M60
Being stood up
October 12 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
It happens to all of us...I always speak to the person on the phone first but even then, people get cold feet,a better offer,their cat is sick,the budgie fainted....or they jusy don't even bother to let you know why. I do think these things are all about timing and inclination....and sometimes they are just that old cliche...the time waster. All you can really do Beebs, is be a bit more rigorous with the sifting and sorting and one day you might just find a gem.x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
.... it is a right pain in the ass sometimes .... ..... and some days are diamonds.
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princesssuzie
12 years ago
I had the no show happen the other day and it was a Friday night and I had arranged to get off work early and you know me Beebs I was dressed to kill. I had given the guy my mobile no and said he could send me a message anytime and heard nothing. I should have been warned off then, but I guess I gave him the benefit of the doubt thinking maybe he's too shy to message me first. I arrived at meeting place 15 minutes beforehand for agreed time at 7.30pm and messaged guy to ask if he was there yet, heard nothing, then messaged once more and left 15 minutes after the agreed time. I went home and at 8.02pm I received a message on my phone saying "OMG I didn't realise what time it is. I'll be there in 10 mins sorry babe" and then at 8.18pm "r u here still babe?" I don't know about anybody else, but my time is precious and I find this inconsiderate, poor time-watching and a waste of my time. A real shame as he would have enjoyed the night....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ive had a run of this earlier this year...and have to admit it shattered my already fragile ego....of course the whole time your going gee whats wrong with me..and so the self doubting begins.... Now I must admit I am more about being fatalistic... hoping to meet someone randomly (the old fashion way)...pub, gym, train etc.... Still scratching around looking for a pink diamond...ironic seeing I live in the "Mining State"
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have one rule....like mischievous but a little different. I don't ever drop my life plans for a play date. I make sure that whomever I'm meeting knows about my other plans as well when sorting out a play date. You could be a little fictitious about it as well, this suggests in their mind that they are important to you, but you also have your own things to do. Every play date I've been on has always shown up. Hope this helps.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wow, a woman after my own heart.
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RHP User
12 years ago
...just an introduction, pre-play. I was probably five minutes late in arriving but texted them as soon as I arrived. "Sorry, we're down the south coast," was the reply. I guess they forgot me. Jennylee had a meet set up with another lady. They had exchanged msn chats, texts and phone calls for weeks but on the day, when Jen called to say she was on her way and ask for directions, there as no answer. So it's not just me. Oh, well. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'princesssuzie' I I arrived at meeting place 15 minutes beforehand for agreed time at 7.30pm and messaged guy to ask if he was there yet, heard nothing, then messaged once more and left 15 minutes after the agreed time. Couldn't agree more. My rule has been for years, (since mobile phones came out really), that if someone is more than 15 minutes late without at least a text, I leave. Both my time and myself are to precious to wait for someone without common decency. Then again, it's only happened twice, so like DG I must be doing something right.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It may also have to do something with the fact I was raised in a country where being late is considered exceptionally rude.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM' It may also have to do something with the fact I was raised in a country where being late is considered exceptionally rude.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's what my sister says - "Maybe they were gored by a passing warthog, they couldn't call you, maybe they're in a COMA???"I have had many potential play friends gored by passing warthogs. Maybe it will happen to me someday. People who respond to my Datefinders seem to have it happen a lot...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think my expectations are pretty high, and my screening process is pretty accurate, but even then I get disappointed by the general lack of courtesy I come across. No matter what else a man has to recommend him, if he lacks courtesy I lose interest straight away. I recently had dinner with a man. He was out the front of the restaurant when I arrived - our first meeting - and thankfully was normal and gentlemanly. But then, he said he needed to go and park his car. So into the restaurant I went, and waited, sitting awkwardly on my own. 15 minutes later ... he joined me. I'm sure it's no big deal, and maybe I'm way too picky, but really??? Lacking class and courtesy, in my view. A total no show is completely inexcusable - no second chances.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'bobtail_3' .... it is a right pain in the ass sometimes .... ..... and some days are diamonds. Quoting 'Freya13' It happens to all of us...I always speak to the person on the phone first but even then, people get cold feet,a better offer,their cat is sick,the budgie fainted....or they jusy don't even bother to let you know why. I do think these things are all about timing and inclination....and sometimes they are just that old cliche...the time waster. All you can really do Beebs, is be a bit more rigorous with the sifting and sorting and one day you might just find a gem.x R Hahaha! I had one bad week where I had 2 or 3 no-shows & all with very elaborate excuses....Had been chatting online for ages & exchanged numbers once I was convinced they weren't weirdos or serial killers...Even had an email address for one of these guys.... Anyway, this one guy said he had a meeting to go to at 4pm but we'd agree to meet at 6pm or so at my favourite haunt in Perth..... He didn't text me or call me but sent a message online saying he was not far away at 5pm..... I went to the venue & parked, got a table & a drink & waited expectantly...Saw some friends of mine & chatted away & checked my phone and rhp phone app for messages....So I had a good Friday night as usual but no sign of my cute little potential playmate... Sunday morning I got a message online saying he'd been in a car crash & had spent last couple of days in hospital!? A female driver forgot to stop at a stopsign? I had him down as a FAKE or a FLAKE & not the yummy chocolate variety either!? Never did get to meet him & since discovered that all his profile pics were stolen from an American singer/songwriter in a rockband!? He told me he's a VET!!?? And after that little episode I was going to meet a cute young guy for lunch but he had the courtesy to text me in the morning to say he couldn't get to lunch as his dog had been attacked by another big dog & had his ear torn off!?I said "ohhh that's awful! What kind of dog is he?" He sent me a photo of his beautiful doggy with a bandaged ear! So obviously he'd taken him straight to the VET!? Would be funny if it was the same VET that I was supposed to meet!?Perth is a small place so it's quite possible!? And then I was going to meet a fireman at lunchtime & he texted half an hour before to say something had happened & couldn't come to meet. As he was backing out of his driveway, his dog escaped & got hit by a car! His car or a passing car? Wasn't sure which? He rushed his old doggy companion to the VET & I innocently asked what kind of dog is he.... Sent me pic of an old dog sleeping... Wonder if it was the same VET getting all these poor unfortunate pets to look after.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Its not just with one on one dates ether I had 56 odd people say they would come to the meet and greet at the Art Gallery and most of them were couples. I think there were four couples and five or six singles that turned up. We had a fantastic day and I hope to do a BBQ meet and greet soon at my studio Only two people messaged me to say they could not make it. Just the nature of humans today. And really its part of the internet thing. People do drive by while women are standing like idiots out side a cafe. Its easy to be a coward on this thing. Think of us poor gals, When the request is corset under your cloths, stockings suspenders ..when its a stinking hot day heels that are so high your nose bleeds. condoms , check lube check..as most men do not carry condoms..surprise surprise! make-up hair nails waxed bits fresh breath and then The chirping of crickets , as you breath on the silver and polish it up with your napkin. While the snooty waiter hovers with a smirk on his face.... Now I just take them to my lair and eat em! non of that fancy date crap any more If they no show then I can finish a painting. Always have something to do, if the person is a no show Never ever give them a second shot, if your rude and inconsiderate out of bed, well I am sure that is the same in bed. Just keep the texts to a limit, as in yes time place and you have 15min leeway or this meet will self destruct.
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RHP User
12 years ago
LMAO creamykit....perhaps it's a dog lover's conspiracy, given your name.x R
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RHP User
12 years ago
sex first date later,
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RHP User
12 years ago
Always have something to do, if the person is a no show Never ever give them a second shot, if your rude and inconsiderate out of bed, well I am sure that is the same in bed. Just keep the texts to a limit, as in yes time place and you have 15min leeway or this meet will self destruct. Well said as always TR @ creamykit: PMSL!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' LMAO creamykit....perhaps it's a dog lover's conspiracy, given your name.x R Yes Freya! I did wonder about that..... I prefer pussycats myself & BIG CATS are my favourite but I do have a soft spot for certain breeds of dogs... The ones that don't yap too much & that don't eat Italian leather shoes when they're bored or hungry!I consider myself an Animal Lover though, I always wanted to be a Vet when I was very young....Look at all the money they make from accident-prone animals & their owners....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' LMAO creamykit....perhaps it's a dog lover's conspiracy, given your name.x R Hello Freya!Yes, I did wonder about that & I do prefer pussycats as pets as they're independent creatures & fuss-free & also self-cleaning & you don't have to pick up their poo....... ewwwwwww!But I really do love all animals & have a soft spot for Zebras & Tigers.... Love those stripes!And I also like Leopards & their spots & Cheetahs too! The ones that run fast not the ones that cheat at cards!And I have a huge crush on Camels too! I love their big brown eyes & big long lashes & the way they sway when they walk!Oopsy! Think I've gone off topic.... Sorry about that! CK xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM' YES!! I always have a backup plan now..... But then sometimes the backup plan backfires on me or else he backs out of the planned meet!? And if I'm running late I always text or call to let them know I'll be there but a little later than the agreed time..... Always have something to do, if the person is a no show Never ever give them a second shot, if your rude and inconsiderate out of bed, well I am sure that is the same in bed. Just keep the texts to a limit, as in yes time place and you have 15min leeway or this meet will self destruct. Well said as always TR @ creamykit: PMSL!!
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