Chemistry with couples

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  AnnieWhichway

  9 years ago

  Goes with the territory and definitely not confined to those asking for it in their profile. Always a fine line that is tread when playing with playmates. We look for someone attractive to our tastes but the more that attractiveness/chemistry ticks the boxes, the closer to the cliff edge you play. And of course the closer you are to the edge, easier to lose your footing and fall...... Annie

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Sometimes you find it when you least expect it.But it can be Kyptonite...so you have to be very secure in you as a couple xxFreya

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  On what exactly you mean by chemistry. That can mean anywhere from sexual to friendship, but I assume you're referring to what you would call emotional and personal compatability, like when people are dating. But to me, having chemistry means an engagement of minds, with the result that you get along like a house on fire. Having met and played with mainly couples, I've always got along well with both of them, often chatting much more than playing. As for the man, we've generally got along like mates, and as for the woman, the fact that she (and him) has invited me may or may not mean we would get along together, in a different world. But as a single, or as a couple, your intent should be to bring fun and/or friendship, therefor enhancing the lives of the other two, rather than coming between them (pun not intended). The same intention should be mutual. Still, many couples have successful lives not at all affected by swinging with another favourite couple, who can also be very close friends, and may even share their family outings together. It's a case of assessing each new swinging relationship, and working out whether all the personalities involved are secure and non-conflicting, knowing where the lines are, and have mechanisms in place should any connection stray too far in an undesirable direction. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  It's a VERY popular term on Vanilla sites, where one is looking for that "Chemistry" on the first meeting, which is supposed to tell them that they have some sort of 'cosmic connection' (there's another oft used word... "Connection")... These words are thrown around a lot on those sites... But I always figured (as obviously does OP) that that kind of 'Connection' or 'closeness and atrraction beyond the physical' (which is what I've seen it as) is NOT what 'Couples', particularly, are looking for... As was said by Annie, it's a very dangerous situation when your partner is feeling something more than 'physical attraction'... At least, that's what I figure would be the case.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Wasn't OP... It was 'Countrytouch' that brought it up...

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  langton11

  9 years ago

  The male half was not a match for the wife (or myself) however, the female half and I had WAY too much chemistry.That stuff is dangerous, stay away from it

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I avoid couples because of the occasional inappropriate chemistry. Though there are exceptions, experienced couples are OK and chemistry is a good thing, but un-experienced couples, ill let them sort it out with others. I like to play with what little charm I have turn on to full and dont like it when one member of a couple reads too much into it.

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  chevtrek

  9 years ago

  Never over complicate things its meant to be fun.I have long time friends that never started as chemistry.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  But some couples are looking for more than sex (whatever you care to call it), while others are definitely playtime only. I've met both. Sex alone is fine, it occurs at clubs and parties where you often won't even know names (or perhaps real names as I've been with some that use aliases - they've trusted me enough to admit). People want what they want, it's just a case of finding others that want the same. What people want also changes depending on the time/mood etc. - Posted from rhpmobile

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