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Bad boys
September 08 2014
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
HIS reality.... his plan.... is bigger than yours. HE likes you, but doesn't need you. He has passion and energy... you can jump on his train and take that emotionally exciting ride, but you will never be the driver. DG
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
I'm going to say straight up I believe you're not going to get a consensus of what constitutes a "bad boy", as I imagine we all have our own ideas. I do believe though, that it comes more from the earlier, formative years whereby a girl is looking for a guy with, let's say, some 'attitude' which she may se as being a powerful, dominating personality - which can allude to a partying, perhaps wealthy, lifestyle. As we mature we generally see this as a 'false god' type of personality, and most will get to see the reality of what they really want / need in a person / partner. I'm not going to try and put down an extensive list of 'bad boy' qualities, because to be frank, I've never quite really understood that type of trait that attracts women. But I think it has something to do with a lifestyle that is otherwise generally unobtainable to girls / women in their ordinary lives, having the ability to wallow in a power and wealth environment for a period of time, until the bubble finally bursts. Then you come down to earth and realize that is not the way of life, and realize Mr Good Guy is usually the safer bet. And as an aside Ralf, there are still a number of "nice guys' available for the picking, and they all don't hide under rocks - they are usually within plain sight. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Kind of nailed it :) In my experience there are certain behaviours most women love in men. Confidence, a vision for his life and sense of direction, a hint of authority/dominance/leadership, clarity about what he wants and the ability to say no to what he doesn't want (eg not a pushover), among other things. These kinds of behaviours can make a woman weak at the knees :) Women end up with bad boys because often the yummy characteristics above come packaged with arrogance, selfishness and the traits that could define a bad boy. And actually a lot of women mistake the asshole traits for the yummy traits, and it can take a while to see reality. They thought they'd found a great man but they discover they're with an asshole. In my opinion women don't WANT a bad guy (as in, asshole) but we fall for them because of the way they seem to be in charge of themselves, others, life (even when they're not really). Personally, I'll be attracted to an asshole with a clear vision for his life and a sense of authority before ever I'll be attracted to a man who's a pushover, a yes man, no real direction for his life, passive, no determination to change his life etc, no matter how nice he is. Sadly, in my view nice guys do finish last, when they're that kind of passive nice guy. These days I don't act on the attraction to the bad boy, I've learnt that lesson. The ultimate for me is a strong, masculine, decisive, confident man with a heart of gold and the ability to love (me, his children, humanity) with tenderness. Not a bad boy, not a nice guy, but the very best of both. Rare as hen's teeth. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bad boys make women feel like fluffy bunny's. Alpha males are delicious Their indifference is a turn on and they are something that's just out of reach. Once you land a bad boy and get married to him, he becomes that cheating arse hole. Women chase them cause the sex is often good( so much practice) Some women then go looking for Mr Nice guy bread winner , to walk up the middle isle if they are smart. Why do some people ride the big dipper, why do some take the merry go round? I like bad boys. The real alpha males, not the pretend bad boys that are just little boys with attitude
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RHP User
10 years ago
"Treat em mean, keep em keen" Some guys swear it works a charm.
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RHP User
10 years ago
…in my 20's and early 30's. You know, the one that says Nice Guys always finish last.And why not? I didn't have any real point of reference not to believe it. Only what I read and saw around me. These days I recognise it's just that. A popular myth. One that's tied into my self esteem and confidencein everything I do in my day to day life. If I let myself believe I'm a half step behind…I will be.I know I'm a good guy( I treat people with respect, I'm courteous, I don't intentionally hurt anyone or prey on people, I'm not vindictive, I help any friend that calls for it, I like both cats AND dogs, etc etc ; ) and I certainly don't always finish last. I don't always finish first either. But that's not a bad thing. Doesn't mean I'm weak either.Nor do I believe that even a majority of women want an alpha dog regularly in their lives…if I believed that I'd still be a virgin…and I wouldn't have had my past relationships. They knew what kind of man I am and still pursued me. No...alpha males/bad boys have their place, I suppose…most men lust after women like that too.But..when I consider one alpha I've known well, he possesses the attributes I mentioned before onlywhen it suits his purposes..and as such, we could never be true friends.When it comes to friendships, Like attracts Like I think. When it comes to desire, we want our opposite number perhaps.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Bad boys, do absolutely dirty, naughty, cheeky things in bed, that will leave the woman discombobulated for more of the dirty fucker. Bad boys, bad boys, whatcha gonna do, whatch gonna do when they cum for you. Of course, I'm an Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
An alpha male is not a bad boy. A bad boy is generally someone that seems like an alpha male but turns out to be an asshole. A true alpha male has a mix of strong and decisive as well as gentle and nurturing traits, and the confidence to know when he needs to use each type. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think it is just a term that men use to put down other men because of their own social ineptness. We are all different and desire different things.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
I've had bad boys all my life. I think now I look for different things. Absolutely they must be confident and have their life together I couldn't stand a push over yes man. BUT I will no longer accept being treated badly. I want the confident mature man that knows what he wants and isn't looking for someone to take care of him or live in his pocket and will treat me like a princess..... Precious much hahahaha. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Foxy, you've been a very VERY bad GIRL! Foxy
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Foxy, you've been a very VERY bad GIRL! Foxy Not Possible !!! Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Agreed.. "Bad boy"seems to confuse a few people, a jerk/prick to ladies are just that, "bad boys" should be free spirits doing whatever they want in life, whatever it takes to get the job done not working 9 to 5 and if anybody is causing shit or prevents that then you will cop a bit of stick. My definition is it's just a guy who knows what he wants in life, same with women. C'mon too much scrabble and reading books takes it's toll on anyone's brain. But saying that, the right woman will always find a way to tame the tiger
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' An alpha male is not a bad boy. A bad boy is generally someone that seems like an alpha male but turns out to be an asshole. A true alpha male has a mix of strong and decisive as well as gentle and nurturing traits, and the confidence to know when he needs to use each type. - Posted from rhpmobile ..Your right, of course.There are different degrees of strong personalities..I should have pointed that out.
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
Not sure if Bad boy is the correct term (certainly some are though). I had a mate a few years ago who had all of the traits; confident, Alfa, caring, sexy, strong, thoughtful, great cook and loving, also cheated on his wife (women loved him though). I also went out with a lady around the same time for awhile, best conversation with anyone I had ever had, got along great, came to visit for the weekend, great time, she drove back home (600km away), picked up a hitch hiker Alpha type guy and had sex. She told me about it and described him. I said it sounds like the same personality as my friend and suggested he may not stick around. She called back a few weeks later and said "you were right" I believe a ladies man is a ladies man (Not all however. Can't generalise too much as there are good ones, however, it appears a lot of women want one and the good ones are very rare) a lot of women therefore have to miss out and get a Bad one, as you don't now until it is too late.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I suppose it was wanting what I couldn't have. My judgement never used to be as good as it is now so I would believe the bullshit and the lies, with the charm and the player qualities that went with it. It took me a long time to realise that you can't change them but more importantly I realised that if I felt I wanted someone to change they weren't what I was looking4 anyway. Give me a sexily confident, good man over a bad boy any day
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6exxy
10 years ago
I'm not bad .....I'm just drawn that way 🔥 Bad boys love the thrill kill. Rocks the mic with his guitar And plays a tune that makes her knees weak Cause when I rock the mic, I rock the mic right! Y'all know you love a bad boy! 😎
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BS_KS
10 years ago
I fell for a 'bad boy'. At least that's what Can Do Campbell labels him?? He's wrapped in leather and tatts but I only see him as a beautiful husband and champion Dad. K xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' Kind of nailed it :) In my experience there are certain behaviours most women love in men. Confidence, a vision for his life and sense of direction, a hint of authority/dominance/leadership, clarity about what he wants and the ability to say no to what he doesn't want (eg not a pushover), among other things. These kinds of behaviours can make a woman weak at the knees :) Women end up with bad boys because often the yummy characteristics above come packaged with arrogance, selfishness and the traits that could define a bad boy. And actually a lot of women mistake the asshole traits for the yummy traits, and it can take a while to see reality. They thought they'd found a great man but they discover they're with an asshole. Was going to write something very similar, but this really says it all. And you remember the discussion over the definition of the word charming? These are the men that start out (by all appearances) as the kind, caring charmers, but turn out to be the manipulative kind.
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RHP User
10 years ago
that "bad boys" are bad. It's that too many "nice" guys are just soft cocks.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I seem to attract 'bad boys' & I love their confidence, attitude, sexual prowness & charisma. I'm not meaning bikies, hard core druggies, prison pros etc... But more the arrogant, argumentative, handsome wankers. I fall for the charm, but never trust their words or actions. Conversely, I know there is no future with the bad boy types, & I would be much better off with an 'Average Joe'. A man who treats me like a queen, appreciates all the little things I do for him, & one who has a hell of a lot more to offer me in terms of commitment, trust & loyalty. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is it possible.... That a guy can have all those things; the vision for his life; the confidence in his ability; yet is too shy to show it and therefore seen as weak?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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6exxy
10 years ago
So why don't you go for an "average joe"?
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