Common Courtesy?

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  xFunlovingx

  13 years ago

  Reply to all messages that I recieve...It might take me a while...but eventually I get there. As for flirts...I find that some of them have nothing I can reply with. If you send me a flirt that says...I just want to say I love your profile or I think you're hot what do you think of me (if it is not sent as an automatic flirt from the Hot or What pics) and if I send you back the only message that there is: Flattery will get you everywhere...Then you guys take that as a green light instead of taking it as just a "thanks"...If I however get the flirt ..If I message you would you reply"...then you will get an answer from me each time! As for the rude ones that don't reply at all? Do you really want to meet with stuck up people like that? xFunlovingx

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  Insolito

  13 years ago

  Hi LipsI think the 'ambiguity' of the net really lets us get away with being rude at times and I include myself in that. In a way, it 'de-personalises' people, it's easy to forget that someone is on the other end of that 'flirt' or 'message' and in that way, courtesy, can become a bit of a relic - not that I am excusing it.. because, there isn't any excuse for being rude. By the same token, it takes 'approaches' to a whole new level, and people become brave in sending a note or flirt to a woman or man, that in 'real' life, they would consider to be way out of their league - in real life, if they were cheeky enough to do it, they would accept that rejection was a possible consequence and already have that 'protective' mantle in place..and it, the rejection would fall harmlessly by the wayside. I dunno.. that's just my thoughts.. of course, the more I voice my 'opinion'.. the more I realise how hopelessly out of step I am with the majority.. lol. Like everything on here.. take it with a huge pinch of salt.. then grab a handful.. because, likely u will need that too xxx

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Like fun loving I reply to ALL my messages, even if it’s a polite thanks but no thanks….however I must admit I do ignore flirts and I state that quite clearly on my profile..at the very beginning of it..and still people ignore that and keep sending me flirts !!! so whose rude then ?? Personally I think flirts are pointless and a waste of time, they tell me nothing, and rarely lead to anything….and as fun loving pointed out there never seems to be an appropriate one to reply with anyway , so I don’t bother…to me if you really want to be successful on this site, dig deep and invest in a membership, (it’s not that dear !! – the price of three bourbons if you live in Perth !!!) make an effort and send a deliteful intriguing message instead….if your serious, then show intent . To each their own though…if flirting works for you then good luck with that…… …but like I said, I state quite clearly in my profile… please don’t bother “flirting” with me…as I won’t reply and I don’t… – my prerogative –if I miss out the “Next Big Thing”….trust me..I will live with that…

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I would reply to all the "You're exactly what I'm looking for, please message me I'm keen" but they don't have a "Kiss my arse you tightwad" reply.. Why on earth would or should I reply to a flirt asking me to waste one of my paid for messages to reply to someone who is completely NOT in any of my 'looking fors'

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Common courtesy ain't so common no more.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I actually think it's quite rude to expect me to send the first message if the person clearly isn't anywhere near what I am looking for.......after all, I didn't go searching for the flirter in fact the ones Im talking about aren't even on my radar

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Lips is a member and if he sends out five appropriately thought out messages each day he can freely respond to any women who reply to him.I would use your flirts to gain those womens attention and then correspond with them.I think sooner or later someone will cross your path. (maybe not a tiger!) You might want to add a few other types of photos.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Beneath_blueeyes I didn't even notice until you said. I agree, tigers are rare around here Lol

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Other than "I'm a bitch. So shoot me". If you are outside my age limits, you'd better have more going for you than "fuk yr hot do me!!!" quite frankly, this stood even when I was single. Now, even more so. If you want my attention, EARN IT!!!!!! Handing over cash to a third party... Um, no, I'm sorry, I'm just not that easy. If you are in my age and location requirements, you'd better be special. If you are OUTSIDE my requirements, you'd best be EXTRAORDINARY. Surely, this is not that hard to understand...?

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  xFunlovingx

  13 years ago

  You did send me a flirt a while ago LipsAhoy...You are in WA and I am in Vic....What do you expect me to reply to you when my profile says Melbourne Men Only? Maybe you are just not getting replies as you don't read the profiles at all...they are the funny symbols UNDER the pics! If you are out of their age range or from another State...the chances of getting replies is almost zero! xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  we'll respond....if its obvious our profiles been read.... or if the message is reasonable and polite...but if its an 'i wanna fuck you so bad' message,or its from an attached guy, we'll delete and block.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  LipsAhoyWhat to you want to achieve when you send a flirts. Is it to initiate contact, get attention, say hello a flirt can mean anything. And what do you do if you get a reply, do YOU send a message or do you expect the woman to send one?Because most people here have heaps of flirts to send, some send them out to every damn woman they 'think' might respond. Why should a woman reply to your flirt if you are not what she is looking for - do you read a profile first? As Funlovin said above, you sent her a flirt where clearly you don't match her criteria, what was the use in that?If you want to make contact, send a well written message. Sure you might not always get a reply, some women here just do not reply unless you fit every criteria they have listed (and some they haven't listed but expect you to guess).

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  ...oh my! This isn't Kansas, Dorothy...we are in Oz. | Why in the fuck I said that...I have no idea, but it seemed almost as random and sending out flirts and hoping to get responses from the ladies here that are up to the beautiful bares in messages, let along trying to sort out the flirts. | Just watch out for the Munchkins.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I look at flirts, then look at the profile. If it's a know it is a no I put them with the rest to do a polite no thanks later (if they are offline and I have time I do it straight away.) If it's a compliment or a question I answer via a msg. I can never seem to get on top them of it but am going to give it another shot today if I can get off the forums lol!!!I prefer messages but flirts are okay too in my world.Cass xxx

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Its a fact that I dont reply to every flirt or message. Not immediately. Sometimes I save them up until I have something worth saying. That's because I am a guest and do not have an unlimited opportunity to respond in a way that I would if I have one shot at it. Other times, I just send dribble. lolz. I'm so complicated sometimes I dont even know what I am doing! :pHugsStalky

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  Kampalina

  13 years ago

  Interesting post to resurface from time to time. Yes I am guilty of not replying to all flirts, messages and chat requests. As CM pointed out, women do tend to receive a larger volume of these, and yes time management does take over at times. Also as DGT commented, if there is no common interest or match to our profile then perhaps the sender hasnt bothered to read our profile, so why would we bother to reply. In the times I have, "thankyou but I dont see our planets colliding and wish you the best for the future" reply, I then receive a message asking me to explain why not?? And the "I loved your profile" flirt or messages doesnt have a 'thank's button to press. There is no leading question here to respond to.   I loved what Mooka had advised in the commen about setting a clear objective as to what you want to get out the contact. As I have always believed, set a clear goal (intent), act or behave to achieve it and you will have a clear outcome of your objective. If whatever it is isnt working, when you change the behaviour you change the outcome.   Which Beneath Blue Eyes also suggested to try adding a few other pics to improve responses.   I know it might seem to be discourteous at times when a flirt or message isnt replied to, but the revolting reactions to a "no thanks" has deterred many female members from replying if they just aren't interested.   Hope this helps

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I would say it all evens itself out in the end. Men STOP communicating after they've done the deed and move on, and we females don't always communicate before.I agree with the above that there's not always suitable replies for flirts, etc and to reply individually isn't that easy. We'd be sitting here 'til Christmas and never getting out on a meet.

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  LipsAhoy

  13 years ago

  Hey all. Thanks for the replies. They have been very interesting. I only send flirts to get the attention first. If that works, then i will send a message. Maybe i am one of the few men that actually respect women.Not meaning to blow my own trumpet. Probably should state in my profile why i send flirts first?

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