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Bisexual, bicurious or experimental?
March 11 2015
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Funsters
10 years ago
Well here's my first post on a forum too!! I am thinking the same as you Mrs J. I had one unexpected encounter with another woman, her husband and mine before we got into the swinging scene about 18 months ago. Up until that time I would have considered myself bicurious i.e. thought I would like to try but hadn't actually experienced being with another woman, but had also fantasised about it. THEN our very first full swap encounter was with a lovely bi lady and her hubby. WELL no going back now!! I am lucky to have since been with some beautiful bi women and their male partners and can truely say I am bisexual. Not sure where the experimental bit comes in though. I think it just means 'not sure, never tried it, but willing to perhaps give it a go'. C xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
What it means to us is: Bi-sexual means you have an attraction to both sexes and want to play with both.Bi-curious means you are just that, curious to give it a try a few times to see if you like it.Experimental means you are not attracted to your same sex but are ok with a bit of play in the heat of the moment. So personally, even though I have had full on same sex encounters (many years ago) I wouldn't consider myself bi-sexual as I'm not attracted to guys. I'm not bi-curious as I've tried it and know what I like and don't like, so I put myself as experimental as I'm just happy to have a bit of fun with a guy if the mood is right. Mr HnH.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I totally agree with hotnhotter. Mind you I have met men who consider themselves to be straight, although they will fuck men in group situations. The way they look at it is that they would never have a one on one encounter with a man, they will only be with men when women are present. Therefore, they are straight. Well that is how they define themselves.
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RHP User
10 years ago
More options needed in the choices available "Heteroflexibility is a form of a sexual orientation or situational sexual behavior characterized by minimal homosexual activity in an otherwise primarily heterosexual sexual orientation that is considered to distinguish it from bisexuality." The list could be endless I am sure. What other terms should be there? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't feel I could fall in love with a man so I think of myself as more bicurious than bisexual, actually I like the term heteroflexible. It's just sexual, not emotional. Experimental is how I got here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bi curious is when you get turned on by the thought of being with another female sexually. You might fantasize about it during sex, or watch bi porn or discuss it with your partner and get turned on by it. The next step for that would be to fulfill that desire..try it and maybe it will be all that you thought it would be, or maybe not. Bi sexual, to me, means that I would be attracted to both sexes and would probably play alone with a woman. Experimental, well that could mean anything I suppose.its a very vague description really. I myself totally enjoy playing with both sexes in a 3way or moreway. Im all in and love it. But I have never wanted to just play alone with a woman. I used to have bisexual on my profile, but felt it was misleading. I prefer the term Pansexual, which basically means that I dont distinguish between the sexes during play. ( or if it feels good...do it )
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I think Bi-sexual is being attracted to both sexes and you know it, bi-curious is you haven't tried it but have thought about it, y'know, curious! And experimental means that you have dabbled a bit but still not sure, for whatever reason, maybe social conditioning or just wasn't as attracted to that person as you first thought, or they just didn't do it for you or they are experimenting too and still nervous etc etc etc (sorry, just watched The King and I) Anyway, that's just how I see it xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
great question and topic and it just shows how tricky it can be working out not just what we each want to get amongst at playtime, but how we should explain that to potential playmates! It might be a simplistic view but wouldn't a bisexual person be equally happy in a relationship both emotionally and physically with someone of the same sex? I tend to think there are some people who are gay, some who are bi (defined above) and some who are straight. But more and more it seems a big proportion (maybe a majority?) don't fit into any of these boxes. We're both in this last group, but vary on that big blurry scale! She wouldn't go looking for FF play but has had some devine moments with another lady. I'm more interested in MM and do seek it out, but I'm not attracted to men and can happily go without and play straight. I'm one of those guys referred to in earlier comments that will only play bi as part of a group with my wife. Very blurry!
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I'm not bisexual, because I'm not equally attracted to men and women and I wouldn't play with just a woman by myself (well I haven't met one yet anyway). I'm not bi curious, because I've done it and know what it's like, therefore no longer curious. The only other one RHP offers is experimental so that's what I use, but I love the word hetroflexible and it's what I use to describe myself.....💋 With the right people, in the right situations, anything can happen and usually does.....😈
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with lovinit28... with a twist that is either technically correct or incorrect... who knows. I know I am sexually attracted to women and men. Not "curious" as some people define that, I have done it and know it. But I do not ever feel a romantic attraction to a woman. I only feel romantic attraction to men... so how do I define it? I chose bi-curious as I find (bi) both sexes equally sexually attractive (the right ones of course)... and curious because that's what it is for me. A curiosity about exploring a sexy body :-)My "loving" attraction however is purely hetro ... ( from the lady of the partnership)
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RapidFyr
10 years ago
Everyone has been spot on. Hence why I am so definite about first timers and not doing things in the heat of the moment. For someone who is definitely bisexual, it can be really hard when the other person is only acting that way to please their partner or because that is what they think will make their partner like them more. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
But he loves sucking and being fucked.To him its all about cock and nothing else. I often ask people about there sexuality when dealing with people. Self proclaimed homophobes who could never have a MFM because of their inherent perception that a little MM touch is gay are asked' "What about your bum. Do you like anal play" A lot of these guys love anal play and being fucked with a strap on. Its all about pleasure.Should anyone make a judgement over someone preferring flesh to plastic. Mees wouldn't think so.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Because they have a different temperament to Men
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was a homophone until my early 20's. A friend told me I showed such hate for homosexuals to hide the fact that I'm gay. I couldn't have people thinking I was gay so I instantly decided to accept all sexualities. This decision was made from a homophobic mind so to prove to myself that I was certainly not gay, I stuck my finger in my bum. Too my shock and hitter the feeling was absolutely incredible. Before long I was using carrots and cucumber's. I had a dilemma... I needed the real thing! By late 20's I had the opportunity to have sex with a guy I'd already known for a while. He had an 8 inch and new how to treat a virgin. I never new sex had so much more to offer, the orgasm I was getting went for over an hour and continued after my climax. I've never seen so much cum leave my body at once nor travel across a room over 3 meters, explosive to say the least. I even swallowed his cum. I'm not gay because I'm not attracted to men and go weak at the knee's for a beautiful woman. I love the cock and I don't care when women say size doesn't matter. I'll choose an 8inch over 6. I'm yet to receive a pegging from a woman, this will have its own turn on as far as plastic or rubber is concerned, pegging aside I believe "you can't beat the real thing, the bigger the better. Oh there is such a thing as too big!
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Know what i am. Thats why I'm down as anything. I like cocks and how they make me feel. But not attracted to men at all. Could bever love a guy. But a woman with a strap on. My dream world. ...........
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
That's why you love me right.....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would say I'm bi, but I am curious about bi-curious / experimental folk. I have little to add to the explanations of the terms. I think it's all been well covered. But I'm wondering if many people meet or are bi-curious / experimental people who are bi ... but only in one direction. By which I mean, for example; women who are happy to kiss, fondle and maybe receive oral, but not give. And men - who I seem to meet the most, who would give a blow job, or be fucked by another guy, but wouldn't reciprocate. Challenging to meet loads of bottoms, but versatiles and tops, seem scarce on the ground.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Hotnhotter' What it means to us is: Bi-sexual means you have an attraction to both sexes and want to play with both.Bi-curious means you are just that, curious to give it a try a few times to see if you like it.Experimental means you are not attracted to your same sex but are ok with a bit of play in the heat of the moment. Completely agree with the above, that's how I see it. Quoting 'Lovinit28' I'm not bisexual, because I'm not equally attracted to men and women and I wouldn't play with just a woman by myself (well I haven't met one yet anyway). I'm not bi curious, because I've done it and know what it's like, therefore no longer curious. The only other one RHP offers is experimental so that's what I use, but I love the word hetroflexible and it's what I use to describe myself.....💋 Same same, that's why I went with Anything. I'm about 2 on the Kinsey scale, so my attraction to men and women is more 60/40 than 50/50. I'd still say I'm bi, as the definition is being sexually attracted to both men and women, isn't it? Quoting '50zcool' I don't feel I could fall in love with a man so I think of myself as more bicurious than bisexual, actually I like the term heteroflexible. It's just sexual, not emotional. Experimental is how I got here. I don't think I could fall in love with a woman either, but I make the distinction between being bisexual and bi-amorous. (Anyone want to check out my totally bi Tumblr blog goodbikiss?)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm happy with using "bisexual" on my profile. Long before I was sexually active at all, I knew I was bisexual. Then I only went with women, and I was still bisexual. This site has a number of options, and other sites have even more. I've always found it a little bit amusing, because there's only one for straight and one for gay. All of the other options mean somewhere on the same scale. Not that I'm criticising that so many options are available. I think it's great that people can choose the one that best describes them, or with which they're most comfortable. That other posters have suggested they prefer terms that RHP doesn't even list shows that, for some, the list could stand to be even longer. I always smile when I see Experimental, Anything or Not Sure. Not necessarily because it means I might have a chance with the man. But because someone is reasonably comfortable with who they are and what they like without necessarily being able to pin it down as "bisexual", like I can. Which is great. Whatever people identify as -- including straight and gay -- is wonderful.
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Bothways72
10 years ago
In reference to your 'straight' friend EuropianBliss, I am much the same. Although my profile states that I am bi-sexual, I am by no means , nor never have been attracted to another male. But I will wholly admit that it turns me on sucking cock, and LOVE receiving anal!! ...& as like naked80 has said "size does matter", I also 100% agree! (& tbh, I have NOT YET come across one too big!). As far as fake (strap-on) over real....give me real any day!! But in the case of a strap-on wielding woman, for me anyway, it's a different kind of turn-on. It's not so much the size of dong, it's the realisation and the thought of her actually taking the leading 'dominant role', along with her actually WANTING to fuck my arse, or 'peg me', that is the turn-on. This on it's own, I've read many a time that is high on a woman's 'sexual bucket list', though majority are never game enough to either mention it or do it with their partner. To sum up my comment, and back more in context with the initial question, yes...I too agree that it is indeed confusing, and do also agree with previous comments, that these terms are nowadays somewhat 'dated', and that the good old Oxford Dictionary should maybe be highlighting the word 'pan sexual', as a better term for those that like to 'bat for both sides' in the pure sexual sense!
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I know you'll be gentle......
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am happy to be one-on-one with either sex. I find both attractive. I there for use the term bi. Romantically though it is women that I am interested in. While I can kiss, cuddle, massage a bloke, it is still a sexual attraction only. Therefore I don't consider I am gay. A relationship is going to be with a woman.... men is only a physical thing. Curious is those who have explored same sex, but are open to try (once done that should change)Experimental is those who would play in the right situationsBi are those who are open to sex with both I believe that experimental is the wrong term for same sex contact, as this can refer toeing happy to experiment with other things as well... domination, breathing control, being sub, bondage, cuckold, anal sex (if not tried before), whatever - most people on RHP would be experimental to a degree, but not all would want to experiment with the same sex necessarily. As such hetrofexible or same-sex-comfortable maybe better terms to use. I would like to sex RHP give more options and definitions of what these mean so everyone is on the same page.
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RHP User
9 years ago
This is definitely interesting considering I myself have no idea what I am labelled as. I once thought I was bi sexual or at least bi curios but have realised that even tho I have been with multiple women I'm not sexually attracted to them. Yes, there have been times where I have been attracted to another girl but when I think about it, it's just admiration I feel. I've never played with another woman outside of a swingers party but absolutely love going down on another girl. I feel it's more of a thrill.....doing something different. Are there other women who feel the same?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Fact: labelling your sexuality doesn't change your sexuality.
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RHP User
9 years ago
And what would my sexuality be exactly?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Badkitten' And what would my sexuality be exactly? The sexual inclinations specific to you. Point is - labeling your sexuality won't help you understand it. Especially if you are on the bi spectrum. For me sexuality is a background thing. It's always there, but it doesn't define me. My personality, presence and energy can be at the forefront of who I am. Just my opinion.
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