Best way to get started: Club or find a like-minded couple?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  We'd suggest a club first. No pressure to play, you can just get a feel for what you think of the whole concept. Then you can decide to play, come back another time, or plan to meet others privately.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  We started out ---looking around , took us about 3 months to meet people -- relaxing drinks and convos first. Which was exciting setting up the date ---exploring each others views -- Never been to a club or party -- something we may look at in future

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  We agree with tonguecramps go to a swingers club, no pressure to do anything. They have play safe rules there which mean no guy can be in the playing rooms by himself which takes away the creeps walking around just trying to perve or play with just anyone. And the is no pressure to play what so ever, you can even walk around in your clothes in the play rooms to see if your comfy being there or if you want to play.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  We started with cybersex / web cams , but watch out a lot of pretenders / people will try to play you a recording pretending its real time! Then to meeting couples for a chat , coffee etc. Then a visit to couples international a swing club...just watchin...and just play with ea other. Then meeting couples ...same room own partners. Then couples ....different room swap partners. then couples....swap partners same room. Tried a couple parties. Wow that was over 5-7 years and then took a 2 year break. Vist a sex clinic ...very worthwhile we should have done that first....great risk appraisal / assessment. Now, in the scene again but very low key wanting a very small group for exclusive play.....its going OK as anything less than a full swap we are not interested in.

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  rc_80

  12 years ago

  go to a club, get a vibe for it, then move on to private parties. You'll need to find one that suits you both. Some are free for all's, some are exclusive and selective.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Thanks gang, for the advice. We really appreciate it. We'll get our feet wet (so to speak) at a club first, and go from there. Kindest regards, CandC

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Come round to our place and we'll shag ya crosseyed.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  My male playmate and I are going to The Couples Club in Sydney on Friday 21st September. We'd love to meet some other RHP members there. He is mid 50's but he has the stamina of someone half his age! He doesn't need blue pills to stay up for ages ;) His oral skills are like wow! I'm hoping we find another couple to play with as he'd love to see me with another guy and have another woman play with me too.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  We, indeed, went to the Couples Club last Fri.It was amazing.The people were totally friendly and cool.We didn't get down and dirty, or anything like that - and there was no pressure to do so. Baby steps...It's definitely confirmed that this is an adventure we're on together, which has been awesome for our relationship.:)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Hi guys, We spoke to each other first to see what we both wanted/expected from going from each other, to others. When we started our journey into swinging we thought it best visiting the local swingers clubs, which we enjoyed immensely as it allowed us to take little steps and to do what we wanted with no pressure. Private parties are also a great way to introduce yourselves, as there's no pressure to play at them either and you get to network with like minded couples and singles. Enjoy yourselves and always stick to your Game plan..Never take one for the team. :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  We have never been to a club. Not that we are against them (they look like fun) but the thought of paying money to be involved in this kind of lifestyle doesnt make sense to us since we've always found it easy to meet people. We started out with friends. It sounds weird but we've had sex with 6 of our close friends without even meaning too lol...

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Glad to hear you took your 1st step Clubs are great and usually low key. Its all about the journey...so talk to many, try different clubs and maybe house partys deside what you want and who you dont want.. as long as its fun :>

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