M57
Can't get it up.
February 02 2015
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Am I (and others?) missing something? Youve made numerous references to your penis size, thickness and abilities over the past few weeks.... but now this comment, which seems at odds with the previous comments. Im sincere in asking.... are you ok? Im sorry to ask publicly.... Ive allowed my membership to lapse and would have asked privately if it were possible. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think there is much point to being rude about it, compassionate I can understand because it must be a hard situation to deal with and people don't want to come across as rude about such a delicate topic. I am sure you probably find it just as condescending though. I think you are entitled to be on this site as much as anyone else but I suppose you have to understand that it is a sex site and if you are not capable of penetration then that is a big part of it. At least you are honest about it and there are some things you can do about it if you want to. I am sure you are aware of what is available to you. Why do women do it? I don't know, it must come as a shock to many and some people just have no idea how to respond to such things. Are men only a cock? Well why do people have affairs, men and women? I find it essentially the same if someone can't or won't perform for whatever reason, lack of drive, long term illness, erectile dysfunction, etc, then it is going to be hard to fulfil a partner.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well Theres heaps more to sex than just a hard pecker, theres mouths,hands, dildos, vibes... Did i mention mouths? . And the partner wouldnt be missing out on her/his enjoyment if you still wanted to be physical with them. After reading a bit about what you have divulged on the forum about yourself, you are very creative and imaginative. And why should you not be on this site? This site is about what ever you want to get from it. Just look at how many ppl on the forums are only on pie for just that. And the forums wouldnt be the same without you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
When do you say you can not get hard? Before you meet? Women will take men not getting hard personally when they are all naked and sweaty. It is ingrained in a lot of us that men get a hard on at a drop of a hat, and yes as we mature and become more experienced we realize this isn't always true. However if women haven't come across it before or don't have the awareness about erectile challenged men than it is difficult to not take their lack of erection personally. After all it is the main indicator that a man is sexually interested in us. Isn't it. I had a bloke argue with me for hours that this attitude is completely lame and ridiculous and what does the lack of hard on have to do with the woman but we can't help feeling this way. If it happens once or twice okay, but when it continues then a woman is going to start questioning whether the man is really interested in her. And you will hate me even more than you already do for this comment. If a man contacted me on a adult site with a view of entering a sexual relationship I would be confused if they said they couldn't get it up, my initial reaction would be go to the doctor and sort yourself out. I mean how would you feel if a woman said her vajayjay had closed up?
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Plain
10 years ago
Blindman, first thing dont despair. I had a similar problem caused by medications I needed to treat a rare Blood Pressure type syndrome. The results unable to get hard it would get to nearly full erection, but not be hard and premature ejaculation. The few attempts I had sex in this condition also gave me a painful case of lovers balls, doubly cruel a different part of your body letting you know you missed out on a good time this lasted five years and drove me to being a pretty sick boy mentally.My cure and it is still ongoing was to gradually be weaned off the high dosages and class of medication I was on to getting back to near normal not quiet there yet, but I have had no complaints for the last 4 years. Unfortunately for me Viagra and the like could make my life end a lot earlier than I would like due to my underlying condition so they are not options.So that is my situation in brief, however getting back to your situation, first of all find out why, stress, change of life or an underlying condition which may be treated to get your old fella up and operating properly again.The second part is the hardest be patient and try and understand what it is that is causing this dysfunction and be part of the correctional process. I have been fortunate a GP that did a lot of work and understanding of what was going on and how to explain what will and what wont happen.Third you are already there, being honest with the potential partners is better than hoping that the next one will be the one where everything goes back to normal. ( In my case during this period 2 of 7 encounters were pre-treatment like) with the next one returning to situation unsatisfactory all round.And fourthly no you are not useless, but you do have to do some things like get a good gp for a start to listen and possibly an understanding woman. I have been fortunate there have been 2 ladies that understood my situation and have helped immensely and we have become very good friends.Do you belong on RHP definitely to talk and write about your experiences enriches us all.And if you need somewhere to start pm.Regards Plain
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some where near the wakaykay? Weird term. OP, sure it fine for you to be on the site but do you disclose your issue before meeting up with a potential intimate friend or do you wait for them to find out for themselves?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I had a friend I met on RHP who had similar issue. We did play and he did his best in other ways but I always felt like I had missed out on the main event. Also an ex of mine had developed erectile dysfunction due to his excessive smoking and dope imbibing before we met. He gave it up when we got together. Everything was fine for the first couple of years then due to stress, he began to smoke again and the dysfunction returned. We were both devastated. Having gone from a very active, spontaneous and adventurous sex life to one that had to be planned one hour in advance so the little blue pill would be effective really killed it for us. For me personally I enjoy deep hard penetration and all the love and patience eventually was reduced to frustration and lack of fulfilment. (BTW it is not why we ended the relationship) It's never acceptable for anyone to be rude in any circumstance, especially over such an intimate issue. The only reason I can give is because they have a certain anticipation of how things will turn out and when it doesn't they are frustrated or disappointed. You absolutely should be here. I always enjoy reading your forum posts and I am sure you have a satisfying sex life in alternate ways. Thank you for your honesty and this post. CheersLG
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Twisted_Mister
10 years ago
You belong here. Simple as that - just be straight up with your prospective meets and you'll be fine. As others have said - I like your posts, they always have a good, if different, perspective. Don't drop off the radar. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Of course you belong here. For years I couldn't orgasm, and even now it doesn't always happen, but it doesn't mean I don't enjoy being intimate with someone. I suspect a few people on here have issues they are trying to overcome. Meet people, as has already been mentioned, there are other ways to give and receive pleasure.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey Blindman. I am also one of your many fans on the forums here. I don't want to simplify too much, but in my mind, openness and honesty is the most of what it would take to find someone that is ok with your situation. I know a few women who have had intimate relationships with partners sharing your concerns. I hope you feel at home here because you are appreciated here.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I appreciate how hard it would have been to open up on such a public platform and I appreciate your courage and honesty.Am a fan of your work and would miss you if your views were not amongst ours with your different angles and interpretations.And i confess to commenting on the general situation of some males inability to perform in this area. But would also add that at no time did I personally belittle those who I have been with who have had trouble. Each time, there has been other ways of getting things over the line. My comments on here have always been general and simply reflect my frustration in my endeavours to satisfy my own demons and life long problems. So to you, I apologise if my comments were seen and taken in a negative way that may have compounded your frustration with your situation. So no reason to stay away as your personality certainly makes you a standout on here. Message me if you want personal support, will always have time for you.Annie
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RHP User
10 years ago
Theirs not yours
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RHP User
10 years ago
...and it'd be a shame if you were to leave these shores. I enjoy your posts.If it were me in your shoes, I probably wouldn't bother wanting to know why these particular women were being suchbitches. Arseholes will be arseholes...and there will always be more of them. Maybe just keep looking for your niche,and filter your potentials more carefully. There's someone for almost everyone out there. As to why they had to be so nasty? Who knows....a childish, natural response to not getting what they wanted to get, perhaps? Is that why some men resort to "fat slander" when a woman carrying a bit of weight refuses their advances?Who knows...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mate, you offer a insight and perspective on things here that is at time very much needed. I also share in the issue due in part to medication, putting on a bit of weight which resulted in a reduction in fitness, and of course the ageing process. I don't perform every timing certainly don't have the drive I had had. It is a frustration when it occurs, and is frustrating because I don't know when it may occur.... often times I will get hard, but not stay hard. I have sex, but and partners say they are satisfied, but it has been a long time since I have cum myself I feel I belong here as much as anyone and believe that you do to. While RHP is a sex site, it does not always require a dick to be hard. Sensual contact I have come to really appreciate..... Not being able to cum myself always does not me I am less of a person - I'm just a frustrated one!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Im sorry that women have been rude to you about this, I think it's a terrible reaction to something that you are unable to help. Why they do it? Well women are constantly bombarded with the message that our worth is inextricably linked to how sexually attractive men find us. A physical manifestation of lack of sexual attraction (however misguided that correlation may be) may feel like a personal insult to a woman. Should she lash out at you because of it? Absolutely categorically no, but it may help explain how they're feeling. Also, please don't leave. I may not always agree with you, but I enjoy your presence on the forums very much. KIS 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks for the response and kind words. I would like to say that I am fine with my situation, I know the why and it is in my mind. it is not based on performance angst but more of inability to find someone that pushes the right buttons. Meeting someone new involves the process of exploration and that means starting things on the vanilla side. For me it does not work, made limp by my own kink. So I do not peruse, and i have in so many ways politely declined. I have considered changing my profile to no thanks just here for friends, but that is not true. So I continue to say sorry if there is a sexuality in any approach. Who knows someone can push those buttons one day. But i do feel it is a bit unfair to hang out in a sex site and not be in the game. I also wish to highlight that this problem is common, not so much as in my particular case but being Bi I know that many men suffer this problem. For a lot it is performance angst where the need to perform is its own enemy. Some are like me and sexual arousal need more than just a dab of vanilla and a wink. There also seems to be not much in the way of foreplay towards the men. If its not on when she is ready, then its not on. Foreplay is a two way street, many have the expectation that men do not require foreplay. This is not at all correct. A common scenario is the. I ask a friend, how was your new guy? the reply is "No good he could not get it up!". There is not much I can say in response but say sorry to hear that. In the swinging scene you only get one shot at it. When guys hear those words from women about other guys it adds to the pressure for them to not be one of the could not get it ups. Personally it would be nice if women could avoid using that particular phrase. I am not wanting to whinge, I don't want to lay blame, I wish i could somewhat rephrase my OP as it was written on the tail of a completely unrelated equipment failure (FX peddle knob wont switch to loop.. arrgh) that left me in a bad mood. I do want to open the issue that is taboo here in the forums and for it to be discussed without judgment. In the end the more we understand the problem and the many causes the easier it will be to overcome these problems. I am a lost cause, one of my own making. But for many there is hope if there is open and frank discussion. Will address the individual remarks a little latter.
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gazpacho
10 years ago
I have heard people who ought to know, say "use it or lose it". From this sound advice I've concluded that there's no point avoiding social situations. Plenty of times in group situations there's issues with getting hard enough to do the job penetration, but it's a group situation, so there's only so much cock you can fit inside a person... Other notable tasks involve stimulating either one or both of these fuckers. I rather enjoy shoving my thumb inside a guy's butt and grabbing hold of his spuds while he plugs some pussy, for instance. I don't need a stiffy for that task.... and if you wangle it the right way, she can feel you manipulating his cock... It's all a bit of fun when everyone is friendly. Your participation is limited only by your imagination, isn't it? in group situations not every guy is hard and if they are, it's likely that they will wear it out until they're not. It's accepted. The one on one arrangement is a whole different kettle of fish. It's rediculous to expect everyone to get turned on by anyone. Plan B the situation somehow. It's important to get the right balance of meds, state of mind and healthy libido. You're a youngster. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
10 years ago
we have had our words Blindman but one thing you can do buddy ! Keep ya chin up mate . - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
I've been wondering on & off for awhile now if those who walk on the kinky side can find the vanilla satisfying anymore. It's something that pops into my mind when reading some threads and when I reflect on my own preferences. Blindman you said For me it does not work, made limp by my own kink. That is exactly what I have been pondering. Does the kink become the only game in town, or can people happily play both games - vanilla and kink? I suppose I liken it a little to being desensitised - the standard doesn't cut it anymore. At what point do we tip over the edge and only want the kink? And when can we say that we have reached the limit of kink - and is there such a thing for those who like to push the boundaries to the extremes? Does it have to continue to escalate for the same impact to be achieved? The about is a pure philosophical viewpoint and I attach no judgement to any of my comments and questions. It is simply an area which I find fascinating and wanted to ask for the opinion of others. Blindman's thread has given me the opportunity to do so (but quite happy to put it up as a separate thread if people think I've hijacked). Blindman - I am ashamed that women can treat a man in the way you describe. A man's ability to get and stay hard should not be the only measure of their worth as a sexual partner.
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
I Mangled the fourth paragraph - apologies all.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
piqued... What is your kink? Is it so obscure you can't readily find it?
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RHP User
10 years ago
In a French movie "To Paint or Make Love" a couple is visited by a couple of swingers. Great foursome ensues in which the visiting man is never seen with pants down, but the hostess has what looks like the best orgsm ever as he gives her oral staying dressed in his tailored suit... Go figure, not even a strap-on in sight. I guess it is called the right partner. Youre being honest now, be honest and upfront with a woman and you wil find the right one - we are all impatient sometimes and wanting a good root right now but it's difficult to find the right person..
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I stayed long term except the most recent one. I probably have an insight into your situation unlike most which with the 3rd allowed him to talk openly and unabashedly about it. I offered to be his "FWB" whilst he tried different medications to try and get some function which was accepted because he felt comfortable with me as well. ED is a cruel heartless and fucked up by-product of so many things, medications, cancer treatment, diabetes, aging and it is one of the least discussed conditions in men with little silver lining. Very few will openly admit to suffering from the condition regardless of kinks or whatever. There's not much I can say here am tempted to PM you. I think it's far crueler than anything a woman goes through. One man I know of could only get hard date-raping women, young girls or taking them against their will anally......but he was also a psychopath
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RHP User
10 years ago
DGAll good. I have been known to live past glory in the present. RalfGenerally most are not rude. Outside the swinging scene I think it is a different story. But in the swinging scene some women have no problem not holding back, and they should not have to. Sometime I want to just say to them. You don't do it for me. But I cant do that. WillowTreeThere is only so much licking stroking.. etc one can do. In the end a hard cock has no substitute MeekaIf a woman does not get wet, then to me she is not up for it. To be there in the first place shows that there is interest, just the mood does not click. I don't take it personally. I am not chasing anyone here on RHP. The problem is that when someone contacts me, then there is the sorry you are not for me. That is starting to get tiresome. The problem is entirely in my mind. When the right person says the right things I have no problem. Its just that I have not meet someone like that for so long. PlainYes it is very common. When I first entered the scene it amazed me how many guys did not get it up. It took some time for me to work out the many reasons that it is so. Only a small number of men have a physical problem, low blood pressure, environmental problems, smoking, and a long list. By far the most common complaint is psychological which again is as varied as any human issues. Thanks for the support. Funlover.I just don't go there. It is easy to say not interested in sex because I am not, sensuality I am happy with, but that has a tendency to move to sex. So I just say no thanks. Saves both the trouble. Leo GirlI hear you, there is no substitute for the real thing, and pre planing takes so much of the spur of the moment away there seems no point. My last girlfriend would just have to look at me the right way and it was all on. Since her it has not been quite the same. Twisted Mister.Thanks for the kind words mate. KokoThere are plenty of guys and girls with all sorts of issues that they keep silent. I made the OP as much as a personal vent, just to put the words down. i did not start with the intention to click submit. But I sat and thought, nobody ever posts anything in regard to this. So I hit submit, precisely two seconds after that I regretted doing so. And there is only so much hands mouths and other things you can do before you feel something is not right. Normal vanilla sex seem such a chore, i should have keep the pecker for special occasion rather than anything anywhere anytime. UnrushedThanks. I was not so much blaming the forums, it the expectation of other members when they contact me. I hate saying no. As for the forums, I will have to drag my self away when study calls but till then I am not going anywhere. AnyWhichWayNo offense taken at all. My resentment to what some people say is complicated, and for the most part it is the other guys that I feel sorry for. I should have said, nobody has been able to excite me to the level of arousal. I have played with many guys that have never got it up. Its not an issue for me if they don't. i have also had many times were I have managed to get it to work for them. It takes patience without expectations, even allow them to move into the land of dreams for a little. When all the tension is gone then all goes back to normal. Kiwi. KisskAsk away as that is the very heart of my problem. 7 years ago the thought of a threesome had me hard. It then became, yep here we go again, who wants what, don't worry wont forget you, we done yet? ok suck, be gentle please, oh no cant lick my tongue is a little sore from the earlier session. So I chased more and more extremes, now I am left in a position that I am at the very edge. To find someone where I am at is next to impossible. I am still sensual and I still enjoy giving and pleasing others, but it no longer excites me. I find all I do is give, people try to reciprocate and then I am in that horrible position where all my energy is on pumping the little guy up, which at best results in something far from peak. To avoid that I withdraw completely, sometimes it would be nice to say and have it accepted that I don't need anything, I am fine. But that is seldom understood. By all means hijack the thread as the OP was written in frustration and i am glad you read my second post and understood it. Don't chase the sexual dragon would be something I would like to say to my self many years back. But i would not have listened. MissBI am carefully when I mention my kinks, I now tend to ask first to make sure that the they are in my ball park before I say it out loud. What turns me on is someone without limits, the problem is now to find one that I can turn on. Safari.Thanks a very good point you mentioned. I have not been corrupted to cruelty, or abuse that has never interested me. It is a personalty type I am after, some people have stirred me to excitement, I have given it a go but only to discover that it is they talk the talk but dont walk the walk and I am left deflated. Thanks AllOK I have missed a few sorry. But am now all written out so will come back with a fresh mind. I will say this is very thought provoking and very helpful to my attitude. Thank you all for your contributions it all has been very positive and appreciated.
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RHP User
10 years ago
SafariI forgot to say with the point you brought up.When I am looking for the people on the edge I am bumping into more and more people that are just in the wrong place where kinky has turned to perversion. I don't want to go anywhere near that road.
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RHP User
10 years ago
OK with some sleep and refreshed. I have to say after the cringe moment of posting and then dreading coming back to read what people had written i have come out feeling a lot more positive about the situation. Its not going to be solved over night, but I am not going to throw in the towel and will keep searching for what i need. Also think its time to get some more exercise into my life and less coffee. Thank you all for all you have said it is greatly appreciated. Keepitsimple72Thank you as well in regard to my posts. Not all women do it and I have in my time meet some very lovely patient women, though this was years ago when there was no problem but they demonstrated that it did not matter with other guys. I think it is a matter of confidence and I can sympathies with them in regard to blaming them selves. My solution is easy and simply avoidance of that situation. My OP was a little harsh and stems from one incident only. The rest is what I hear and see in the swinging scene. I will also say that this is based on the swinging scene where expectations are different than in relationships / partners / lovers. BradBiI guess age and fitness are part of it as well and I am closing in on 50 and kind of living in denial as i feel mentally like a 20 year old. I can still do cartwheels but I need to warm up and stretch before hand or ill be sore for days. I do tend to forget my age and should consider my self lucky to still be getting offers. The real sting is pride. But this thread is helping and changing my attitude. Thanks for all you said. KoolgreyThanks. I may not have used the same colorful language but we all need to vent and my opening post is as much a vent as any. Who knows, I guess that we are all different and respond differently. Some people react without thinking of the consequence and come across as unfeeling. Others are silent for fear of offending. There is one sure thing, nobody is perfect. gazpacho51The group thing does offer the sideline and with the right people I am happy. After a year hiding out, I should say studying I was looking forward to the summer and I was going to let rip. It did not work as planed so kind of took a step back. I have not withdrawn, it still go to parties, events and the like but I just keep participation very low key. I need to find a way out of the humdrum mind set. I was at a party over the weekend with all sorts of goings on and not once did it stir anything I would call lust. But I still had a good time and made some new friends.
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inspirit
10 years ago
Can you masterbate till you cum? You know you can change it..... If you really want to. Expactations are perhaps too high now? Abstaining from all play may help.... for a while. However your post is not about you. It's about raising awareness and more so it seems how much woman aggravate you. Sometimes we do say things in tge wrong way BUT why take it so serious. Just a figure of speach most of the time. I have called some one a dud root to a mate. Meh. I love talking about sex as well. I am sure I have been called a dud root too.....carefactor 0 - Win factor for me 100. Yeah Yeah..... Lick me, I'm delicious :-p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I read your message on the forum. I have not read anybodies comment yet, I didn’t like to be influenced. First, I have to say I thought you are writing about male erection problems as such, then I realised it’s about you. My comment on it is as follow: People who belittle each other are nasty, whether male or female. However, as a female I would be utterly disappointed to be with a male I am only and I say only meet for sex and he wouldn’t get hard. My small female sexual brain would think it’s me, I mean how can it not be ME. I must not be sexual attractive to him, so I would feel total shy for a while and inside I would maybe cry. It would not make a difference you satisfied me otherwise, the hard penis and penetration is a sign for most females, I would say you desire ME. I met a man who doesn’t ejaculates often, first I was puzzled until we spoken about it, and because again ejaculation was a sign for me he really desires me. Now, when he ejaculates I feel like I got a big Christmas present and I am overjoyed. On the weekend he did three times so WOW. I think also there is a difference in meeting someone only and only for sex or you get to know each other and talk about your little shortcomings in sexual matters. We all have some shortcomings, especially when we get older. Everything is communication. Love to you mate. L
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's not what happens to us,it's how we process ,respond to what happens to us.Each negative experience is compounded by the previous negative experiences..and if we have enough of those,why would we put ourselves in the way of having more.?...Of course it is personal ,and both men and women can be consciously or unconsciously callous and or cruel.....I have spent time with men who had ED issues,some used medication quite successfully ,some were in denial and I thought it was me.that I was not desirable enough and another just wanted companionship and conversation...If a woman knows that you find her desirable,that you are interested in her pleasure as well as your own,that there are many different ways to explore sexual gratification and pleasure...then why wouldn't she want to have you as lover..I think you are a very sexy interesting,creative,thinking man...otherwise I wouldn't have virtually married you...😍I need to take this advice too..don't give up.but choose carefully,have some positive experiences to negate the negative ..hugs 😘😘😘xxWifey
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RHP User
10 years ago
Clearly you are missing the feeling of another person be it sexually or emotionally and that is why I can't understand why people don't want any strings. We all desire to be wanted and feel not only the touch of another but a connection of sorts. All thess NSA, ONS arrangements don't fulfill much except the immediate but end up leaving people still feeling empty. Situations like these make me wonder why people don't have any foresight that as we age, we deteriorate and who wants to start something with someone who is already broken? I wouldn't buy a car if the salesman said, it is a good unit but it needs this and that to run properly, however if it was a car I already owned and loved I would probably invest in it to make it better. People are more inclined to hang around and help someone with their problems if there is a connection but when you are contacting randoms in hope that someone wants you, then why would anyone bother? It is a throw away society now and it doesn't say much for us as human beings when we want to reap before we sow.
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LifeUnscripted
10 years ago
Is this something that women get used to over time? Or is it always hard....pun intended. ;) The reason I ask is because in our circles it is pretty much common knowledge that this happens from time to time. Every guy we know has had issues at one time or other, generally not often but it happens. Too much drink, too nervous, too late, just not happening, whatever. No one likes it, but it happens and most women don't take it too personally. Most of the guys we have been with long term have had issues maintaining or achieving an erection at least once with the Mrs. It just happens and is common in the lifestyle, even though lots of people don't want to talk about it. This was in America though, maybe Australian guys are hard all the time, lol. In the cause of a good honest conversation, I have had issues occasionally as well. A few years back my doctor put me on medication that caused issues. I complained to him and he took me off, but the damage was done for a bit. I have recovered nearly completely, but to be completely honest about 1 in 5 times I have a bit of a trouble getting or maintaining, although given just a bit of time I have no problem. The rest of the time I am rock hard and good to go...just to reassure anyone worried, lol. On two occasions I wasn't able to get hard at all. And once I started stressing there was no hope. But to be clear that wasn't at all because I wasn't attracted to them, quite the opposite in fact. Both were beautiful. It really had nothing to do with how attracted to them I was. One of those couples she took it well and we saw them again and I never had issues again with her. They are now long time friends with benefits, and we have been very close for many years. The other couple I think she might have taken it personally, which is sad, but I understand. They never responded to requests from us to get back together, and I think this might have had something to do with it. That is fine of course, I am not entitled to anything, lol, and people can have all kinds of reasons. Bottom line is it might be that a guy isn't attracted to you, but in our experience it is more likely just a quirk of anatomy and that things werent going to work well that evening. For those potential female partners out there, lol...just a reminder that I do get hard most of the time, and I am amazing with fingers and tongue....just wanted to make that clear after stripping myself naked here for the sake of a good conversation. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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LifeUnscripted
10 years ago
Is obviously more about occasional issues that permanent ones. I think there is a place for men with permanent issues here as well. Of course we all are here with certain goals, and if a woman's goal is to get well and truly vaginally fucked, then it is only fair for them to keep looking if you can never get it up. But that doesn't mean there aren't women who might be looking for other things as more important to her. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
10 years ago
It can be good too settle now and then. You say it is you, so guess if when you meet someone you don't know if there will rise to the occasion? Too us having a threesome is pretty kinky, each to their own, we do not have them often so it gets us both reaching heightened state of mind, very sexy and if we felt it was dulling our senses then we would give it a rest. We have had men having trouble getting it up, nothing other than raw nerves, being with us as a couple, we are sure that is all, eventually it all worked out and once up and running it was all on, raging cocks a blazing. Tara felt like she was cursed, I assured her she was not and it was not because the guys did not find her sexually stimulating. There is no way she would belittle a guy for it, she persisted and after good time with wanting compassion the guys became comfortable enough too become aroused and truly well enjoyed. Probably low on the kinks thing for others leagues above us. Perhaps if another tickled your fancy with good time, you would become the raging tiger. Good old loving and affection amongst the kink of you, not just your cock.? Rebel Yell Last night a little dancer came dancin' to my door Last night a little angel came pumping on the floor She said "Come on baby I got a license for love And if it expires pray help from above" Because In the midnight hour she cried- "more, more, more" With a rebel yell she cried- "more, more, more" In the midnight hour babe- "more, more, more" With a rebel yell- "more, more, more" More, more, more. She don't like slavery, she won't sit and beg But when I'm tired and lonely she sees me to bed What set you free and brought you to me babe What set you free I need you here by me Because In the midnight hour she cried- "more, more, more" With a rebel yell she cried- "more, more, more" In the midnight hour babe- "more, more, more" With a rebel yell- "more, more, more" He lives in his own heaven Collects it to go from the seven eleven Well he's out all night to collect a fare Just so long, just so long it don't mess up his hair. I walked the world with you, babe A thousand miles with you I dried your tears of pain, babe A million times for you I'd sell my soul for you babe For money to burn with you I'd give you all, and have none, babe Just to, just to, just to, to have you here by me Because In the midnight hour she cried- "more, more, more" With a rebel yell she cried- "more, more, more" In the midnight hour babe- "more, more, more" With a rebel yell she cried "more, more, more" More, more, more. Mado Mado Tara xx
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Blindman from a woman's perspective and I certainly don't condone the actions of the ones you've encountered but ED is a difficult issue for both in a relationship as Freya eloquently pointed out. Inspirit your perspective, as I unread it; comes from not having had any encounters with a man suffering performance issues? Your response is flippant and somewhat tactlessQuoting 'inspirit' Can you masterbate till you cum? Yes they can. You know you can change it..... No, sometimes they can't and that's where the understanding and support is required. Medications often don't work or not sufficiently, and surgery can be more detrimental to the organ than leaving it alone, especially when it doesn't take. Then comes the emotional rollercoaster which is an issue entirely of it's own. If you really want to. Expectations are perhaps too high now? Abstaining from all play may help.... for a while. Probably the smartest thing you had to say and maybe it would help in this instance if there is no other underlying medical factor. However your post is not about you. It's about raising awareness Which is also great because Blindman you'd be surprised just how many men out there ranting about their prowess share the same concern.and more so it seems how much woman aggravate you. Nope didn't get that at all from this post. I have spent a considerable time with married partners discussing this issue and the men once their partners have left. It's simply another version of the common "woman gripe" about all men want is a fuck well here it is, all most women want is a nice hard functional cock too and aren't always nice about it if the man fails to meet expectation.Sometimes we do say things in tge wrong way BUT why take it so serious. Just a figure of speach most of the time. It's serious because it's not only a physical image fuck but a mental, spiritual and emotional one as well. And we women take offense just as quickly when we are shot down or approached in an undesirable manner. I have called some one a dud root to a mate. Meh. I love talking about sex as well. I am sure I have been called a dud root too.....carefactor 0 - Win factor for me 100. Yeah Yeah..... Lick me, I'm delicious :-p Err that's circumspect and based solely on your opinion and maybe a half a dozen others who've been there. You know I like you Inspirit, your humour but this is a topic I don't find very laughable. I've been hurt by it, I've seen others hurt by it, I've seen and experienced what can happen because of it as a partner and I've watched grown men cry because of their feelings of worthlessness or lack of manhood because of it.....I would never wish it on any man except the one I put in prison but his condition only perpetuated his insanity to sexual cruelty as a weapon.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Blindman, your post of replies was not up, kind of makes our post irrelevant, you seem to have reflected what was meant by it.. If it was even understandable.
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inspirit
10 years ago
How do you know I have never been with someone suffering from perforbance issues. What makes you so sure I was being insensitive. Sorry but I read the OP's post differently to YOU. Thankyou for your Golden Throne pull apart. I asked a question as I have no idea on someone masterbating with this condition.....if indeed BM has it.... and I gave MY opinions and so be it. I don't really care if you like my input or not. I don't have the emotional attachment to this thread as you do. Hence my opinions.....flippent as they may be. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Big thumbs up for your honesty Blindman, not an easy topic for most guys to discuss but it does happen. It happens to me occasionally even with my gorgeous wife - too many beers, too tired, been arguing with one of the kids or just something on my mind. Men are not all walking hardons, we need to fell comfortable, we need stimulation, we need to be turned on. Personally I need a connection, some kind of spark, otherwise it just won't happen no matter how hot she may look. Mr HnH
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On_Safari
10 years ago
"Inspirit your perspective, as I unread it; comes from not having had any encounters with a man suffering performance issues?" and it's ok that you haven't had my experience. I don't know everything about the topic either but offered my perspective to your take. You're welcome.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' It's not what happens to us,it's how we process ,respond to what happens to us.Each negative experience is compounded by the previous negative experiences..and if we have enough of those,why would we put ourselves in the way of having more.?...Of course it is personal ,and both men and women can be consciously or unconsciously callous and or cruel.....I have spent time with men who had ED issues,some used medication quite successfully ,some were in denial and I thought it was me.that I was not desirable enough and another just wanted companionship and conversation...If a woman knows that you find her desirable,that you are interested in her pleasure as well as your own,that there are many different ways to explore sexual gratification and pleasure...then why wouldn't she want to have you as lover..I think you are a very sexy interesting,creative,thinking man...otherwise I wouldn't have virtually married you...😍I need to take this advice too..don't give up.but choose carefully,have some positive experiences to negate the negative ..hugs 😘😘😘xxWifey Most kind, caring, insightful dearest wife. I do wonder about a lover, I am somewhat adverse to the concept of a partnership especially while I study as I do not have much to offer due of the financial pressure which makes even the simplest of social meetings out of reach without help. I am not without those that would like to give it a try and I do hate that i feel I must turn my back on them but i do not want to draw someone in to something i am not sure I can sustain. Too much of the wild life has left me very uncertain as to what I really want and what the future is to be. But then we never really know. Thank you for the kind words, and I will not give up, I also wish you well, we all need a good long hug from time to time. Huuuug. HubbyXX
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RHP User
10 years ago
Very rushed for time right now, will return tonight and read everyone's comments.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Can you masterbate till you cum? You know you can change it..... If you really want to. Expactations are perhaps too high now? Abstaining from all play may help.... for a while. However your post is not about you. It's about raising awareness and more so it seems how much woman aggravate you. Sometimes we do say things in tge wrong way BUT why take it so serious. Just a figure of speach most of the time. I have called some one a dud root to a mate. Meh. I love talking about sex as well. I am sure I have been called a dud root too.....carefactor 0 - Win factor for me 100. Yeah Yeah..... Lick me, I'm delicious :-p - Posted from rhpmobile Yes I do have a wank from time to time (one or twice ever few weeks if that) though its over very quickly and not fully erect when I reach orgasm. I have tried abstaining and nothing really changed that much when I returned but I was careful not to play with those that where after just straight penetrative sex. The little blue pills do help but they are expensive and don't really effect the desire to want sex. But you made me smile, i am sure you are very tasty. :P We all get rated, its inevitable, some people will think you are the best ever, others, meh. I am very much the type that has to do well, a perfectionist, which is impossible and make me my own worst enemy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' Clearly you are missing the feeling of another person be it sexually or emotionally and that is why I can't understand why people don't want any strings. We all desire to be wanted and feel not only the touch of another but a connection of sorts. All thess NSA, ONS arrangements don't fulfill much except the immediate but end up leaving people still feeling empty. Situations like these make me wonder why people don't have any foresight that as we age, we deteriorate and who wants to start something with someone who is already broken? I wouldn't buy a car if the salesman said, it is a good unit but it needs this and that to run properly, however if it was a car I already owned and loved I would probably invest in it to make it better. People are more inclined to hang around and help someone with their problems if there is a connection but when you are contacting randoms in hope that someone wants you, then why would anyone bother? It is a throw away society now and it doesn't say much for us as human beings when we want to reap before we sow. Yes i get that and lament that, but life goes on as in the end sex is only part of a much larger life and I am good at finding things to do, i am never bored. Human interaction is joyful even when not always sensual and i do like people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There's no getting around it !!! We enjoy your input into the Forums. I'm not a woman that makes a "big deal" out of "a cock". I didn't marry my husband because of his "cock". I married because we were in love. A man's "cock" is so insignificant compared to the man as a whole; both in body and spirit. If the performance of a man's "cock" is so important, God forbid when we get too old !!! Does the Love then disappear ? Too much emphasis is placed on "a man's cock" and not enough on "The Man" !!! Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
We all belong on RHP......doesn’t matter what we look like which problems we have sexually, still we all belong on here. People are cruel there is nothing you can do about, except learn and stay away from them. As someone said, when you like a person all this is not such a big deal because you overcome your little problem with other techniques, and make each other happy. That’s all what I will say to you, Blindman you are a very clever spirited man, don’t give up, sex is more than a hard on.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' Most kind, caring, insightful dearest wife. I do wonder about a lover, I am somewhat adverse to the concept of a partnership especially while I studys Ias I do not have much to offer do not have much to offer due of the financial pressure which makes even the simplest of social meetings out of reach without help. I am not without those that would like to give it a try and I do hate that i feel I must turn my back on them but i do not want to draw someone in to something i am not sure I can sustain. Too much of the wild life has left me very uncertain as to what I really want and what the future is to be. But then we never really know. Thank you for the kind words, and I will not give up, I also wish you well, we all need a good long hug from time to time. Huuuug. HubbyXX It is pretty clear to me and most of the posters here that you have way more to offer than what is between your legs.I think you are judging yourself and others harshly, you are not responsible for others they are, and if they want to be with you just accept it with grace and enjoy.Yes this place can be selfish, cynical and hedonistic, but us humans also have the power to surprise with staggering beauty depth and infinite variety, all you have to do is keep the door open. Love RR.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was once in a threesome, the other two a man off here and my friend had had a bit to drink. He actually saw me in the pub and as I walked past he said nice profile. I was a bit shocked but it has happened a few times. He ask why I never reply to his contacts, his picture was really bad and he turned out to be a pretty nice looking man. cut to the chase we are in bed, he is doing his best but he had drunk way to much and this was his first threesome. My friend said this, Why don't you fuck off, you cant get it hard and I can finish peach a lot better than you can. I have never had a one on one with her, and am not going to. She is normally a lovely woman and god knows what made her say that. I have to admire the guy, he kept his cool got up and dressed and I did the same , we walked out together and I apologized. And there is lies the dilemma, of great expectations. Women expect a hard cock, men expect a wet pussy. Women go for years and never cum, and most guys would never even know, is that not a form of impotence. We can also fake it. You though have something that a lot of men on here do not have. I have met you, charming and a razor intelligence. Incredible insight to other humans. One day you will be very successful and not have to stress about your financial situation. I hear that from guys a lot who are on the bones of their arse, have no job , have family burdens and they say , what can I offer a woman? something few are afraid to give, commitment and a safe place to curl up. your the kind of guy that a woman can go to bed with and have you spoon her and she can sleep. A hard cock nor a full wallet is the way to measure a man. I have my pjs packed and good to go.
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lovman8
10 years ago
Not a direct response to the topic but it prompted me to tell my story. I am an older guy and have had a couple of back operations and have an enlarged prostate. I do get erections but they don't get as hard as they used to, nor stay as hard for as long. Funnily enough there has been no change to my libido and I still get horny enough to have sex or wank to orgasm 8 to 14 times a week. And somewhat perplexing to me , I still often wake with a morning glory as hard and big as I ever was. I sometimes manage to use it in this state, but because of my prostate and full bladder it is often uncomfortable. Even though intellectually I realise this is not the only measure of my masculinity, I have always judged my worth and status as a man by my strength and virility. With both my strength and erection on the wan with age , I find myself being depressed and feeling "less" than a man sometimes. My partner says it doesn't bother her, and I still manage intercourse with a semi hard cock. However it means I'm not horny and ready to fuck at a moments notice if the opportunity presents it self, unlike when I was younger. I find this also a source of frustration. I have recently tried viagara and use a cock ring when wanking both of which help with a harder and more enduring erection. However the nagging feeling is still there that I am less of a man because I need assistance. And it makes spontaneity a bit more difficult. I also find it harder to cum sometimes and cramps or discomfort that would not have been an issue once can be distracting and lead to frustration. The joys of old age, but as the cliche says its better than the alternative. And on the positive side I still enjoy sex and get a lot of pleasure from interacting with women on all levels. Rhp has been a great source of fun and stimulation so thanks to all you rhp's online that create this fun sex site. Enough of a rant and sob story......off to the chat room and see if I can find some wanking inspiration.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you very much for your kind words. This thread for me is at times something i cringe about, other times I it gives me hope. In the end it has opened up a subject that is not easily broached and having received a few PMs from others that relate to my situation and being able to talk has made it more than worth while. You are someone I do look up to, your experience, your openness and your understanding offer so much to many here. Not to mention your incredible talents and wisdom. Thanks. In the end it is most true, to spoon with someone that is a perfect fit, a fit that is more than physical is what it is ultimately about. All the kink and sexual adventures do not compare and sometimes one can loss sight of that. I am re-assessing my self and what I want and with luck I can balance my expectations and with that find balance in my body. x
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks for sharing. As you mention, it is a big hit on ones masculinity, something that is a source of personal shame, or inadequacy. From researching this subject it is something the vast majority of men will have to face in the long run. When it comes it is unexpected. There are solutions, though not perfect they offer hope, yet we must still battle our pride. In the end it is trust and understanding that are a great benefit and help us negotiate the emotional impact the loss of virility can have. We are still sexual beings and we have a lot to offer and though we may not be able to stand on demand we can still stand when the body and mind are at peace and the expectations of others are in tune with our abilities. And to let you know this subject is still something I am forcing my self to write about. It is far from easy to swallow my pride so appreciate your words and sharing you situation, its not easy to do on a sex site like RHP.
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RHP User
10 years ago
But cialis is way more betterer than viagra. Just sayin,
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
To answer your question blindman, YES of course you belong in here.....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank youLovinit, 50zcool, litonya, and serenity2000. All this love very kind, thank you all very much.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What have you done to change this situation? Sorry but all your comments sound like you have totally given up on having a sex life. Why? Why are you happy to continue on this way. You say that it is some kink that is the only thing that gets you off.... but since you don't even really masturbate leads me to think there is much much more going on there. What have you done about it??
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' What have you done to change this situation? Sorry but all your comments sound like you have totally given up on having a sex life. Why? Why are you happy to continue on this way. You say that it is some kink that is the only thing that gets you off.... but since you don't even really masturbate leads me to think there is much much more going on there. What have you done about it?? Good question. Have I given up? I am not entirely sure if I have or not. I have very much placed it all into the "When I get back to work and restart my business." procrastination box, but then that will take more effort than study and provide equal opportunity to use it as an excuse. With a low labido there does not seem to be much need or desire to fix something that does not exist. I can be in a room full of sex, naked bodies, noises, the smells and not have the slightest stirring of lust. I know I used to have unending almost constant need, when I had got the hang of RHP and similar every night of the week was not enough. What is it that generates lust, what makes us horny? Technically low libido is defined only when the lack of drive becomes distressing to the individual. It is hence more common in people with partners as being unable to match the others desire is a problem and distressing. What causes low libido. SSRI's (anti depressants), drugs, stress, and alcohol all play a role and as I only very rarely indulge in alcohol or drugs, am not on any medication, so that leaves only stress. I am stressed in a way, financially, but that is a stress I knew I would have to deal with and is only short term. Maybe when I have money again and bills are being paid and the ability to just go out and have fun without need to justify expenditure or rely on help from others things may return to normal. In fact now that I think about it, the onset of my lack of drive does indeed start when I ran out of my own money. Seeing a doctor? I am not sure how much they can do to help. Next time I am in I will mention it and see what they have to say. It is easy to say I have out kinked my self, and that is part of it but I have been doing some heavy introspection and the problem is complicated, if it is indeed stress then I will just have to make do till I am done studying. It is interesting that the most commonly advised remedy for men with low libido is "just do it." but without a partner and the required demands of the swinging scene that is not an option. So I guess the answer is "Yes" in the short term I have given up, as I have also given up on a lot of life's pleasures, good food, entertainment (movies etc), trips away, good cloths, and much more, a sacrifice required in an effort to better my self.
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gazpacho
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' What have you done to change this situation? Sorry but all your comments sound like you have totally given up on having a sex life. Why? Why are you happy to continue on this way. You say that it is some kink that is the only thing that gets you off.... but since you don't even really masturbate leads me to think there is much much more going on there. What have you done about it?? What a nosey crowd. The dude obviously now has a disability (his vision is impaired) and his one big turn on was that he likes to watch. Do I have to splain everything? HugsGaz
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RHP User
10 years ago
And yes you have to splain everything to me Daddy! :))))
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hey blind, I'm a VERY STRONG believer in nutrition for health! So unlike others in this forum I won't offer you pity but advice on prevention and cure. You don't have to go see a doctor or any kind of health professional. You just need to take control of what you are eating to fuel the 'bio-mechanical' vessel that carries you around. Apart from trawling through you tube clips there is a very good site called earth clinic that offers sound advice on nutritional health that will cure just about anything. I don't know your personal medical history but my advice to you would be - Do the research, stop eating crap, get your bio-mech vessel in order and wean yourself of any nasty prescription medicines - which are usually the main cause of erectile dysfuction in middle aged men - especially anti depression SSRI (they literally stop serotonin production in your body) and any statin (cholesterol lowering) drugs that seriously impede hormone production ie testosterone and will most likely end your life with Alzheimer's... So stop feeling sorry for yourself and DO something about it!!
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Plain
10 years ago
Are offering in the end only well worn slogans that Blindman has heard before and I might add I have as well having been through something similar. The causes are many and the cure is a lengthy debilitating process. To write slogans and to intimate that he has given up or the worst things you could write. One thing at my deepest darkest period of depression that kept me going was this animal human desire to have decent sex again and that life is a multi dimensional experience to enjoy again. I for one give Blindman all the respect in the world I can and if this offends people tough. The knowing Dr Google stirrers need to back off and learn and be enriched not think they know everything.Blindman now that you have informed us of part of your situation, I can only say one step at a time, as frustratingly it will continue in the main to be a painful process. The stress especially of the multiple issues that you are facing something had to give and unfortunately nature has decided to give the male of the species a bad hand in coping with it a propensity to interfere with his reproductive system.There is a light at the end it might be faint and appear to be a long way away, this cathartic writing will help in the end.
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'Plain' Are offering in the end only well worn slogans that Blindman has heard before and I might add I have as well having been through something similar. The causes are many and the cure is a lengthy debilitating process. To write slogans and to intimate that he has given up or the worst things you could write. One thing at my deepest darkest period of depression that kept me going was this animal human desire to have decent sex again and that life is a multi dimensional experience to enjoy again. I for one give Blindman all the respect in the world I can and if this offends people tough. The knowing Dr Google stirrers need to back off and learn and be enriched not think they know everything.Blindman now that you have informed us of part of your situation, I can only say one step at a time, as frustratingly it will continue in the main to be a painful process. The stress especially of the multiple issues that you are facing something had to give and unfortunately nature has decided to give the male of the species a bad hand in coping with it a propensity to interfere with his reproductive system.There is a light at the end it might be faint and appear to be a long way away, this cathartic writing will help in the end. Don't think he would have put up this thread at his own expense if he was afraid by answering some of the more personal questions. From what I have read in this thread and in others by Blindman, is that he has lived a colorful sex life in the past, he has been hurt with emotions as part and is at the moment quite enjoying friendships, IMHO. Plain you seem to be taking this quite personally, perhaps seeing the responses in a different light.
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Plain
10 years ago
Of course its personal unless you go through something like this you never know. I do not wish this on anyone but when it happens you go through an intellectual torture chamber, and no one except a very few people know the angst and agony you go through to write about it the way Blindman has I applaud him. To read some of the answers or challenges , although I respect people for contributing in whatever form to the issue at hand some times requires a counter to balance and if it is personal so be it.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
8 tablets of Ciallus @ $175 is damn expensive!!!!! And puts me on rations still!!! FFS
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' 8 tablets of Ciallus @ $175 is damn expensive!!!!! And puts me on rations still!!! FFS Safari .... if Ciallus is the same as Viagra ... my ex used Viagra and broke each pill into 4 sections. 1/4 of a tablet was enough to have the desired effect and made it more cost effective! LG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Absolutely, and I don't know anything about ED so I am not going to comment except to say that from BM's comments it seemed as if he is accepting the situation rather than trying to address the situation. Don't give up!! For me personally, I am def one of those use it or you loose it crowd. If I don't make the effort, even for a rub I start to think about sex less and less over time and have less interest. I have always been that way.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' Quoting 'On_Safari' 8 tablets of Ciallus @ $175 is damn expensive!!!!! And puts me on rations still!!! FFS Safari .... if Ciallus is the same as Viagra ... my ex used Viagra and broke each pill into 4 sections. 1/4 of a tablet was enough to have the desired effect and made it more cost effective! LG I'm glad it worked for your partner and what was affecting his function. It's not a case of horses for courses though and I will never support the use of viagra. Ciallus is a natural option without the side effects of viagra which can cause crippling headaches due to the thinning of the blood, damage to the vessels servicing the penis, damage to the heart muscle and pain on ejaculation. I have nothing good to say about Viagra and that's if it actually works t all. grrrrr
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I get all hot and bothered
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' I get all hot and bothered Men a pause.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Use it or lose it. There is a lot to be said for that, but then one never forgets how to ride a bike (if the metaphor is not to crude) Plain.I put it out here for all to read and all to comment. Plain you said it your self, cathartic writing. When I started this thread I was in a low mood at the end of a day that seemed to conspire against me. Now I feel a lot better, not a problem that has an instant solution, but I have a lot more insight and understanding because I have written it out. I have been prompted to look where normally i would not. I think Meeka's question was a very good one, something I had not even considered. I agree it is a body blow, and an ego driven nut case like my self had to battle my own denial and the consequential blame game. So I am a lot more at peace over it. So i will try to wank more often, I will understand that many do take it personally and if in that situation again, i will be open about it rather than try to hide the unhideable.. So all good, well for me that is.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'On_Safari' I get all hot and bothered Men a pause.
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Plain
10 years ago
This is black humour, but when my gp investigated both of these options on my behalf, it went some thing like this "when we were young foolish or drunk, to go out while in the act of having a root, was considered a good way to go. Now that you are old and hopefully wiser would you like to go quickly or have a slightly slower (death) and think of your partner in this act about the only positive in this when rigour sets in you will have the erection that you always desired.But that is my situation in relation to these stop gap measures being 1 in 100,000 sucks in that regard.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' 8 tablets of Ciallus @ $175 is damn expensive!!!!! And puts me on rations still!!! FFS That price is ridiculous.Divide by four, as prescribed they are usually 20mg, I had some free samples that were 5mg and more than adequate I don't actually "need" them but by god that extra hardness and longevity is awesome.Best thing about Cialis over Viagra is triple the working life, 36 v 12 hours.For a good weekend call 50z.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is a ridiculous price and is just an example of the market restriction and exploitation. These pills can be purchased for less than a dollar from overseas from the very same source but doing so is considered trafficking individual can face harsh criminal prosecution. Why does the cost have to jump over 2000% when they enter the country. I can see absolutely no justification for such a hike in price. This immature government attitude towards any substance that is considered as a recreational substance is ludicrous. I know for a fact that there are many black market sources available that are unregulated and untaxed. Another example of government policy directly supporting organised crime. As for the harmful effects. All substances we come in contact with are dangerous. many find it easy to tout the negative effects of a substance, citing the many side effects. But we must not just consider the side effect we must put that in terms of likely hood. If you compare ED pills to the western worlds, over the counter, leading cause of permeate liver damage, leading cause of emergency room poisoning addiction, and kills over 40 Australians every year. "paracetamol" (Should be banded.) the ED drug side effect are extraordinarily low with no recorded deaths in Australia, and complications such as vision impairment being less that a few per 100,000 users. Do get me started on the drug debate. Let me take a pause. Anyways, half a V turns limpy blindman into super hard blindman, but only if in the mood so in effect Viagra and the like don't really help me as the issue is not getting a hard on, it is being in the mood to get a hard on. I could take a bucket of pills and without the right stimulus there is not action.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I meet a guy who had an implant in his penis. There was a little pump placed in one of his ball sacks which he would press a few times to pump it up. Me being me had to ask a million questions, and have a look and feel. From the outside you could not tell it was an inflatable cock, looked and felt the same as the real thing. It was not a huge cock but he said he lost about half an inch from his normal size, but he was not tiny. I can not remember what caused his need for one but it sure was handy, instant on demand, anytime, anywhere, as long as you like hard on. Plain. A sense of humor is very important but does not fix any problem, It just helps us cope. As for death, when I was young, I was indestructible and if something had the word dangerous associated with it I would do it. Now I am not as fit, and if I see a sign "Danger Sharks sighted" I am wise enough to understand girls don't think sharks bites are cool, and even learnt that me and a shark is a very one sided contest. So when I go, I hope it will be on a cool winters night, tucked snug in a bed dreaming of sex, sun, and surf.
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chevtrek
10 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree265' Well Theres heaps more to sex than just a hard pecker, theres mouths,hands, dildos, vibes... Did i mention mouths? . And the partner wouldnt be missing out on her/his enjoyment if you still wanted to be physical with them. After reading a bit about what you have divulged on the forum about yourself, you are very creative and imaginative. And why should you not be on this site? This site is about what ever you want to get from it. Just look at how many ppl on the forums are only on pie for just that. And the forums wouldnt be the same without you. Willow gave good response,Just to add there are many ways to please a woman plus many toys and like XMAS the joy is in the giving.Also try seeing a different doctor and don't stress as this will add to the problem.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Actually quite a lot its just not correct someone told you a fib. None of the big three are natural at all and each have their own plusses and minuses, certainly Viagra doesn't cause long term damage like your implying headaches yes for a small % of users its noted as a side effect but damage - nope. These substances can be a risk for those with an existing heart conditions or similar but that applies to all three as it would with many other substances or even food consumed. I know in my case Cialis (Tadalafil) has absolutely no effect at all so its useless but the other two work really really well - almost too well in an evil way in fact. I know other guys swear by Cialis over the others so its definitely an individual thing. Anyway I don't use them all the time but they're a great confidence booster in those nervous group situations - Definitely worth a bit of experimentation from the cheaper OS suppliers I reckon Check out the Wikis of sildenafil and vardenafil, tadalafil for some good info. Quoting 'On_Safari' Quoting 'Leo_girl' Quoting 'On_Safari' 8 tablets of Ciallus @ $175 is damn expensive!!!!! And puts me on rations still!!! FFS Safari .... if Ciallus is the same as Viagra ... my ex used Viagra and broke each pill into 4 sections. 1/4 of a tablet was enough to have the desired effect and made it more cost effective! LG I'm glad it worked for your partner and what was affecting his function. It's not a case of horses for courses though and I will never support the use of viagra. Ciallus is a natural option without the side effects of viagra which can cause crippling headaches due to the thinning of the blood, damage to the vessels servicing the penis, damage to the heart muscle and pain on ejaculation. I have nothing good to say about Viagra and that's if it actually works t all. grrrrr
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RHP User
10 years ago
did my fonts get all screwed up ?
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
Blindman, the only advice I can add is that reprogramming could be what you need.... sounds scary I know, but let me explain myself before the hounds start baying! I think you may already know what I am about to say, but I'll share for all of us. We train our brains to associate pleasure with many things (not just sexual). When we train ourselves - by the visual imagery which plays in our head and the same memories to which we always return - we are reinforcing the pleasure link to those particular activities. In relation to sex this can occur for kink, porn, BDSM, vanilla etc etc. In other words, you are not alone in having a particular pleasure link! By you own admission it is only the kink which gets you going and vanilla just doesn't do it for you anymore. Now there is nothing wrong with that and I would never advocate you have to give up the kink. The kink (and associated imagery and memories) is what replays in your mind..... not the vanilla. So you have effectively told yourself that vanilla is not pleasurable anymore and consequently you are not aroused by it or by the thought of it. Somehow you need to get yourself back down from the edge on which you teeter and allow yourself to be turned on by more than the extreme. I'm not a counsellor or psychologist so I don't know how that can be achieved.... but perhaps you might want to reach out to some experts.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I suspect you already know Blindman that any medication would be nothing more than a band aid solution (if effective at all) in relation to your specific circumstances. As you said, it's in your mind, in which case, a change in mindset is more likely to be the solution. Easier said than done I know but in time, when your ready to tackle the underlying issues, I suspect you'll see things in a new light, which, in turn, will trigger the required change in mindset. It also appears to be closely related to whatever it was you think you had with your previous partner. Not trying to take away from all that it was (purely an observation and by all means feel free to correct me if I'm wrong), but, I get the impression that you haven't fully let go of that as yet.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
kissk.... sounds like Neuro-linguistic programming.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lovman8' Not a direct response to the topic but it prompted me to tell my story. I am an older guy and have had a couple of back operations and have an enlarged prostate. I do get erections but they don't get as hard as they used to, nor stay as hard for as long. Funnily enough there has been no change to my libido and I still get horny enough to have sex or wank to orgasm 8 to 14 times a week. And somewhat perplexing to me , I still often wake with a morning glory as hard and big as I ever was. I sometimes manage to use it in this state, but because of my prostate and full bladder it is often uncomfortable. Even though intellectually I realise this is not the only measure of my masculinity, I have always judged my worth and status as a man by my strength and virility. With both my strength and erection on the wan with age , I find myself being depressed and feeling "less" than a man sometimes. My partner says it doesn't bother her, and I still manage intercourse with a semi hard cock. However it means I'm not horny and ready to fuck at a moments notice if the opportunity presents it self, unlike when I was younger. I find this also a source of frustration. I have recently tried viagara and use a cock ring when wanking both of which help with a harder and more enduring erection. However the nagging feeling is still there that I am less of a man because I need assistance. And it makes spontaneity a bit more difficult. I also find it harder to cum sometimes and cramps or discomfort that would not have been an issue once can be distracting and lead to frustration. The joys of old age, but as the cliche says its better than the alternative. And on the positive side I still enjoy sex and get a lot of pleasure from interacting with women on all levels. Rhp has been a great source of fun and stimulation so thanks to all you rhp's online that create this fun sex site. Enough of a rant and sob story......off to the chat room and see if I can find some wanking inspiration. I have just started in the chat rooms and hope I inspire you , but like you I am old so might have to put that camera right down so it can find my boobs sitting on my knees and thank you to all the men here that have told their story, its really good to see men open up.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' Thanks for sharing. As you mention, it is a big hit on ones masculinity, something that is a source of personal shame, or inadequacy. From researching this subject it is something the vast majority of men will have to face in the long run. When it comes it is unexpected. There are solutions, though not perfect they offer hope, yet we must still battle our pride. In the end it is trust and understanding that are a great benefit and help us negotiate the emotional impact the loss of virility can have. We are still sexual beings and we have a lot to offer and though we may not be able to stand on demand we can still stand when the body and mind are at peace and the expectations of others are in tune with our abilities. And to let you know this subject is still something I am forcing my self to write about. It is far from easy to swallow my pride so appreciate your words and sharing you situation, its not easy to do on a sex site like RHP. I think you hit the nail on the head. I think women feel the same, shame that they are not the ideal beauty, that body is not perfect. Men feel shame that they cannot offer something to a woman. Its all about what we have to offer, and that can get distorted, where people stop looking at the whole, and focus on the whats in it for me when they measure up a person. If only we stopped treating each other like a big Mac Meal to be consumed and then lets go looking for something else. Lots of us have been raised with the Shame sword of Damocles over out head. Men are called limp dicks if they are perceived to be weak. Women are sluts if they step out side the sexual conventions. Impotence can be in any shape or form, some men on here show how impotent they really are just by opening their mouths. Lack of being able to satisfy a woman or a man can go far and beyond sexual function. I have to catch up for coffee again,and we can while away some time talking of matters big and small cheeky grin and now ducking for cover lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Contra_Flow' Hey blind, I'm a VERY STRONG believer in nutrition for health! So unlike others in this forum I won't offer you pity but advice on prevention and cure. You don't have to go see a doctor or any kind of health professional. You just need to take control of what you are eating to fuel the 'bio-mechanical' vessel that carries you around. Apart from trawling through you tube clips there is a very good site called earth clinic that offers sound advice on nutritional health that will cure just about anything. I don't know your personal medical history but my advice to you would be - Do the research, stop eating crap, get your bio-mech vessel in order and wean yourself of any nasty prescription medicines - which are usually the main cause of erectile dysfuction in middle aged men - especially anti depression SSRI (they literally stop serotonin production in your body) and any statin (cholesterol lowering) drugs that seriously impede hormone production ie testosterone and will most likely end your life with Alzheimer's... So stop feeling sorry for yourself and DO something about it!! Under any circumstance as a layman, give any advice on medical or psychological issues, unless of course you have done your 12 years of study to give that advice. The PM someone and offer your services for free and get them to come to y our Practice and you can bulk bill them. sure you can say that you feel that diet might play a part. But that is where it stops. Especially regarding medications, you might get someone in a vulnerable situation and they read that stuff and go of their Medication. the internet makes people the wizard off OZ , sorry but we all need to be bloody careful what we say to people on here.
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Blindman, my take from your posts is you measure your self worth to your level of contribution in all aspects of life. You enjoyed all these things when you perceived yourself as being a 'contributor' economically, physically etc. but now you are in a position where you are working towards the betterment of your future, you can't offer what you used to, so you may feel you don't deserve it. I feel you are not allowing yourself to 'go to that place' because you perceive yourself unworthy. This woman, who was a bitch, exacerbated that feeling for you. Every forumite here thinks the same as I do, you are worth it, in all elements of RHP. Working for your future and your sex life are not mutually exclusive. In my opinion, nothing sexier than a person who reflects on their situation ( whether forced say through redundancy or through introspection) and they really change themselves, even doing things tough till everything is in place. I'm not simplifying your position at all but allow yourself to enjoy, your contributions are measured in so many ways. Life's about swings and roundabouts, your friends will understand your position. Decent, mature partners should not rely on a hard cock to enjoy you, you are more than that. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Kissk Cognitive therapy, the magic cure all for all sorts of mental issues. I am a strong believer and have used it a few times to drop bad habits and some insecurities. It is very effective. Step one understand and be able to recognize the core thinking process that is the cause of the problem. This particular one is very deep in the mind and mostly a subconscious thinking process, due to that it requires very little effort and as the brain likes to conserve energy it will natural fall into the easiest thought pattern. That needs to be replaced. Step two define a strategy to combat the undesired thought patterns and make a clear goal in a series of sub steps. Step three, training. Catch the bad thoughts and force your self to ignore or block them and substitute them with your set goal. in time the new though patterns takes less and less conscious effort to use. Eventually it requires no effort and seems natural. All done and i can get horny thinking about normal boy and girl vanilla on the bed missionary, no toys, a third person, no role play, no ropes, or whips, no oils, no porn, no anal, no swings, no fisting, or stretching, no photos, no all night, no food, nobody watching, no complete strangers and many more no's. Just plain old normal vanilla sex. Oh dear god... LOL This thread has helped and I just have to sacrifice till the immediate goal is achieved and i am back in the work force making money, being able to put fuel in my car, credit in my phone, and going out on my own for my own needs meeting horny kinky people that like what I like rather than rely on friends. KiwiBredI am working my ex from my mind and seldom now think of her. We where very sexual compatible but I can not go back there. Though we tend to avoid each other their is one thing I find hard to over come. When I do meet her all i want to do is fuck her, which ends up happening every time we do meet, and its dirty kinky, all night devil may care, rock hard, awesome fucking sex. But i do not trust a single word that comes from her mouth so best I stay away. I do not love her and i have not been with her for about a year now and only ever meet in the company of my friends. Does that mean I have issued. LOL Who knows, but i am poly so times that by three. Three ex lovers, we all played together, now not at all. and i do my best to not even let a glimmer of any conspiracy cross my mind, as that would be way fucked up. So Two weeks till uni starts. yay, head down and work hard, i have way to much time on my hand and it lets the mind do silly things.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just had a look at my phone and see missed calls. Tried the email but it bounced back. So have phone on hand now and should not miss calls.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank for you for your kind words. The good thing with the study is that I am on the home run, closer to the end than the start and when the Semester starts time seems to just fly past so reality is I dont have long to wait. SlikyPeachI am going out for a swim so just txt me you email address and ill write when I get home.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
i had NLP done under hypnosis was soooo easy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have you tried prostate massage therapy? I just started a new thread about it, but it sounds like that may be something to try.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Have you tried prostate massage therapy? I just started a new thread about it, but it sounds like that may be something to try. Love a good prostrate massage, and bottom role is a convenient role for someone in my position. Shame people that know how are hard to find. In the Bi world there are plenty of bottoms that dont want people playing with their cocks, and many tops that just want to stick it in for a rough blow and go, kind of over that scene Good sex is hard, even harder when the cofidance and means are not there.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wasn't meaning to suggest that you had issues with her in that sense LoL. It may even have been comments that you've made elsewhere as well as the references to her that you've made in this topic that gave me that impression but 'closely associated' may have been more appropriate with regards to the sexual compatibility component and all that that entailed - as in impacting what your drawn to and/or repelled by (e.g. preferences, personality type, characteristics etc.). I thoroughly enjoy reading your posts too by the way and can't really add to what others have said but there is a bit of a strength of conviction about you (your overall persona at least) that is sadly lacking in here. All the best with uni ;p
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RHP User
10 years ago
No offence taken. This thread makes me feel very vulnerable. but I need a bit of humility from time to time to keep my daft ego in check.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think a lot of men go throught this it's something ticking in your head making it not happen by now it will be the fact you are doubting it, myself I wouldn't laugh you just need a bit of encouragement n Pharise when your getting going dnt stress it will come good - Posted from rhpmobile
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