RHP

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M67

Bi-Curious/Bi-Sexual

March 10 2014

In your profile guy and gals. First should a bi-curious, put that in his profile? Does that put women off even if the man prefers women so considers themselves stright? Like would you think twice of contacting them.? Second. Do you think far less of contacting men that are bi-sexual? A member said women might think of catching something.That they would also be in competition with other men.Your thoughts please.

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Lots of women do not like bi-sexual men. That is why they all say they are straight and hide it from their girlfriends and wives. I have noticed that some men open a straight profile and have another one for their bi-sexual fun.

  • Beachlover1999

    Beachlover1999

    11 years ago

    But believe honesty is always best but get why people aren't when it comes to sexuality! Given all the prejudice, misconceptions, myths, lies etc. I think it is MORE of a turn on to hear someone saying they like different kinds of candy as indeed I do! ;))

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    You wouldn't add bi-curious if you weren't..... and I suspect you're putting it there to cover your options with both genders.... right?! So yes... seems logical to me if you are, to represent yourself that way. DG - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    A lot of women do have an issue with bi men, I think largely based on misconceptions about the risks of STIs. Of course, there are those few women - like me - with whom stating you are bi will give you a big advantage

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    We have been approached by at least two dozen men who have Straight on their profile, but aren't. Most stated it's because saying they are bi is a handicap when trying to find single women. Personally I love bi men. (And so does Mr Tryst) X Ms Shout - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    This one one place you could write that your bi-curious... Nobody knows you (unless you want them to) and then straight off you attract the people you want to be attracted to..... Personally, I practice safe sex, so I can't see what the fuss is about being bi, bi-curious or otherwise... Also, I do like that a guy or gal who knows what they want, if they're honest about that, then that's a +++ for me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    When we get contacted either on our couple acct or my single acct, by straight guys, I always ask within the first message.probably 85% of the 'straight' guys reply with bi curious or bi. It doesn't turn me or my husband off, but they all say women overlook them if they admit it on their profile.

  • Taleros

    Taleros

    11 years ago

    Considering we like to have honesty and openness from those we we come across so... And while we are both bi, before we were together Miss Taleros had been single and her answers then would've matched ours as they are now. First should a bi-curious, put that in his profile?Yes. Does that put women off even if the man prefers women so considers themselves stright? Like would you think twice of contacting them.?For us, no. For others, it seems to be a yes for some (or many) from what we have heard of from talking to others as well as as mentioned by others in here so far. Do you think far less of contacting men that are bi-sexual?Not in the slightest, but then again, we're only interested in bisexual single guys so we're a little bit weighted in one way. Despite swinging and the people involved in the lifestyle being supposedly quite openminded there seems to be a lot of close mindedness to bisexual men in the community. While bisexual females are often sought out and girl-on-girl activities are very actively encouraged, on the other hand we have bisexual guys being shunned into hiding. It happens across the world in the lifestyle scene with many such instances of it, say for examples certain clubs flatout banning any male on male contact. While people are in their own full right to choose who they are and aren't involved with, there is not a real need for the general downlook on it and the double standard. Hiding behind a 'straight' listing on their profile instead of listing themselves as 'bi' like they actually are might not be helping the situation though.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You are what you are...if you're curious, that's okay. Just be honest and that way, you'll stand a better chance of having a positive experience. Personally, it's not something we consider as either a positive or negative; it is what it is - provided that all rules/boundaries are respected. Kisses, Mrs - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    It feels like we (men) would just about say anything to get some. Straight when we're bent, just to avoid being thought of as camp, diseased or just 'not really into' women. Hetroflexible when we didn't even have an interest in the communal showers after footy practice, to be thought of as kinky, interesting and worldly. All so we can have half a chance of getting a second reply back from someone on the internet. Maybe the little list box on the profiles could include "homophobic", for the ones that need to have it spelled out or need to spell it out, and then the rest of us could just getting on with having fun?

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    11 years ago

    I would appreciate being informed upfront about their sexuality. So I think bi-curious and bi-sexual men should put that in their profiles regardless. For me, the reason why I would not contact or would turn down messages from bi-curious/sexual men, is I cannot shake the image of them touching/playing with each other's willies out of my head lol I always get an instant nausea feeling and turn off each time I see the woman-on-woman scene in porn, or being physically touched or rubbed on my arms and back by a woman! So, by saying no to bi men, it's the same concept of I cannot accept the concept of same sex play, not because of the misconception of catching STIs! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    11 years ago

    Think of nothing nicer than a man that's in touch with all his sexuality and defiantly wouldn't shy away from a guy that was bi sexual/curious......💋 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    These days when I see "Straight" on a man's profile, I feel disappointed.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Is it sexual discrimination if I say "no straight men need apply"?

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    Put your sexual identity there. You might think you're bi curious until you choke on a cock and decide to hell with that idea.... or you might decide you like being choked? Anyway, you're meant to put how you identify your sexuality there, not put whatever you think will attract the most chicks. Lol. Even if you put straight, there's obviously a large chance you will be peeved on my guys, and hit on by those who don't read. Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I had some drinks with two bi guys last night, both of whom said they can deep-throat. Cannot wait to see that!

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' I had some drinks with two bi guys last night, both of whom said they can deep-throat. Cannot wait to see that! All the bi guys say that. Talk about talking up your own virtues... lol. Some things really have to be seen to be believed. I've never seen a cock I couldn't swallow. :p HugsGazpacho

  • Sissy_Xtina

    Sissy_Xtina

    11 years ago

    Well I'm Bi sexual and very proud. My wife loves it and so do I I agree most men just put bi curious because they they think they may get more response!

  • JessicaRabbit

    JessicaRabbit

    11 years ago

    In this case, it definitely is. Yes it should be put on your profile for people like me that are specifically seeking this, it makes it easier to find. A guy with 'straight' on his profile won't come up on the radar of someone seeking it if they search for bi, bi-curious etc. Yes it puts some people off. Their motives are probably wide and varied, but each to their own. No it wouldn't put me off because that's exactly what i'm looking for (but i'm in the minority). Jess xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Sissy_Xtina' I agree most men just put bi curious because they they think they may get more response! I completely disagree. Besides a lot of bi (curious) men saying it greatly reduces their chances when looking for single women, we've also heard from men who say they are straight because they don't want to be approached by dozens of guys every day.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I just cried a little bit. I hate to disappoint.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Funlover71' I just cried a little bit. I hate to disappoint. It's okay Sweetheart, I am sure Mea and I could still spit roast you like a Sunday dinner.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hi All, This has been an interesting read. I know when I was writing my profile I gave significant thought to the "experimental" vs "bi-curious", vs "bisexual" criteria. There didn't seem to be a set definition and sexual preference it seems is a grey area for most. I came to the conclusion that "experimental" was comfortable with having another guy involved and wouldn't be offended if "swords crossed". " bi-curious" I considered to be an apt description for someone who is proactive in their approach to same sex interaction and enjoys it. "bisexual" I would considered someone who is not only happy to participate in same sex mischief, but also would be capable of having a relationship with someone of the same sex. People will no doubt make judgements on how you choose to describe your self based on their definition of the terms. I think the best approach is deciding what your comfortable with, being honest about it and see what happens.