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Chemistry
January 06 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
Absolutely. I've put that one to the test and uncovered some guys I would say on face value were average looking, but the chemistry was there and omg I'll take that anyday. On the flip side, a few who I met who were just a bit of a void, amazing looking/hot bodies, but nothing going on at all to draw me to them. Obviously some also who had it all going on, but I personally believe it's not only chemistry, but the skill and passion of the lover. Some people are just more passionate, really know how to let go, release all that passion and be loving and affectionate. Some are just cold fish though. I think they would struggle getting chemistry happening with anyone. You know the ones who go through the motions but don't know how to be there in the moment? So that would be my only contention to chemistry equalling attraction. Two people can be attracted but with zero chemistry which IMO or in my experience, can be the doing of one person, like trying to beat a dead horse lol Lacking warmth is what I mean
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
I am sure there are people out there who gun for the supermodel types, even if the quarry is as dumb as a box of hammers. Most wouldn't though, there would have to be a frisson of some kind.
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inspirit
7 years ago
It's just one of those emotiins we can't explain. Your eyes lock and there it is....... Agree. - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
As unless you’re physically attracted initially, you’re never going to be open to seeing if there IS that chemistry... Chemistry is the spark resulting from the conversation....and unless you’re open to the conversation you’re never going to want it... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Here we go again 😀 the supermodel types are as dumb as a box of hammers. Tell Deborah Hutton that 😂😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
is quite sad
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Sawadee
7 years ago
I've been attracted to some women I never thought I would. In fact there are 2 encounters that stuck in my mind where the women were not head turners yet were magic to be with.. Chemistry is real and probally the reason most ppl end up together... This is why I insist on meeting over a coffee before anything.. Being drop dead gorgeous is nice to the eyes , but not always what attracts you.. Only today , I saw a girl in Bunnings who grabbed my attention. Girl next door type with short shorts and a great pair of legs.. Plain Jane comes to mind but for some reason I found her attractive...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mrs Farmer is not exactly my cup of tea in terms of physical attraction but we're lovers and great friends. This happened because we chatted online then by phone, we exchanged face photos then . We arranged to meet and hit it off in bed too, I like her for who she is. The thing is we couldn't do the coffee and a chat first because she lives hundreds of kilometres away and has a jealous hubby. She's a nurse, mother, grandmother, farmer's wife, community volunteer as well as being a passionate and beautiful person. She describes herself as having a jelly belly and big boobs and I don't care because she is a beautiful soul who I might never have got together with if we'd met face to face to start with.
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
For comments guys I can’t quote or like any of them because I’m on my phone and can’t do it from here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Is the overriding variable in any successful play partnership. I'll be honest and say if I don't feel that I'll not be getting hard. I look for the uncontrollable want. That makes her look sexy as hell no matter what I'd ordinarily think of her if I saw her from afar in a cafe. It's what keeps us coming back for more. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I fully agree with the second part of your post.
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
The scales are tipping. I probably should of put a bet on it 😂 Yes agree that some physical attraction is part of chemistry but physical looks are not the be all and end all for many women. What draws one person to another can not always be explained in rational terms. My point was more along the lines of that it’s not productive to compare yourself to others on the basis of what you think is attractive. Because that is entirely individual. - Posted from rhpmobile
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' is quite sad I actually didn't mean to imply that all supermodel types are dumb, reading my post again that is certainly what it looks like though. I'll correct myself and say that some people will go for someone just because they are ''hot'' physically, even if the other doesn't have much happening up top.
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RHP User
7 years ago
There has to be some physical attraction first. I do not go so much on looks but I have to find the person appealing. For me there also has to be some sort of mental connection through chatting or talking and this forms part of the chemistry. Chemistry encompasses so many variables and I couldn't put my finger on one thing that attracts me to that person. It could be a smile, sense of humour, attitude, a certain quietness, Charisma, intelligence, great conversation and I could go on.
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inspirit
7 years ago
You cant say that either. The 'moral' police will snap at that too. I cant use buffed airheads anymore :-( when referring to some humans. Although I think I can undermine men. Yeah thats ok apparently. - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
7 years ago
😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Chemistry makes you become attracted to the person's inside. Someone that is sincere, funny and easy to get along with is more attractive to me than a cold fish with a hot bod. Unfortunately chemistry whilst chatting online doesn't always add up to the same in RL as I truly think you can only develop chemistry in person. I may not be attracted to someone at first but once i get to know their personality then it happens. - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
7 years ago
Chemistry can vanish too. Quite a conundrum this chemistry fella. What about here in the forums, do you feel you may have certain chemistry with others? I think I do and dont. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
There is no choice in the process of attraction.... only rationalisation. Attraction (chemistry) is a reaction on a subconscious level to the external stimuli Phrases like ...... I don't usually do this...... I don't usually for for someone like...... you're different to other guys..... to me, are all signals that prove that attraction just isn't a choice and the subconscious process can override the conscious list of preferences we create
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Sawadee
7 years ago
.. that after chatting with someone face to face for about 10 minutes ,you have some idea if you want more or not.. In my opinion , that's chemistry in action..
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Well...I’ll disagree with many of you then won’t I ?? Lol I think many of you are mixed up between a persons initial presence and chemistry... As how do you know, credibly, that it’s chemistry without speaking a word?? I’d call that lust in a face to face scenario... In terms of messaging people and feeling chemistry?? I’d define that as 2 people merely sharing a decent conversation.... We’ve all seen responses that entail that before play we must test the waters face to face before such play usually can occur... so can honestly chemistry be present solely in messages alone?? I doubt it....else there’d be no need to confirm its existence in a face to face scenario would there?? I do think though people are merely more open to feeling chemistry on a very subjective scale, but to suggest physical attraction plays zero part in its generation is entirely false.... And it’s from that initial physical attraction that such chemistry is allowed to grow...otherwise you as a person would shut that conversation down with a polite “thanks but no thanks....”. Unless you’re messaging on here, in which case a no reply is such a statement.... I also think that the conversation regarding comparisons aren’t really a component of chemistry.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’ve got your back on this one. I’ve said it time and time again. Remove the internet and no one walks into a pub and says wow bet she / he has a cracking personality I will go over and say hi. Nope the attraction is physical the chemistry is on a subconscious level as mentioned I think by mischievous. Attraction vs connection/chemistry are IMO two diff things 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thank you, and I agree entirely with the updated version lol 👍 pretty much what I was saying in mine. The plastic factor I like to call it 😉
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RHP User
7 years ago
Not updated version, clarification I meant
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RHP User
7 years ago
For me personally chemistry is everything. I can just be intimate with someone unless that spark is in place also. For example, I’ve known of men that can just walk into a brothel and be intimate with the females that operate there..how do they do that? The whole concept of that just doesn’t make sense to me.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I can’t just be intimate I mean.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
well well , what fun , chemistry is purely personal , it's your reaction to a look , to a voice , to a personality or even something written ........... its an uncontrolled initial reaction . lust , love and friendship all have chemistry at its base even when theres a conflict at the start oil and water do mix and can become a delicious sauce { Satay } . if you find a reaction that stirs your senses , that's chemistry working , how much you react to it decides the form it will take and even if you deny your lust's , you cant deny the stirring of your being , and if exposed to it long enough you cant help but want to indulge and if the chemistry is mutual ........... well , great loves have all had it . have fun my darlings , enjoy the stirrings of the sole , that's what helps make us who we are ..... and your all beautiful for it.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Four months ago I met someone I never thought I would be into. I turned up to the date not expecting anything. Bang! Instant chemistry, spark, whatever you call it? No it doesn't make sense, but it's real. We have been lovers ever since......
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