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Cougar Question
August 27 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
....I say go for it. Forget what others say you should be doing. If the two of you are secure enough in your relationship to handle it and you both want to, I say.....Carpe Diem
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RHP User
11 years ago
be happy.Fuck what others think, it's your call. Maybe let him make the arrangements ? Otherwise the "cougar" is going to feel like a commodity ! I'm sure she would like to know that he desires her and is prepared to go after her and that there is pleasure and fun in it for her rather than simply being procured by the management for his entertainment.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can go with guys a lot younger than me, but cant with younger women in the mixthat is because I have daughters and it just seems a bit odd for me to go there.If it was just me and your husband not a problem at all.I think it may be hard for other women that have younger sons.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi! Ange and Partner:) I'm a Mature Woman who enjoys Younger Males. I've no problem with the fact your Partner and you are Attached because you're aware of him seeking Mature Women and cool with it. ..I do however have an issue as 50sKool mentioned is the Fact you're seeking for Him .Basically it comes across to me atleast, that you're Pimping for him it is very uncomfortable like 50sKool said we feel not just Like a Commodity but a whore and I've too much self respect and class to want to be viewed in that way, even if it's not you're Intention, which I feel is the case... There's nothing wrong with you checking out some Profiles together or even taking their IDs down if you've more time to do this than He does and at a Later date He makes Contact Not You.. It's his Fantasy so he should be seeking and Making Contact. So both can chat 1-1 get to know each others needs Desires Personality.. Arrange to meet if it's working... I suggest you reconsider how you're approaching this part of your Sexual Relationship .You'll be more successful if you allow him to seek choose for himself.. Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
If your good with it and he's good with it, then no problems!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry just re read what I wrote, in all the searching and all the talking, we have been together, by no means am I trading him as a commodity or pimping him out, lol Ange
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think we all understood what you were saying. If his fantasy doesn't bother you and you are secure enough to support him. Do what you both feel comfortable with.. Jay
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RHP User
11 years ago
there are at least three threads atm hunting for cougars,who according to one poster are the under 45s...any woman older is an Alleycat.....and then there are as LadyT says...the Polecats,flexible ,sexy,older women who can shimmy up ya pole
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Fantasyplus
11 years ago
Go for it....every marriage is different...we try and make as many of our fantasy's come true as possible if it's not with each other then someone else....I see nothing wrong with it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey Ange:) Thank you Hun for clarifying that you seek together. I think that's a very healthy way to be in your Marriage:) Well! Done!! You didn't come across in your vibes to me that you were Pimping, rather wanting to Please Your Partner. quite innocent reason. I felt it needed to be brought to your attention that you were coming across in that way which wasn't very comfortable to a Portion of Women.. I hope once you've chosen together that your Partner makes 1st Contact and you step back so that both of them can have Privacy and get to know each other. When the times right ,either she asks to make contact with you have a chat, or he wishes introduce you because it's time for a chat with the other Woman. I wouldn't like to think My correspondence wasn't being read by you in real time or discussed between yourselves later.. What I share in My MSGs are very Private:) Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it's great that you're open and honest with each other about what you want and accept each other as you are. I think that it really comes down to how most people consider love and sex as almost one and the same. My wife and I have an open relationship and when I told one woman this recently, she was adamant that I couldn't really love my wife if I wanted to sleep with other women (ironically, she was in her mid 30's and twice divorced). Your marriage is probably stronger than most so keep doing what you do and enjoy yourselves :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey hun :) I hope you're well and Happy :)Thanks for clarifying what a Cougar is.. Frankly I don't like the term anyway so under45s can have it. I'm certainly No Alley Cat either.Wondering out at Night waiting to be fucked by scrawny smelly, matted Males a couple of times a year.. Hell! NO!! I don't require Guys who Only Fuck! as most of you know, for me it's Connecting and Sex is a beautiful Celebration of it. Polecat mmmmmmm Maybe aside from being flexible and slidding up their Pole he!he!. I'm more Like the "Queen" Feline. A Female Hunter who takes Males on to do her bidding and get what she wants for her pleasure he! he!.. Enjoy Lu :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think from the Courger's point of view is that she is prob more worried bout being seen as a pursuit where for her she is just chasing a fantasy. I myself now refuse to speak to a another womens husband. I was friends and I saw it as just friends with a couple and the husband thought that just because I was single, it was his right to hit on me. This all played out in front of his partner with out either of us knowing and im so glad I was the one yelling and walking away but the partner still had to blame someone and why not the cougar. Hance we will never be friends again because I was called a "lose women" and I have to say that hurt more the being called a slut... so your response in your trust to him and her would have thrown her for a six. If all that makes sense....
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RHP User
11 years ago
People have different views on cougars. I think it is up to both the individuals, if both agree to it then you both might enjoy the experience :). There is also alot of couples who don't like to share their partners...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Shaizbe, I hesitate to play with attached men, because I have been on the wrong side of that scenario. (Mind you that was a long term monogamous marriage - or so I thought, lol). At the end of the day, if the couple has no issue with it, then keep looking..... Taking into account the Cougars's self respect & need to feel true passion & desire to achieve a happy climax for all. But even though I like younger men & men my own age too...... I know my own strengths & weaknesses, so I am cautious to involve myself with a man who has a loving partner already. Look together....... Explain openly to the cougar, however don't think of the No's as rejection or judgement of yourselves, the cougar is merely making a choice based on her own experiences & self awareness. Stay happy & keep smiling the right cougar will pounce on the opportunity :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've always had a thing for a cute older women with a high sex drive is a big turn on something about an older women who just loves her cock
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you misunderstood the whole thing a little...CumFckus85 is in an open relationship where its like a totally different world from what most people, including you, understand.. They get joy and pleasure from knowing and seeing that their partner is living his or her sexual dreams. They get pleasure from knowing that their partner is having awesome sex with an other person...at the end of the day it arouses them and brings them closer together. If you can get your head around that, and know that you do it out of lust and not out of revenge then there is nothing wrong with allowing the other partner to be pleased and pleasured by an other. Its almost like giving your partner gifts...as long as he or she is receiving wghat they love, and as long as he or she appreciate the gift that you offer them, than why would it be wrong??? I have seen this situation with a couple friend of mine, and how well they manage it and how happy they are together is out of this world. So Mrs Cumfckus85, if you two have the understanding, if you two can give each other the gift of freedom to enjoy yourselves sexually with others as well as each other, if at the end of a date seperate you come home and have the most intimate and awesome sex together without jealousy or resentment; then I think you have really got it sorted and keep doing what you re doing as long ss you are both enjoying it. Never mind what people or society excpects ofyou. Attila
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I was growing up...or maybe more recently...when I was coming out of my early thirties, late twenties...Sex in the City came on tv...Samantha changed my whole world. I stopped being scarred of the older ladies, I stopped thinking of them as my old school teachers. My eyes have opened to the possibilities that lay out there...the wits, the spunk, the knowledge, the experience, the knowing what and how they want, the knowing how to read the play, the reassuring looks, the lack of bitchiness annd insecurity. ..I could go on all night about what a cougar usually has thata same age or younger girl often lacks. Anyway, fucking samantha ....lol...its all her fault
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm in that cougar range... or is that alleycat. Yikes. Actually inviting another person to play with your other half is sometimes very different from what you imagine it. Make sure you are very comfortable and confident in how your partner feels about you so there is no jealously. I trust my boyfriend 100% and am secure that he adores me however in threesomes with girls there are things I don't want him to do with her. I don't want him to do the lovey dovey stuff, like kissing. For me I just want them to fuck. For him, the threesomes are really more about him watching me with her. good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't know how it sits with the other women but I want to sit close by and watch him play with his / our pick while I masturbate. A women wanting to watch her man play around I suppose can be a bit rare but for us this fantasy satisfies both me and him and watching him fulfil a fantasy is probably the hottest thing for me
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