RHP

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October 04 2012

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Hey Kiddies....   I tried to post this before, not sure if it worked... so i'll try again.   This is my problem....   Ive been hooking up with this guy... Just casual sex and good friendship, neither of us want anything more. Its a good situation, talk to eachother every day and see eachother a few times a week.   So My Guy has a good friend, we'll call her 'Bee'. Recently, Bee found out about me and My Guy hooking up. It wasnt a secret but it wasnt something we flaunted. Turns out, Bee knows someone I know. AND Bee has feelings for my guy. In the past they had hooked up and apparently, she still wants more. So... recently, Bee went on a biiiiig bitch sesh about My Guy to a mutual friend, and slagged off my guy, warning me to be carefull ect. My question is.... Should I tell my guy about what she has been saying??? Ive said I'll step aside if im standing in the way of a romance between them. But, My guy has assured me there is and never will be any romance between them.   So what do I do.... Step away or stay?? Her issue or mine?? *Boo*

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    nothing....sometimes the best thing to do is nothing..her problem not yours,you have discussed her and her feelings with ''your guy'' ...avoid gossiping about her with your mutual friend . Nobody likes to be rejected and she has obviously been hurt, but if this man treats you well then trust that.How we are in relationships with others is an individual thing,the heart wants what the heart wants,she obviously wants more from him than what he is prepared or able to give to her.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Tough Call!   You have to trust your instincts on this one.   Bottom line is you can't entirely trust what either of them have to say about each other.   On the face of it, saying nothing is probably best.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I would maybe give him a heads up...but I wouldn't admit to knowing any specifics. But probably the best thing is to not say anything at all. Why bring friction into your fling. Don't make it your problem. :) Good luckM

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I would be wary of this girl, if she is slagging a person behind their back it gives and indication of just the type of person she is. He may have ended it for a reason, trying to be friends but the moment he has hooked onto another girl the claws come out, she may not be saying it to your face but watch out.   He has said there was nothing, trust your instincts, you are both in it for fun, maybe she wanted more and he didn't or wasn't ready.   You do what you think is right for the situation, trust your instincts, maybe just hang fire for a moment and observe this woman't behaviour, also another thing is he may or may not believe you if he thinks she is a good friend then some guys are very loyal and may not want to see what she can be like (just a thought).   As others have mentioned, it is not your problem, it is for those two to sort out., if it continues then perhaps rethink the situation (about telling him)

  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    12 years ago

    You both are only after casual and are pretty happy with how things are going. You have talked. Your guys says that there is nothing between them so why complicate things by taking it further with him as she is seems to be the only one with an issue ?

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    12 years ago

    Why change things between you and your guy if things are working out for you? Are you happy?? Is this about your feelings or 'bee's' feelings? If she is a genuine friend she will accept your relationship - it may take her alittle while to get use to it and may help her to grow up alittle xxxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya13' nothing....sometimes the best thing to do is nothing..her problem not yours,you have discussed her and her feelings with ''your guy'' ...avoid gossiping about her with your mutual friend . Nobody likes to be rejected and she has obviously been hurt, but if this man treats you well then trust that.How we are in relationships with others is an individual thing,the heart wants what the heart wants,she obviously wants more from him than what he is prepared or able to give to her.Freya hits the nail on the head! Do nothing, say nothing and keep having casual NSA sex with Your Guy. Life deals us blows all the time, this is one that Bee has to deal with on her own. She'll either understand it wont happen OR she'll gossip and bitch until it blows up and she alienates Your Guy beyond repair...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    sounds like a very girly type of thing.........

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    or she will get what she wants. Your a big girl, make up your own mind about a guy , and most men are not interested in the girl bitch thing so do not drag him into it.   I am a mother of girls its the nature of the beast at times.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Glad to see you back here J...now to only work out what you are saying...surely you can't be dissing us girls now ;) Quoting 'jdex572' sounds like a very girly type of thing.........

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    you got it...........lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Bee is gossiping about your guy, she's not gossiping about you according to your post, why would you want to get involved?? The second facet to this, is if you and your guy are only casual, then what does it matter?? No brainer in my mind, focus on what's right for you.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    And I raise you an oohhhhhhh.....always fun sparring with you. ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    This is an easy one for me with my "if I were you" hat on. I would be inclined to trust him when he says nothing with her is going to happen. Enjoy each other and just ignore what she has to say, she obviously has a bit if an agenda.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I have teenage girls in my care. I often hear this very same scenario from them, it gets played out on facebook in the most public way possible. Teenage angst is a hard thing to deal with...constantly. Personally I feel that at 25 it is time you all grew up, mind your own business and forget all the game play. You are meant to be adults now. If Bee wants to run this man down...let her. None of your business really.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    she is doing a good job digging her own grave, keep your hands clean and leave her too it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    And certainly seems as if you have a "Bee" in your bonnet, lol...:-P I'd keep fucking your guy if I was you...and let "Bee" buzz off... imho...ricky.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Thankyou all for your opinions/advice.