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Being true to you?
March 09 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
and really good ones! Great topic Lmc,a) yes, my ex husband - it was often all about himb) yes, when young and dumb and didn't know any better (and I thought it was all about him)c) yes, because it was about the kids having what I thought was a 'proper family' that I never had growing upd) no. Only pretending I'm interested in is the dress up and play kinde) yes....... but I'm working on that .....f) unashamedly true to myself. Sometimes that backfires but so be it. There goes the microwave ... popcorn any one? xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
1. I have to honestly say thats a no.... 2. Of course most definitely yes and unfortunately still on occasion... just to move things along so i can up and leave 3. No... i would much rather be alone and happy than in a relationship that doesn't work 4. Pretended to like yes... go as far as sex.. no 5. Yeah sure... when i loved to hard... wont let that happen again!6. Incredibly true to myself these days. Age has taught me alot and being on my own so much more...
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RHP User
12 years ago
but thats life as you grow older one hopes you learn from your mistakes along the way all of those things, are normal parts of learning about others and yourself
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tough question No 1: but after a moments reflection, I learned to say no for my own benefit early on. No 2 is too easy ;-): No, never.No 3: Very likely I did in my youth, I had reasons I thought were very relevant at the time. No 4: I'm not very good at pretending but yes I have tried, without much success though lol. That is not a healthy type of relationship really. :-SNo 5: Yes, refer back to question 3. ;-)No 6: Nice one, googled that one (http://www.dynamism.org/books/mood.html) to make sure I knew what I was answering, I'd like to think I'm very true to me (nearly all the time), even to my detriment sometimes as far as social perceptions go. I have broken one of my own rules on RHP before though, I can now only live with the consequences. I've weakened my own perception in other people's eyes. I've many times refused to shift from a stance I believe in and been proud of supporting myself in that stance. I believe. Thanks Chuckles, I enjoy exploring my thoughts and feelings and learning about myelf. Peachy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? Yes Have you ever faked an orgasm? No this is something I would never to to me or the man Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? No Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? NO Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? NO How true are you to you? I believe very true to myself , I have no problems being on my own. I am rather on my own then have to pretend what I am not.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? NO Have you ever faked an orgasm? NO Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? NO Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? NO Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? YES How true are you to you? 99%
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes to all, and I really think joining RHP is away of changing some of those patterns - Posted from rhpmobile
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LemonDance
12 years ago
Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? Yes (then got divorced) Have you ever faked an orgasm? (yep) Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? (never) Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? (nope) Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? (Hmmm sadly yes) How true are you to you? I did learn from the mistakes I've made in the past & always true to me now days!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? Yes, long ago Have you ever faked an orgasm? Yes, again, long ago. No for the rest.
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RHP User
12 years ago
DAM STRAIGHT I HAVE OP...It's funny you mentioned this...in an unhappy marriage I guess your questions are what happens...Well it did for me.I call it "Jesus Christ Sex" - * sorry if I offend those who are religious*I call it this because it is like Laying out like Jesus on the Cross, legs down straight (not wanting to open them) and arms straight out...and partner on top going for it....and every now and again pat the person on their back and say "Jesus Christ* thinking hurry up will ya*.No love in that...And NO never have I faked an orgasm..just not in my nature to do - I just can't do that to someone me or anyone.Nuff said, but Foxy will never do again-Just plain horrid - wants to be true to herself and never be in that position again!!I stayed with this person not because I felt Alone...for me more like co-dependency..when you are with someone 1/2 your life it's kinda specia,l as that person knows everything about you- unconditional friendship sorta...make sense??I have since discovered being Intimate with a partner is Amazing and a beautiful thing...a lot different from "Jesus Christ Sex" FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Grrr
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have I ever had sex with someone when I didn't want too....yes when I was young,but the upside was that I got to read a book... Have I ever faked an orgasm...if I ever have,the sex was so less than memorable that I have forgotten. Have I ever stayed in a relationship because I didn't want to be alone....nope, that is why I left. Have I ever pretended to like someone because I felt sorry for them.......yes I have. Have I let someone treat me like crap....yes to that too...dont do that anymore. When I know who I am,I will answer the last question..true.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to. Never. Have you ever faked an orgasm? Yes, throughout most of my twenties. Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? No, never for that reason. I love being alone. Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? Maybe for a day or so, can't do it. Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? Yep, that would have been my last ex. How true are you to you? I like to think very true, but I'm still learning what my boundaries are and how to honour them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have I had sex with someone when I didn't really want to - NOHave I ever faked an orgasm - Um well there's just this problem with guys of that juicy sticky stuff called cum!Have I ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone because I didn't want to be alone - No but have done so due to other more complex reasons.Have I ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them - If you mean like as in pretended to fancy them and led them on - NOHow true am I to myself - Well not in the best place there at the moment but I am working on it and know I am going to get back there.Did that make any sense at all?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Truthfully I must answer yes to all of those questions.... except I didnt stay because I didnt want to be alone but for other reasons. Sometimes it is not about being true to ourselves. We can not go through life only worrying about what "WE" want and disregarding everyone else. There are compromises to be made along the way and to think that we can only do what is true to ourselves would be a little arrogant and selfish It is not all about "ME"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? Nope... never go to bed angry or resentful, always go to bed with the mutual urge or not at all. Have you ever faked an orgasm? Can men fake them? (I know a dirty joke about it but hmm...) Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? Nope... Wife decided she liked women rather than me so it is over. Am moving back to Sydney to be all alone after 12 years in the relationship... scares the hell out of me but it must be done! Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? Nope... is as bad as staying in a relationship with no love/lust. (Honesty to ones self and others is paramount) Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? Yep... am better now, have learnt the lesson which I think everyone has to learn at sometime in their life. How true are you to you? More now than ever before. NGS (Nice Guy Syndrome) still kicks in causing a bit of self sacrifice but self awareness/truth makes for a stronger person.
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? No - and the problem is still there. Have you ever faked an orgasm? No - Why give the other person the wrong impression when what they are doing is not working for you ? Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? Yes, but feel I am a stronger person now. Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? No - Its not fair on either person. Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? Yes but at the time I didn't see the signs but feel I have grown as a person since then. How true are you to you? As true as I can be. Life's too short to live a lie or die wondering.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been floating around this site for a while now and this topic made e wan to voice my two cents. Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? Yes, all the time with my ex husband which leads to the next question. Have you ever faked an orgasm? Yes, all the time with my ex husband, that man couldnn't find a clitoris with a map and a sherpa pointing out the way. Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? Yes, I'm still young though, I married a man that never should've gone past the second date, loneliess sucks, and someitmes it is easier. Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? Yes, and admittedly I've handed out a few sympathy shags too. Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? Yes, I'm going to claim being young and dumb, and that fear of being lonely. How true are you to you? Right now, not very, but I'm working on it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes, to just to about all those, with variations on why. Guys, are you serious about not knowing about faking it? Surely you can do the full performance... vinegar face, oohs and aahs, some spasm thrusts, all the stereotypical actions... we're more than just sperm water-pistols. As for being true... my journey to being true started with being faced with not knowing who I am to be true to. Who am I? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'CuriousGirl1985' I've been floating around this site for a while now and this topic made e wan to voice my two cents. Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? Yes, all the time with my ex husband which leads to the next question. Have you ever faked an orgasm? Yes, all the time with my ex husband, that man couldnn't find a clitoris with a map and a sherpa pointing out the way. Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? Yes, I'm still young though, I married a man that never should've gone past the second date, loneliess sucks, and someitmes it is easier. Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? Yes, and admittedly I've handed out a few sympathy shags too. Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? Yes, I'm going to claim being young and dumb, and that fear of being lonely. How true are you to you? Right now, not very, but I'm working on it. Welcome to the forums! Hope to hear more from you x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Very brave indeed. . Welcome CuriousGirl... :-) Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? Absolutely, during 14 years of an abusive marriage. Have you ever faked an orgasm? Same as above. I didn't have my first REAL orgasm until I was 27, which was on my own, and my first REAL one with a man 6 years ago Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? Not because I didn't want to be alone, but for the sake of the children. Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? No Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? Yes How true are you to you? These days I am. Once I left my Husband and worked through the associated "shit" , I learnt who I was and what I wanted. The past 8 years has seen me evolve into my true self. I still need to work on my sexual insecurities and gain more confidence in my naked self, but I no longer feel I have to "fake" anything or "put up" with anything.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MissPoppins' Have you ever had sex with someone when you didn't really want to, just because it was easier than arguing? Absolutely, during 14 years of an abusive marriage. Have you ever faked an orgasm? Same as above. I didn't have my first REAL orgasm until I was 27, which was on my own, and my first REAL one with a man 6 years ago Have you ever stayed in a relationship when the love/lust was gone, because you didn't want to be alone? Not because I didn't want to be alone, but for the sake of the children. Have you ever pretended to like someone because you felt sorry for them? No Have you ever let someone treat you like crap when you knew you deserved better? Yes How true are you to you? These days I am. Once I left my Husband and worked through the associated "shit" , I learnt who I was and what I wanted. The past 8 years has seen me evolve into my true self. I still need to work on my sexual insecurities and gain more confidence in my naked self, but I no longer feel I have to "fake" anything or "put up" with anything. Is another of the bravest posts I've seen on the forums xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
the openness and honesty. Thanks forum peeps xxx
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