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Confusion about NSA.....
April 12 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ok this is my take on it If its not a one night stand and you continue seeing someone be it for sex, and the occasional outing, then you are in a "relationship" of sorts because one is assuming that you are sharing stuff and developing intimacy on some level You start chatting about your days at work, your family, you pet dog because that's what conversation is, it meanders along, here and there and you start sharing before you even know it. Small things or significant parts of your life, either voluntarily or involuntarily. I believe NSA is a cop out. It gives people the excuse to bail when it suits them usually if a drama is about to transpire, that drama called outside life. I'm not saying that's a bad thing but once you start sharing with one, it usually compounds. Show me any relationship where its all kept at arms length. I doubt it very much as usually (not always) but usually once one starts sharing their body, their mind, bits and pieces of their lives with another, one tends to develop feelings for the other. This is standard human nature So IMHO NSA is for a one night stop over sex and no expectation of any follow-up Anything else is the start of something. Something that may only last a few days, weeks, months or even years but its something. What you have to define is what that "something" is for you and to them
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've always treated it as different. NSA to me is sex meetups, wether that be as a couple or group, and then walk away till next time..... FWB on the other hand combines the two, all the social going out meets that you mention, plus sex, fun and play
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RHP User
10 years ago
Personally I dislike the term NSA. To have have a great connection sexually or mentally. There has to be some level of respect and friendship. To me they are strings then in that context. NSA to me feels like it means someone wants only to just say hi get there dick wet and leave. I'm sure there are some who just want that and I'm not knocking it. I just think some words conjur up different thoughts for everyone. I would prefer the wording casual fwb. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
fuck buddy/nsa: you arrive, you fuck, you leave. Fwb: someone that you hang out with alone; dinners, movies, car races, whatever.....and....you fuck. Relationship: involved in all parts of ones intimate lives, kids, parents, family outings etc...and vice versa.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
As sir stir summarised. FWB have strings just less strings and knots than the ball of twine that is a relationship. How will you feel if your FWB is unavailable because he is out with someone else for the evening?Consider how you will feel at this scenario after having shared several liasons, dinners etc and enjoy their company. Only you can answer that. if it wont bother you, then there are no strings. if perhaps you feel a little awkward or strange in the stomach, then that is a string tugging at your insides and emotions. We can go into a NSA with the intended result. The strings can start growing without warning. Then its too late. Good luck
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is not macramé ..I like a little macramé .But just a small wall hanging.not a whole carpet.thats far too many pieces of twine....I don't like to be too entwined xxFreya
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Single_Guy4U
10 years ago
I believe you can have a FWB as NSA or NSA as a FWB, as long (the same as everything else), everyone is upfront and honest about what they want and are doing. A one night stand can also have strings if you have spent time getting ready and go out and the date does not show up, (bet you would be upset). All comes down to being upfront and honest, and if both are upfront & honest about what they want then I believe you can have NSA FWB, or a FWB with NSA without any issues, (or strings).
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
NSA is a simple anagram which really means very little.I often wonder why so menu people feel so compelled to state they're seeking NSA arrangements in here. IF you shag someone, and want to do it again, that is a 'string'..... and unless its a totally unsatisfactory experience (and if thats the case, your screening methods need questioning!).... then, why wouldn't you want to do it again ?!! But if you want to put labels on things, call it a bonk buddy ... I feel it more correctly represents the friendship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If both parties are on the same page with similar expectations going in... then fingers crossed nobody has a bad experience.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks heaps guys my thoughts and impression on this dreaded NSA are somewhat clearer now to a degree, what I perceived it to be was slightly right but everyone has their opinion on it and that is great as we are all different and think along different lines. I agree with Ms_Silk that it is terminology that I dislike, but we all have our opinions on it. If we are all upfront and honest right from the get go then it shouldn't end up in someone getting hurt or feeling like a cheap hooker cause you didn't know that the other partner was after that elusive quick f&@? and out the door looking for the next one. Maybe I am just to old school and old fashion in this respect, but given the nature of this site one should always have that in the back of your mind, so that feelings are not hurt and you just learn from the experience and move onto someone more worthy of your company. Once again thanks heaps for your views and comments 😊
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bonk buddy... cute. And far less crass than fuck buddy... which is the label I use most often. But, then again, I am just a bogan miner lol. Much love,Elle xx
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erotictouch4u
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' I don't like to be too entwined xxFreya Stopping at MFM rather than an MMFMM ? ET xox
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RHP User
10 years ago
you should try donut dunker 😝💋💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You crack me up
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madotara69
10 years ago
Explained it in their way as NSA was people they would have sex with when first meeting them, though not bring personal life into it with people they don't know, purely casual. If they got on with some and meeting up became more regular then they would enjoy having some FWB and invite them for normal family type social get togethers with the benefit of sex a naughty bonus. That's just safeguarding those closest, their family from people who have not shown a nature trustworthy with sex in the mix and understand it well in that sense. Maybe there is different versions of the same terms, that could make it confusing. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Any_Whichway' How will you feel if your FWB is unavailable because he is out with someone else for the evening?Consider how you will feel at this scenario after having shared several liasons, dinners etc and enjoy their company. Only you can answer that. if it wont bother you, then there are no strings. I have a couple of people in my life who I know see other people. I like them very much and consider myself to be in a relationship of sorts with them, but I am not bothered that they are not exclusive to me, as I am not to them. Non-monogamy doesn't necessarily equal no strings. Personally I find the NSA phrase very useful as a screening tool to weed out those I want nothing to do with. I don't care how awesome the rest of your profile is, if your 'I'm looking for' section contains the phrase "I'm looking for NSA fun with people seeking the same" then I am instantly disinterested.
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RHP User
10 years ago
NSA is a nothing term. As mischievous said, if you see someone more than once, then there is a string. The string is that you enjoyed their company enough to want to see them a second or third time irrespective of whether you do more together like go out to dinner or have a drink etc. I think single people use it to mask their own fear of any sort of commitment and they can use it as an excuse to bail out of a situation if they become more attached than they originally intended.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Understand the point and agree. Just putting the scenario to the OP. Some people can do the NSA and some cant. She needs to clear up any confusion about it all.
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
will mean different things to many people so make sure you ask what it means to the person who you are in contact with. This topic has been cover many times in the past and all that becomes clear ( and un-confusing) is that there is always a myriad of definitions depending on who replies. I quite like it when someone has it on their profile as it shows me who to avoid. Generally they have just used the generic profile builder (no personal input).....or they genuinely want no strings, just a fuck. Either way, I am not interested in NSA at that base level.
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RHP User
10 years ago
No string said the spider to the fly. Who would believe that two people could fuck, be friends and not some how have emotional attachment, dependencies, strings. I do wonder sometimes that you all might be a bunch of 18year olds pretending to be adults. If you want no string pay someone to entertain you. They wont care if you dont call them, they wont care if you are busy and cant see them, In fact they may not even care that they don't know your name. Did you cry the other day, ha who cares, they will do their thing and promptly on the bell move along, and if you disappear they wont notice you are gone. What a life that is totally free of strings, utterly devoid of feelings, without a moment of reflection, and so horrifically hauntingly wrong!. This will also inevitable result in you carrying a fishing boat full of lines, nets, ropes and miles and miles of string. Ready to latch on to anything that shows even a little bit of interest. Lets hope you can tie a loop, not use rope when some twine should do. And do you have the strength to hold on? Strings can be quite a ride. String is good, enjoy it when you have it, do not get hung up in it, use it to construct a tapestry for your ongoing years. For to be thread bare in your later life will make it very hard to spin a yarn and have some laughs with your lovely clingy stringy friends. With out string they will all just disappear. Said the spider to the fly.
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RHP User
10 years ago
... I'd sooner ask the individual/s concerned exactly what they mean by it - both to avoid confusion and assuming otherwise.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Come over here.... I'll clear up any confusion you have..... lol
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RapidFyr
10 years ago
Individual that uses the NSA tag to be blunt, hurtful or cold when they feel like it... Loving this thread, thank you OP for posting, and for all the replies. Love a thread that makes me think. I like a little string. I got tied up in knots once. Or twice. I wouldn't trade those experiences for the world ;-) Mrs RF x - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Yes agree, a bit of string = good experience. But when a big tangle develops and wraps around your neck, the scissors always seem just out of reach.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' IF you shag someone, and want to do it again, that is a 'string'..... and unless its a totally unsatisfactory experience (and if thats the case, your screening methods need questioning!).... then, why wouldn't you want to do it again ?!! Anything more than a one-night-stand will have strings in my views. Whether it's just wanting to see someone, liking them, asking how their kids are, making a plan to catch up, etc. Something ongoing in my opinion means you're involved in each other's lives, in whichever way, and you have some sort of relationship with each other, even if it's just as fuck buddies. Also, everything Ruby said.
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RHP User
10 years ago
NSA to me stands for No Spooning Afterwards. Gotta have the spooning!
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gazpacho
10 years ago
Nsa... No expectations, one time, no names, grunt and grown get your rocks off and go arrangement.. Friends with benefits.... Expectation of friendship.... Expectation of shag buddy... Expectations are the difference I think. Hugs Gazp
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