Coffee table conversations (moved)

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  Enjoylifealways

  11 years ago

  I have a friend whom Iam very open with. It took me a long time before I told her but she said that it made sense ha ha. She has no interest in doing it but enjoys hearing about my life. Happy to tell people I can trust not to judge.

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  lovesexcouple

  11 years ago

  Very much the same as Enjoylifealways. My wife discussed our life style with her best friend and she enjoys to hear regular updates, but not interested in getting into the life style (her husband is a bit of a prude). She has however jump into our spa with us. lol.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Ive told a couple of my trusted friends and even though they are not into it, they are pretty happy for us and are intrigued by it and also want details too when we finally take the plunge ha ha.... Mrs_AJ

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  BacioCouple

  11 years ago

  We've had conversations a number of times with friends about swinging, keys in the bowl and wife swapping. Each time it's been in a 'what if' type situation and the banter has been light hearted rather than (we think) trying to find out if anyone actually does it. To date we haven't let slip what we get up with when we aren't out with vanilla friends. Simply put, people can be very judgemental and we simply aren't sure how some of our friends would react if they found out. There are two couples we think may have been hinting at something more - but we weren't sure. Society (in general) tends to view swingers from a differnt perspective to those who've had real meaningful contact with those who are actually part of it (or exploring). Whilst we're not against telling people, it would have to be in a controlled manner and ensuring that it wouldn't ruin any (vanilla) relationship we have with them or affect our jobs. Ideally we'd love to find someone on here we actually know from a different part of our life - so both couples know they share a similar secret - and have someone we can discuss our experiences with!

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Maybe we'll hear from someone who has unknowingly enticed someone to play with them after sharing their swinger stories. ;-)

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  MsSuperFoxy

  11 years ago

  Is a very sensitive topic/discussion in society and should be handled with lots of caution. It's not just a matter of "Hey dudes, do you swing?? " when having discussions with people. Well I mentioned to my parents that I went to a couples club....haha they were intrigued! They had mentioned to me, a couple they know, have just started going to swingers parties. Their main concern was not the swinging side, but the couples personal hygiene side. If they hadn't brought up the topic I would not have mentioned the club I went to. They were happy that I went and am going out doing things for myself. I think it depends who, how open-minded and trusting the people are as well... Times have changed over the years regarding swinging..I believe it is becoming more open in society. Foxy

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  MsSuperFoxy

  11 years ago

  on peoples core/values and family cultural values as well...I would suss that out first before bringing up swinging. FOR EXAMPLE: Some people who were brought up in Monogamy family values as their culture, they will not change cause that is how they were role-modelled and taught to them as that is what they know.. I know cause it happened to me...my background family cultural values are monogamy, but over the years my values and culture has changed a great deal, I've chosen to change it. For me, it's don't see just monogamy relationships any more, and if were to role-model that to my daughter I am taking away from her other choices of relationships. Just a thought how to bring up swinging to others.. Foxy

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I told a girlfriend, we have been friends for a trillion years, she was always a bit of a wild child and had lots of lovers. she is now married and not had sex with her hubby for 10 years so I thought lets see how she goes with maybe having some fun. the irony is that I often went to swingers but I am not really into swinging and at this stage had not even taken my shirt of at a swingers let alone played she said, my god I thought you were much better than that! she was horrified and the judgmental comments just kept on coming now I ONLY talk about my sex life with my RHP girlfriends, I have made a lot of women friends on here and love that I can be my true self with them. that's the up side of RHP making networking groups of like minded people and I keep my two worlds far apart as I know the total fall out of even hinting I am more than the old suburban housewife. I also tend to protect my RHP girlfriends by saying we met through one of my art exhibitions or some other way we meet. only my husband knows the truth of where I meet all my female friends. LadyT keeping it under her hat

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