, I am very new to BDSM and seem to be one incredibly lucky sub to have been chosen by my Master. I have read all the recommendations and comments above and some I will be taking on board myself as I still have so much to learn. Though everyone has offered some very good advice. Interesting 'twowithnolimits' recommends you look within yourself. Interestingly, before I met my Master, I would have never considered such an journey. This is because I have always looked after others needs and considerations, I had never considered my own and who I am. As it turns out without having any idea, this journey I have begun with my Master is truly wonderful. Like anything in life though you need to be very comfortable with the other, just like at work mates, partners, friends and the like. One thing I have seen with messages we get, as indicated by Mistress T (whose comments with all Forums, I read and learn), some completely disregard Safe, Sane and Consensual. Many have no respect.For myself, when I started Googling, I found the videos quite distressing and quite unreal. Though I found one particular site that seemed to help me understand. Remember I am NO EXPERT, I am learning too. Journey Into Submission - leathernroses.com It seems to explain things rationally and suscintly. There are many points of view as well. Though one thing I have come to understand for myself; the videos, the screaming and crying actually scared me at first. But now I realise, I actually do that too. But I do it because it feels so incredibly good. So yes I am learning so much about myself as I go and lucky for me I have an extremely understanding Master who has many years experience.When you find your Master, TALK TALK TALK, AND BE COMPLETELY HONEST. If you can't talk and be completely with your Master, you both won't be able to enjoy much else.Sorry if I have rambled on a bit.
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RHP User
13 years ago
... But from the in depth conversations I have had, I have learnt much and I find it fascinating from a psychologiucal point of view. I think that what Chilli says here is correct: Quoting 'ChasingChilli' A smart Dom knows he needs to give you as long as you need to feel comfortable and will want to take his time to truly understand the way your mind works. I think it's about respect, trust and how someone is wired. A perfect Dom will never want to move beyond what turns you on and beyond what you find pleasurable or desirable. And that is where it is important that he is extremely psychologically intuitive and a good communicator, ie, reads your nonverbal signs. Chilli xx Only if you're careful with those spurs... ... Although I have to wonder why she persists in communicating in really really small light print ... with someone whose eyesight is most likely fading abominably with old age
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RHP User
13 years ago
...that the sensuality lies within the mind and is expressed within the confines of our own unique sexuality. There is very little on the side of the net that I play that would actually cause real pain as such to any degree...although some might argue that looking at the hand crafted cane rods and those delightfully polished cane clips. | Quoting 'ChasingChilli' ...knows he needs to give you as long as you need to feel comfortable and will want to take his time to truly understand the way your mind works....and will never want to move beyond what turns you on and beyond what you find pleasurable or desirable. And that is where it is important that he is extremely psychologically intuitive and a good communicator, ie, reads your nonverbal signs. Taby, it's probably a good thing that you like older guys.... Well spoken. although you...not unlike someone else I know only too well, sometimes talk too much. In this, the sharing is a gift and what you give up you also get back and remain still control...allowing someone the privilege of taking over all of the controls of your mutual passion and raw lust, exposed and vulnerable. If the connection from somewhere inside does not exist...you should not even attempt to go there. | You're right about those "older guys" too...just watch out, they tend to bend the rules.
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RHP User
12 years ago
All wise words, and yes, allot of wannabe "Doms" around....even FL I'm saddened to see is filling up with people just wanting to get laid or those with enough googling done to get themselves and others in a great deal of hurt (the bad kind). Have you considered taking the services of a professional as an intro? Most capital cities have loads of Mistresses and a small number pro Doms ...no strings, you get To experience with safe, professional practitioners. Flick me a quick msg if anyone needs any pointers.
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