M41
Cold approach on the street..
July 12 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
That is way too cheesy! If however you said..'you look hot, I would love to have sex with you'... That would be better. No guarantees of course... But if you were hot that would help:) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
probably not quite THAT quickly, BUT if i liked you i might chat a little bit, or maybe suggest we go for a drink
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
OK... so you've obviously been reading a bit of internet based pick-up information.My view....Firstly, forget about seeking her number.n deciding to approach a woman, obviously because you find her visually appealing... is to see if you also find her interesting...... interesting enough to contemplate wanting to get to know her further. Secondly, asking for directions or her opinion is not a good way to "open" a complete stranger, because once you change your approach from asking her something, to your real intention for wanting to come and talk to her..... you will likely seem disingenuous to her. It will seem that you used a lame excuse, rather than man-up and show her your real intent... like a genuine and confident MAN would.Remember.... No woman wakes up in the morning thinking.... "gee, I really hope I DONT meet the man of my dreams today".So, walk confidently to her..... stop a few paces ahead of her if she is waking to give her some space to move rather than crowding her. Be BOLD with your intent, because guys rarely approach women (correctly) during the day and you will impress her if you show her you are also interesting.(example) Say......"Hey, sorry to interrupt you.... but Im on my way to (somewhere) and I only have a few moments....but you just walked past me and I HAD to tell you this or I'd kick myself for the rest of the day if I didnt....... I noticed your long blonde hair and the way you walked.....you move with grace and elegance"She will then likely say thank you.... then you can make a comment about why those thing catch your attention, or make a statement that you think she looks european/scandinavian/like a model/like a businesswoman/etc... You can open up, develop and maintain conversations if you dont ask a lot of questions. Instead, a very handy conversational style is to make statements, encouraging others to then conversation flows if you dont ask a lot of questions but make a statement and when she fills or corrects the statement with detail, you can expand that detail in conversation.Now, I realise this may well sound insincere in written form, because Im trying to offer detail on a woman I clearly havent seen, but you will know how it sounds when including the details about her that caught your attention.Dont be too energetic. The psychological reality is.... when meeting people, the less you do and the more they are encouraged to do, the better the outcome. Send me a PM if you'd like more detailed information. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like your first approach, it made me smile. I wouldn't give my number but would accept yours, assuming I found you physically attractive. Though asking me if I'm single, out of the blue, would probably earn you a smart-arse response that didn't get you anywhere. Send DG a PM if you'd like more detailed information. *Rolleyes*
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' I like your first approach, it made me smile. I wouldn't give my number but would accept yours, assuming I found you physically attractive. Though asking me if I'm single, out of the blue, would probably earn you a smart-arse response that didn't get you anywhere. Send DG a PM if you'd like more detailed information. *Rolleyes* he lost me at ok....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like it - would make me smile and there are few people in this world that haven't seen someone attractive in their life, and then wish they'd been able to think of a reason to speak to them. You've just made it obvious. I wouldn't have a problem with you asking if I was single, or for my number - maybe add if we could have coffee sometime. Certainly beats the guys that never bothered to ask even though I was wearing an engagement ring at the time, or the ones that ask if you are on Facebook. Be yourself, and if it works with someone fantastic it will certainly give you a cute "this is how we met" story. And DG, sorry but if you tried that line with me it would be an epic fail - it sounds rehearsed. Most girls just want someone genuine - and if asking her to the station is the best thing that you can come up with to make an excuse to talk to us, then anyone worth talking to is going to take it as the compliment it is.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Lucky you're not the op then ;-) lol DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Women have this happen, Mrs Kink got asked while filling up the car in a gas station recently. He simply said "Hi, I'm ....How would you like to go for a drink sometime?" She replied "I'd have to ask my husband if he approves" and he left quietly.No harm done. She was taken aback a little as petrol is not usually associated with advances from the opposite sex. The whole thing was complimentary over-all, and a little predatory/opportunistic. So if you're going to ask women who you don't know to get it on (basically). Ask if they are free to do so and perhaps leave your number with them to ponder a while. A woman may have reservations about her personal details as you may be the Claremont Killer.
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sungf1t
11 years ago
I've thought about this before! An I've had a couple of friends do it...the rite approach is key!!!!! Good luck man
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RHP User
11 years ago
No one swaps numbers now its all Facebook. So try it chat to someone, if you feel you connect, then take the next step. Good luck, tell us how you go.- Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
Its different but there are no sure fire ways. Times have changed but not for the better and as a DJ who works every new year I see it big time.. In the 70s and 80s on new year kisses and hugs flowed and now half would not bother. Its the same with flirting women respond or don't but just not like it was you now have to rack your brain to find the right approach .. On the upside its still fun at least that's the same.. LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
isn't working, then go for it
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for the responses. Least I got some laughs :). I probably wouldn't go for the number so fast in reality. Like u said I'd probably see if they're not boring first.. I don't like uptight people and especially people that can't take a joke. I'm all about having fun and I think that kind of approach may be the best for me. I think the second approach would work better on younger ladies 20-30. Here's another scenario: Some good looking dude walks up to you and says "Put ur number in my phone." If I made eye contact with a girl and she smiled I might try it for laughs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'DickInABox' Here's another scenario: Some good looking dude walks up to you and says "Put ur number in my phone." If I made eye contact with a girl and she smiled I might try it for laughs. I would probably think "Don't tell me what to do" and reply: "Make me". DG, I must admit I didn't read the bit between "My view" and "Send me a PM". Now I have, and it indeed sounds rehearsed. Techniques and tricks will only ever be just that, and even though they might work at first, they become see-through quickly. If you're looking for one night stands then fine, but women will see through these techniques eventually and realise there's not much of the real you in there. And yes, this is from personal experience. And Chev: If you don't see everyone kissing and hugging at midnight on New Years Eve/Day you're hanging out with the wrong crowd.
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RHP User
11 years ago
DG's on the right track. Be bold but not cocky or arrogant. Be complimentary but not sickly or fake. Be warm and real and make sure that whatever you say is genuine and specific to the woman, not a generic, cheesy comment that you try on any woman. Do practice - rehearse approaches in your mind, talk to people as you are here, get comfortable with it. They say practice makes perfect/permanent, so practice, get good at being real and warm and bold and sexy and relaxed and confident when you approach a woman. They'll/we'll definitely appreciate the effort xxx
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I DID say.... "Now, I realise this may well sound insincere in written form, because Im trying to offer detail on a woman I clearly havent seen, but you will know how it sounds when including the details about her that caught your attention."But hey, if you want to roll your eyes..... thats your choice. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
DG, I'm guessing this was for me? I'm not talking about your post, I'm talking about the techniques learned directly from Dave DeAngelo and his peers. (Seriously forum peeps, just Google this guy and have a look at his books and workshops, then you'll get my point). Successful short term? Absolutely. In the long run? Not so much. And DG, though some of "your" techniques may work, divulging and discussing them at length on the forums couldn't be the smartest thing to do, right? OP, if you're going to try this approach, come up with your own things. With the number of women being clued in on the "Pick up artist tricks" growing every day, you're like to get caught out if you use them (both the tricks and the women, that is).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have a look at the clip on daviddeangelo dot com dot au. It talks about how to approach women in the street.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Why? The OP asked for viewpoints..... whether its smart or not to outline that information in here is of little consequence to me as this is not the street, I am not trying to introduce myself.... ..... and Im happy to back my knowledge and experience in walking up to talk to women..... over that of other women. ;-) DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
the more crap you go on with ' the quicker you dig your own grave.Was walking down Pitt Street awhile back, sweetie walking the same direction. We became wedged to one side of the footpath and had to wait a few seconds before we could walk on.. We look at each other and I just blurt out, ' seeing were heading the same way we may as well chat' , she smiled and by the time we walked 2 blocks we agreed to meet for a coffee the next day. We did and found out she had long term bf she was having problems with. All good' moved right along... but was good for the ego.. Just one of them nice things that happens at times.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you've missed one key thing though. While I agree that over time using the same formula to open a person may get noticed, but as you would agree I'm sure, getting a person to open is half the battle. Once you open a person, and it works both ways here, you have the options available then to have that person know you....be it a short time or a long time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot'Once you open a person, and it works both ways here, you have the options available then to have that person know you....be it a short time or a long time. When that woman realises that the things that attracted her to a man were all techniques used on all other women the guy was interested in... I met a guy here once that gave me a personal nickname the day after we met (no it wasn't Miss M). I thought it was sweet and kinda sexy. Not long after, he mentioned on a forum he used this technique on all women he liked, to (his words) make them feel special and to create an in-joke between them. I think you can imagine how special I felt, and my opinion of the guy dropped dramatically. I got to know him alright, and knowing did not equal liking in this case.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can understand that you'd feel worked over by a seemingly professional seducer, much like the movie "Hitch." However, one thing I've learned from not only the forums, but my meetings, is that everyone is unique, individual. So while I do empathise with how you've felt, I also think that no two women's interactions would be the same for this man. So I ask, if you're special to him because you're just you, shouldn't that be the focus instead of how he showed you? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't ever ask a stranger are you single or do you find me attractive. That's just weird! Mind you, if you came up to me and said I have my dick in a box I would definitely stop to listen to that story! Always offer your number, not ask for hers I think. I know someone said about Facebook... but maybe I am old fashioned but I wouldn't be giving out my real name to a total stranger on the street. #fuck that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'sirlurkalot'Once you open a person, and it works both ways here, you have the options available then to have that person know you....be it a short time or a long time. When that woman realises that the things that attracted her to a man were all techniques used on all other women the guy was interested in... I met a guy here once that gave me a personal nickname the day after we met (no it wasn't Miss M). I thought it was sweet and kinda sexy. Not long after, he mentioned on a forum he used this technique on all women he liked, to (his words) make them feel special and to create an in-joke between them. I think you can imagine how special I felt, and my opinion of the guy dropped dramatically. I got to know him alright, and knowing did not equal liking in this case. I've been on red hot pie for about 7 months now. Whilst I'm no longer looking to meet people I do log in occasionally just to read the forums. It's usually a great place to learn new things from interesting and open-minded people.That being said, lately it's been a bit of a full on bitch-fest.Everyone knows who you are talking about Mesmerised, and personally, I'm so sick of reading about it. I'm sick of you attacking every single thing he posts, and making nasty comments about nicknames, profile pictures and removing validations knowing full well that everyone is aware who you are referring to.I get that you guys had a thing and it went south, but seriously, posting passive aggressive bitchy comments says a lot more about you than anyone else.You seem to make a habit of telling other people off for making semi-veiled comments about other forums members, but then you go and do the same thing yourself. Hypocrite much?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I asked you this on another thread but I don't think you answered. Are you a dentist?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you have only been here seven months, you would have missed the entire thing, so I'm confused how you could be so sure? Too bad your profile is locked, so I can't ask you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well, I think that's a bit harsh personally. MissM is deserving of her say, and I think it was quite contextual in relation to the point I raised. I didn't see it as passive aggressive, but more an observation about how interactions are generated and explored. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I confess I somewhat agree with Snoopy. There's a fine line between challenging or questioning someone's opinion and just taking whatever opportunity you can to cut them down. Whatever your personal history with someone, snarking at them on here kind of makes you seem spiteful and petty. DG's a big boy, he can handle whatever opinion anyone here has of him and his particular brand of seduction - your opinion (presumably) and mine included - but I'm not sure that makes it OK to target him quite like people are starting to. Mind you, I'm big on looking in my own mirror before pointing out the flaws in others.
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RHP User
11 years ago
it's creepy behaviour.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think MissM is making comments based on any personal history at all. I do it too sometimes...sometimes people's comments just bug ya and you have to say something. 3 Wise Words... Everyone gets targeted sometimes and it's usually for a reason. Fair or unfair. Jeez I haven't been told to get back in my box for ages now.... Wonder if there will be a dick in there!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have had men come up to me and say things like that To me before and it just surprises me. The last thing I am thinking is whether or not the guy is attractive. I suppose I don't like overly flowery language or compliments. And it is a little weird coming from a stranger. But I am not a very romantic person, so I may be different to some other women. Well I am sure I am .... Lol. So for me less is more... Maybe if a guy said I find you very attractive would you like to go for a coffee. I would laugh... And then a conversation would go from there.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Everyone has a particular style and they are comfortable operating in a certain way, but all these "techniques" and talking about women and what works makes me personally feel like dumb cattle. Like we don't have an independent brain. That's not directed at anybody by the way. Tell me though, are women really that similar? Or are we all that similar that certain things will work most of the time?
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RHP User
11 years ago
so my response would be"If you think I'm a dentist, I can be" or "I can be whatever you wwaaannntt mmmeee to beeee!"My sober response would be just"No, I'm not a dentist but if you PM me I'll tell you what I do. I won't say it here due to privacy reasons in case someone knows or has a hint as to who I am."I think if I'm around someone or with a group of friends it should be ok as long as I don't get to the point too quickly. I don't think I'd use any of the above approaches unless the girl is drunk or looks like their having an awesome time then I can approach with the same ecstatic behaviour.. though I may try on occasion... what do I really have to lose?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Women are not cattle, but they are human. Being human means that certain techniques are more likely to get a favorable response. What's being discussed are effectively sales techniques... Realising, that some words phrases and mannerisms tend to attract people, make them feel comfortable and secure, and some have somewhat negative overtones (or can in the eyes of the beholder) Hp xo
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RHP User
11 years ago
we do what works for us,humans are good at adapting behaviour...usually...but some people,male and female are delusional and for some reason just don't get that not everyone finds their ''techniques'' attractive.....but I suppose the law of averages would say,do it a hundred times and at least ten will respond positively....but who would want to get a black eye ,90 times
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will just say that there is a big difference in talking about a guy I last saw one-on-one nine months ago (who holds grudges that long?), and DG's forum posts. It's the techniques used by some men here (not just DG, he's just the most vocal) that piss me off, not the men themselves. And Snoopy, why don't you man up (I think that should be woman up) and show your face? Calling me nasty and bitchy anonymously says more about you than me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Always offer your number, not ask for hers I think. I know someone said about Facebook... but maybe I am old fashioned but I wouldn't be giving out my real name to a total stranger on the street. #fuck that. Maybe I'm showing my age, but I'd swap numbers before Facebook details. Like Meeka said, I'd never give my last name to a stranger. Mine is far too uncommon, so I'd be too easy too find elsewhere (like LinkedIn, for example). If a guy gave me his number without trying to get mine, I might be tempted to at least text out of curiosity. Which makes me wonder: How many men and women here have or would give a fake number if put on the spot? Just curious. (I've inverted numbers a few times, though only when asked for my phone number by real-estate agents).
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RHP User
11 years ago
And not give her a fake number and just tell her I'm not interested.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Go you good thing
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RHP User
11 years ago
May I ask though - and it may be two different issues, hence my question - do you feel like just another notch in the belt, if a man used the same oral technique on you as all the other ladies he likes?? Just an observation about techniques, and I do get that what you're saying, but when commpared to sexual technique, is it really that different?- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think that the cold approach is one of the hardest approaches you could choose, but my 2 cents? Be honest. Lying to anyone and having the potential to have that come back at you later isn't a lasting relationship winner... So I would suggest being calm, confident, and LISTEN. We have two ears, and one mouth... So in my opinion? We should listen twice as hard as we talk :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Micheviouslad or dg u are a tool , just be yourself and be confident mate what have you got to lose , - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
When a guy is talking about a technique the inference is that you are saying whatever you think will get a woman into bed. It is not a genuine exchange and it is different to how someone has sex.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' Its different but there are no sure fire ways. Times have changed but not for the better and as a DJ who works every new year I see it big time.. In the 70s and 80s on new year kisses and hugs flowed and now half would not bother. Its the same with flirting women respond or don't but just not like it was you now have to rack your brain to find the right approach .. On the upside its still fun at least that's the same.. LOL What didn't 'work' for men in the 70's and 80's still doesn't work now? Geez. I'm discombobulated. Maybe women haven't changed at all? Maybe we are always as we have been, and it is society (please insert patriarchy) who have tried to define, explain, justify, *throw their hands in the air and blame* and reidentify us???Good luck with your attitude, honey. Have faith in the theory that like attracts like. I do and it's working for me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
and those kisses and hugs are alcohol induced. Can you tell the difference or do you think that they are young things who crave your attention ... ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot'May I ask though - and it may be two different issues, hence my question - do you feel like just another notch in the belt, if a man used the same oral technique on you as all the other ladies he likes?? Actually no, I don't feel like a notch. I never had a bad moment with this guy, and the arrangement (for lack of a better word) was quite symbiotic. However, where I find great oral technique a skill, I still see these "pick up artist techniques" as manipulation, because they play with the mind, not the body. Does that make sense?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'sirlurkalot'May I ask though - and it may be two different issues, hence my question - do you feel like just another notch in the belt, if a man used the same oral technique on you as all the other ladies he likes?? Actually no, I don't feel like a notch. I never had a bad moment with this guy, and the arrangement (for lack of a better word) was quite symbiotic. However, where I find great oral technique a skill, I still see these "pick up artist techniques" as manipulation, because they play with the mind, not the body. Does that make sense? Just as we are accused of being 'fake' or 'flakes' ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
It makes sense. Men can be pick up artists, women are flakes. Fuck me I get bored of that shit very quickly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' OK... so you've obviously been reading a bit of internet based pick-up information.My view....Firstly, forget about seeking her number.n deciding to approach a woman, obviously because you find her visually appealing... is to see if you also find her interesting...... interesting enough to contemplate wanting to get to know her further. Secondly, asking for directions or her opinion is not a good way to "open" a complete stranger, because once you change your approach from asking her something, to your real intention for wanting to come and talk to her..... you will likely seem disingenuous to her. It will seem that you used a lame excuse, rather than man-up and show her your real intent... like a genuine and confident MAN would.Remember.... No woman wakes up in the morning thinking.... "gee, I really hope I DONT meet the man of my dreams today".So, walk confidently to her..... stop a few paces ahead of her if she is waking to give her some space to move rather than crowding her. Be BOLD with your intent, because guys rarely approach women (correctly) during the day and you will impress her if you show her you are also interesting.(example) Say......"Hey, sorry to interrupt you.... but Im on my way to (somewhere) and I only have a few moments....but you just walked past me and I HAD to tell you this or I'd kick myself for the rest of the day if I didnt....... I noticed your long blonde hair and the way you walked.....you move with grace and elegance"She will then likely say thank you.... then you can make a comment about why those thing catch your attention, or make a statement that you think she looks european/scandinavian/like a model/like a businesswoman/etc... You can open up, develop and maintain conversations if you dont ask a lot of questions. Instead, a very handy conversational style is to make statements, encouraging others to then conversation flows if you dont ask a lot of questions but make a statement and when she fills or corrects the statement with detail, you can expand that detail in conversation.Now, I realise this may well sound insincere in written form, because Im trying to offer detail on a woman I clearly havent seen, but you will know how it sounds when including the details about her that caught your attention.Dont be too energetic. The psychological reality is.... when meeting people, the less you do and the more they are encouraged to do, the better the outcome. Send me a PM if you'd like more detailed information. DG I get it
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm right with life coaches thank you very much
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep perfect sense. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Thank youDG
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RHP User
11 years ago
This will invariably lead to a slap but it works.go up to the girl your after and say" hey fancy a fuck and a pizza"she will slap you and then you say" what don't you like pizza"
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RHP User
11 years ago
For possible approachees on my way to the station.......
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'bunnasboi' Micheviouslad or dg u are a tool , just be yourself and be confident mate what have you got to lose , - Posted from rhpmobile Thanks for your interest.Good luck with being yourself. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
rather than a blatantly obvious pick up line is more likely to get the lady at least talking to you. Use something corny and I would give you the look and walk away, be creative, use what you see about the lady to come up with your opening line. I think DG has got it right. We are taught from a young age to be wary of strangers and if you come across as creepy you are more likely to get her running for the hills or slapped! However the right approach can leave a lady feeling good about herself which then gives you the opportunity to pursue!Good LuckMinx
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Il mio piccolo Italia "Come on, you know you want to." had to laugh because he was sooo persistent and eventually talked me around. I always smile and laugh about that afternoon....he was so sweet....and persistent!!! hahaha Um worst, I ran out of petrol, was 20yo wearing a short floral dress and no panties. Had to walk 500m to a petrol station. Some bloke drove up behind me, then slowly drove past me. Did a U-turn, came back slowly again as I was walking over to the station with fuel can. On my way back he drove alongside me and said "You're real nice.....how much?". WTFflesh crawl!!! Got the car filled ASAP and fuckstick followed me for a while till I got past some lights and lost him. Eeeeuuuwwww My best pick up, guy at a nightclub, few girls hovering around him, he was gorgeous, jeans, white shirt, tan, built had his shirt open down to his waist. Lol scoped him out, waited until his eyes caught mine, walked said "Hello", leaned in so he lowered his head and could hear me, "You are faaaar too good looking to be advertising gorgeous, please....tidy yourself up. You are distracting me." as I did up his shirt buttons and then kissed him. hehe oh to be young and full of shit again!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Three_Wise_Words'I confess I somewhat agree with Snoopy. There's a fine line between challenging or questioning someone's opinion and just taking whatever opportunity you can to cut them down. Whatever your personal history with someone, snarking at them on here kind of makes you seem spiteful and petty. DG's a big boy, he can handle whatever opinion anyone here has of him and his particular brand of seduction - your opinion (presumably) and mine included - but I'm not sure that makes it OK to target him quite like people are starting to. Mind you, I'm big on looking in my own mirror before pointing out the flaws in others. We had no idea who was being referred to, but you've cleared that up now! lol!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Everyone has a particular style and they are comfortable operating in a certain way, but all these "techniques" and talking about women and what works makes me personally feel like dumb cattle. Like we don't have an independent brain. That's not directed at anybody by the way. Tell me though, are women really that similar? Or are we all that similar that certain things will work most of the time? Agree Agree Agree! So sick of reading about the techniques, strategies and instructions. What's wrong with just being a nice and interesting person, and when you find another nice and interesting person, taking it further? lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' I will just say that there is a big difference in talking about a guy I last saw one-on-one nine months ago (who holds grudges that long?), and DG's forum posts. It's the techniques used by some men here (not just DG, he's just the most vocal) that piss me off, not the men themselves. And Snoopy, why don't you man up (I think that should be woman up) and show your face? Calling me nasty and bitchy anonymously says more about you than me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
LOL Whenever I am out with my daughter, she's the one who picks up if a man is hitting on me..when we go back to the car she says something..I just say "they are just being nice/kind honey, everyone likes to have-a- chat" and don't think anymore of it... I might try a new approach and take more notice when I am approached.. :) FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
If a guy did approach me in a respectful dignified way and he asked for my number...I think I would want his before handing mine out...FOXY
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Foxy... unless for a social assistance purpose.... consider that anyone who approaches you does so out of their own interest in you.What other reason do they have for doing so?!DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
To be honest DG...when I am out with my daughter - I am out with her..that's probably why I don't connect if a man was "trying" to pick me up discreetly...I don't know??LOL maybe I am a little vague sometimes and don't see it or pick up the clues. Maybe I'm not flirty enough or somefink? I can only be me nothing else.. FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot'Well, I think that's a bit harsh personally. MissM is deserving of her say, and I think it was quite contextual in relation to the point I raised. I didn't see it as passive aggressive, but more an observation about how interactions are generated and explored. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'When a guy is talking about a technique the inference is that you are saying whatever you think will get a woman into bed. It is not a genuine exchange and it is different to how someone has sex.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was out with friends one night and this lovely man tried to talk to me but we were on our way home so I didn't want to get into a conversation. He stopped one of my friends and told her that he really wanted to get to know me and gave her his business card so I could call him if I wanted to. I have to admit to being very flattered and after a couple of days later when my curiosity got the better of me and I called. We ended up seeing each other for 6 months before he had to go back to NZ. We are still friends. Honesty is the best. SFxx
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
:-) DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
So if and when you yourself Dick (can I call you Dick?) have a wife or whatever, and she says to you "Some guy in the street propositioned me and gave me his phone number"...Would you be cool enough to take it as a compliment or would you ring that number yourself and give him hell?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I was a possessive douchebag !! Hp xo
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Thats a bizarre thought process. I'm going to use the scenario you used to make this point. I assume that YOU find your wife/partner attractive. I will also assume you enjoy a compliment when it might be offered to you. So it would be hypocritical (and a little insecure) to take of offence at polite compliments offered to her. No. I wouldnt be bothered that another found my partner attractive enough to approach and think to offer his number.... .....Id be more concerned that she TOOK the number and kept it. Don't you reckon?!! DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you go to page one of this post and read that this happened in a petrol station to Mrs K recently, you'll read also that I considered it a compliment. It may be the same for Dick in the future as well, should it happen to his significant other while she's alone doing whatever in public? Is it so bizarre to consider that some men may find this sort of opportunistic pick-up attempt annoying. Being that his woman does not have to be in a club/pub to be hit-on these days? I know of a few hard Men with old fashioned possessive values when it comes to their woman (their choice to be that way) and it may be some what dangerous to become entangled in this manner. If one of these "Taken Women" happens to take down your Rego as you depart... what was considered innocent fun may have dire consequences for your face.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Frankly, if Mrs K thought he was dishy, his number may come in handy for a bit of D.P. should he be brave enough to consider this as well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's just about creating the opportunity to have a conversation. I never go out with a line in mind, if I see someone I like, I walk up to them and tell them why I'm talking to them. The less your in your head the less you worry about messing up, just say to yourself imagine the girl of my dreams walking up to me and starting a convo, how amazing would that be, then go out and be that dude.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Charlangies' It's just about creating the opportunity to have a conversation. I never go out with a line in mind, if I see someone I like, I walk up to them and tell them why I'm talking to them. The less your in your head the less you worry about messing up, just say to yourself imagine the girl of my dreams walking up to me and starting a convo, how amazing would that be, then go out and be that dude.The general consensus thus far is that your approach is unlikely to work, and that's pretty right. Being disingenuous with your opening line, only to change the subject as soon as you get a reply, is not a good look, champ. Going kamikaze, being honest but polite about it, is a better tactic - empty your mind and just be honest with her. Still won't work every time, but she'll appreciate that honesty and your character. Some of my best friends are women I've hit on in public or at work, and most of them turned me down at the time, but they could see that I was genuine and respectful, and so great friendships were born. And that's another thing - don't feel hard done by if she turns you down - at the very least, chalk it up to experience!
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RHP User
11 years ago
while I would not recommend the situation I am about to share as a 'pick-up' technique it is quite an amusing encounter from my younger days that started as a total embarrassment but led to a weekend of the best casual sex ever! I was on vacation in a small coastal town on the nsw south coast flying solo & had to go resupply to the local supermarket, not wanting to waste any time I was hooting down the ailes with my trolley when this girl stepped back from behind a display and I barrelled into her knocking her flying! horrified at what id done I went to her aid to see if she was ok, apologising and helping her to her feet... after the shock & embarressment had worn off (from both sides), some banter about 'bloody Volvo drivers' broke the ice, we were laughing and I asked to take her for a coffee to compensate her for the bruise I put on her backside.... long story short..... we clicked & what started as a shocker ended in a weekend of fantastic casual sex between 2 total strangers... again ....not a recommended pick-up practise just an example that you don't always need to try to force a situation for an opportunity to arise! :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Honestly it is a turn off for me, especially if you expect to pick up that night, in this day and age most women are wary, so they may be polite, may like the attention but if you come on too heavy you may scare them away, however if you are at a pub and bump into that person many times to just chat and sincerely enjoy their company without the heavies and anticipation (I just let it go with the flow), if there is chemistry there then you ease into it without expectations, just have to read the play. In some cases you just might get lucky first off, if they are at a nightclub and had a few drinks then that is a good possibility but it may also be taken as being opportunistic and if you were a real gentleman you would not take advantage of them in a vulnerable state, that way you will get respect and next time your chances increased for a consistent and regular liason, but that is just my opinion.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd be worried if my future wife took the number. If she meets with him then ill need an explanation and ill ole for divorce lol. I don't have time for bs like that. But maybe we'll be sexually more open and start swinging who knows. Right now id file for divorce. But if a lady I approached was married or had a bf I'd back off.
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RHP User
11 years ago
you have opened up another box so to speak with your last comment, Pandora's that is.....One liners are BS, honestly if someone cannot use their wit to make conversation at the drop of a hat, interest is zilch, here at least. Plenty of pretenders out there, not many contenders.Good luck with that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Often attractive guys will give me a grin at the supermarket and some fly in to help me reach things but then they walk straight off, looking shy and even blushing a little. It frustrates me! We have both exchanged flirty smiles and perhaps banter but they bail. They have no idea that all they have to do is ask if I'm interested in meeting up for a coffee sometime. Recently I was walking up a busy street and a man on a scooter suddenly halted to a stop beside me, his face lit up with a big smile and he said "you are gorgeous!!". Obviously that felt pretty good, I was very flattered. But then he looked nervous and unsure what to do next and I was in a hurry so I had to keep going. Have some confidence please men :) it makes women more likely to say yes!
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'angelwants2see' Have some confidence please men :) it makes women more likely to say yes! From the mouth of the "enemy"Thank you miss angel.Hopefully, guys will man-up and take note! DG
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madotara69
11 years ago
I believe it all happened simply because I treated her like I would a friend. I am sure that the ladies will agree, sensing a warm friendly feeling from a man would be difficult to ignore. Therefore the best thing to say to a woman you feel attracted for would be anything at all, But to her with confidence that you are befriending her. Don't forget they are smarter than us dopey buggers, and have seen countless identity checks with our person before we have spoken a word (Body language), There will be the time when they want you looking at their tits, (different than knowing).First they need to see what is inside, that is only done through the eyes. Let them look.That is just what I believe, you have an opportunity now to hear what some fine ladies may share, if they believe you ask with warmth.Mado
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