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Cost of a sex life

January 15 2015

Mainly a question for the purely single guys ( without a bunch of fwb's etc). Is the amount you may spend on swinger's nights (plus travel) etc an issue for you, or do you tend not to think about it, as many other forms of social outings, food, drink or entertainment can cost just as much? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • inspirit

    inspirit

    10 years ago

    HUH HUH :-P - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    For the answers on this one :)))

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    a night out is a night out.... The cost is not nearly as important as the person with whom you're sharing it with. By that I mean you could have a fun time with fish and chips on the beach with someone you genuinely like....and it costs fuck all... But change the company and add a fine dining experience and it's expensive on the hip pocket as well as the heart.... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I would like to know how much a "single" guy is prepared to spend on a lady for the privilege of having Sex with her, full stop !!! The reason why I call it a "privilege" is because I think it is !!! It is with me anyway. Amy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I fully agree with you sir_stir. If you're with the right person who sets your heart and "pants" on fire, you don't need to spend a whole heap of money just to be with them. Even a quiet night in cuddling and kissing while trying to watch a DVD will suffice. It's all about "the person" you are with and nothing else matters !!! It still would be "heaven" on the couch. Amy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Like any financial decision it's wise to think about what will it cost all up, what is it worth to you, is it affordable (right now), is this option the best option, etc. Other thoughts specific to a swingers party might be - Is it a cost, or an investment? Is it a necessity or a wish/bucket list thing? Will it be as good as the host reckons? And given your hilarious post on another thread - is it really worth having a pet cave-salamander? who's going to feed it when I'm not home? what if it escapes? where will it go? Would it be better to just get a low maintenance blue healer, they're always fun.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Now... Im not into paying to coerce sex from or with someone... in any form..... so I can't answer from the "swingers clubs" perspective. But.... life costs.... and Im going to go out and have my fun anyway (life =$) If someone joins me = life $+/- .... depending on what she pays for. Similarly, if I stay home and enjoy a bottle of wine and cook dinner.... = $If someone joins me, life = $0 because next time, she'll do the same at her home, or take me out.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    A great sex life priceless ? 😘

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Serenity2000' I would like to know how much a "single" guy is prepared to spend on a lady for the privilege of having Sex with her, full stop !!! The reason why I call it a "privilege" is because I think it is !!! It is with me anyway. Amy $0. When the day comes that I am required or expected to provide food and drink in return for sex I think I'll just wank myself off, probably in a McDonalds carpark with bits of french fries spilt all over me and greasy Big Mac hands. I couldn't think of anything more off-putting than sitting opposite someone at dinner knowing if I get the wine selection wrong I might end up in that same Maccas carpark. Alone.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Sometimes it's a Privelige to have sex with him !!! Where is it that we are doing mankind a favour ?

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    10 years ago

    Are you the official supplier of the Big Mac special sauce? :p

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'kissk' Are you the official supplier of the Big Mac special sauce? :p I used to be, but then more and more McD's franchises opened and it just became impossible for me to keep up supply.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    The first post is just awful but then she seems to over turns what she says in her second post??? JG I agree, I really dislike this attitude like a women do men a favour to sleep with them. :(

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    The way you have framed the question suggests that there is perhaps some inner shame about 'paying for sex' as it were? I could be wrong but that's the way it comes across. so is cost the real issue or is it that you perhaps feel shame for 'paying' to play?

  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    10 years ago

    Nothing is cheap anymore. Even a trip with the family (6 of us) to the bowling alley or pictures adds up.For us though a night of RHP fun is generally a lot more expensive than any other social night when it is just the two of us.We live out of town so either have to pay for a hotel for the night or drive nearly two hours home (usually at 2,3 or 4 in the morning-lol). Add to that the cost of babysitters as it gets hard thinking of another excuse/lie to tell the family where we are going if the kids stay at their place for the night.So yes it does cost but it is a fun secret lifestyle.Mr Luvsilver

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' The first post is just awful but then she seems to over turns what she says in her second post??? JG I agree, I really dislike this attitude like a women do men a favour to sleep with them. :( The notion that sex is viewed by some as some kind of currency is pretty unsettling. Almost as unsettling as the thought of JG wanking in a Maccas carpark somewhere if I dared to suggest he'd have to pay for my happy meal in order to get lucky when we got home *shudder* OP, you directed your post at single guys and I think what you are trying to establish is whether or not there's some kind of 'cost of doing business' associated with being a single male. However, I doubt very much that your cost of doing business as a single male is any more or less significant than my cost of doing business as a female in an open relationship. But then I doubt that my cost of doing business is all that different from a single female's, or a married man's or ... . As Mischievouslad says, these are life costs, aren't they? And in asking this question, I wonder whether you think that being single costs more than being in a relationship? *just curious* . Flirty x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I'm no great at "picking up" on the town or getting people to meet from online dating. So for me, over the last few months, I have only had fun at swingers nights. Which, normally at about $100 plus say $30 fuel each time, does add up, especially if you wanted to have fun say once a week. But I hope asking the question does not make me a come across as a "tight arse".

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ...It doesn't cost anything (or much) to have sex with your partner or special friend, but that is not who I was mainly directing the question at.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I don't count the cost of it. Trying put a dollar value on it is pointless. What experiences you have is what counts.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Opportunity Cost. I suppose there are time when weighing up options of night out and one's sex life, you make decision X and on another occasion you'd make decision Y. Same as going to the pub, a club, to dinner or staying at home with the TV. In this case the experience will come into it and it will also be what is the motivation at the time. There are times I want to play with myself, there are times I want a 1-1, there are times I want MM, times I wan MF and times I want a group experience. Cost is not generally the motivation to do or not do something.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Oh but I love tight arses!!! *slurp*. $130 bucks for a really good night out is worth it. Just depends on your budget, but yes can get a little expensive if you are going all the time. But do you actually mingle with other swingers? Surely you might be able to pick up a friend or two to occasionally meet up outside of the swingers club.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' Quoting 'Meeka100' The first post is just awful but then she seems to over turns what she says in her second post??? JG I agree, I really dislike this attitude like a women do men a favour to sleep with them. :( The notion that sex is viewed by some as some kind of currency is pretty unsettling. Almost as unsettling as the thought of JG wanking in a Maccas carpark somewhere if I dared to suggest he'd have to pay for my happy meal in order to get lucky when we got home *shudder* . Flirty x Oh I wouldn't mind. Fuck I thought we were talking big ticket meals, I'd shout someone a happy meal in exchange for sex no questions asked. Heck I'd even let them upgrade the drink to a thick-shake.

  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Jean_Girard' Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' Quoting 'Meeka100' The first post is just awful but then she seems to over turns what she says in her second post??? JG I agree, I really dislike this attitude like a women do men a favour to sleep with them. :( The notion that sex is viewed by some as some kind of currency is pretty unsettling. Almost as unsettling as the thought of JG wanking in a Maccas carpark somewhere if I dared to suggest he'd have to pay for my happy meal in order to get lucky when we got home *shudder* . Flirty x Oh I wouldn't mind. Fuck I thought we were talking big ticket meals, I'd shout someone a happy meal in exchange for sex no questions asked. Heck I'd even let them upgrade the drink to a thick-shake. The free toy could also come in handy Mr Luvsilver