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Closing the deal!

February 26 2013

I was scrolling through my inbox this morning, thinking about all the conversations i've had over the 6 months i've been here that have lead to NOTHING! Lol, now before you jump all over me, i've had some great meets and played with some awesome people, some of whom i know we will maintain long friendships. BUT, there are many more who i never met, simply because they failed to close the deal! It made me think this whole process is not unlike sales, those who don't ask for the sale don't get it. Someone else quickly comes along and before you know it the opportunity is lost. Like any sales funnel there are going to be "losses" along the way, but also like any sales funnel there must be a way to decrease this "leakage" I wondered if these guys were waiting for an indicator from me to proceed? Did they lose interest along the way? Meet someone else who tickled their fancy more? So guys, tell me, do you make the suggestion to meet, to take things for the next step, or do you wait for an indicator from the lady?

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RHP User

12 years ago

Great topic. *sharing popcorn with you*

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Mischeviouslad

12 years ago

I lead.... If I feel sufficient interest on my side in her, after email and phone contact.....I do not suggest a meet.... I propose a meet.And we meet.DG

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RHP User

12 years ago

move over Paintme!! Im joining you.... Block of Chocolate ready to share... Foxy - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

I can usually tell fairly quickly if the person I'm conversing with actually wants to meet and will be the first to propose a meet. I have been preempted a few times though much to my delight.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Closing the deal is difficult. Or at least, it feels difficult, for those untrained in the mystique arts... (who am I kidding, it's always scary!)When is appropriate? Too soon? Too late? Am I reading the signals right? Do I seem desperate? Aloof? I, say, don't want to come across as the proverbial pushy guy... but then I run the risk of being limpid and meek.I can't help but think of the poor guy who started a thread about how a girl went AWOL after everything going well... but that he'd gone for a last minute kiss and more "on a school night" and then bailed, because of said school night. Or the desperate last hour in a nightclub, when the pack realise they haven't closed..."If you're not in bed by midnight, go home."Good sales is about always moving towards close, never standing still. I know DG gets labelled as premeditated, and I run that risk, so I'll hide behind the analogy... every sales call, every meeting, should have an outcome, and next steps. If you come out in the same place as you started, you're not making progress. And unless there is a "no" (implicit, or explicit), then keep progressing...Perhaps forming new relationships is the same?

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RHP User

12 years ago

If I feel like she is interested and not just playing message ping pong,I will suggest a meet. I find personally the women yes a generalization (not all of you) want you to engage their mind but there responses are blank or half arsed and I don't know if I take that as not interested or just too busy to write a decent reply to help the conversation along.In these cases the convo dries up dead fast along with any interest I had. Did you give the potentials you were interested a few tell tale signs? ( being men I mean neon lights saying MEET ME ) This day and age it is perfectly fine for you the woman to step up and ask to meet. Messages can always get read out of correct context.- Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

12 years ago

What i find annoying is when having a conversation with someone and they vanish....so i assume okay, they're at work or headed to bed or whatever but then...... no .... nada... nothing.. Then a week or 2 later i get a message with them trying pick up where we left off from like we were chatting yesterday with their opening line containing high expectations. My take is okay... you're not fussed either way (i get i'm not everyone's cuppa tea)... but dont come a sniffing around when something else didnt work out and you have a little stiffy....

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xFunlovingx

12 years ago

Quoting 'SassyMissM' What i find annoying is when having a conversation with someone and they vanish....so i assume okay, they're at work or headed to bed or whatever but then...... no .... nada... nothing.. Then a week or 2 later i get a message with them trying pick up where we left off from like we were chatting yesterday with their opening line containing high expectations. My take is okay... you're not fussed either way (i get i'm not everyone's cuppa tea)... but dont come a sniffing around when something else didnt work out and you have a little stiffy.... Amen to that! xFunlovingx

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RHP User

12 years ago

The gentleman and wait for da lady to make some kinda indicator that SHE would like to go the next step,jsk

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RHP User

12 years ago

Ok Girls I'm sitting in the middle....I've got the wine Quoting 'paintme'Great topic. *sharing popcorn with you* Fantastic Topic OP.. :-) move over Paintme!! Im joining you.... Block of Chocolate ready to share... Foxy

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Mischeviouslad

12 years ago

Quoting 'Messolonghi' Good sales is about always moving towards close, never standing still. I know DG gets labelled as premeditated, and I run that risk, so I'll hide behind the analogy... every sales call, every meeting, should have an outcome, and next steps. Label schmabel my friend.... I challenge any woman Ive met... to tell me she feels part of some scripted Shakespearean act while she's sitting with me, laughing, listening, engaging, gazing, touching, kissing..... feeling attraction. Or not.But I DO challenge the "must always be closing" principle when it comes to meeting people from sites like this.I dont go into a meeting with a desired outcome of "Sealing the Deal" Those thoughts simply arent relevant because I havent met the person... to determine, if attraction exists in person.DG

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RHP User

12 years ago

I see you ladies have the chocolate, wine and popcorn, I might be forward in asking, care to have some company for mutual enjoyment ;-) I have traveled extensively and have learnt fro my shyness over the years, if you don't ask, you don't get Having said that, there is a right way and a WRONG way about asking .... WRONG way (well in most cases, imguessing because I am More of the later) - well let's go back to mine and f^*k like rabbits RIGHT way (and being a gentleman like myself) throwing out a few subtle hints if you feel the chemistry to gauge the persons thoughts, then maybe some thing a little more forward, this place is nice but I'm finding it a little noisy and distracting from our conversation, would you like to go go somewhere a little quieter to continue - the whole time reading body language I'm not giving out all my secrets but let's just say if you have communicated on and to such a level with mutual interest that has afforded you to be fortunate enough to meet, then chances are possibly higher than normal - just saying (please don't think I am a pig) It's always nice to meet new people and find out about their life and their adventures and experiences gained in their years, having conversation to me is like foreplay ;-) and it allows you to see inside the person and enjoy their character, their soul, their person Anyone need their glass filled or some more chocolate ;-) Btw, Karyn, I cherish our convos and it's purely a case of distance ;-)

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