Can swinging/swingers parties help a lady's self-confidence ?

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Yes it has helped my wifes confidence. She was unsure of herself when we first started going to parties and is getting better and better all the time

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  yes in my opinion it does help the parties i have been to have been good as there is no pressure to play, and most of the people are very friendly and respectable the no means no stands at all of them I don't play if I don't feel like it at the time and still have a good night fully clothed besides I now enjoy watching also, thanks to the parties go for it and enjoy, just make sure its what you both want and that you wont have issues after the fact with each other

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  In general we would say absolutely YES, but temper that somewhat by saying that atmosphere at the party can be the main determining factor. Whilst we had attaneded a Swingers club a few times years ago it is fair to say that it did not help either Sheba's confidence or ours as a couple for varying reasons. But things have changed and after a brief flirtation with BDSM it removed inhibitions somewhat with Sheba as the BDSM play she preferred was extremely sensual, erotic and intimate which built her confidence. From there we attended a few parties (not at the same location as previous) and he confidence continued to grwo such that she went from what could be described as introverted to extremely extroverted at these parties. This doesn't mean that she jumps in bed with anyone, but does mean that the positive looks and comments from people at the way she presents herself have re-inforced the fact that she is an attractive person (a husband can only be believed so much) and desirable. Of course, when some of these people 'hit' on her the confidence goes sky high. Of course, when a lady made a move at Sheba who had never contemplated bisexuality I can attest to just how high as she had never felt attractive to another lady. Now she is very confident within herself and this flowed across to work and private life outside the scene and it has been noticed. She now walks with here head held high almost with a strut and knows that she can speak here mind or ask for exactly what she wants. She is no longer shy or intimidated by actions and for me as the husband it is wonderful to see the confidence. However, we temper that by saying that our relationship was extremely solid, open and very trusting before we made the decision to get into the scene further. We do think that it is crucial for the confidence that a lady entering the scene is doing so because she wishes to explore not being forced as this will come across and she will not be able to let loose or enjoy herself as much, thus negating any positives SHeba and Gaz

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  playfulminx

  16 years ago

  I think most ladies feel an element of being in control at swingers parties which can only make them feel super confident. Without sounding like men get the short end of the stick, swingers parties are generally organised to make the ladies feel comfortable, safe and sexy. After all, once the ladies are happy, the guys can get happy too :P

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  jandv

  16 years ago

  My wife is always abit shy when we arrive at a party but last time we stayed in the city. My wife wore a see through shirt and see through bra, short skirt to a "party" She wore a jacket. but when we got to party and after a while she took it off. She didnt even put the jacket on when we left the place and jumped into a taxi on the way back to the hotel LOL So to self confidence i would say yes LOL

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  be careful, it can be a make or break situation.. if your partner has doubts, then its not worth following through. if you are ever unsure then its probably not meant to be!

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  Bubbaj

  15 years ago

  I am generally a shy person. And i still have body issues, but after going to swingers clubs and just being around ppl that admire u either way if ur fat skinny or old/young, it made me alot more confident in myself. Also it makes conversation interesting when you ask other ppls experiences :)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Mrs looking2try3 is a little dynamo when she heads to a party! where generally reserved and quiet at parties and clubs will find herself "cumming out of her shell" She also finds her self a little bit of a single lady magnet , perhaps the confident but quiet side is attractive????? Sooo a big yes! from us Interestingly though we find the bigger the party the less fun we have?? 10 - 20 couples is fun but more than that and we find ourselves getting over the whole thing pretty quickly. And you say.............

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  jandv

  15 years ago

  We actually went to a theme night at a club and didnt really like it. There were too many there, not enough rooms. We seem to have more fun when there are fewer couples.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Playing with my partner has improved my confidence in at least the way that I am not so concerned that people really are looking for perfection. I remember worrying early on that people wouldn't like my body cos I was a few kilos heavier than I had ever been in the past lolol... it's not something that worries me at all anymore.Cheers Mrs P

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