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Background vs personality. Ur preference?
March 28 2021
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Phoenix_Rising
4 years ago
Whoa 😳 I like to think people are better than that, obviously they’ve seen you pics and spoken with you so why your place of birth matters is beyond me. Obviously you dodged a bullet with jerks like that but I’m sure that doesn’t make you feel much better about it. Sorry some people are shit.
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funtimescouple1
4 years ago
There does seem to be a lot of couples with preconceived requirements. Personally we are open to nationality, personality, looks, shape, size, etc. What we look for in other couples is a sexy attitude. For us that's easy going, fun, enthusiastic, take pride in appearance, dress up sexy and get groomed for pics and meets, plenty of info in their profile, flirty, respectful. We're here to make sexy friends and have adult fun with like minded people, not to find life long partners!
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teamaj2
4 years ago
I don’t think it’s a preference between personality and nationality . As we all know , everyone has preferences in what they seek . Whether it is a certain look they are attracted to , differing boundaries, a certain age group they seek and maybe even certain nationalities they feel would suit them the best . I do understand , without sounding patronising , it must be hard for you to encounter what you feel is perhaps a recurring occurrence. We are far from being everyone’s cup of tea . My age is a huge factor , we seek men comfortable with MMF etc . We are not offended by a no , someone blocking us or ghosting us . It’s life on RHP . From looking at your profile you have many friends . I would assume you are respectful , definitely not a fake and with that in mind , like us all , it takes time to meet the right people . Good luck . Ax
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Kokoflamingo
4 years ago
You have met and impressed a few people so wouldnt worry about them too much. However.....making a point more than once about racism may make people think you are easily offended and be off putting. Be happy with who you are. I get negative feedback about my age but online strangers pale into significance next to the good people Ive met from RHP. 😊
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Hungtreat
4 years ago
Happened to me quite few time apparently background matters
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JT_team
4 years ago
Just like in the "real" world there are always going to be nationality bias by some - and when it comes to physical encounters, will probably be more enhanced. Had a quick look at your profile, perhaps put in your race field so time isn't wasted on either side for potentials where race is a selection feature. Though mind you, I have our race up and after a short chat one guy went recently oh actually i'm more in to blondes - hm ok, I may be asian but could still get my hair dyed blonde?? haha
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MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
After a period of time, messages do get deleted. Humans are weird. Try not to take it personally. It's not you, it's them and their personal choice. Ms Foxy
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Sawadee
4 years ago
Being here on rhp is a numbers game . Some ppl you will click with some not .. So if l was you ' id concentrate on those who you have a connection with and not worry about those you dont. .. The unfortunate thing you will come up against is that some Indian guys have made it hard for others.. Past forums have not been favourable mentioning bad behaviour at gatherings etc and unfortunately mud sticks. Like l said , dont worry about those you cant please and concentrate on those you can.
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Freaky_Fun
4 years ago
Put it in your profile. Simple. Racist. Because people have preferences. Righteo. In saying that, yes l am wary of men of that particular ethnicity when I've been groped numerous times at clubs/parties/events. Even at Saints and Sinners, l was surrounded by 4 men of that particular ethnicity when walking back from the bathroom on my own. One thought it was ok to put his hand between my legs from behind me. Let's just say that when l put him in a wrist lock and nearly broke it l never saw him or his mates again. Not everyone is like me. It can put people off going to events or meeting people. Single men get a hard time as it is without fuckwits making it harder. Am l racist? I don't believe so l don't like most people 🤷♀️
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The_Antichrist
4 years ago
Hmmm.... Maybe they think you’ll try and fix their internet ?? Or sell them solar panels with a big discount off their electricity ??
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Readyfors0mefun
4 years ago
You're well validated and obviously genuine, it's their loss not yours, hopefully you don't meet to many like that !
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Mrs_Deep_Love
4 years ago
Mate, people make judgements based on their experiences and the majority of their experiences. Unfortunately there are an over represented group of men from your background who treat women very badly. That's the reality. It's very unfortunate that you have been lumped in with them. one of my girlfriend's husband's is Indian and he tells me to stay away from Indian men 🤷. Freakyfun is definitely not racist she was trying to physically jump into his Indian underpants 😆 @freakyfun
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RHP User
4 years ago
Mate I'm Canadian and the same thing has happened to me a few times. One girl said she would only consider Australian men and another couple did exactly the same as what happened to u when I told them I was Canadian.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Before I joined RHP I loved everyone. But I have found that different nationalities and upbringings can be hard to navigate. Indian men are gorgeous, but I have experienced the worst treatment from them on here. I am sorry you are being treated unfairly but I would say that’s why, I haven’t had a nice experience and maybe others haven’t either and we are unfairly cautious and judgemental.
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naughtytintin
4 years ago
Unfortunately ive heard people in the swinging seen be overtly racist to certain people within the community. One time as i am caucasian this couple “confided” in me that this was their view sort of seeking agreement from me in regards to an indigenous couple who was at the meet up. They realised fairly quick that i wasn’t in agreement and that them being that way wasn’t something i liked as made a point of going and speaking with and enjoying the social company of the indigenous couple. We discussed this and they said it was quite common for them. I also was not spoken too by anyone else after that in that social event and group. So i feel for you. Yes sure you dont need those people in your life and you can find ways to grow yourself to be a better person but racism sucks especially as it is a very real part of Australia.
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RHPCountry
4 years ago
Nationality is not an issue for us it’s how you behave is more important
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curious40s
4 years ago
People are weird!! For some it matters, for others it doesn't!! For us, it makes no difference where you were born, what nationality you are or what colour you are. As long as there is an attraction on both sides & things click, we are happy 😉
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2EssesExploring
4 years ago
We are in a relationship full of prejudices. One white-one brown, one old-one young, one chunky-one slim, one born and bred Aussie-one born and bred in a different culture, one with crap hair-one with great hair. We have had people not find us attractive for every one of our differences. As far as race, we’ve had asians not liking caucasians and visa versa. The issue here is the platform more than the people. When we are all just a one dimensional advertisement on a screen then people can flick through looking for just the right fit, much like flicking through a catalogue to pick the right couch or paint colour for the walls. Also people have differing attractions for different cultures. We may love a French accent or we may still blame them for losing the war, we may have yellow fever or still suffer from the Yellow Peril, not too long ago we distrusted anyone from one religious persuasion. More simply it could be people have had a recent unpleasant experience with someone who shares a particular trait with you. Humans are judgemental beings and the net of all things just makes it easier for us to judge from a distance.
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ozmelbcpl4cpl2
4 years ago
Every person on earth has a right to chose who they're sexually attracted to it's not racism it's called preference. Wether color body shape chin nose or any feature.. Just like picking food groups meat or veg.. It's a preference
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RHP User
3 years ago
After many years of mainly dating and having relationships with men from my own cultural background, I've become over it and have ventured away from it. That being said, some people have perceptions of my background as well, fair enough, but for myself I've made the choice I have and it's largely based on my own experiences within my own culture and the double standards I've experienced or lived through with respect to relationships and sex, particularly where gender roles are concerned, so if I am approached online or offline from people of my own culture, I just don't take it further and my preference isn't based on what i've 'heard or read' or whatever, it's based on a lifetime of cultural interaction and I've decided I no longer want to have that complication in my life.
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