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  Phoenix_Rising

  5 years ago

  I suggest you don’t start by telling them that if you don’t like what they say you’ll report them.

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  Mischeviouslad

  5 years ago

  I will take your comments as presented You dont get an omelette simply by throwing the egg at a pan and expecting it to magically work out If you “often strike out before even getting a sentence in”.... there are three reasons why 1. How you present 2. how you approach 3. Who you approach Lets consider the following logically Question. Have you ever asked a stranger for directions? Did they palm you off? Answer No = because people are usually kind and friendly Yes = you either found someone having a bad moment, or 1 & 2 were a significant problem So 1. Ask a trusted female friend how you present. Approaching is a deeper discussion. But if 1 is ok, then 2&3 need analysing 2.... dont approach anyone with your agenda of seeking anything, other than directions or assistance. If you hold no agenda, your agenda wont fail and people wont be as guarded. Focus on being open and friendly and ‘interesting’ and people usually mirror that back. Only once you have rapport can you progress further. Only by being interesting will people become interested. 3. Learn to observe who is approachable and who is not Talking to others doesnt need to be more complicated than that.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  Can you define what you mean by rude ? Rude as in 1. Saying naughtee adult words like cock rather then penis or 2. You sound like a.... Need the info so we don’t get reported to the federal special forces division of the csiro ! Kisses from funks

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  86Jasindy

  5 years ago

  If you are talking about online, one line messages that have little in them are likely to not get a response, or a quick thanx but no thanx. Online, I would read through their profile, people appreciate that and tie something in about something they said in it to show. Keep the first message to 3 paragraphs or so, one asking questions about what they might like based on what you read, one a little about your interests, and one with a suggestion of a date or something that might be fun to do together. In person, I love being caught of guard. A stranger throwing in some humor into an otherwise boring situation. Or a gentlemanly act, like allowing you to be served first at a supermarket saying "you look busier than I do, would you like to go first?" then helping lift some heavy items out of the trolly. I personally cringe at pick up lines, but being caught off guard in an everyday situation and something to make me smile and think about is more likely to work

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  FeistyFatty

  5 years ago

  If you're consistently striking out.... why not try doing the exact opposite of what you currently do?🤷‍♀️

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  Phoenix_Rising

  5 years ago

  I also think if this is an idication of how your conversations go I can see why you’re failing, despite your own initial rudeness you got some responses, you were offered suggestions and asked some questions yet you aren’t engaging. Why ask for help if you don’t want it?

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  wildcrazyloving

  5 years ago

  Some times our defences are unconscious. Check-in with your confidence. You might find the right words.. Though that's only a fraction of the formula.

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