Better Date Than Never

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  MrandMrsEss

  2 years ago

  We watched Love on the spectrum and found it quite beautiful the simplicity of the attractions, it was either there or not. Of course there’s a lot of challenging times that were not portrayed there. Mrs S and I come from different poles. I have loved deeply and lost deeply more than a few times whereas she was nearly 30 and never been kissed. We have a huge age gap, a huge cultural background gap in a lot of ways to judge we are probably so incompatible. But then we just get each other and we love the few similarities we share (definitely our sense of humour) and we appreciate the many differences. I think the old saying “it happens when you’re not looking” holds true. When I was actively looking I’d never meet anyone where sparks would fly then one day just one aberrant chat on a forum lead to finding the person I enjoy everything with.

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  teamaj2

  2 years ago

  Like Mrandmrsess, we too are polar opposites but it works for us and we couldn’t be happier . My advice to others would be , go with your gut feelings . Trust yourself to explore getting to know someone that may not fit what you thought you were seeking . I went with my gut instinct . For me it was instant attraction and interest . I remember a close friend asking me - ‘What are you doing continuing to date this guy?’ He was from a completely different world to me , 20 years my junior , he had a small child ( definitely a big hurdle to overcome - I’d been down that path ) lived two hours away from me etc etc ‘ My response to her was - ‘I’m having the time of my life !’ I trusted my gut instincts . We overcame all the obstacles to create the wonderful life we have 17 later . Not listening to others that may have too much input on who you date . It’s your life , live it to the fullest , you never know what the future holds if you don’t explore options . When I divorced , I had many single girlfriends . We used to say , a date is an hour of your life . If the person you meet isn’t for you , that’s okay . It’s an experience. Surely experiences only help us know what we do and don’t want out of life . Ax

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  Parzival

  2 years ago

  Nice topic country touch! Dating is always rough, the less experience you have, the more so!but the good is (for me at least) worth the bad. I recall my first date with my now life partner and I wasn't very dating experienced at the time. I was so nervous and probably a little awkward, but I was so attracted and swept off my feet by everything about her - in fact that was probably why I was so nervous lol Can't have been that bad as I got a second date. Glad I stuck with it because after 12 years, she's still the same graceful, energetic, intelligent, exciting person she was when I first met her. ❤️ My advice to someone in that situation would be: be yourself. Which is the shitest advice anyone ever gave. So to put it another way... Consider the best parts of your personality and don't compromise on those. If you don't fit, then it wasn't meant to be.

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