M45 F36
Couple swapping for sex
October 15 2014
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Just curious..... due to the wording used and subject is somewhat confused. You say your husband was fine with it.... but you seem to have the issue with the other woman in relation to her penetration "habits", compared to yours? IS this the M or F writing the topic? People have different sexual styles and compatibility.... and its not always possible to know these in advance. But if you regretted it, I doubt its because the sex wasnt satisfactory.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Dont worry, I understood what you were saying.. Correct me if Im wrong, but it concerned you that while you accepting full penetration and doing the right thing, she ' was holding back causing a distraction.. ? Yes ' agree, knowing this would have put your mind in another place and not fully on your own enjoyment.. Shame..
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RHP User
10 years ago
at your profile OP,and you say that you are pregnant...I don't know how far along you are but there are some risks involved in the early stages and some postions ate better than others for your comfort and the babies safety hugs Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi guys.. Sorry to hear your first experience wasn't what you desired. If you decide you want to try it again, set yourselves some rules, chat with the other couple in general conversation over a drink before you play, as it's not a one way street. Our Moto is, "All in, or nothing" that way nobody has to feel like you have explained..Good luck guys, enjoy your journey.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I assume the other woman was doing what she felt comfortable doing and to ensure that she enjoyed the night. You should also do the same. Never do something you don't want to do. Also it isn't a race ... You aren't both supposed to be doing the same thing. It's meant to be fun and sexy and enjoyable... So why are you concerned about what someone else was doing? Not everyone will be in the mood for something. Sometimes a woman might stand back and say I Just feel like watching for a bit you three carry on together, or like me I can take a while to really warm up to strangers. Honestly you shouldn't worry about it, every night is different, every person is different and all you can control is yourself. Certainly for me I know each time I become more comfortable and more at ease with everything. It's pretty confronting at first! Was for me anyway. :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think you are saying you were upset on your husbands behalf... As in he wasn't get as much as the other guy. Is that right? But as I said above, and I am sure your husband would agree, a person can't always just switch it on. Every experience is different and maybe they were enjoying the foreplay? Or maybe your guy rushed to much?
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Paradisepair
10 years ago
Sometimes it's more fun for you, sometimes more fun for him, sometimes no fun for either, sometimes great fun for everyone. Couples are hard work. Lose your expectations of equality each time and you'll have fun.
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RHP User
10 years ago
what was mentioned above about stop comparing and do not do anything that is making you feel uncomfortable just to save face, you will end up with a great deal of resentment. You're obviously going to do as you wish, but I would really caution on playing while pregnant. An unwanted STI can cause harm and death to your baby. As for playing at home with young kids there, again not the wisest idea. By all means have fun but keep it ultra safe and think about these things first and foremost. All the best.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Can I add just because you were accepting penetration does not mean you were going the right thing. That is an awful thing to say. There is no right thing or wrong thing to do when it comes to group sex ... Just what turns you on at the time, what you are into and what feels good to you. And if someone is being pushy or trying to coerce you into doing something you don't want or expects you to do certain acts, then they are doing the wrong thing. I also wanted to add that I felt a little conflicted about my first few experiences as well... And I probably went along with things that I wasn't 100% keen on, but things do improve the more confident and experienced you become. So don't give up on it yet. xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you guys plan to do it again, have the girls organise it. I have a feeling the guys organised this one which makes me almost feel like the girl was dragged along, was it their first? It certainly isn't a tit for tat thing with play, both partners will only play as much as they are comfortable. If you wanted to expand a lot on this we might be able to help give more insight, but maybe PM so its more discrete, although I am a single profile I have been in a long term relationship before with play so I understand the implications you might be feeling. I also understand not having any desire to talk to a stranger about it :) So if this is TLDR, next time have the girls organise it have the cook up scenarios of what they want to happen, and then tell the boys (drive them wild) and they will also know that's what needs to happen. Everything above board and expected = more fun for all.
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DTE_couple
10 years ago
Our opinion is that you should have had a chat about what might happen and if there was anything either of you were not happy about, then maybe that person could pinch the other partner so they no to stop what they are doing as you are not comfortable with whats going on.Setting your boundaries is very important when you are newish to the lifestyle.And then you the female should have just stopped and said you have had enough and need a break.have a quick chat about it and if you both only wanted to get back into it then it would need to be equal or not at all.If it was that important to both of you.Communication is the key !!We believe in sharing is caring. Which means when you have swapped partners. That from there on that pair is only allowed to go as far as the other pair is going as well. In most cases anyway, lol.But sometimes one pair will have a bit more fun than the other and that will happen in this lifestyle. But once you have been playing for a while it does tend to even out. You take the good with the bad and have as much fun as you can.The best thing to do is just go with the flow and chat about all the things that turned you on about the play meet you just had over the next few weeks. So it keeps turning you both on and you have much more intense sexual sessions with your main partner.Hope this helps, keep having fun......
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RHP User
10 years ago
What ? You disagreed with me.. what the ? Thats not like you . I should have known better than to have a opinion that doesnt match yours ? sorry about that..
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't understand why some men are so touchy when someone disagrees with them? At The end of the day I am entitled to disagree with you, and I can't help it if you can't handle that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meeka, you make a point of disagreeing with anything and everything I have to say so nothing new. hehe... However ' I feel very privileged to get your undivided attention...makes me feel very humbled.. xxx
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rupamohan
10 years ago
Not a direct response to the subject but here is a small suggestion considering how some threads degenerate here. You may not be complaining about other couple but sometimes other party posts retaliatory replies. Opinions are divided, where as I believe if you don't name anybody it is wrong to retaliate but some here believe people have right to retaliate even if not named if they believe it is about them. Moreover I also believe your post you set the agenda retaliation if any has to be a new post. It is best to cover yourself with a disclaimer - "this experience is NOT related to any RHP member and any similarity is merely coincidence" If anybody still retaliates that will amount to identifying a private interaction with you without your permission. It is gross violation of privacy. Users here rarely follow any rules but no harm in being more diligent.
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RHP User
10 years ago
it happens a lot. Basically they wanted another female, so she did not play as much as you. She was probably dragged along by her hubby. It happens all the time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's true I pretty much disagree with everything you say, which is why I often don't read your posts. So sorry you do not have any of my attention really. I wouldn't waste my time however your above comment caught my eye as I skimmed past and I found it disturbing enough to make a comment.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For someone who skims over my posts, you find more than enough.. But I thank you for that . ( skiming that is ) I can count on one hand those who swoop like magpie's who just cant help themselves.. Not hard, its the same few all the time... lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Forgive the interruption . Seems from everybody's reply's there's no one answer. After reading these posts it seems because everyone has their own needs , it is very hard to get everyone on the same page. Best advice is to take the time to find out what those needs are and see if it suits everyone. Its a bit late once your'e in a position you cant do much about ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Couldn't agree more.....Well written.
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