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Being Disabled
July 27 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
hot_lips and good work on the first post.Thought provoking
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Hot Lips, Hope you're better soon xxx I think the world has moved on a bit and disabled people do get to enjoy release regularly now. Over 20 years ago my boyfriends brother managed a home for Down adults. Down people are incredibly sexualised and he nearly lost his job hiring professional sex workers for his clients. They get it's normal now. I follow a page on Facebook about people in wheelchairs enjoying a healthy & active sex life (it's a mate of a mates). I also follow an amazing site called Touching Base dot org that is especially set up to train sex workers with people with disabilities, and to hook them up. We may not have legalised gay marriage but I hope this means society has progressed a little?
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RHP User
11 years ago
yes Miss Kay is right a lot of conditions have increased sexual urges attached to them. I guess you are only talking about those who are paraplegics or severely disabled OP and im not sure how much of an urge they get especially if there has been brain damage or nerve damage,,,interesting
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RHP User
11 years ago
have wheelchair access these days, people with disabilities are more than welcome at legal brothels and for those that are house bound there is always the option of escorts/outcalls. Most sex workers are ok with handling people with disabilities although sometimes their carers are not quite as relaxed about it, especially when they are asked to help lift them onto a bed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
They are "PEOPLE" first then their disability. They have just as much Quality of life and rights as any other person.Just because they have some sort of "disability" does not mean some can't have erections etc etc.Actually some have very healthy sex lives (Down Syndromes have very high sex drives)..Who are we to deny them of that?? .People with Disabilities are living more and more in the community and have the right to access services, to support them in having a healthy sex life. Places like Family Planning etcHowever in saying that not that long ago "Insight" SBS did a show about this...I am not sure if I can post the link.It's a very controversial topic as some people think it is Taboo to even talk about it.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
called "Sex on Wheels"...check it out!FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why some people seem to think that without orgasm, then that person can't be turned on or be enjoying themselves..... So OP why do you feel it would be not possible for a person in a wheelchair to orgasm?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I work in the disability/mental health field and I actively support my clients with education, access to services and adult products, however I'm very open minded and have no embarrassment talking about sexuality, this isn't always the case and for those who have carers that don't see sexuality as part of someones quality of life, they unfortunately miss out.There are sex workers that specialise in disability work, as an advocate I have to also look at the safety of the worker, so there are ethics and duty of care involved. If the client is not aggressive, understands the concept and consequences of sexual activity, has access to somewhere safe and private, then I can give them the number to ring. I cannot make the appointment myself as this would be classed as soliciting.I found a number of the fella's I work with had Target Bra catalogues for "reading" material, not anymore! One of my ladies who had gotten a little older and thought she couldn't have sex anymore because she didn't get wet "down there" anymore, she now has lube on her bedside table. So even though we are progressing with intergration into the wider community, the people who rely on support for their daily living are reliant on the people who support them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for your kind words. I know very well they are People,I don't mean any disrespect, sorry if i came across that way. I'm not just talking about males, females who can't orgasm because of all sorts of reasons, perhaps it wasn't a good post after all. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
and yes it would be hell not to be able to orgasm! You didn't come across as disrespectful at all, not a lot of people think about the consequences of medical conditions and how they impact on sexuality. People who have active sex ives and orgasm regularly are generally healthier and happier than those that don't, there have been many studies on this and is something I have seen and experienced myself.I hope your health problems are sorted soon x
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's a great post, but my language quite often reads less than friendly at times....combative even....however, I write like I speak, and unfortunately, you can't hear tones in writing.... Btw.....there's no such thing as a silly post. Keep them coming 👍👍- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's a great Topic OP. :)I think it's great to ask questions that is the only way we learn stuff.FOXY
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chevtrek
11 years ago
It seems that more and more medical issues are popping up. I am blessed would good health and don't take it for granted however now that I am older cut back on fatty foods as the body tends to slow down the older you get. Check your diet.
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RHP User
11 years ago
yes it was a good post, sorry came out wrong
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RHP User
11 years ago
are correct OP,many people with physical disabilities,eg poor hand function, are unable to masturbate independently.Organisations such as Touching base provide a much needed service and kudos to you slm114 for being inclusive in your business practice. This is indeed a touchy subject as people with an intellectual disability in Queensland have often been deemed by the courts, to not be able to make informed decisions re the expression of their sexuality,indeed any sort of close intimate relationships are rare and marriage even rarer. Masturbation is often referred to by carers as ''self stimming'' and in my opinion is an absolute negation of the persons right to sexual expression,even their humanity. As has been mentioned,many carers,paid and unpaid,are uncomfortable with supporting the person with a disability in any right to sexual expression... There is no evidence to suggest that people who have downs syndrome are highly sexualized,it is the manner in which they express their sexuality at times,which may be confronting to some people. For anyone who is interested, an Australian film by Rolf de Heer'',Dance Me to My Song'' explores some of these issue a very empathic and sensitive way. My''Left Foot''starring Daniel Day Lewis ,based on the life of Irish writer Christy Brown who had cebral palsy is another ,also ''Annie's Coming Out'',the life of Annie MacDonald who actually lived in an institution I worked in in the early 80s,it is both a book and a film.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, the use of sex worker's expertise is common practise now days. It is very beneficial for the clients and curbs their natural urges for prolonged periods. I remember as a teenager, a close friend was wheelchair bound having suffered a spinal injury as a baby. His family ignored his longings so he turned to me to take him to a brothel. I would drive him there, go inside to ask after a willing worker, then go back out to the car to help him in. He was understandably very grateful to me but it never seemed a big deal to me. I'm very glad that everyone's needs are being recognised these days.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Great topic!
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RHP User
11 years ago
A very good mate of mine is wheelchair bound... started losing control of his body in his late teens / early twenties. There are some great stories of the boys helping him out. Pushed him many k's to find... temporary companionship... when he has been away on holidays. Its what mates are for, helping when needed!
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RHP User
11 years ago
All I can say is Im frustrated as all hell. Im able to get it up and I only have a balance problem and reduced hip movement but that would not stop me from having a woman on top or spooning. The problem is most ladys only see the chair and think I cant get it up. I havnt had sex for ages and really would love some. As for seeing a Pro, I have no intrest in paying lots of money just for 1 hour.... I dont just want to fuck and then have the lady leave either. I want to talk/cuddle/kiss/sleep with her as well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I really hope you find a sensitive lady that can see you xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you've highlighted the bigger issue with this topic. Disabled people (and my brother is one) want what every other person wants from life. The right to do meaningful work, the right to close and loving relationships, the right to be a parent if so desired and the right to have thier needs recognised and met as equals in society.
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