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Bleeding During Sex
July 28 2016
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horneycouplewa
8 years ago
Hi Hun, As I understand it you do not bleed due to endometriosis, this is a lining in the uterus. Bleeding is not normal. I would suggest you have some more tests done to ease your mind. Best of luck
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RHP User
8 years ago
you poor thing. I agree you should definitely get another opinion, and don't let them fob you off. Insist on more tests, more opinions. I don't know anything about your condition so other than that, as far as sex goes, if it were me, I'd leave well alone with the rough sex, perhaps also penetration, until you've had more tests. I would if it were me, but it's up to you. Look after yourself though, your body, first, the rest will work itself out. Take care of you xx And as an extra note, try oral only sex, I had a fb, long term, actually he's still on my radar, but we mostly only ever do oral, and he's the best I've ever had, he's warm, passionate, makes me squirt because his skills, tongue and fingers, are incredible. I understand it's different for everyone though, but really good oral sessions rock my boat and theirs usually
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RHP User
8 years ago
Its possible you have polyps on your cervix...they burst during rough sex and can be quite messy....speaking from experience. Or it could be an infection in your uterus.....don't hesitate, and get a referrall from your GP...the sooner you get it looked at, the quicker you can get it sorted and get your sex life back on track with your partner - Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
8 years ago
I agree but more to go see a specialist full check up.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't know anything about endometriosis so can't help there. However for bleeding during sex check out beppy sponges. They are really effective at stopping any mess. Their only downside is that they can be tricky to remove :). But are a life/sex saver for uncontrollable bleeding. Good luck.
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Livingandloving2
8 years ago
This def has nothing at all to do with endometriosis. It's probably nothing at all to worry about but you do need to go and seek another opinion. Most likely you have some abnormal cells on your cervix which can very quickly be lasered off... Or you may need a d and c. Once again that's no big deal xx Best of luck and sorry I didn't address your actual question. Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi OP, I have suffered from this for many many years. For me it started when I first began my period when I was 12. I tried all sorts of ways to fix it from taking the pill constantly without a period for 12 months to have a curette every six months. Alas to no avail I'm afraid. I used to bleed after hard sex, but, as I wasn't in a steady relationship at the time it never bothered either of us. But it did make it very painful at times. I was told at 19 that it would be very hard for me to fall pregnant because of this condition, and so I resigned myself to the fact that if I didn't have kids then no worries. I fell pregnant within a heartbeat of meeting my husband when I was 26yrs old. Sometimes having a baby might calm the endometriosis down, but for me it was the complete opposite. So, after my second child, it was worse then before. I spent two years trying to convince my gynaecologist that I needed a hysterectomy and finally when I was 32 he admitted that this was so. I had my kids and we weren't planning on any more and so I had it done. I have never felt better for it. That is a drastic outcome and I know of other women who never even got the chance of babies because of theirs. I pray you don't go through anything as bad as that. As to your bleeding.....have you spoken to your Dr about it? Maybe you just need to tone down the hard sex for a while. I had to stop as I was "bruised " internally for days after. Try and get as much information as you can on this and try to explain to Mr. Good luck love x
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have had several partners with Endometriosis and none of them had that particular issue, mind you i'm not long enough to be hitting the cervix with any real force either. I agree with what horneycouple said visit another doctor just to be safe. On the other question sex during bleeding, for us it's not a major issue but i'm guessing it's a personal thing it's not something we would do with playmates though. If the bleeding is harmless you could always look into beppy sponges which are inserted internally that stops the blood from coming out during sex, it may make your partner feel more comfortable. Good luck we wish you all the best.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Try posting under secret women's business. Some might open up more in there. And beppy sponges are great to use for issues like this 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi Taby I wouldn't be so worried about your partner but yourself. The bleeding really isn't normally particularly to the levels you are talking about. Please, please go and see someone else. Make sure you tell your doctor everything that is going on. Diagnosis on scans are not accurate at all. I had some scan done which apparently showed one thing, when they went in and had a look it was completely different. Best of luck and make sure you take care of yourself.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I didn't think couples could post in SWB?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi Taby, I had something similar (not endometriosis though) for awhile can't remember why it went away. The IUD I think has helped a lot. Anyway, it's when the endometrial tissue extends outside the uterus a bit and therefore gets more easily disturbed when you have sex. I would also bleed after sex in certain positions or after a pap smear. Ask your doctor if anything can be done about it So to all those people saying it's not normal - yep, for some women it is. It's not a drama. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
As above, I'd ask a doc about the bleeding. I've had severe endometriosis and didn't have this issue at any stage. Good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I had terrible bleeding every time i had sex which has lead me to stop playing for over 6 mths. It was just getting way too embarrassing. It was like a murder scene every time, so much blood. I also have endometriosis but after much searching, the gyno at outpatients found a non cancerous cyst on my cervix which he removed in the rooms (Cervix has no nerve endings so he could cut it off without me feeling a thing). As soon as he touched it it bled everywhere so that was definitely the cause. I'm yet to get back on the horse so to speak to see if it's stopped the bleeding but i have my fingers & toes crossed Good luck xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Cannot, repeat cannot stress enough to get this symptom investigated immediately. I am today paying the price for ignoring something similar and my head is riddled with "if onlys". A good Gyno is the absolute way to go. Take care of you x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Taby is listed a single here. So it shouldn't be a problem. And fx for you Taby. I hope you find a resolve soon X
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' Hi Taby, I had something similar (not endometriosis though) for awhile can't remember why it went away. The IUD I think has helped a lot. Anyway, it's when the endometrial tissue extends outside the uterus a bit and therefore gets more easily disturbed when you have sex. I would also bleed after sex in certain positions or after a pap smear. Ask your doctor if anything can be done about it So to all those people saying it's not normal - yep, for some women it is. It's not a drama. :) You hit the nail on the head. I have some of the endometrial tissue extending outside my uterus. Ive had an ultrasound, & test for all the nasties (cancer etc) and basically the findings were a) my pelvis is slightly tilted the wrong way & b) I have a condition (can't remember what its called) where when I have my period not everything gets expelled and I have a pocket where the fluid builds up, these 2 things combined is basically what caused the endometritis in the first place.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for your comments everyone. I think I'll go back to the doctor and get it checked out again :) I had sex with Mr today and didn't bleed (first time in a while, yay) but the issue was it was only gentle sex in missionary position. We have both become really paranoid about me bleeding so we are trying to find positions etc where I don't bleed or as much. To be honest it's putting a bit of a dampener on sex because it seems the only positions that don't seem to make me bleed as much are the positions I don't like or get any pleasure from e.g. missionary and mr has to be super gentle which again doesn't do anything for me. Also because I'm so worried that I'm going to bleed I can't relax or enjoy it as much as I usually do :( I hope this is not what I have to look forward to every time I have penetrative sex with a man in the future. However the good news is I don't bleed or have any issues when I play with women (unless we use a strap-on) so at least there is a bit of a bright side lol Taby xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hello Ms Taby, I have the full spectrum of fertility issues - polycystic ovaries, fibroids, endometriosis and it's cousin, adenomyosis. I was told my bleeding from sex was more likely from the fibroids which can form outside if your uterus. Adenomyosis forms outside the uterus too but less likely to cause bleeding outside of your cycle. As others have said, seek medical opinion (a gyno not just a GP) because I would hazard a guess in time you may need to consider having it all checked out under a general... Assuming you may want kids or if pain increases. Stronger doses of birth control/ mirena can help I'm told... That's not been my experience though.
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RHP User
8 years ago
So I went to the GP last week and got everything checked. Good news is its nothing serious. Simply put because I have been on the pill non stop since I was 18 it has caused the lining of my uterus to thicken quite a bit and resulted in some tissue growth outside the uterus. This tissue is so delicate that even when lightly touched it starts bleeding. The GP suggested I have a Mirena put in to help settle everything down. The problem is I've heard dozen's of horror stories about Mirena from my friends who have had then and I don't like the fact that if it 'moves' you are not protected against pregnancy. Does anyone have any experience with Mirena's?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I know where your comming from, I'm single n went prob 8-9 months with very limited sex, due to abnormal bleeding. It's not that I couldn't have sex but, the thought of doing it with a fwb just weirded me out, even though they were keen, a partner, is a totally different story. It crushed my self esteem big time, and it's only been the last 6-8 weeks I've been able to get back to my normal self. Don't see a regular dr see a gynecologist, I put it off for ages, 1) being, I thought it would just pass therefore be a waste of money and 2) I work with one. I bit the bullet and went to see him, and got an IUD, 24hrs after I was good as new and havnt bleed since. So greatfull, and wish Id seen a professional sooner. Don't waste time waiting, go get it sorted so u can have your life back. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi Taby, My wife was recently diagnosed with Endo, towards the end she would bleed after sex and would cramp severely if too deep or vigorous. She ended up going through surgical solutions and for the moment seems to be under control. I can understand your husband point of view as he is probably concerned he is hurting you. Bleeding can be caused and the Endo cells form on the outside of the uterus walls and can bleed easily. If you have any questions from the male view point of this condition feel free to drop me a message
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RHP User
8 years ago
sounds like you've got your chin up and are taking action. What a total pain in the uterus! :( I've had some times in my life where I've been more red zoned than others. It bites. I can't say that it was ever that much but my partners have (mostly) been very excepting. I hope your husband does find his comfort level. It's definately nothing to be feeling self consious over. Finally, M, my best friend! I love my IUD. I've had this one three years and although I was hesitant initially, they are the business. Everyone has different expiriences of them and I would say for me it took a while to settle. I can also promise that my M has taken some very heavy action and never moved! -did I just admit that? Blushing... I love that I don't have to remember anything, any mishaps- I'm covered. No more kids- sorted. Piriods- MIA My period is barely noticeable when it may happen once every four months or so. Just check your strings are still there once in a while. All the best for you and your sex life! 😄 - longest xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
While I have never had an IUD, a close friend of mine did, and she said her husband could feel the wires that sit outside the cervix, rubbing on his penis when they had sex in certain positions. The main reason I wouldn't have one is because they are (partially) designed to constantly irritate the lining of the uterus, preventing egg implantation. I feel very uneasy about that. A constant irritant makes me think "cancer". - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Kisskiss80' The main reason I wouldn't have one is because they are (partially) designed to constantly irritate the lining of the uterus, preventing egg implantation. I feel very uneasy about that. A constant irritant makes me think "cancer". It could be the opposite actually. IUD's have been shown to reduce the risk of endometrial cancer, and there is meta-analysis research suggesting an effect against cervical cancer. (Castellsague, Lancet October 2011) Given that this was published in The Lancet, it's reasonable to say it's not quack science.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Kisskiss80' While I have never had an IUD, a close friend of mine did, and she said her husband could feel the wires that sit outside the cervix, rubbing on his penis when they had sex in certain positions. The main reason I wouldn't have one is because they are (partially) designed to constantly irritate the lining of the uterus, preventing egg implantation. I feel very uneasy about that. A constant irritant makes me think "cancer". - Posted from rhpmobile If her husband could feel the wires then the mirena has not been inserted correctly and needs to be done again. And not sure where you got the info about the Mirena constantly irritating the lining of the uterus. It does actually prevent cancer. Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I had a dear partner with severe endometriosis and can attest that, for her, bleeding was due to the endo. I'm no expert, but I think it depends upon the severity and location of the endometrial tissue as to whether or not bleeding during/after intercourse is likely. While a Mirena aka IUD may help some women, for the one I knew, it was simply not an option due to her anatomy, the extent of the endo tissue, and scarring from both it and surgery. Any medical intervention is going to have possible benefits as well as risks and downsides that a good medical team will explain fully to the patient.
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