M55

Common courtesy to reply to messages.

March 03 2013

I am finding it fairly frustrating that I can't at least get a "no thanks I am not interested" response to messages. I do understand that you girls do get a lot of messages and do have your pic of who you want, but us genuine blokes who don't have an 8 pack or look like Brad Pitt in a photo would just like you to take 5 seconds of your time to reply. We are not asking for much other than a little respect. I really hope I haven't set the cat among the pigeons here I just would at least like "You're an ugly prick and I am not interested". Hope you are all having a great time on here and I hope I haven't upset anyone, just venting.

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RHP User

12 years ago

I'll always reply to a message & yes, we get hundreds and hundreds, I have anyway.However, I'll only reply to a message either way, if the message is more than a sentence or two, is different, not a stupid question like, "Hey how ya goin? Wanna chat sometime?"Why would I respond to a message like that when I've got 10 others that interesting & their profile also "matches"? Not sure what you're approach is??Also the classic, "You sound interesting, can you tell me more about yourself?" FFS! The basics are in my profile, I am not going to reveal more about me in my first message back... I'd be here all week if I started doing that with everyone.Open ended questions just make me mad! LOLI think your profile could be a little more insightful...perhapsMy thoughts anyway

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RHP User

12 years ago

I agree that to not reply to a message ,is rude.....but that in itself is a reply..it says that the person hasn't been compelled ,intrigued, or had their curiosity piqued enough to reply.I looked at your profile OP and it says very little,so I suggest you say more about you and make sure that you individualise messages so that the recipient will want to reply to you ,hopefully with a positive response.

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xFunlovingx

12 years ago

Women do not get hundreds of messages a week as they would like you to believe! They get alot of messages when they first join as their profile pops up on every guys home page when she joins and the men will try and be the first to contact her....that is the only time she will be inundated with messages! The mesages then die down in most cases unless the girl gets on cam in the cam room or puts up Hot Pics/Amateur Pics! ! . Paul, the reason why some women on here don't reply is because they are here to feed their egos and will not answer any messages unless he is a male model! Most females on here are Guests (including myself) and there is no excuse not to reply at all...by the time they open your messsage and click on "Quck Reply" it is quicker than deleting the message! There is no excuse and don't let others believe that there is! Good luck and if they don't reply...It says something about their character and not yours! So don't feel disheartened! xFunlovingx

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RHP User

12 years ago

Thanks so much for comments. Picked me up a lot. Thanks to the others as well your comments about my profile are noted and I will give it some work today. Thanks again for taking the time I really appreciate it xx

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RHP User

12 years ago

I don't personally get a heck of a lot of messages, and the messages I do get are typically flirts or blokes who send out generic messages to any woman who's picture they like witthout having read her profile. How do I know this? Because any guy who reads my profile and who is not a fool can see I'm not here for JUST sex and so they don't bother because they ARE here JUST for sex. The messages flirts I get are from people who don't respect me enough to even take five minutes to see if they match what I'm looking for and a further two minutes to write something personalised, and if they can't spare me that time and consideration then they don't deserve even a "no thanks" from me let-a-lone a screw. So what do YOU write Paul? are you expecting respect and consideration from women who you have not afforded that same? Although SOME of us might act and seem that way, MOST of us aren't just a pussy, most of us are human. Take the time, do something to stand out and make US realise you (like SOME guys) aren't just a DICK! (But this is just my opinion) Love Bee xo

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RHP User

12 years ago

We always replied to our messages when I was on here with the Mr.Only ever had one nasty response in the several years we were on here.It's easy to set up an auto-reply to save time for those who get too many messages. I understand that non-matching messages could be ignored and that's understandable. If a woman has her inbox set for matching messages only, she won't even see non-mtching messages. Peachy

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RHP User

12 years ago

it isnt just you not receiving replies Paul. When I was a paid memebr (I have let it lapse for a while now - just too busy) I too did not get responses to messages sent from both female and male profiles alike even after taking the time to read the profile and tailor my message to suit. I didnt take it personally and just felt that theyre not worthy of a follow up. Kisses Focus

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RHP User

12 years ago

I agree that it says something about the people that don't take the time to say Thanks, but no thanks. I wrote a couple of templates ages ago, one for single men and one for couples, which is three sentences long. Most of the time I will get a response thanking me for my reply. But when you write, make sure your message heading does not say "hi" or "hey babe", or something. That is an instant no for a lot of us. And mention something in the profile in your message. In my profile I specifically request this, so it makes it very easy to see who took the time to look further than my photos. Good luck!

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RHP User

12 years ago

I agree its rude, so i always make an effort to write back, even if its a polite "not my type" response...and i get quite a few so at times it can be arduous, but if they took the time to write to me, ill take the time to respond

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Women do not get hundreds of messages a week as they would like you to believe! They get alot of messages when they first join as their profile pops up on every guys home page when she joins and the men will try and be the first to contact her....that is the only time she will be inundated with messages! The mesages then die down in most cases unless the girl gets on cam in the cam room or puts up Hot Pics/Amateur Pics! ! . Paul, the reason why some women on here don't reply is because they are here to feed their egos and will not answer any messages unless he is a male model! Most females on here are Guests (including myself) and there is no excuse not to reply at all...by the time they open your messsage and click on "Quck Reply" it is quicker than deleting the message! There is no excuse and don't let others believe that there is! Good luck and if they don't reply...It says something about their character and not yours! So don't feel disheartened! xFunlovingx I joined just before Christmas, I am now close 1000 messages.I have no nude photos of me up, I never have. And I've never gone into web cam. Or whatever it's called.

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RHP User

12 years ago

Quoting 'OneEmerald' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Women do not get hundreds of messages a week as they would like you to believe! They get alot of messages when they first join as their profile pops up on every guys home page when she joins and the men will try and be the first to contact her....that is the only time she will be inundated with messages! The mesages then die down in most cases unless the girl gets on cam in the cam room or puts up Hot Pics/Amateur Pics! ! . xFunlovingx I joined just before Christmas, I am now close 1000 messages.I have no nude photos of me up, I never have. And I've never gone into web cam. Or whatever it's called.OE. You joined during the holiday period when most people were away or catching up with friends and family. For them, you are still the new joiner and your profile must still be popping up on their home page Hey, don't all of you women know? Guys love a challenge. Nothing turns a guy on more than a girl who is hard to get. A girl who is impossible to get makes men try even harder. We can be a bit dense in that way. After all, it was a beautiful woman, Pandora who opened the box and left hope behind.

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xFunlovingx

12 years ago

Quoting 'OneEmerald' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Women do not get hundreds of messages a week as they would like you to believe! They get alot of messages when they first join as their profile pops up on every guys home page when she joins and the men will try and be the first to contact her....that is the only time she will be inundated with messages! The mesages then die down in most cases unless the girl gets on cam in the cam room or puts up Hot Pics/Amateur Pics! ! . Paul, the reason why some women on here don't reply is because they are here to feed their egos and will not answer any messages unless he is a male model! Most females on here are Guests (including myself) and there is no excuse not to reply at all...by the time they open your messsage and click on "Quck Reply" it is quicker than deleting the message! There is no excuse and don't let others believe that there is! Good luck and if they don't reply...It says something about their character and not yours! So don't feel disheartened! xFunlovingx I joined just before Christmas, I am now close 1000 messages.I have no nude photos of me up, I never have. And I've never gone into web cam. Or whatever it's called.Not only does a new girls profile go ion every man's News Feed but it also does when you put up a new pic! I get it all the time in my News Feeds "JoeBlow has just joined and is looking for you, come over and take a look"! or "JoeBlow has just downloaded some new profile pics, come over and take a look" So, it doesn't only happen to women...it happens to men too! What I love about this Site is that when messages like that do appear not every male can contact you..on some other sites ALL men can contact you from around the world! At least here they have to be a member to message girls when they are new! It doesn't matter...naked pics (well that kind of does matter I guess)...face pics...clothed body pics...no pic at all...The fact that a new female has joined is like throwing one chip in the middle of thousand seagulls! Watch them swarm lol. xFunlovingx

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RHP User

12 years ago

Not much i can say that hasn't already been said,keep your chin up and don't give up,something will come your way.PS keep on posting threads on da forums as i have found that this can increase your chances of getting mail and/or replies,although some of da mail can be a little off putting at times lol,jsk

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