Being stood up... more common in AU then other countries?

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  sweetgem

  12 years ago

  I don't think people in Belgium would never get stood up :-) you haven't, doesn't mean it didn't happen to other people, right? And how do you know people in other countries don't get stood up either? :-) So please do not think bad of Australian women :-) this kind of things take place everywhere in the world no matter where you are :-)Well, at least this one (who's replying to your post now ) will never be gutless or rude not to inform you if she cannot make it to the date or has lost interest to meet up :-) I had changed my mind a couple of times in the past prior to meeting up, but I did not change my mind in the spur of a moment and stood someone up without telling them. And I always make sure I inform the person at least a day before the meeting and find good excuse for not turning up. Any smart person would get my message and moves on from me as there are plenty of beautiful roses in the garden to pick, and I don't mind men to think like that because being left alone is what I wanted at the end of the day :-)Remember OP, it always takes two to tango :-) there are many polite women in Australia who will not lightly change their mind and stand people up without informing them :-) give it patience and perhaps be more cautious or selective in who you chat to and/or want to meet up with, then you would not be running into the negative encounters so much :-)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Looks like someone can't take a hint.- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Op from memory there was a thread along the similer line not long ago. Its not just the ladies that are no shows I think there were also couples that were having the same issue. Yeh sometimes plans change at the last minuet and blh blh blh but after being in the same situation of countless messages emails phone calls to arrange a meeting them then not have the person show then to have them not return phone calls messages dose make you wonder just how many ego strokers are on here just to get a ohhh look how populor I am buzz.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  *sigh*....another one in WA...and yet more evidence that I am living on the wrong side of the country. *fans self* Ahem...ok...the thing is, on sites like these there are always women who are either on here purely for a bit of a self esteem boost and don't really have any intention of actually meeting (be they single or partnered), and others who may intend to meet but when it comes to the crunch they just can't go through with it (again for various reasons). In the latter case it would of course be the polite thing to let you know, but unfortunately we live in the real world and people are sometimes far from polite. As for your questioning of whether this is more common among Australian women, I really can't say having never lived anywhere else.I would suggest developing some type of screening process to try and weed out the women who aren't genuine about wanting to meet. For example talking to them on the phone beforehand. If you can't get them on the phone, chances are they won't be turning up to a meet.Also your profile suggests that you may be open to something more than just FWB, so if you haven't already maybe you could try some of the more 'vanilla' dating sites where it's more likely that people are serious about meeting. Plus even if you're not wanting a relationship, plenty of people - including me - have found something more casual through the vanilla sites.

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  Mischeviouslad

  12 years ago

  Hey f-lWe need a few more details so thjat we can assess your method.Did you make meeting arrangements via phone... or only through email conversations?!DG

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  That you were talking to a chick, with a dick....and a beard, and a bigger Adam's apple than you. Thats correct a man!! Lol It happens on this site and others too, always remember to have a plan B. That way you won't be disappointed - Posted from rhpmobile

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  On_Safari

  12 years ago

  I go through with it. At the end of the day you may have a connection or at the very least a pleasant cup of tea. And courtesy costs you nothing. See RHP's How to video on picking up Brunettes lol.- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Types of threads, I wonder about that persons screening methods. I've never had a no show yet. Perhaps look for profiles that are validated, at least that way you know they are real and will play. (Not verified, but validated by actual people who've met them)- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Women here have to much choice   sometimes they might be meeting three or four men in a day   so make the meeting about ten in the morning so you should be fist cab off the rank     or bring some Belgium chocolate   pretty sure your post could help you get your end away with a sympathy root

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  foreign_lover

  12 years ago

  Thank you all for your input!RHP is actually the last dating website i joined, i've tried several others before. The ones i was interested in had a clear goal, were serious in communication but it seemed they were looking a tad too specific for their needs (MUST be Prince Charming, no one else!)@ Sammy : call me naive but what's the hint? the cases occurred over a 2 month period from different websites, each person is different, right?@ inthekink & luckydragon : it's a pity some want to boost their ego's by destroying other's self-esteem... there are more pleasant and most importantly, victimless ways of getting that pat on the shoulder (or bum )@ DG : mostly through text-based (email, sms, or the website itself), i thought people tend to mind their privacy, so sharing your phone number is a semi-big step. I don't mind sharing mine, though.@ karynb : i'm still very new to RHP and i have made some assumptions but i'm not sure yet if i'm correct or not. The people that are here for a long(ish) time will have explored their sexuality and all that extensively, what's their incentive to take on a guy that reeks of vanilla? There's no challenge, more of a chore, is my impression. People that are still wet behind the ears (metaphorically speaking, no juices involved ) such as me, well, i think it's easier to explore with someone that's on the same page. Otherwise might get a "too much too soon" effect@ tuscanred : there's that too.... damn it, i should've moved to the East coast!

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  Mischeviouslad

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'foreign_lover'@ DG : mostly through text-based (email, sms, or the website itself), i thought people tend to mind their privacy, so sharing your phone number is a semi-big step. I don't mind sharing mine, though. Well Mr foreign....theres your first, and likely biggest hurdle to get past.a) you're not verifying the person youre speaking to is in fact... real.... or even a woman! (yes, shock horror, there ae a LOT of fakes in here.... for god only knows what purpose)b) you really cant gauge a person and whether you're going to get on in a face to face setting, until you hear their voice and banter over the phone.... with a view to deciding IF you want to meet them or not. (Note the "IF"... it should be a given assumption).c) It is far easier to engage someone, via voice. A personality can too easily be "misrepresented" due to the time you can take to craft a well worded email. But how someone handles themselves in real-time conversation.... it just tells so much more.That people in here wish to maintain their privacy is a given... none of us wants opur private life splashed on the social pages........ but the paradox of being in RHP, is youre communicating with a possible view to meet and perhaps get naked with eachother, at some point.....Not much privacy with that person then, is there. So..... accepting that, is asking for a number so that you can chat like normal people, really that big a deal? Really?!!!No. its not. Be BOLD.... act confidently. The rewards of genuine confidence are well worth it.Now, there ARE more effective ways to do it than most guys typically use.... but, thats detail for another time and place, that more relates to communication styles that work, versus those which dont.DG

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  First of all, just wanted to say welcome to Perth. It is a wretched hive of scum and villainy...oh wait, sorry wrong city. Sorry to hear that you got stood up, but it always pays to get her phone number. If she is say 15 minutes late, give her a call and ask where she is. I always trade phone numbers before meets, just in case one of us is late or both are standing at different entrances to a venue.Alas, in some cases, she will not turn up and does not provide any reason afterwards. Time to move on and hope the next person turns up. Good luck in your search.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Foreign Lover, those people that don't turn up or fail to get back in touch for whatever reason are not worth your time and energy they in fact did you a good favour as who knows what their behaviour is like after they meet and greet you, they sure don't know what there missing.   There will be others more worthy of your time and effort and of course vice versa.

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  foreign_lover

  12 years ago

  As for the remark on getting a sympathy root : if you really want to make me feel low, then treat me like a charity case :-( I didn't mean to tread on anyone's toes with this thread, I'm just trying to make sense of why it has happened already 3 times. I'm a bit rusty on the dating but not that bad?- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Foreign_Lover, I think you have consensus here. It is not you but them. I understand that it is a bit off putting and messes with your other plans. There are a lot of people on here so move on. Depending on what you are looking for, you can try other avenues, such as bars. Have a look at the RHP events page. A good place to start could be the meet and greet events. Sometimes, a meet in real life makes all the difference. There are several meet events in Perth, so have a look and go to one that you are interested in. I am sure there is one this weekend as I wanted to go but have something else on.

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  foreign_lover

  12 years ago

  for your input.I guess it's just "dusting off and trying again" as the song goes :-)

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