M46
Chatty or Pestering?
November 20 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find a lack of effort will kill off what is there so make sure you keep in contact but I think everyone is different, what some people find inviting, others find annoying. I know if people hound me and I am busy then it is annoying but i do enjoy interacting with people, the right people. I hope for your sake they are not excuses not to see you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would probably like to hear from someone every couple of days in this scenario, but I also wouldn't expect the man to initiate every time and I don't think you should either. I don't keep score but if there is mutual interest I would expect to see a fairly equal ratio in the effort to maintain contact. If it's always you sending a message or calling then as ralf said, they may be making excuses.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
HUH?? Did I read that right?? " so must wait until they are available"...Are you going to wait OP?? I hope you have a life in between?? You maybe waiting a loooooooooooong time?? Geographical??? How far do they live?? For me continuous and constant exchange of communication (via text or phone or what ever) bores me after a while. And NO - I don't wait around - I have a life and not wasting my precious time. If someone wants to see me, they normally say and then we'll arrange to meet from there. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
They just aren't that into you. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
The OP isn't suggesting that they are hanging on a wing and a prayer for goodness sake....their lives aren't stopping on account of the other nor is there any expectation for the other to do same... It's merely suggesting that for whatever the reason they can't physically meet when they both wish to.... So in the meantime the OP wants to know how much contact is enough to sustain the level of interest they have in each other.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
as life gets in the way, prior commitments in real life etc. Personally, I like to meet within a few days of chatting online so there are no unreal expectations built up about the person I am chatting with. IF that is not possible, I like to stay in touch (online) either every day or every couple of days (depends on the person) Get to know a little about them and them about me, as a person....not just an opportunity for sex. I have found, those make a time to meet and dont stay in touch arent worth the time to meet in the first place.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We'll I get contacted now n then (more then then now lol) like the other day I had a message from a nice looking couple :) saying they wanted to meet up :) so I replied with yes I'd like to meet up for face to face and see if we all click (I thought that was not 2 forward) anyway I sent my number through and then nothing at all? I just don't get it ? If anyone feels another is worth meeting and they send the first message I'd thought it's a good start to meeting?? O we'll such is the life at rhp I guess
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Yes he is...he posted that. quote: "so must wait until they are available" Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh dear OP I hope you aren't holding your breath........ all that long waiting, you may die! LMAO So you have a few ladies on the hook. I think you should contact them a few times and see if they initiate contact as well. Unfortunately when planets don't align and you cant meet up for a few weeks or so then the fire does tend to peter out. If I were you I would make the effort to meet them for a quick coffee or something, that way you will have a better idea if it is worth putting in the effort. Nothing worse than building expectations and then when you meet, realising that it just isn't going happen.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sir is right... I'm not holding out by any chance. The Internet is worth the paper it's written on and it's easy to create a persona online. Until I meet and see them in person, where only then chemistry can be determined, do I ever consider holding out. The ladies are however interesting enough to keep in touch for a potential meet - but certainly no expectations nor obligations. Just a lady I see potential in for a relationship rather than FWB or FB. So keeping a friendship is of interest until we can meet. And yes, if it's not reciprocated then I move on. Just want to get a feel on frequency you ladies would like to a guy to keep in contact with you to show interest and keep the fire alive?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'OF_78' Just a lady I see potential in for a relationship rather than FWB or FB. So keeping a friendship is of interest until we can meet. How on earth can you see potential for a relationship in someone you've never met??! That's what I call building expectations. Be careful and don't get your hopes up too much. Chemistry is a funny thing....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh how it subtly creeps up on us. Don't talk too much beforehand via text. Have the attitude that you probably won't like them. Saves so much grief. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
So see what response you get that should be a fair indication. Every few days it kind of nice i think, but really depends on how well you get on, it can really vary...also some days busier than other so might have some repeat hot contact one day then nothing for a while....as long as "a while" doesnt get to be weeks and weeks, then interest is not really there imo
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RHP User
10 years ago
Keep it simple... It's a matter of qualities: similar interests, similar humour, right body type (and you're well aware of my height) so someone I'm not going to break my back bending over to waltz with. It's a matter of would be nice if it worked out but yes chemistry can only be determined in person. Yes, I might be building some expectations but nothing more than thinking it would be nice to chat in person and feel a connection. Though what I'm hearing is move on and if it's going to be it's going to be, and stop trying to flog the dead horse. I just wonder where courtesy to the other person stops and self interest starts.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would like for him to email me at least once every 2 days. Of course, once a day is better !!! I have been told by other RHP Members, that this is not "too much" to ask. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
That is all - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'OF_78' certainly no expectations nor obligations. Just a lady I see potential in for a relationship rather than FWB or FB. You do realise those statements contradict themselves? Hell I don't even know whether I will actually want to talk to someone for more than 5 minutes until I actually meet them, let alone think that they are potential relationship material.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'OF_78' certainly no expectations nor obligations. Just a lady I see potential in for a relationship rather than FWB or FB. You do realise those statements contradict themselves? Hell I don't even know whether I will actually want to talk to someone for more than 5 minutes until I actually meet them, let alone think that they are potential relationship material. it is only a contradiction if you take the "no expectation" as contradicting his expectation that the person may be compatible for something more than FWB/FB. But I don't think he meant it that way, I suspect he meant that he has no expectation of a relationship or anything. I'd say his statement is not contradictory in the ordinary application of those words - only if you wanted to dig to the n-th degree.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Well I know I do, this past month has just been over the top. I can't just drop everything to meet up with someone and sometimes it has to be well organized. There are only certain times and days that I can meet and that's when I haven't got my children. Then if I have prior commitments for my free weekend or something come up, things like this means that sometimes it takes me awhile to meet with someone. It defiantly doesn't mean I'm not interested, plus if I've given you my number, then chances are I'm interested in meeting you. So keep the contact regular, every couple of days or so, just to say hi even, because it's nice to know that you're still interested..... I think if someone can't do that, then they really aren't that interested and I lose interest..... I think I'm worth meeting and worth waiting for......💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
but ... why not just ask the individual/s concerned?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Did one of the women you mentioned just out herself? ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meander, you got me. I'm just waiting for you to head over West :p
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