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Being popular
December 01 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
no ideaSeriously though Braveness,I think if you have a sound moral and ethical framework..very subjective I know...then it shouldn't really matter what others think.Someone,somewhere is always going to find fault..... To thine own self be true and it must follow as the night the day,thou cans't be false to any man..or woman..Will Shakespeare
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RHP User
12 years ago
You beat me to it... That quote ..well I wear in on a bangle on my left wrist each day...have done so for years......to remind myself of being true to me...always I do fail msierabley at it at times..and other times..yeah I have walked my talk I adore my friends ( I have no family so my friends are very important to me ) and for my besties I would take bullets for...but you know Im comfortable with who I am and what I am..and thats ultimately the most rewarding relationship of all..the ME relationship....the others ( my friendships) well they are just lovelies who I surround myself with and who Im very glad and grateful are in my life....including you OP :) but in truth Im a loner by nature...hence why Im home posting on a Sat nite !!! So in answer to your question...is being popular all its cracked up to be ? Well I dont know..Im not popular...but who cares. ???.rather have a few yet sincere beautiful people in my life...than 472 unknown FB friends...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have always walked my own line. I dont give a rats arse what anyone else thinks of me so long as I can look myself in the mirror and know that I am a good person all is cool. I hung with the popular kids in the school. Simply because I was exceptionally bright but a rebel as well. I was the kid who looked and acted like a square, (geeks they are now) but had a wild side that fooled most adults. Yes it was me who had the drugs and the alcohol...me who did the other kids homework and then charged them...me who forged my mothers signiture and only turned up for school two days a week...to drop off homework, collect money and pick up more work, me who breezed through all exams with little to no work...because the adults trusted me... More fools the rest of you who think that all those mindless sycophants were just that.....I may have looked and sounded like that.....but I wasnt!!!!! Then I discovered sex...the ultimate bargaining chip for teenaged boys. To this day I only ever do what I want to do while appearing to do what someone else wants me to do. It is a fine art. I have a few causes and I will defend them vehemently. They are good causes, that involve human rights and social justice. But I am no bleeding heart and no ones push over. Being popular is only what you make of it.
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
I think it is in a persons aura so to speak! My son is VERY popular and has so many friends and parties to go to that I never see him on weekends anymore! He is the only white kid that sticks out like a sore thumb with all the Sudanese neighbours...He is the only caucasian kid that is invited to Asian parties, that their relo's sit in shock for about 5 minutes and then welcome him with open arms! Popularity is not in his vocab...being nice to people and treating them with respect no matter what they look like or where they have come from make him this way, naturally...as he was brought up that way! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's an easy one, I DON"T...I have my opinion, I offer it...I respect other people's opinions and will even listen to them...as long as they agree I am right...BAWAWAWAWAWAWAWAWAWAWA...T'is much easier to tell one truth, even if it hurts...than to tell a thousand lies...Simons proverbRicky
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think it's more a matter of finding out who you are as a person and then seeking likeminded individuals. I've never been massively popular, but those I am close to have been there for me for many years, as I have been to them. I would rather 1 true friend you can count on than 100 friends who may or may not come to the party when you need them
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am more the funny, crazy German....(.we don’t know what she’s up too again., what she’s saying?????)......I hate sitting in a box and conform.....I like thinking for myself and come up with a goodhearted thought........I hate all this rules and regulations we put on now.....no way to breath freely anymore. Where is my freedom.....but with free thinking and being your self or what you mean by being ME....it doesn’t make you popular...... on the other hand as many said it attracts the right people to your circle, the owns you can call friends the once who get you most of the time, the once who love you no matter what. I don’t have a need to be popular. I have a need to be ME
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RHP User
12 years ago
As a youngster, this caused a great deal of angst but I survived those years. Now I'm pleased with my life. I have a small circle of trusted friends, a loving (and much loved) wife and children that make me very proud.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' I think it is in a persons aura so to speak! My son is VERY popular and has so many friends and parties to go to that I never see him on weekends anymore! He is the only white kid that sticks out like a sore thumb with all the Sudanese neighbours...He is the only caucasian kid that is invited to Asian parties, that their relo's sit in shock for about 5 minutes and then welcome him with open arms! Popularity is not in his vocab...being nice to people and treating them with respect no matter what they look like or where they have come from make him this way, naturally...as he was brought up that way! . xFunlovingx Thanks funloving for sharing this. You must be very proud of him. One of my sisters would always bemoan what she saw as my popularity among relatives when we were growing up. I eventually pointed out they remembered me because of my flaming red hair LOL It certainly wasn't my scintillating personality because I was quite shy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Popularity was never something I needed or wanted. I don't like to follow the other kids, I like to find my own way....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I tend to find popular people and their crowd are very fake in nature. They just say/act what will make them fit in If everyone is "thinking the same," no one is" really thinking"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Form a fan club of one, your own then leave the door open for membership. Keep the application forms on hand along with both the 'approved' and 'rejected' stamp handy, no one's forced to like anyone and we all have the right of rejection. My club is small. Care factor zero, give-a-fuck none.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...to follow the crowd.. Being ex nrl I know the importance of teamwork and what it takes to make things work , including meeting up with the public... but away from that' I was and still am my own man... I just dont get the need some people have to feed another's ego.... You might see them as a friend, but do they return the compliment. ? You laugh with good friends and tread on eggshells with others... Easy to know which is the most comfortable,,I agree with brave_heart.. give me a room full of down to earth ppl anyday... You dont have work hard with real people, it just flows... just my take on it... Jay...
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RHP User
12 years ago
A brain-fart. I apologise x
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
Happens to the best of us at times, popular or not.
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wannabyummymummy
12 years ago
to answer your question directly "is being popular all it is cracked up to be?" I wouldnt know as i have never been one of the popular crowd, nor have i ever had any desire to be.My year had it's 20 year reuninon a couple of months ago (I know shows my age but oh well so does my profile lol) and while i didnt attend i did follow the posts/comments on facebook in the aftermath and basically i concluded that even after 20 years nothing much had changed, the nerds were still nerds they were just much wealthier and more sucessful, the popular ones were still popular though they hadnt really done anything of worth with thier lives to speak of.(which i must confess amused me no end).I never understood what it was that made people popular or not popular exactly but i do have a sneaking feeling that my tendancy for saying exactly what is on my mind and not really caring if others agreed with me may have had something to do with what made me 'not one of the popular kids' but you know? it doesnt really bother me, it didnt bother me then and still doesnt bother me now, i think 'popular' can be defined in so many ways but at the end of the day you should be able to look at yourself in the mirror every day and like the person you see. you should stand up for the things you believe in and fight for what you know is right, if that makes you popular then great, however if it makes you unpopular then FANTASTIC!!!!
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N4November
12 years ago
#next_pages_container { width: 5px; hight: 5px; position: absolute; top: -100px; left: -100px; z-index: 2147483647 !important; } Quoting 'xFunlovingx' I think it is in a persons aura so to speak! My son is VERY popular and has so many friends and parties to go to that I never see him on weekends anymore! He is the only white kid that sticks out like a sore thumb with all the Sudanese neighbours...He is the only caucasian kid that is invited to Asian parties, that their relo's sit in shock for about 5 minutes and then welcome him with open arms! Popularity is not in his vocab...being nice to people and treating them with respect no matter what they look like or where they have come from make him this way, naturally...as he was brought up that way! xFunlovingxI was popular with almost everyone in school. I wasn't in the coolest group but that didn't matter. I found I was a social butterfly and that continued into my adult years. The older I get though, I am finding that I don't have as much tolerance and will quickly (and not so quickly) figure out the fakes and those who are basically toxic and will isolate myself from those people. I am more true to myself and I couldn't find the strength to manipulate or have false friendships in my life now. I think I am a much happier for it :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks Hun for the Topic :) Personally I feel the need to be popular stems from a low self esteem and a desire to feel woth while..So they gravitate to those they think have the answers.. I've always been true to Myself. Loved who I Am enough that it never mattered to me Popular or Not. I will continue to do so. It is all in the energies you radiate that draw People to you for the right reasons:) Enjoy Lu :)
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Fantastic topic Brave_Heart I've had various ppl tell me that I'm popular.... I try to be nice n pleasant to anyone who walks into my life for whatever reason this maybe, but popular I wouldn't say I was... I have a handful of amazing inspiring friends n alot of acquaintances... I'm a loner by nature, I'm outspoken, I tend to be drawn to strong minded people which I thrive on. There are many two faced ppl out there that will tell you anything to get your attention. I too had my 20yr high school reunion a few yrs ago! Only a few had changed, but the majority had stayed the same
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RHP User
12 years ago
Could'nt agree more. I ignore the toxic ppl in my life and enjoy the one's who make me smile... Makes life simple and enjoyable....
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RHP User
12 years ago
is gone
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RHP User
12 years ago
Where did Brave_Heart go???
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am as popular as a fart in a space suit
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RHP User
12 years ago
we all need a break ,it can be a little gladiatorial in these forums
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bravy is gone....
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RHP User
12 years ago
and because you are a really lovely person....and a babe girls
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