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Common Respect and Manners

March 01 2008

I know this has been covered before, and may always be an issue in this scene, but... After phoning and chatting, then arranging to travel and meet a keen couple down south, we felt a little peeved that after a good night of food and drinks, we would hear nothing more from them. Arrangements were made to meet again on the 2nd nite with the assumption of some play. Little did we expect No contact, no call, no sms. Nothing to indicate a change of plan. One would like to think that respect was a small price and that some form of contact made to cancel. This makes all of us wary of others, and limits trust in those who share similar fun. Or did we just naively go into something without accepting this as the norm? Hope fully we can meet some nicer, more reliable friends and players in our area, rather than travelling to Bunno again. Not sour grapes, we respect ourselves and others.

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    Fully agree that it is only good manners,more so if they have travelled to meet you,to contact someone to cancel any further meetings even if it is to only say by txt sorry but there was no spark etc but was nice meeting you. It has happened to us also that this sort of scenario happens but we personally would always contact someone to let them know it was a no-go. T & J

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    We agree with you, manners and respect for others seem to disappear on this sort of site. We have had couple call off meeting an hour before without a apology. Peoples ignorance and lack of respect on here never cease to amaze us

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    I agree - I am always keep dates that I make - and am tired of those who don't.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    It seems often that in the Myers-like rush to satisfy our every desire, people don't mind trampling over each other. Selfish. But not everyone is like that. Only the wankers - you know who you are.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    It seems to be a common complaint with the genuine couples here. There is no problem if people don't hit it off, just be honest and move on. But worse is when people arrange to meet and just don't show. We all but left RHP for some while after it happened a couple of times in a row. I don't think there can be an answer, we have tried all the chat, swap photo's, talk on phone routines and it doesn't seem to make any difference. Others have suggested a rating system, but it is open to abuse both positive & negative and would degenerate into something useless in no time at all. Thankfully, there are some genuine couples here who make the site worthwhile.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    As a southwest couple please accept our apologies, it has happened before and will happen again, All SW couples are not all like that. We have had similar experiences travelling to Perth. Don't let it put you off in the future. Hope you can meet up with someone close to home for some great fun. Again apologies from the SW.

  • twowithnolimits

    twowithnolimits

    17 years ago

    We are with you We too have noticed that peoples manners disappear when they are chasing sex, be it failing to acknoledge a contact, not sticking to arrangements or keeping their word or just behaving badly and then expecting to be invited into the bedroom (or wherever) We play often and those who have done the right thing can attest to the rewards Bad manners are right up there with bad profiles, prejudices and one sentence messages Maybe the profile should have a little tick box labelled genuine ?? Dont despair there are plenty of genuine players on here P&n

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    Thanks for the replies. shame its all in agreement to my whinge. Update.. Have heard from couple, obviously they read my notice. Unfortunately We cant forgive and forget as they had our number too. Seemed that another country couple had them pegged right from the start. Sorry it seems to put a sad note on all country ppl. Not meant this to be as we know many country ppl ourselves. when we say GENUINE we meant it, wish others did too. We may be all here for the same thing but I dont think were here to be cheap or nasty. Play the game respectfully or dont bother to contact. we will be taking more time now with chatting, just so we dont waste time and money again. On a lighter note, we have chatted to some nice ppl and will get to them real soon. CAIO

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    Hi Jawache, We never noticed your article before putting ours down it's under "DISAPPOINTED COUPLE". We are both so dissolusioned with couples on this site and because of that we never renewed our membership when it ended. You kind of start to feel, why bother! We were both so sure that this would have been a fun and easy way to meet couples and have some naughty fun but we feel it's just a meeting place for people who just want to meet new friends and no play but we're not on here to date anyone, friends are good but we want some naughty friends as well. Why is it so hard to find nice simular couples like us ????? We understand that many couples have children, work commitments etc.... We would rather couples just say after our first meet, thankyou but no thankyou, instead of false promises or worse not to reply at all. We have travelled a fair distance to meet couples and we don't mind as long as they are GENUINE but we keep falling into this huge trap of disappoinment. COUPLES OUT THERE IF WE MEET YOU AND YOU DONT THINK WE ARE YOUR TYPE PLEASE JUST SAY IT AND THAT WAY WE CAN GO AND LOOK FOR ANOTHER COUPLE.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    Here I go again with manners and responses too AND will someone please tell me those who bitch about this are the main ones who dont reply to flirts or messages... and sorry to say Jawache YOUR one of them thanks for NOT replying to our flirt or message... Maybe a good long hard look in the mirror.... what you expect is what you should deliver.... Yep, and theres our whinge again.... P&C

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    But then again the difference is that with you , we werent interested at that time. with the others mentioned in the post, we made the arrangements and travelled and met and made a date for following evening. We were contacted by you when we first joined. we all know how hectic things get when new meat comes on the market. so excuse us for not saying " No thanks". Still comes to respect. doesnt it?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    Yeh, ok, we try to reply to all... even IF we arent interested at the time.... Thanks for at least replying this time... LOL Cheers P & C

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    All here for the fun it is designed for. Please do not take our complaints too serious. if it doesnt work it doesnt work. we arent all created to get along and good friends are made with hard work and interests. Love to read forums and the feelings that get thru here. stay happy and enjoy whatever life gives you XX

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    sorry to hear about your bad luck with some fellow bunbury cpl down here jawache ,but just to let you know we arnt all like that. we as a cpl have met with four cpls down here and while we didnt conect sexualy with them all we all remain gr8 friends. we found it is good to have friends you can relate to and chat about the fun you,ve had with other's and not actualy do anything with them sexualy.we havnt as yet been let down or let down anyone we arranged to meet. So on a positive note RHP has been great fun for us,so dont give up just yet

  • RHP

    RHP User

    17 years ago

    I totally agree with Jawache, if you make arrangements then stick to them or let the other people know you are not going to be meeting them, that is only manners. With regard to responding to flirts that is a totally different matter, the person sending the flirt may not be what you are looking for, they might what something too different from what you want, and I for one do not like to send Thanks but your not what I am looking for, I prefer to just rather leave it. My winge, I might add is we have been trying to find a female in my age group, who would like to meet me, spend time getting to know each other and if we click then perhaps have some mutual pleasure, the number of females on this site that just want to email back and forward or who click on send a flirt then dissapear it is so frustrating I am at the point of forgetting the whole idea. People just don't seem to read the profile or if they do they just ignore what you have said.