Couples - Opening Up & Getting Started

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  NewVicCpl

  4 years ago

  Was a fairly long path for us that started on a road trip when we heard Chantelle Austin talking about her book, the Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples. That started the converstaion and thoughts so we decided it would be worth getting the book and reading it together, then many more conversations before we ultimately went along to a party to see what it was like

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  funtimescouple1

  4 years ago

  We have been together for a very long time? You're in your mid twenties! It took us many years of talking, fantasising and arousing each other about seeing each other with others before we took the plunge and we wish we did it sooner. Get ready for lots of time wasters though! There are many respectful, genuine lifestyle couples out there. For us we have always treated each other with the utmost respect and with little or no pressure or jealousy in our relationship. We are married and have been for 25 years. We don't own each other. We are flexible and forgiving and get a real kick out of allowing each other to discover that other people find us sexy. You could call it our secret to a long and happy relationship but it has come quite naturally for us. Allowing your partners to be with others has to be something you both find exciting. If it's just something you can tolerate then we wouldn't advise it.

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  DonnaBrett

  4 years ago

  We've been together 24 years and started talking about swinging on our second date while talking about sexual histories and such but it took 3 years before anything happened. We just didn't know how to find playmates, it was before the internet and we didn't know about any local clubs. Our first experiences just happened with regular friends. Eventually we discovered contact magazines, then clubs, then private parties then later the internet. We've been married for 19 years, we don't label our relationship as anything other than fun. We are very tight as a couple but happily play with other people. The one most important thing (we think anyway) if you're going to try this life style is to obliterate jealousy from your thinking. Even from our first experiences jealousy has never ever been an issue. Over our 21 or so years swinging we have seen quite a few couples crash and burn due to jealousy. We started off only playing as a couple but now anything goes as in it can be together in threesomes and foursomes or bigger groups and also having fun separately, even while in different cities. We both have an open pass to play with whoever we like, we don't need to ask permission of each other first we just tell each other after the fact or sometimes will send a sexy photo to the other mid action as a surprise. For us at the end of the day it's just about having fun and don't take it too seriously. One other piece of advice though, don't get caught up in other people's relationship dramas. We're in it for sexy good times and not to be relationship counsellors LOL Good luck on your journey.

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