JnJsDarkDesires

JnJsDarkDesires

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Chatting

August 15 2021

Why is it so hard for people to continue chatting? I understand there are some just looking for the "wam bam thank you mam " but when you start chatting to others (males, females and couples) who are actually interested in becoming " friends " with benefits, why does the chat go a day or 2 then die off?... as a couple looking for FWB (mmf, ffm, mfmf) yes we are interested in catching up for naughty times but we like to meet for a coffee or something 1st to make sure there is a connection, now we all have busy lives I get that but can't we get to know each other via chatting until we can find time to meet.

Comments

  • funtimescouple1

    funtimescouple1

    3 years ago

    We find the chat often dies off when we start trying to arrange to meet. We have come to the conclusion that particularly in the current climate either it's just the male of the couple chatting without telling Mrs or if they are a genuine couple time or hesitancy must be getting in the way because we keep getting 'sorry we're not available'. No one will nominate when they are available to meet. We try a couple of times and give up. We're not pushy but it's frustrating as we are genuine and here to chat a bit to establish similar likes and then meet with a view to having fun. We have had some great times in the past and are staying positive that the scene will pick up again.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    3 years ago

    It's probably a single male, posing as a couple....A Catfish.🤷‍♀️ Or something has happened that you now are not a priority to them. 🤷‍♀️ Ms Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    3 years ago

    Endless chatting can be tiresome and time consuming. People run out of things to say, then when people meet, there's nothing to say. It's easy to feel connected over messages and pictures. It's OK you want to connect and meet people. IMO Best to meet within a week and talk prior on the phone so you know they are an actual person, so there's no benching or slow fades. If people are interested they will make the time. Put action plans in place so this doesn't become a repeative cycle and it safe guards you. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    When I first tried RHP the lack of what I’d call common courtesy I.e telling people you are talking to that you’re not interested or are no longer available to meet etc etc really bothered me. I’ve generally tried to send a decent message first up (sure there has been a couple of “hi how are you” that I’ve sent 🤷‍♂️ So this time around I have a completely different outlook not just here but on all dating apps. Essentially people disappear/ghost/stop talking simply because they can. They get bored or feel like it’s too much work or it’s a catfish - whatever. As frustrating as it is you just have to keep your expectations low and move on.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    I think there is generally a very large percentage of people using these sites just for the fantasy of it all. Thats enough for them and its all they need. They will never meet because they arent here for reality. Its a fantasy world.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    We are a ‘now’ society. Some haven’t yet discovered the joys of getting to know someone intimately, how exciting it is to discover new things, and how incredible it is when you open your mind to all possibilities. Sex is something that you need to take your time with, enjoy every single moment from the minute you start chatting, all the way until the ultimate meet up. Appreciate each other, treat people with respect and kindness and amazing things will happen. Don’t give up, not everyone is the same (thank God!)

  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    3 years ago

    If people are serious about meeting then really only two or three messages are needed to exchange details and make some kind of arrangement to meet in person. You can get to know someone much better in the flesh then via a keyboard. We have found that once contact is made if we haven't met the other person/couple in the real world within at least three weeks of that initial contact being made then 95% of the time a real life meeting will probably never happen.

  • EasyGoingCple69

    EasyGoingCple69

    3 years ago

    If the chat goes for more than two days we give up Gets boring after a while . Chit chat about nothing We want to meet . Even for a drink or something. But endless talking is annoying

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Maybe they are just not that into you...? Or maybe they are just busy and not prioritising fwb as much as you are? Be patient and understanding of others and im sure you will find someone who want to keep that conversation going 😁

  • newyboy70

    newyboy70

    3 years ago

    We have a list of criteria, if the guy meets those and my wife likes what she sees. Then it's on, Chat for a day or so at most, but it's go time that weekend. If the guy comes up with excuses, like i need time to plan etc. We know he is just looking for someone to stroke his ego and we don't have time or want that. Also the meet first to see if compatible thing is not something we want to do.

  • InTimMate

    InTimMate

    3 years ago

    Lots of factors at play here, as mentioned by all above. It can be hard to weigh up a potential relationship as a single. I imagine it would be even harder as couples.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    We feel like we are very genuine and do our best to always reply and respectfuly decline if we are not a match...but even when e feel its going good and mention a meet up most of the chats stop...we just delete and move on...but its deffentley a hard one to understand🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️