F47
Bro Code
February 14 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think that story just shows the domino effect of what can be ruined in peoples lives, bet they dont think it was worth it after they get found out. Lots of people hurt in this story.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...situations like this are where you look to the code of ethics that you live by. I think everyone has a code of ethics that they believe in. It's really how we want to be treated ourselves. Though, not everyone believes that we should treat others as we want to be treated, of course. Not everyone has Empathy. If you think that it's fine to screw with your mates girlfriend or hook up with his ex...fine...then you are deciding what value you place on your relationship with your mate, and what is an acceptable way to treat other people. Code of ethics. Code of moral values. Call it what you like...we all have our own.To me, the situation you are describing is not ethical behaviour between friends or strangers. People are deliberately being hurt. Personally, I wouldn't go there.
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
I'm sad for the people who were hurt in this. My feeling is that those involved in the affair have not escaped unharmed. I truly believe that most people who get caught up in situations like this usually do so with the believe that they are able to protect the people they love - keep things a secret, so that the people they care about won't be hurt. Unfortunately, the truth usually has a way of coming out.
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RHP User
9 years ago
unless they were broken up for a long time or it was okay with my friend .. a 'friend' did do it to me its the ultimate betrayal
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RHP User
9 years ago
a similar story a few years ago about Wayne Carey and his friend.I think this might happen more often than we know. I doubt that there was any risk assessment involved here,in fact perhaps the risk was part of the attraction. xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
it could be that they'd always had eyes for each other but we're bound by their Romeo and Juliet code....lol Ahh fuck it...who knows really, except for those involved.... But.... People are cunts lol :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dryphuz
9 years ago
First I'd never cheat. i pass out before i get drunk enough to even consider it. Second i'd be devastated if a mate hooked up with my ex while cheating on his wife. Now if he was single and told me he had the hots for my ex, i'd be a bit cut up about it, but would give him my blessing to pursue it because he'd met the"bro code" as i imagine it. I have no right to expect him to tell me first, but i would if it was me. And i'd completely back off if he asked me to.
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BrightBubbly
9 years ago
That Garry and Melissa were separated as well ???
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RHP User
9 years ago
When a guy wants to get his dick wet, simples! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Bro code**** chubby fingers on small phone sorry - Posted from rhpmobile
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WildKlu
9 years ago
I know what it feels like to be on the other end of the stick. When I was married my husband screwed 4 of my "friends" plus others. When the truth came out I was devastated like you wouldn't believe. Those codes between bro and sis should NEVER be broken. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
and eat it too and everyone else's piece as well. In my book it's being greedy and disrespectful. In the past when I've been married, I've had several offers to be unfaithful but my personal code of ethics would have been compromised if I had acted on them. One pursuer, who I had knocked back several times after his seduction didn't work (and a co-worker) came to my house one weekend completely out of the blue and introduced himself to my husband on the pretext of some work that he had to discuss with me. I was horrified that someone would go to such extreme lengths to get what they wanted. (he was also married). I never spoke to him again unless it was necessary and legitimately work related. It's a good feeling to take responsibility for your own actions and have the ability to say NO!. I don't need the excitement of cheating to feel alive. I rather put more effort into what I have if I am happy there. If not, I will move on and accept the consequences but at least I will be true to myself and who ever else is involved. Having a code of behaviour is healthy for yourself and everyone else involved. Sadly I've had partners and girlfriends who have not had the same values in relationships and friendships. I guess this is the reason so many people who have been hurt build walls around their feelings aka "baggage". LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have my own code of do's and donts. One is screwing your mates wives or girlfriends is just not on . Of all the women in the world , why would you want to choose your mates. I can understand attractions occur when you are friends for a long while, and the temptation it brings, but this is where your strength of character comes into play. I did read the article with Garry Lyons and Billy Brownless in sundays paper and I felt sorry for all involved. This is a classic example of dipping your dick in the wrong place. Lets face it , lots of people cheat and most get away with it. I cheated once and I paid the price and rightfully so. The pain was horrific and if I could have reversed it all I would. But never have I or would I hit on mates partners even though some have hit on me. There's a lesson there somewhere.
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' ...situations like this are where you look to the code of ethics that you live by. I think everyone has a code of ethics that they believe in. It's really how we want to be treated ourselves. Though, not everyone believes that we should treat others as we want to be treated, of course. Not everyone has Empathy. If you think that it's fine to screw with your mates girlfriend or hook up with his ex...fine...then you are deciding what value you place on your relationship with your mate, and what is an acceptable way to treat other people. Code of ethics. Code of moral values. Call it what you like...we all have our own.To me, the situation you are describing is not ethical behaviour between friends or strangers. People are deliberately being hurt. Personally, I wouldn't go there. Well said. I agree. We all have a set of moral values by which we are raised with and live by. If we are lucky, we have been raised by parents or guardians that will show us the right from wrongs and instill in us a set of moral values that we abide by that does not hurt our fellow human beings, have some empathy and compassion. I do not approve of cheaters and those who deliberately cheat., Specially those that take joy in cheating. That to me reveals them as having questionable set of morals as there are people hurting. Sometimes when we are faced with a moral dilemma of to cheat or not, regardless how easy the opportunity has come about, our sense of compassion and righteousness for other parties, specially friends and partners who are going to be hurt, should kick in and help us walk away from the temptation. That is being empathetic and shows social IQ. There are things not worth pursuing and it takes a lot of inner fortitude to walk away from temptation, regardless of whether you are going to be caught or not. These people who do so earn my respect as good human beings.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Has been going on since we were primates. The only diff these days is the media. Sensationalism sells. I morally dont agree with it but have been guilty in the past, as some if you have as well. We learn and grow through life. I've learnt. I've grown. I've been where these people are now. It's devastating. Strange how we froth for the details when it's really none of ouf business to cast judgement. We weren't there. It's none of our business.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Something is very wrong with our culture that such things should be so dramatic and have such "awful" effects. We are taught to own and we want to own everything, even poeple we love. Then when our greed is restricted we cry like babies. Boo bloody hoo for a country full of demanding, greedy, adult babies.
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Seachange
9 years ago
That their personal lives and pain are splashed, dissected and judged in front of the public and Annie is right. It is none of anyone's business as we don't know all the details and I for one don't intend to encourage this by reading about their private lives and pain. they should all he left alone to sort out their mess. I feel for the kids of those adults involved. They are always the collateral damage to parents' indiscretions. They all need space and time to pick up the pieces without heckling from the peanut gallery.
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RHP User
9 years ago
A relationship of twenty years,they didnt meet on the Internet ...who knows when a line was crossed and whose business is it anyway...is footy season about to start?xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
it is no ones business, I agree, but I was using their very public story to illustrate my question, not necessarily asking for comments on their very sad story. I was hoping more for answers on whether, in our posters or readers opinion, doe the bro code or sisterhood code exist nowadays or is nothing off limits ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
is whether the pair that were separated were completely all over except for the divorce or reconciliation was likely (excluding the fucking of the friend)?
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'ChiChi05' it is no ones business, I agree, but I was using their very public story to illustrate my question, not necessarily asking for comments on their very sad story. I was hoping more for answers on whether, in our posters or readers opinion, doe the bro code or sisterhood code exist nowadays or is nothing off limits ? To answer your question, I am with agreement with Summer. The brotherhood and sisterhood exists for me. I basically won't bed anyone who is in a relationship or recently was in a relationship with a friend. Just way too complicated and I value my friendships too much. why go there when there are so many other options? Surely we do have self-control and can see the implications of our actions?
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
I couldn't, and wouldn't do it. DG
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Quoting 'ChiChi05' I was hoping more for answers on whether, in our posters or readers opinion, doe the bro code or sisterhood code exist nowadays or is nothing off limits ? It will exist in most normal human thought process. In the day to day workings.But sometimes, emotions will ignite and the best intentions may be thrown to the wind in some cases.The human mind is a complex thing. The very reason we are here on this site. Chasing sex and sometimes the chance of a special relationship.The things we do to get an orgasm. The things we throw away. The people we hurt. Make all the rules and codes you want. Sex/Love can override it all when lots of boxes are checked.......or filled
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sex is not just about sex it's an outcome of something else. It's complicated xxFreya
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' Sex is not just about sex it's an outcome of something else. It's complicated xxFreya exactly! Very complicated. That is why personal situations like that are best avoided and easier to walk away as my little grey matter may go on overload and start pouring out of my ears and nose. That is in my opinion. Many a times, I have been tempted by propositions of extra marital affairs while away on work trips, while still married to my ex. Too easy to do and I certainly could have gotten away with murder. But my inner voice has guided me out of the moral dilemmas like a beacon of light in a storm. I am glad I did not succumb because I know, with my Catholic upbringing, that guilt would eat me up and mess me up beyond recognition. It is easier to succumb to the desires of the flesh when it is presented to you with no strings attached. but there are always strings attached, one that tugs at our very soul and can very easily unravel the fabric of our true self. Best left intact. There will always be tests of our inner fortitude to stand up against adversity, disrespect and what we believe is right and humane. Saying NO to these soul destroying temptations provides me with focus in pursuing my life goals. They are just flashy billboards I may glance at and then dismiss. They provide momentary distraction from the big picture. That is of simple happiness with people I love and self-contentment with the gifts bestowed upon me by my God by which I am truly grateful for. Everyday. Just my thoughts.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' Sex is not just about sex it's an outcome of something else. It's complicated xxFreya As humans we all have the ability to think before acting. We also know right from wrong. Its only complicated when we know what we are doing is wrong and we do it anyway! Just my opinion LG
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Will pale into insignificance when the next Afl scandal gets out. If it gets past the rumour stage...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is there any video ?
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scubaboy69
9 years ago
Quoting 'lilybethyname' That is why personal situations like that are best avoided and easier to walk away ... I walk away
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Seachange
9 years ago
I agree 👍. These are things we can control and it is a choice indeed. however I do understand that mistakes happen and committed during times of vulnerability and weakness. But admittance and remorse that follows a mistake can just be as healing to all parties.
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