Bicurious dilemma

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I totally understand the issue you've raised. I was in a similar situation. I knew that i knew how to please a man....but as i'd never been with a woman i was unsure if i knew what it took to please a woman. Strange as that may seem I guess there are few points to mention here If you play with another couple the man will already know how to please the lady - so get tips from him Never be afraid to ask the lady for feedback - listen and watch her body for responses Be totally honest about your level of experience upfront....it's rather like being a virgin again Choose someone more experienced rather than a 1st timer too, and let them take the lead.   most importantly....relax and enjoy!

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  Hanna_ybbn

  12 years ago

  I have to say - the question you eventually asked;Would it not be fair to say that each individual situation calls to be treated as such?I mean, what worked for me with one couple in a MFF scenario, didn't work the next time because the people were different and the situation and surroundings were different.If you are sensual and sexual and genuinely intuitive, you will know what to do, mostly when to and how to do it in the situation.I am going to be a little selective how I say this...Sometimes when a topic is raised in here by a 'Single' woman who then will go on to describe that she and her 'partner' are here looking to play, you will get a mixed response as to just how genuine your question might be.This is my opinion, sure, but I've also witnessed it happen time and again and seen posts get shot down as a consequence.It's almost as though some will use the forums to put out there 'Call' to the masses and see who answers....See above as my answer to your question.CheersHanna x

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Two men, how hard can a woman be?? And I mean that in the sense that you have a woman's body, please her as YOU would like to be pleased. After all women know women best.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'Two men, how hard can a woman be?? And I mean that in the sense that you have a woman's body, please her as YOU would like to be pleased. After all women know women best. I had my first girl-on-girl experience only two months ago, and I haven't looked back. Truckin is right, go with what you like and watch/listen to her reactions. I also like to ask what she would like me to do to her. Or you can ask her man! I find it an incredible turn on when he tells me what she likes, and what to do to her. Feel free to come practice on me.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Trust me ..its not much different from seducing a guy and as HT said, you've appeared to manage that scenario nicely   You can always watch porn for tips (classy porn please) ...   If your a little nervous..suggest a shower together, always a great icebreaker.......or a little underwater play in the spa....   One that I do is this ...and girls love it   ...if you kinda sitting around chatting...offer to play with her hair...get her to sit between your legs...brush her hair..but every so often stroke her neck, massage her shoulders, stroke her back..trust me this one works every time (yes its kinda weird but so works) but of course depends on the setting...   And dont be nervous - be honest..tell her your a little new to this..ask her what you can do for her ?...if shes a sweetie deserving of your attention she will be flattered and will also guide you...I actually find women much more appreciative and "co-operative" than men in this regard...   You will be fine..trust your feelings and intuition....you will please her :) and remember to enjoy yourself as well...xx

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I'm in a similar situation in that a male fwb wants us to play with a girl. I've never played with girls before and never had ffm, only mfm. As curious as I am, the thought terrifies me and makes me really nervous but at the same time I want everyone to enjoy themselves. I guess for me when I'm in that situation I'll just take it as it comes and don't do anything I'm not comfortable with.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  we worked as a team our first time, i played with her clit while my wife fingered her, it worked too...she squirted.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  There's been plenty before you and will be many more after you.. Everyone has to start somewhere. Half the excitement is in the unknown and a few laughs along the way cant hurt.. Im sure when everything is underway, nature will kick in and things will just start to happen.. Surely not as scary as jumping outta a plane, so dont worry, just enjoy the moment.. If all else fails, you could always return to MFM.. I might be able to find some spare time.. lol.. ( tounge firmly in cheek )

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  For me its such a sensual act. Friday night I spent a couple of hours with a lovely girl. We were oblivious to everything going on around us. Just enjoying being with each other and the pleasures of our bodies melting into one with each other.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Try meeting up with a couple? That way you can explore your BI side a little easier and you can have the best of both worlds as well..Enjoy your journey..

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  .....get yourself a couples profile! That is all.....Mrs Waterbabes

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  What works for one person may not work for another :). Some women are very clit-stimulated and others need a little more ;). Ask and chat about it, I've only had one bi exp but want to try more, I was nervous too but had the mister there and her hubby as well so with three people there one of us had to get it right hehehe ;)   Shinas love your idea of hair and massage play I love massages!! :D

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Thanks everyone for your advice. I like the description of being a ' virgin', that's exactly how it feels right now. Hanna I understand your comments, but this was not an advertisement. If members ( yes fully paid members) can't ask for help and advice on the forum then I think it defeats the purpose of a forum. My profile clearly states I have a partner and we play, not hiding anything, but thanks for letting me know that's what can be interpreted, as I'm new to posting too! Lol! Love the idea of massages and spas, I can do massages! Thanks!

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Just wanted to say that I paid membership as a couple and when it didnt work out. It was suggested by a well respected lady on the Forum Tunscanred. That i create a single profile and since considered using the couples profile with a FB. That hasnt worked out either and only because I cant find a man whom is mature enough.As I'm not paying for another profile.So just putting it out there that there are good reasons why people have certain profiles and not always there fault.Threesomes FFM I had my first experience a few months back. Although we were all a bit nervous I started by going to the bedroom with just the woman and we layed on the bed for 15 minutes and talked for a while first to get a connection. Then the hubby was invited in and it started with a kiss and just took off naturally from there. It was the best experience sexually of my life to date.

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  Hanna_ybbn

  12 years ago

  Lindy - Rhp helpline is your friend :)http://redhotpie.com.au/Help/Drop them an email and explain and they will be able to change your profile to 'Single' woman :)Hope that helps!Jade, I hope no offence was taken - it was not intended.Hanna xx

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Hanna, none taken at all:) All good, as i said, all new here. AND, i have updated my profile to make it clearer what i am looking for, so thanks for your suggestions!

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