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Condom use in clubs

February 18 2019

Hi We are newbies intending on visiting our first club very soon. As a nurse and having seen the risks involved many times we are absolutely not prepared to play without condoms (including oral). Is this the normal etiquette in swinger clubs in Brisbane or Sydney or are we likely to be turned down because of it? Thanks in advance!

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  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    6 years ago

    In my experience, I've almost never seen condoms used for oral, and I've only seen bareback sex between pre-existing couples. Are you extending your hopes to use of a dam for cunnilingus? Never seen that either.

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    6 years ago

    Haha..... sorry for the giggles but maybe you guys should just organise a private play party and boil your playmates prior to entry? 😋😅 Never seen condoms used for oral.... male or female. And certainly wouldn't want to give or receive with that level of protection.

  • sw1ng3rz

    sw1ng3rz

    6 years ago

    No one wants to suck on a plastic bag. Where is the fun in that lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    What sort of nasties have you seen as the result of oral?

  • OkeyDoke45

    OkeyDoke45

    6 years ago

    Oral with condoms? What about the dental dams? Seriously, just stay at home - and I'm not trying to be nasty there. If you take away all the tactile and gustatory stuff, sex is just...

  • OkeyDoke45

    OkeyDoke45

    6 years ago

    But I found one. It would be like being given flour and water and asked to make something tasty.

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    6 years ago

    Just curious if you practice what you preach?? You state in your profile the Female practices safe sex for ALL activities but the Male Safe Sex for intercourse?

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    6 years ago

    While condom use for oral might be rare, we're sure there'll be people out there for you! But the reaction from the others might have hinted that it could make the hunt for people a bit harder. Unfortunately that's just the reality of it, condoms for sex definitely, for oral... We all take risks doing this, it's you're choice to work out what your level of acceptable risk is. If you're into podcasts have a listen to "by the bi" episode 144 with Copper Becket from "life on the swing set", he has an interesting take on it. Don't think his level of safety is something we could get into, but no judgment!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    HPV, herpes, syphillis, gonorrhoea, chlamydia...HIV All easily spread and contracted via oral route. May be latent or active. May be symptomatic or asymptomatic. A female dam can be easily fashioned from a condom. Snip the open end off and the slice down the middle to open it out into a sheet. If you want SAFER sex, demand it. If someone doesn't want to they can say no. Let them off. None of us know the status of others health and well being. In this space (RHP) it's fair to imagine the worst and opt to have safer sex. I am a RN too. I feel you.

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    6 years ago

    *Cooper.... bloody autocorrect! When safety includes glad wrap and rubber gloves it's moved into kinky rather than safe for us! But who are we to judge

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Never been to one. But if that's how you want to play then stick to it. You're entitled to play that way. From what I can ascertain the majority don't use protection for oral sex (but I dont' have a statistically sound sample...). What I've found, when you click with the right people they'll see you beyond just sucking and fucking and will be more than happy to accommodate your boundaries because they get you and see that it's about the shared experience with you and the enjoyment of each other than whether there's a piece of latex there or not. If someone is going to reject you solely because you have that standard of safe sex it seems a bit shallow to me. But on the other side of the coin, I'm not saying all those that draw the line at having to use protected oral are just there for fucking and sucking, it could just be their personal preference, and unprotected is what they desire. That's their choice and they're entitled to it too. I do however think it's hypocritical of people to have 'safe sex for all activities' on their profiles and think that statement shouldn't include oral sex in that. But once again, that's just how some people view it, and just be aware of it. I'm not perfect myself, there's probably a bit of hypocrite in all of us if we look enough...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Scientific research suggests HIV and many other diseases are difficult to transmit through oral and you need to be unlucky or have a low immune system to contract them that way. I was curious to see what a medical practitioner has actually treated.

  • fitsyd

    fitsyd

    6 years ago

    I think you should do what you are comfortable with. As a single guy in the lifestyle and having played at clubs, the etiquette I’ve seen is to always check what your partner would like, no matter how hot and bothered everyone is 😋 if someone doesn’t agree with your request, you can always gently move away or say no. 100% of the clubs I’ve been to would support that.

  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    6 years ago

    Don't forget about herpes from kissing. Maybe that's behind the no kissing rule for some haha. The safest sex might be like the scene from The Naked Gun, full body condom/latex :p