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BEST way to meet couples ?

April 19 2010

I've been reflecting on how our efforts at meeting other couples are going. In the short time we've had a couples profile we've messaged a lot of couples back and forth and had a few chats on MSN. I'm a little impulsive (actually MR Fit is more impulsive...I'm just horny), and find the process requires a lot of effort and takes a lot of time. I've compared this to my success with my singles profile... HUGE difference ! While I'm not here to brag, it's a lot quicker and easier to find a HOT guy for some fun play TODAY and willing to do whatever I want and where ever I want than it is with couples. I'm assuming it has a lot to do with the logistics of getting 4 people to co-ordinate their availability versus just me and one horny guy. Is there an easier way to meet other great couples without too much chat ? Do you find the various parties (Minx comes to mind) are great for this ? We are VERY selective so obviously it has a lot to do with us as well but I'm just as selective as a single and it requires no where near as much work. So how do you meet other couples ? Do you take slow and easy or do you attend parties and jump straight in after a drink or two ? xxx Ms Fit

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RHP User

15 years ago

Hi Fitduo... we have had a similar experience...finding another couple where all 4 parties are willing to proceed to some fun times is time consuming.... but the effort can be well worth it....... We have found that it can take between 1 to 3 weeks after the initial msg/wink and exchange of photos (but we can be a bit restricted with a young family)....A bit of a chat and a phone call is also important to get a feeling for the type of people you are meeting but once a meeting has been aranged it doesnt take us too long to make a decision... I can tell within about a minute of meeting and speaking to someone whether its worthwhile going through with it..maybe thats a guy thing lol... All I know is that with the fun and excitement we have had it is defintely worth the effort..most times....we have met some wonderfull couples that we have seen a few times and therefore asuming all are happy with the arrangement we can keep it up so the initial time investment has paid off and the need to search for more couples therefore reduces somewhat..... Keep up the searching...

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RHP User

15 years ago

Finding couples can be hard work.. we have been doing this for a little while now and would suggest that aside from the site here you guys head to nights that are on .. Purr is this Friday - it is fantastic and you could still get tix.. also Minx run fantastic events.Ntice nights at Abode are also a good start .. If going to Purr let us know and we can say hi )D & S

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RHP User

15 years ago

Ms Fit (is this really what you want us to call you?)You have probably arrived at being a RHP couple from a different route (sic) to others - ie. as 2 sexually active singles.Often for RHP couples one or both partners may not have any (or limited) sexual experience outside the marriage. The push to join RHP maybe initiated by one partner, the other being uncomfortable or willing to proceed but only very slowly.Its important that these timid members are encouraged are not pushed too fast otherwise they will withdraw.There are many couples that can't be bothered with all the meet, greet, prevarication associated with these timid couples. They just want to meet and fuck so they write on their profile "no time wasters".Perhaps you should try these couples if you don't have the patience with the others.The meet and greet you organised was great for all RHPers to attend - even the timid ones.RegardsMr. SR.

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2more4fun

15 years ago

Yes, you may want to chat to people to get to know them a little before meeting but in most cases, MSN seems to stall people.Chat up a a few couples of interest and then make sure you get a phone number to talk over the phone with. Arrange a date to meet within two weeks. If they seem to be busy, put them on the backburner and focus on a different couple.Profile-wise, I'd just mention that the two of you (as a couple) are relatively inexperienced with other couples (it makes some couples freak out to think that the Mr is experienced but Mrs isn't - how will she react? is she really into it? etc.). Finally, as others have said, give drinks nights a go or any number of couples events in your city :)

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2more4fun

15 years ago

Couples are getting pretty savvy about how to meet people and I know some will only consider couple who are photo verified. Good luck!

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secretlife

15 years ago

Totally agree with 2more about the msn thing. We have been playing as a couple for about 5 years now and have never had a good experience that lead from msn..... it just doesn't work. 90% of the time you end up chatting with a guy who is hoping you are a girl...we're not a girl ...it says that at the top of the profile! We actually say in our profile that we will NOT chat online but people just keep sending us their msn details... Our process is simple...and so far foolproof... we have never had a bad experience or even a disappointment on meeting by sticking to it... Having said all of that.... have fun and enjoy the ride... that's why we're here (well most of us anyway)..

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RHP User

15 years ago

Well you sound reasonably outgoing. I was once part of a couple profile on here and the msn thing does not work. Why not a club or a party. At least the couples are already there and you can take your pick more

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RHP User

15 years ago

Tbh we have all but given up on just going out to meet a couple for drinks etc, and the msn thing allways turns out to be a sleazy guy pretending to be a couple (most of the time anyway). Getting Verified I think helps reassure people as well. Things like Purr and Minx are the way to go for us, make a fun night out and see if you meet a nice couple, if not you can still have a dance etc and the night is not a waste :) Summur.....

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RHP User

15 years ago

Great to hear everyone's thoughts. I WOULD have verified our profile except Mr Fit keeps making excuses not to have his photo taken (YES... I've told him it's just for RHP). You've probably noticed that there aren't any photos of Mr Fit on our profile, simply because HE wont take any until (a) he shaves and (b) has a haircut ! LOL... I thought women were supposed to be more vain ? My other difficulty is that I love the social events such as Minx, Purr etc, whereas Mr Fit seems to think inviting a random bunch of people over for drinks is a better way. Sexually, Mr Fit and I are very compatible. We are both very outgoing just in different ways. We are both very adventurous just in different ways. While this has never posed a problem for him and I as a couple I can see now that it does pose problems when meeting other couples. I will probably go to the social events on my own. Worst case I'll have lots of fmf fun !!! Have any other couples gone to events as singles ? Perhaps there's someone else that would like to go with me ? xx Ms Fit

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RHP User

15 years ago

Events are definitely the way to meet others .. either as a couple or a single.If you were interested, come to Purr tomorrow night and we can buy you a drink..www.purr.net.au or message us for details.

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RHP User

15 years ago

I' ll be at purr tonight to so if you're there make sure you say hi ;) (i''ll be in pink with pink wings) xx Jess

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