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Bi or Bicurious Guys in a couple profile
December 14 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
not just in couples but single guys. Men are becoming more open minded because it is becoming more accepted just like any other taboo sexual preference. It is about time too I say, although for every guy who says he is bi, there are still so many who think it is 'gay' and they would never go there. There is also a big jump in the amount of guys accepting TV/TG as an option.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Frankly I don't think the number of bi men is increasing per se, I think there are just more who allow themselves to explore that side of their sexuality due to society becoming more accepting of it. Men and women may not have even considered the thought, but with bisexuality becoming more prevalent in the media (TV shows, movies, openly bi celebrities), they perhaps start looking at their own sexual preferences more closely? But OP, I'm not sure what you mean by the number of bi guys in relationships? Were there more single than coupled bi men before? Personally I would lo have a bisexual (male) partner, especially if we could share other men!
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
It's funny how people get hung up on how people I identify sexually. When it comes to playing as long as everyone has fun who care how they identify. You don't need to have a complete matching list of interests to have a good time, just some common areas and no still means no. So how guys identify shouldn't matter.... However, poor hygiene is always a deal breaker.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I personally think that for an experience with a couple to flow better and be more exciting the guys should at least be comfortable with being physically close. I had an awesome night at the pleasure lounge on Saturday and met some amazing people. What struck me though was it was almost a given that the females enjoyed each others physical company but exactly the opposite with guys. At one point a guy even commented it was an 'awkward moment' as physical contact occurred accidentally between two males! The whispered response from a more open minded female close by was amusing and she pleasingly didn't share his opinion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I still prefer the term Heteroflexible
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RHP User
10 years ago
And the rest of you outspoken forumites who bang on about how hot MMF action is! You are corrupting Australian men on mass. Well done.
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RHP User
10 years ago
:)
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RHP User
10 years ago
The stigma attached to the word bisexual plays a big part in guys keeping a little bit quiet on what they are happy to do in certain play situations. Its more just having fun at the right time with the right persons in the right situation. I personally play both sides but really dont consider myself bi at all. Im not attracted to women or want to play solely with a woman. But i really enjoy experiencing females in play times.Different sensations adds a new layer to explore, same if the guys are on the same wavelength.Ive got male friends who think the same when it comes to play, they consider themselves straight as they arent actually attracted to men, but enjoy the play.Its just an added bonus if anything or anyone goes ( anywhere) so drop the inhibitions, and if it feels good, and everyones happy, it cant be too bad.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not Bi, but I'm pretty sure the guy sucking my cock on Saturday was... Heteroflexible works for me. I'm not attracted to guys at all, and I'm never going to kiss one, but in the heat of the moment with hard cocks all around sometimes there's fun to be had! I'm never going to initiate it though, so straight men are safe with me ;) I may be quite comfortable with being "out" on here, but there's no way I'm talking about it outside. But that goes for the swinging and group activity I enjoy in private as well. I don't think Bi is any more acceptable out there (at least in my age group). Neither is anything else outside of 1-1 and generally monogamous relationships. I genuinely think it may be more common here now because of the acceptance (and encouragement) in the forums. It's coming though, give it 5-10yrs and non-monogamy will be understood and talked about in the mainstream. In 20 it will be common, if not the norm. I think it's just the natural progression of things to a more liberal outlook on everything. It's been happening for centuries, and accelerating rapidly thanks to the internet. Gotta love progress.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bring it on. Our culture is becoming more accepting. And just to stir it, dream on hetro guys we all know your secret fantasies.. Us bi guy get the women as well, so less for the straight guys. Straight guy never get to play with their G-spot for no other reason than fear of being labeled queer Bi guys know what guy are like, gives us much greater understanding of how to please a woman. Bi guys have twice the choice, twice the number of positions, and twice the fun.
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RHP User
10 years ago
In the last 18 months we reckon it's got to about 1 in 4 guys that are curious about going there with us. We are up front on our profile about being bi and still get quite a lot of messages and flirts. Oh and Meander you are always welcome to come visit us whenever we have another guy in bed with us.. Both of us have always thought you were very sexy and both like reading your posts.Love the personality there. Gabby_and_vixen - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think several tv shows lately have helped. Ie. The prince of dawn character from game of thrones was simply sexual. "God made this which pleases me and god also made that which pleases me also." All good and soon much more fun when everyone in the bed can play with everyone else without someone freaking Gabby_and_vixen - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Pleasure, Simon.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think there are guys who feel ok with male on male contact but dont pursue it and there are guys that simply dont have the slightest desire and dont feel comfortable with any male to male contact accidental or otherwise because its just not a turn on but is a turn off.I guess its well documented that gay men have many more casual sex partners than any other group and that they take more risks in relation to safe sex, hence the latest data showing increased rise in new HIV infections from sex between men. I guess its fair to assume there are a number of bi guys having encounters with gay guys. So i guess the second highest risk group for HIV must be bi guysMy inital thoughts were triggered by looking at risk which im sure most of us on this site must give thought to if we value our health.I just didnt realise before looking at the profiles on here that there were so many bi and bi curious guys in society. Theres no right or wrong its simply about preference and risk I think.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
I heard the highest risk was swingers and single straight people actually who are ignorant and often don't get tested.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bullshit.
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fantisy
10 years ago
The sometimes we have found a frustration when looking at profiles as to the preference men. Some men only like being on 'top' with another man, others only on 'bottom' and then there are the men who enjoy it all. Having one tag 'bisexual' to describe all the different flavours seams a bit narrow minded compared to the different things that people enjoy in the area. We would love if more detail could be added to this site around this area.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Rambled on. Some stuff about bi men, from a bi man. Types, Top, Does not mean on top, just means he does the fucking, his cock is sucked, his ass might be licked, but he does not get fucked and seldom ever sucks. Bottom, Seldom gets hard, never fucks or gets sucked, but gets fucked and face fucked, they are good at giving head. Generally I am not very keen on either type, there is a strange element of selfishness in them that I am not keen on especially the tops tend to be aggressive and demanding, not for me. I am versatile, that means I enjoy all aspects of bi sex. By far most guys are versatile, some lean to top, others bottom. Then the is the XD (cross dressers) not to be mistaken with TS or TV as the XD only get off on dressing up or playing the role of a woman, more likely to be bottoms. I like XD if they have taste and some are excellent lovers. Then the hand jobbers (I don't know what to call them) they don't want anything to full on and are just happy to sit around having a wank and watching porn with other guys, maybe a little play. Tends to be newbies, as many do slowly move on when they realize men are not at all revolting, or untouchable. Straight acting as well they can be any of the above but you could never pick that they do what they do, Which I do find a strange term to use as its implication is that to play with guys you have to be camp. Camp is not that common with gay guys or bi guys. Shit there are totally straight guys I know that are the campiest of all. I know many people that call them selves gay, but they seldom turn down an offer for a woman to join in. In all this time I have only meet 3 gay guys that disliked women as much as straight men dislike men. That is way I am always puzzled by both the straight and gay, they treat the sex they dont like normally in all other ways but as soon as it becomes sexual they freak out. It is very odd as you seldom see this in straight women, they will not have sex with another woman, but they do not freak out, and happily admit they have thought about it but its not for them. That is why I have one last type of Bi guy. The homophobic && hetrophobic (made that up) (AND No I am not directing this at anyone at all) that have a pathological fear (hence the phobia) of Bi or gay sex which goes beyond rationality explanation. I Understand that many have been traumatized (gay and hetro) at some point and this is their defense. But I also know that many homophobic men fear them selves only. Hence the last class I can think of is the closet BI guy. He will never admit it to anyone, due to the perceived stigma associated with it, but deep down sadly they are actually fixated on it. Becoming BI and a shocking revelation. I discovered the nature of my bisexuality late in life, I was in two long term relationships, there was never any thought of having sex outside the relationship (yes fantasies but impractical and minor and mostly hetro, I was very much in love) What a shock when I discovered after experiencing sexual intimacy with guys, which made many bits of the gender sexual tension oh so click into place. I always though all guys where the same as me in regard to what sex was, deeply intimate, loving, giving. You poor women, guys are useless in bed, really bad, I was completely shocked at how wide spread the problem was They wield that stick around like its gods gift, they have no clue how to use it, that ramming it home is not pleasant, that there is more to sex than their dicks. I knew that before I started playing with guys, I thought all guys knew this. They are clumsy brutes, ignorant, and selfish, focused on one thing only, the race to the end. (not all guys, just way too many) I am so glad I learnt that. But I am in the same boat as the girls, its is so hard to find a man that is good in bed, but I also know that many women have never been fucked properly. Becoming Bi made me understand why there are so many sexual problems. Sorry guys 80% of the blame is yours. To those that have good sexual male partners, dont let go, those that are not satisfied, run. OMG I have meet women in couples that did not even know they had a G spot. They defend their tits because all they have ever experienced is brute force. They spread their leg only to allow the guy to have his joy of going down, not for there own. Again not all women but too many I am proud to be BI In the end apart from the physical differences, cuddling with (the right) guy or girl is exactly the same, beautiful and good for the soul. i could not really tell anyone what the sex of the next person I fall for will be, nor do I really care.
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Hottie1
10 years ago
I don't mind the labels people give themselves, it's important for me that you are open-minded when in play. I'm new to FFM AND MMF and all other combinations of that, but I've tried many a wonderful things in the last six months, and what a ride it has been. We have 'experimental' as our label on our profile, because we are doing just that, experimenting in areas/ situations that we haven't before. Simon, I would have loved to watch you in action on Saturday, a guy that goes with the flow and is open about that, is sexy. I understand why you wouldn't talk about this in your other networks, not many of us do. The taboo still exists around bi-sexuality in the most part, it is interesting how accepting we are of female bi-sexuality compared to male bi-sexuality. Lastly, Simon you say Meeka and Meander corrupt, I would like to use the word ' inspire'. I'm waiting for the day when I'm in the middle of a gorgeous man sandwich, and I just look around and see them kissing ..... A girl can dream 😍😘😎 Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its not sexual 'preferrence', but rather, sexual 'orientation'. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
As others have said the culture has become more accepting, still I think there is still a lot of mistrust out there particularly from straight women. To be brutally honest this mistrust is not misplaced as from perusing bi sites I think mens attitudes to safe sex are way too cavalier. As for playing with straight guys in couples its just not worth the bother in my mind, having to accommodate their paranoia over whats appropriate contact, it's all rather juvenile really what do they think we are going to do ? Jump them? Convert them ? All or nothing I reckon.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
If people are becoming more comfortable with themselves, who they are, their wants and needs. If they're opening their minds to new things, experiences, exploring and finding what works for them..... My biggest turn on is someone that is open to experiences and open to experiencing things for pleasure.... Heteroflexible, works for me also and should be included here on RHP, I know of another site that uses it....💋 I'd also be a extremely happy woman if my partner was Bi, perfect I'd say.......💋
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I disagree to a point, I was having a conversation with my 23yo son and his girl friend just last night. We were having an open conversation about their group of friends and how there are a couple of their male mates who are opening Bi. All their friends are very open about sexuality, so I think it's more excepted amongst the younger generation. Their comments were as long as they're happy, having fun, being safe, why should it worry us. Now this group of 21 to 27 yo male and female are all uni students or graduates, I also have a 21yo son (tradie) and his group of mates are the same, my 17yo daughter identifies as pansexual and a lot of her friends are very similar..... So these kids/young adults don't seem to have the hang ups that we might of had at their age..... Times are changing and it's wonderful to see...💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wonder why no couples have a view on this stuff
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On_Safari
10 years ago
You're itching to use your strap-on(s) aren't you? (chuckles)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'EuroChinese' Wonder why no couples have a view on this stuff Mr Tryst and I are not in a relationship with each other, but I absolutely love having a bi man at my disposal to go on adventures with! I say bi men are the way to go. x Ms Shout
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RHP User
10 years ago
Couples with a bi or curious male get a big thumbs-up from me. And here it is: Go get 'em, fellas! You never have to tell your mates, but one or two of them has probably done it or at least thought about it anyway. If it's not as enjoyable as you'd hoped, you can always tell yourself that your missus put you up to it. Chalk it up to just one of those things you'd do for love.
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
As a bi curious guy putting it out there for all intensive purposes for the first time (that I am bi-curious) I am enjoying reading your comments Blindman and all the other responses here as well ....... well most of the comments anyway. Gives me resolve to be true to myself and put it out there and if people don't like it well then their loss. Cheers W.
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RHP User
10 years ago
In my opinion that men who protest the most at the mere mention of bisexuality do so because it hits way to close to home. Any straight man 100% confident in his orientation wouldn't bat an eye. It's the ones that keep having to point out that touching or hugging another guy does not mean they're homosexual that have a full-time job hiding their urges. Just my observation of course.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
That's very brave... Foxy xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Araps, welcome to the club!
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RHP User
10 years ago
My partner and I are both Bi and it makes for amazing playtime... I try to explain to friends who don't get it... I love to suck cock so what is wrong with my man enjoying sucking cock too? How is it any different? And sharing is even more fun!!! Yes there are some men that are more at one with their sexuality, we love to meet them but they are a rare find... so many say they are experimental or bi-curious then run a mile when you ask them the hard questions!! Not everyone wants to be labeled with a tag... Bi, gay, straight... Etc... But at least be honest about who you are... And stop pretending to be something you're not... Either you like both men and women equally or you don't ... Signed Bi Couple sick of the time wasters :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
To put the record perfectly straight.. I really don't care what any persons persuasion is and apart from yelling this from every rooftop in Sydney it still seems to fall on deaf ears . Do whatever rocks your boat, that's up to you. Doesn't matter my persuasion , I don't need to be hung out to dry just because I choose different.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You have my full support, its a big step to take. A little advice.I was very nervous when I went to meet a guy for the first time. When I got to the door he was on me in a flash, Woo big boy, I told him this was my first time with a guy. He was very good, we sat down and talked, I felt comfortable and we had some good play, nothing at all too full on. I enjoyed it. I was lucky because there are some guys that would have put me right off. If I had meet them for the first time I would most likely be calling my self straight right now. So when and if you get around to trying it out, best to take it slow and be selective. If you go to meet someone and you don't feel comfortable, just say so, don't do anything you are not ready for. You don't want to spoil your first experience, and there is no need to rush. Some guys are very pushy and selfish, if you get even the slightest hint of that best to back off. Wishing you luck.Blindman. PS if you have any questions just ask. I am more than happy to help out.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey Blindman67, Your experience in life is very very similar to mine. I equally enjoy the sexual pleasure from women as I now do men. I find it incredibly easy to meet men on sites like these and insanely difficult to meet women. I have had a number reject my interest based purely on my bisexuality (actually it's probably closer to pansexuality) I find it easier to find sex with a woman through a couple then singles (of course it is way hotter because there is another guy there too). If you check the online nos. there are typically 1.5 - 2 times as many couples as single women. Cheers - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
That in a couple a guy has the ''backup'' of a partner so to speak, and they may be more confident to explore desires or feelings that otherwise may have been squashed down and dismissed, This is what happened with me, i could talk about anything with my ex, and she helped me realize life is to short for ''what if's'', she was behind me 100% (pun semi intended), it wasn't a big deal, and was easy to talk about!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_me' To put the record perfectly straight.. I really don't care what any persons persuasion is and apart from yelling this from every rooftop in Sydney it still seems to fall on deaf ears . Do whatever rocks your boat, that's up to you. Doesn't matter my persuasion , I don't need to be hung out to dry just because I choose different. "Perfectly straight" thats funny ! Jay_me no one gives a toss about your persuasion either, but the "double the diseases" comment was spiteful and baseless, thats what pissed people off.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Awesome man, welcome to your exciting new future. My first bi experience was in a MMF threesome it was awesome, he was gentle, she was reassuring and it is still my favourite way to play with men.Just flow with the go and all will be well.
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
I think when its my first time I will be like Freely and Sydneyw in that doing something with a female present will be a lot less intimidating than a one on one. Awesome advice BTW Blindman and will be def taking things in baby steps Cheers, W.
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kerningpairs
10 years ago
In my experience many taboos about sex are really taboos about the knowledge and intelligence that sexual intimacy develops in us. I have known I was bi since I was 18 and as a result my life is filled with moments, glances, gestures from men that fleetingly stray over the boundaries of heterosexuality - uncertain and sometimes fearful. So as a bi man, I've noticed that my presence amongst straight men catalyses things in them. Sometimes fear, sometimes interest, sometimes violence. I like my sexuality to read as ambiguous and love the freedom it brings to be bi . The world is a very different place for men who are that. Just as there is homosexual camp, there is heterosexual camp - a signalling system that many straight men use to beacon their adherence to rules of male heterosexuality as they understand them. I often find these signals quite orthodox, relentless and intense, especially when men are in groups. Of course, much of this signalling is aimed at women, but in doing so, confirms identity, social and sexual conformity to other men. In groups these signals seem to form a kind of social wifi, a mesh network if you like, that gets you access to validation and social power. In some contexts, failure to "login" and rebroadcast the group's rules will have negative consequences... So when I started to spend time with a wonderful couple, who had only recently decided to unfence their relationship, I knew that part of what I bring to the relationship is an openness to quieting these signals, finding out what other signals there are, and making a different kind of music. The guy went from homophobic to heteroflexible in three short liaisons :) This my first day back on rhp in 10 years. I look forward to chatting with you all more...
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is all about individual choice and self discovery. If Bi is your thing then embrace it. If it works for you then approval from others is not required. It is your choice. All we ask is that you allow us the same latitude (we are both straight). As for contact during MFM/FMF/MFMF etc, inadvertent is fine, intentional is not. Simple.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wow, really interesting post, I for one will certainly be looking forward to more.I would love to hear more on the signal system, sounds fascinating, I love watching groups interact, humans can be such fun !
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RHP User
10 years ago
Welll having been part of a Bi cpl ..now playing alone..if you havnt tried Bi you are playing games...holy shitballs. Most females LOVE watching 2 guys play and the fact that you both enjoy it are big factors I guess. 2 Bi Cpls is even hotter - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes I am part of a couple where the male is bi and oh the adventures we have! We are also very very open with each other with our wants and needs. We are both totally comfortable with our sexuality and we happily play with men, ladies and couples of all preferences - in fact the more the merrier! Unfortunately there still seems to be a stigma about straight men/couples playing with a bi guy even part of a couple.... for some reason they think he is going to "attack" or "jump" them! Which for my sexy submissive bi partner would be not be at all in his nature! Yes I think the group is growing and if you live in Brissy let us know : p
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Quoting 'Jay_me' To put the record perfectly straight.. I really don't care what any persons persuasion is and apart from yelling this from every rooftop in Sydney it still seems to fall on deaf ears . Do whatever rocks your boat, that's up to you. Doesn't matter my persuasion , I don't need to be hung out to dry just because I choose different. "Perfectly straight" thats funny ! Jay_me no one gives a toss about your persuasion either, but the "double the diseases" comment was spiteful and baseless, thats what pissed people off. Bullshit' man up and stop looking for brownie points.. those few words were a over reaction and you know it.. If the instigator and driving force of all this stopped prompting . This topic would have rolled on like any other. If you didnt notice, the rhp moderaters choose to remove all your and other offensive comments including mine.. Time to man up and move on....
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
To restock from the last big topic and I missed something. Didn't miss the one common denominator though. Why don't YOU man up and adjust your attitude. It's Christmas time afterall.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'come_outand_play' Unfortunately there still seems to be a stigma about straight men/couples playing with a bi guy even part of a couple.... for some reason they think he is going to "attack" or "jump" them! Which for my sexy submissive bi partner would be not be at all in his nature! I just don't understand the fear. All I can conclude is that people that fear the touch of the same sex have problems that they can not confront. What sad repressed issues are inside those minds, that makes half the people desirable and the other half so repulsive that the mere touch is to much to bare. A heterosexual man should be comfortable with his sexuality and has nothing to fear from the accidental touch of another man, there is nothing in that touch. Those that express such illogical fear should open the closet door, which in my humble opinion is way to plain for healthy minds to see.
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RHP User
10 years ago
as if ? hehe
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
(Puts beer back in fridge.....) Think we've established that bi guys work perfectly for a couple to play with. And most certainly normal straight guts who are comfortable with their sexuality. But the kind of guy as we have touched on that would certainly spoil the night would be the homophobe. But how to spot one? Would most certainly be the one to shout out "I'm straight" at every opportunity. He would have it said several times in his profile. Even to the point of having it in capital letters "STRAIGHT MALE". Would you invite that one to your MFM night? As if!!
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sydney_tradie
10 years ago
im more than happy to join with couples but if the guy is bi , im not going to join, sorry
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RHP User
10 years ago
And women. My personal preference is for people who are open minded and know that sexual acts are for enjoyment. I find no satisfaction in being with someone who wont let themselves go and just feel pleasure.. Lets not forget that there are many women out there that cringe at the thought of touching another woman. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sydney_tradie' im more than happy to join with couples but if the guy is bi , im not going to join, sorry Could I ask why you would not? What if she was ultra hot?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find it strange that there are guys who think that straight guys are straight because they are afraid of being bior they are fighting off some deep down desire to break out of their straight status, surely if we like doing something or like the idea of trying something different then dont we just do it, and conversely if we dont then we just dont
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm a firm believer that very rarely someone male or female is either straight or gay. There are so many shades of everything in between. I enjoy the occasional play with another woman although they are hard to find for a ffm. My man loves playing with cock and having his played with by a man. Yet he would never kiss a man. We have had a couple of mmfs and keen to do more. I have not been with a bi open man before but enjoy the honesty and exploration as long as we play together. Through my experience I've learned a lot about men that enjoy cock. Have a look at squirt. You will find plenty of men that are married and keep that secret. I don't think it is any more prevalent but men are becoming more honest about enjoying other men particularly on sites like this as this taboo area becomes more above ground and people are exploring their sexuality. After all most women enjoy the touch or kiss of another woman. Perhaps not exclusively. Why should men not have the same openness.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sydney_tradie' im more than happy to join with couples but if the guy is bi , im not going to join, sorry Just because the guy is bi doesn't mean he will be into you! Sure he might like a whole bunch of stuff but so why would you limit your experience with an attitude like that?There is this amazing thing called discretion!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'EuropianBliss'Lets not forget that there are many women out there that cringe at the thought of touching another woman. Maybe its the women I am friends with but I have yet to meet a woman that is as homophobic as some guys. In fact its easy to find a homophobia man, difficult to find a homophobic woman. Maybe I should go to more "normal" social events, pah boring
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RHP User
10 years ago
In an FMF with a straight woman, I would never try to seduce her or feel her up. Hell, I won't even give her a suggestive look. It's called respecting someone's boundaries, and I can't imagine this is any different for bi guys. I my opinion if a bi man does try something with a straight guy who's not interested, it's because he's a disrespectful jerk, not because of his orientation. So there.
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hornycd69
10 years ago
Being a bi guy who has had a bi and straight mmf 3some, I don't see what the straight guys are so worried about. If I meet a couple with a straight guy it just means I focus all my attention on the female. I love to play with a couple when we don't have to worry about who is touching who though! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
how many straight guys realise they probably have played quite safely with bi-guys already, many bi-guys have straight on their profiles purely because of the "discrimination" from straight women and straight couples. Further, I believe many bi-guys only play with couples and don't indulge in MM or "gay" sex. EuroChinese, you may be right about the reverse discrimination towards straights, and I don't think it's helpful. But this may also be confused with bi people just trying to reassure straight people that they are in no danger, that boundaries are respected.Unfortunately I think it's still a widely held view that bi-women are sexy but bi-men are dirty.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am a man, I know how men think, anyone that knows me know I go for the jugular when it comes to emotions and life experiences. Some guys don't like skinny women, some don't like fat women, some guys don't like men, and some not women. Nobody cares what you like or not. But when someone of either sex jumps up and down proclaiming how much the types they don't like, they are trying to prove something. Anyone who proclaims they have never fantasized about same gender sex is lying or brain dead. I don't care how much you jump up and down saying you never have. The argument is mute. By far most people admit to those fantasies, when given the trust to do so. It is social pressures that force most into the closet, and then there is also abuse which has corrupted normal sexual appetite which is sad. As for someone attempting non consensual sex on anyone, we call that rape. So the fear straight guys have in MFM is the fear of being raped. That is a legitimate fear anyone can have in any potencial sexual encounter, but to insinuate that all bi and gay guys are potencial rapists is plain and simple bigotry and very insulting. By far there are more people in this world I don't want to have any form of sex with than I do want to. Insinuating that just because you are there I will force my self onto you is ludicrous. For most even if you beg I wont (you should be so lucky), so get your heads out of the clouds.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have had many awesome encounters with couples where the male was bi or bi curious. Even when the lady took herself out of play,her fascination with what was unfolding in front of her eyes was evident. I've become more aware of how many ladies love watching gay porn to see the primal act of two guys together. Whether she's masturbating while watching, giving some directions on what she'd like to see,asking her partner whether he's enjoying it, or moving around the bed to check out the action from all angles, it's an incredible turn on for me and her partner. Plus it seems to make the male more eager to please and less inhibited if he's inexperienced . I don't believe the guy's level of participation is based on his partners's whim. They have obviously discussed it length before meeting me On the flip side I've had MFM's where the straight guy blurred the lines and said it was ok for me and his wife to be sucking his cock at the same time, and enjoyed it so much he asked for that and more on return visits. I guess all that conforming to a stereotype does is restrict a person's pleasure and excludes potentially great people from their life. A life where the Great Unknown is left unexplored is not a life that has been well lived.
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kerningpairs
10 years ago
Cheers for that :) I'd like to respond to the concerns about reverse discrimination against straight guys in this thread, perhaps in my post (?)... First of all, if rhp is a place in which normative heterosexual identity is exposed to a fundamental challenge, that sounds pretty healthy to me... Around sex is a spread spectrum of other human activities and ideas that influence it and are influenced by it: art, relationship styles, fiction, politics, identity, commerce, family structures - you name it... So when a straight person lets me know they are squicked out about same-sex contact, the echo of that door may be closing on a bunch of other matters where equity & diversity is important to me. No one has to have sex they don't want to have: Consent 101. But when we talk about bi-openness we're excited about a lot more than the sex; it could be anything along the spectrum of social intelligence that may be motivating us to promote bisexuality. That all sound pretty academic. In the end, it's my own journey to bi and the journeys of other men that I have had the privilege to be a part of that leaves me awestruck and ready to share...
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Hottie1
10 years ago
And you being so forthright . I want to be you when I grow up. Mwah Mary xx Ps: cute arse, just saying xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wish a bi cpl would pick me for a 1st bi meet. ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
As yet in this thread I have not seen any form of discrimination towards straight people. There has been some name calling and that is about it. That is not discrimination. Unfortunately real discrimination and hate still exist in the real world and take many forms. Not only is there the ever present threat of personal abuse at the hands of violent people, there is also the general distrust and negativity associated with Bi, Gay, Swingers, the sexual fringe. I personally have had to deal with the many disgusting sides of discrimination and stereo typing (bigotry) associated with my sexuality. This has gone to the level that my friends strongly urged me to go to the police, though it never came to that, I did seriously consider the threats warranted such action. It was based solely on the fact that I was bi, and that I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. To cry discrimination here in these forums makes a mockery of what real discrimination is, and belittles all that have to suffer it in the name of sexuality, race and culture, to religion and even disabilities. Here you can simply not read to avoid it, real discrimination can not be avoided, it effects your every day. I do not feel a moments pity for the poor straight people with their cries of discrimination at the hands of forum posters. For many it is the very fear of discrimination that is the bed rock of the homophobic angst. Why would someone fear being called gay or bi? I have but only experienced the surface of the horror that many many have had to suffer. What has happened to me and with me writing this, I feel in some aspects belittles their suffering, I can only humbly stand as a shadow of their experiences. How many martyrs must suffer or even lay down their lives for the rights to sexual freedom. One more drop of blood is too much. There is only one way to fight the bigotry that infests our culture and that is with our words, if you feel that they cut to deep, take a moment to think of the real blood so many real people have spillt in the name of their own sexuality, in the name of real freedom. Take a moment to remember that real knives, real bullets, real injustice are the tools discrimination still use. Take a moment and think why the words hurt, for threats they are not, blood they will not draw. They can only invoke thought, and hopefully a glimmer of empathy, and entice some steps forward on the road to understanding. kerningpairs:Very well said. Bravo. I totally agree that it is so much more than "Just about sex." ag4mg92:Mwah shucks.... xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is nothing more erotic and sexually pleasurable than having your significant other performing oral on the other guy, together ... Such a turn on for me... Sharing is caring and so much fun!
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RHP User
10 years ago
As a bi couple on this site we have met some men (single guys) that will say that they are bi but when it comes to the crunch they aren't. We think they tend to say they are so they can get to meet to play with the girl. Then you get the couples that state she is bi and she is straight, then when you state ( oh sorry we are really looking for a bi couple suddenly he becomes bi ). My question is why can't people just honest in their profiles, it would make it just so much easier for people to meet their match. Then we would all have fun without going through all the crap......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Omg how true, I'm married to a woman! But I tell u wat....... I find my self craving cock once a month or so. It's jus the way anal sex makes me cum! It's incredible. Like I enjoy sex with my mrs, but it's nuthing like getting slammed by a room full of guys and cum that many times I loose my voice..... Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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