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Companionship and FWB
September 23 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
An FWB is a companion but a companion does not always come with benefits. Companionship is based on friendship which can be described as a relationship. But not a love relationship. Okay I see what you mean. Lol. A companion is someone you have a friendship with, or common interest, or common circumstance, etc but does not involve sex or love. Therefore you can be companions AND lovers, they are two different things. And you can be lovers but not companions.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is it important to adhere to such rigid definitions ? I like a Companion I can Fuck . I like an FWB I can hang out with . But I've learned that if you have a Companion with Intimacy , this can be misunderstood . Both people have to be on the same page . All feelings have to be spoken of . I've found it hard to have FWB's Because if you spend too long as Companions , one person may assume that there is something more to the Friendship . I know what I want , at this time in my Life . It's just not that easy to find others who are looking for the same thing. And so my Epic Journey continues... GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
IMHO...FWB = Someone you can rely on as you would any other friend with the benefit of occasional sex. (Think Girlfriend/Boyfriend with out the clingy stuff).Companion = Same as a FWB but with more of a deeper emotional tie... often reflected in living together and being more committed to each other than a FWB. (Think Boyfriend/Girlfriend with some of the gooey clingy stuff).I'd love to have someone adjust my thinking on this... will be on the couch in the corner watching with interest with a glass of something refreshing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Two nuns can be companions.... It doesn't have anything to do with a sexual relationship at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Two nuns can be companions.... It doesn't have anything to do with a sexual relationship at all. True... I just took the question to relate to grading or relationships with both sexual and emotional intimacy involved.I do have to admit a large amount of naivety with regards to the terms, my education in this area is probably very lacking. Thus why I happily stand corrected (and I won't even go into the cliche B grade porno's with Nuns in them...)
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RHP User
11 years ago
can be your cat or your dog or just a friend,non sexual or even paid to spend time with you..a paid companion...elderly people in Jane Austen's time often had paid companions,often impoverished family members,like a neice.A FWB is more than a lover,someone that you spend time with outside of the bedroom....hope this helps and of course it is just my opinion Ms.Gem
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RHP User
11 years ago
sometimes even when you think you are on the same page,you get lost in translation
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MisterGreen' Is it important to adhere to such rigid definitions ? I like a Companion I can Fuck . I like an FWB I can hang out with . But I've learned that if you have a Companion with Intimacy , this can be misunderstood . Both people have to be on the same page . All feelings have to be spoken of . I've found it hard to have FWB's Because if you spend too long as Companions , one person may assume that there is something more to the Friendship . I know what I want , at this time in my Life . It's just not that easy to find others who are looking for the same thing. And so my Epic Journey continues... GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile Make all the world of difference.what you need to be is very clear, say thisI just want to fuck you now and again, when I feel like it.I will not have any attachment to you, so do not even go there.the problem is that ambiguity that men use to get into panties. They like to seduce, to say your special kinda girl, there is something about you that really turns me on, and the beat of bullshit goes on and onI rather like those honest men that speak to me with an honest cockit says, I want to fuck you, and if we end up friends so what but my primary goal is to fuck you.Companions are not people you fuck, including your dogA companion is a person that you have a nice easy going relationship with mostly in your old age when your cock goes limp or your cunt dries out.Friends with benefit is a person that you enjoy in the bedroom, the benefit is sex , thats about it.Unless you have a tradie lover and then the benefits could be you get your roof fixed, your plumbing done and you can get your house rewired for a blow job with swallow.Mr Green, man up and say I am here for the pussy, and thats it. That way you will stop all the pretty girls thinking Ohhh Mr Green is such a sexy beast and he is wants only moiYOU my dear need to tell em they are dreaming and that way you will be on the same Page.
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is close to something I want to talk about...........so I like Lady T in saying a fwb benefit is the fucking.
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Beachlover1999
11 years ago
Blimey I have no chance of getting it right!!!! Lolololololololol Maybe I should just remain the bonking mad cat lady!!!!!!........lolol :0))))
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think a FWB's comes before a lover - In my mind it goes like this: FB- sex, no emotion, no strings, no social meets. It's transactional ....Tuesday next week suit you? Yes, good, I'll book the room. FWB's - a friendship beyond sex, probably be in each other's lives even without the sex........Hey, do you want to catch a movie on Friday, then we'll head home for some crazy hot sex? LOVER - emotionally attached, strings galore! Desire to spend a considerable amount of time together, support each other emotionally, speak/ catch up most days........hey, beautiful man, how about you grab a bottle of red and come around to my place tonight. I'll cook dinner.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks Lady_Tuscan , I'm here for the Vajayjay . And I'm also pretty handy around the house ;) GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ms.K,just my opinion...if I have sex with someone then they're a lover.I don't subscribe to the RHP gospel of No Strings,imo there are always strings.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' Ms.K,just my opinion...if I have sex with someone then they're a lover.I don't subscribe to the RHP gospel of No Strings,imo there are always strings. Your honesty and clarity on this is refreshing. Is it our age I wonder? I think the same as you Freya. He might be a short-term lover, or a long term lover, but a lover none the less.
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
I think a companion n fwb can be one of the same! You can have a companion for life with or without sex. But in saying this I think a companion would be someone I would prefer to be in my life more then a fwb, as they can come n go...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think in today's society there is toooooo many labels on relationships, which confuses a lot of people.As long as there is open and honest communication between parties, you know where you stand then.To me a companion is a long term intimate relationship - it does not have to mean having sex - it is more focused on the relationship it's self!When I say "companion" I mean they are a companion.More a best friend and if the sex is there, well it's there, if not it's not.It's a choice between people involved to be sexual or not.A FWB to me there is two types.1) Long term and 2) short term.It is a relationship or some sort.I don't care what anyone says...there are emotions and feelings involved- an investment or some sort.To me it is some sort of relationship based on friendship with the added benefit of a sexual relationship thrown in.If long Term can be a companionship as well.As long as people know where they stand by communicating open and honestly with each, either labeling it or not, can be a beautiful thing if all parties involve agree and is happy to what it is.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Companion = movie and a decaf soy latteFWB = Movie with fondling followed by cocktails and a hot fuck !
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RHP User
11 years ago
A FWB is not only the sex but the ability to be able to just be completely yourself... You are able to talk about anything and then have sex after it all without judgment ;)
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madotara69
11 years ago
When we did, we mentioned the kids and work ect,etc. In reply they said that they do not usually share their personal life for playmeets. Though they did entertain the chance with being FWB.Our understanding for that was, a fuck is just a Fuck (fair enough).Or we enjoy sitting around the BBQ, let the kids run themselves into a deep sleep, Then fuck, now and then. (fair enough)The levels with companionship apply in both circumstances, they just have different meanings. Mado Tara xx
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
And me too at present. Twice I have written up a reply to this and twice it has suddenly disappeared whilst trying to edit. Oh well, carry on regardless. Anyway, (sigh), after reading all the responses above I believe the poor OP is probably just as confused as when she started. It is obvious everyone has slightly different ideas on what the terms should mean, which no doubt helps with the overall confusion for the OP. In my humble opinion, I believe Kaleidoscope has come closest to what a consensus would agree with, but I have just a slight clarification of my own. A FWB is a friendship with (regular) sex, ie in that it is expected as part of the situation, rather than as beyond sex (maybe semantics ?). Further, as K writes, a FWB comes before the 'lover' stage, but it does not have to come into the equation at all. If two people are looking from the outset to have a committed relationship, in can develop straight from companionship to lovers. And my lovely Freya, I have to say you are upholding to some old fashioned ideals. It is indeed very possible to have sex without strings and falling into the 'lover' category - in fact, I'd say that's what the majority are here for. People have many needs, and sometimes a 'quick shag' is just what the doctor ordered. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
FWB's can develop from a friendship or it can develop from a FB situation. I've experienced both. And no it's not necessarily a stage that you move through to become lovers.- Posted from rhpmobile
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Plain
11 years ago
The English language has lots of edges to it but I like Freyas thinking on this any person you have sex with is a lover and no matter how short or long the relationship lasts what even with NSA, there are still strings attached even if they are in your head as in day dream or memorable tryst that you may have had that stays and wont go away. Be careful as they can inadvertently get you into trouble one day, by calling your lady for eg a name an earlier era, a string that can choke. LOL
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
thanks, thanks, thanks. Being a good tall gal ya'self you'd probably appreciate the 'point'. Love ur intro pic xx Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can see your point. It's all in the definition of the word lover. Lovers are certainly where the best sex and heightened emotions reside, and are my preference, just not always easy to find that combination of physical, emotional and mental stimulation that makes the perfect lover. A FB is a bit like a service call....I have a leaky tap, can you come Tuesday and fix it? If I have a lover in my life then I don't need the service call!- Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kaleidoscope'A FB is a bit like a service call....I have a leaky tap, can you come Tuesday and fix it? If I have a lover in my life then I don't need the service call!- Posted from rhpmobile Or you could do what my former wife did, go out with/ marry a guy who was in the building trade (ie me). Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Tall just a tad patronising imo,I am a woman who actually thinks that the person I am having sex with is a person...not just a cock on a body...I hate the distancing of our humanity that NSA implies and I am not a volunteer hooker...emotional attachment is something else again...I choose to have lovers,you may choose something else ...even the term Fuck Buddy implies some connection.I think people here are obsessed with labels,as Foxy said it's all about how you communicate your wants and needs....not the tattoo on ya forehead.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I didn't see your post,should have included you in my iconoclastic rant.,,we are talking about people,I am a person,the people I have sex with whether just once,twice or thrice are people.Labelling people is a way of distancing ourselves from the person.Yes I have a hole,but its the whole person I have sex with,they don't just have sex with my hole,they have sex with ME...otherwise I would prfer to sit on my finger..there ends this rant..and btw,sex is never just about sex...now I am done...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not disagreeing with you. Perhaps the labels are distancing ......but then perhaps that's why I do it? Perhaps that's why so many of us on here do it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Freya I never intend to be patronising to anyone, and apologize if it came across that way. Again, it is a matter of communication and interpretation, as we all have differing ideas on terminology. We appear to have differing ideas of attachment and what they mean, and no disrespect intended on any level. Personally my idea of a lover is someone who is of a longer term 'acquaintance', not someone who may happen to fill a quick void at a point in time. It appears we just have different parameters for the definition. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
My FWB is showing he truly is a friend at present. Had major surgery less than 2 weeks ago, now have a downtime of 4-6 with no sex/physical strain. He has been over numerous times, taken me to the movies, helped pick up all the things I've dropped on the floor, plus plus. So yes, presently he is the friend, when I am better he will get the benefits.
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RHP User
11 years ago
thank you for the apology but I don't understand why seeing a person as a person rather than as a ''service''is old fashioned.Once again this is just MY opinion and many people here would agree with you but when we distance ourselves from another's humanity when it comes to sharing our bodies,how much easier it becomes then to distance ourselves from another's humanity in the context of everyday life....just read the Beggars can't be choosers thread x Freya
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Plain
11 years ago
I think its about time we got back to what we are.Humans in need of a cuddle, kiss and a shag if needs be and respect why you are doing it and not label why. There are always links, the basic chemistry is the spark and if aint there it stops there. In truth both are the same companionship and FWB, one might lead to the other and the obvious might not lead to its destiny. We change in our relationships with people for lots of reasons, most times for the obvious, that what you write is not who you are in real life on a meet for instance.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
It appears we could carry on with this discussion for quite some time without an agreeable resolution to either. As you will note from the couple of threads above Kaleidoscope and myself are more along the same lines of thinking, which differ from yourself. There is our uniqueness in work - we all are individuals with individual lines of thinking ! As you have noted, when we interact with another person, it is the whole person we do so with, not just a part of them. But I (and K) are separating the level of emotional involvement from the physical involvement, and I would dare to say, that is the greater part of why this site exists. I would suggest that this is an example of 'distancing humanity' is stringing the bow a little in excess. I am still quite capable of empathising with others plight as you have nominated in the other forum subject - indeed it has nothing to do with how I think or react to the subject at hand. As I have previously stated Freya, I believe it is just that we have different parameters for how we define, as can be evidenced by K's responses also. And again therein lies the beauty of us humans - we all see things in a slightly different light and to share and enjoy those differences with one another. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am NOT talking about emotional attachment, I am talking about catergorising people like commodities...that is how we distance another from our humanity and theirs. ...they are not a whole person they are just a tool to service an itch and that is what is usually paid for.As Lady Tuscan said,we are not unpaid hookers.
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madotara69
11 years ago
a companion is someone you want to carry with or the memories for ever, and a fwb is something that you may carry for a moment.one to hang onto , or one that you can let go.Mado
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