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Couples: Who's doing the talking?
December 30 2015
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Livingandloving2
9 years ago
Mostly it was my husband engaging in chat but he soon became concerned that I wasn't... So I have become more active in responding to flirts and messages. To be honest I trust him in screening potential playmates and prefer for him to do the groundwork... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have two profiles here and I look after both :) With both profiles, both partners have access and can look anytime they like! In my experience, a lot of times it's the man who drives the 'couple' profile, and there usually isn't a women associated with the profile ;) As long as there's open and honest communication about the site, I see no issue with you driving your profile. Mary xx
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
But it would be helpful if couples signed who was posting. A post can take on different connotations depending if the Mr or Ms posted.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Men are talking when they're hitting on me, which is practically all of the couples who contact me, without their partner's knowledge, many of whom only play together 'apparently'
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am the female and set up our account and did the initial messaging but now my partner does most of the messaging. We both have access to the account and login together and separately. We always introduce ourselves and state who is doing the talking. I think that many couple profiles are set up with mostly pics of the woman which is aimed at gaining a mans interest..... so no surprise that you tend to get the men messaging and making the initial contact. But I agree with Summer_solstice, communication is key. - Posted from rhpmobile
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LittleGiant
9 years ago
I do all of the talking on here, although we both create our own lists (one in hot, one in short list) and then get the other to check and see if they agree. If they don't, they delete from the list, if they do then the profile stays there until we've sent a message. I know Mr is capable of making a good online impression because I met him on here, but as a single female when I was looking for couples, I always preferred talking to the woman so I'm happy to do it. And I always let them know from the introductory message that it's Miss, not Mr. I think it's a good thing Strawberry, even if it isn't the norm. Miss Little x
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RHP User
9 years ago
but generally login separately. He gets frustrated with the typing and messaging side of things so I do most of the communicating. Have come across some males pretending to be couples....very frustrating. So try to keep messaging simple till we've met. Peaches☺ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I tend to do most of the online communicating as I spend a fair bit of time in the chatroom (a bit too much tbh). With the messaging I find Mrs3 usually does most of this or we do it together as I don't find it a very useful tool at all and more a waste of time. Plus she also has her single account as a guest so uses our couple account to contact any ladies who take her eye. We don't have much luck in that department (read any since we joined) so tend to mainly use messaging for parties we are throwing or just communication with online friends. We meet most people out in the real world as opposed to online as people just don't seem that interested, or the initial interest dies down and it just ends up becoming a game of message frisbee.
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luvsilver
9 years ago
I (Mr Luvsilver) do most of the forum comments and reading.We both reply to messages from couples or the odd single woman.Mrs Luvsilver replies to all the single guys. Mrs Luvsilver is the one who has always arranged meets/playdates or parties with others and who's number or KIK address is always given out.It is usually the male of a couple that she is dealing with though. Mr Luvsilver
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Missb4u
9 years ago
And this is a little off topic, but, can I request that when a post is made on the main forum from a couple profile you state who is posting, either mr or mrs. It can sometimes be really confusing. Thanks
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RHP User
9 years ago
I need a couples profile....my other personas are getting jealous :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
:p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
We both look together mostly , I usually send or reply to messages as hubby is not that keen on typing or knowing what to say !! u usually can tell straight away if it's the male messaging.. Straight up to the point one line messages !! Women are much more social and polite.. Couples we have had contact with have on the most part women to women contacting . So I think that your not alone at all .. 😉 Touch wood 'pardon the pun' we haven't had any fake (single males) couples yet .. OMG what is the point of that !! It's like you'll gonna get found out anyway so why waste people's time !! So far very great experiences and hopefully many more to come 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Im the female and run our profile. I have found a lot of females mainly messaging from couples. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mr here, We both respond to the messages we receive and send out and are fully open with each other on this site and out in the real world. Both just as capable of carrying out conversations with people and looking for our sexy potential playmates. 😉 We both check with each other in our thoughts though when we do receive a message. Texting madly away with each other to just double check as we don't take this lightly. The fakes emerged early on when we first started and we quickly learnt the telltale traits of them. Blaaaah! Both of us are here for the world to see and just wish the same could be said for every other couples profile out there. I get frustrated with it because it's not fair on the girls if they can't see the guys. Just as its not fair not knowing who has posted the comments from a couples profile. Great experiences so far. Best wishes to you all! 😊😆 Mr K - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Pretty much all the contact I have had from couples has been initiated by the male half. All too frequently they are looking to play without their partner's knowledge- which is fine, I mean I cant be hypocritical now can I lol, but at least I am upfront about my situation - in which case they really should have a single profile. It makes it much easier when either party identifies themself so I know who is who! - Posted from rhpmobile
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mr_mrs_average
9 years ago
Mr A here We both started the chatting together, however, the guys just wanted to talk dirty to mrs A so she decided to let me do the chatting and surfing the profiles. Mrs A does do some reading and surfing but nearly all the chatting and messaging is from mr A.
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RHP User
9 years ago
hello, how am i able to contact you???
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RHP User
9 years ago
hello, how can i contact you?
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Who really knows what's lurking at the other end of a keyboard. For all we know those women in here from couples profiles could be the man typing their responses. And merely saying "this is the Mrs talking" doesn't make the claim true. A healthy dose of screening skepticism is required when 'meeting' people in Internet sites of any kind. DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thank you. That's really good advice.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am the women and I do all the ground work and communicating my hubby isnt that good with computers etc, but tells me what to say if the communication is him i type it. but we go on together I guess its not the usual but we are not the "normal" either I suppose!! We love each other and he has a thing about me with another younger guy to join us I was opposed to it at first way out my comfort zone but I gave it a go for him and find myself enjoying it and discovered a whole new sexual being in me that I was totally unaware existed!!!
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LittleGiant
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Who really knows what's lurking at the other end of a keyboard. For all we know those women in here from couples profiles could be the man typing their responses. And merely saying "this is the Mrs talking" doesn't make the claim true. A healthy dose of screening skepticism is required when 'meeting' people in Internet sites of any kind. DG - Posted from rhpmobile I knew someone would figure out my unique and cunning approach to draw those single women in. Better come up with a genius new plan In all seriousness though, yes scepticism is a great tool to have when online dating (and in any situation, really) but some people take it too far to the point of paranoia. The amount of demands for 'proof' that I was a single female (when I was on here as as a verified and validated one) were ridiculous to the point of being rude - especially when they initiated contact. When it comes to couples, provided they were verified (and validations were always good, too), I didn't mind so much about setting up a meeting in a public place. I never had a single guy rock up either. Only once did I request webcamming with a female of a couple because I had doubts - and that worked out fine, too. ...Apologies for totally off-topic response OP! Miss Little xx
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ReyandJean
9 years ago
Mr mainly here, primarily because the Mrs regards the internet as a waste of time and prefers a more direct approach via parties and venues over the multistage email, drinks, etc etc.that the internet entails, plus the time wasted meeting couples that aren't, couples that won't, and couples that won't do. Too judgmental? Mr is optimistic enough to believe some day the internet will prove more useful than simply a contact medium for couples we have already met in the flesh. Besides he likes the words of wisdom dispensed in the forums.
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happy0450
9 years ago
Reading your post and the responses of RHP Girls and Guys has changed my perspective a little. However, still would want communication/meet with both parties. The story.... I got a message from a couple (the guy) as his wife "loves getting f..ked hard" by another guy. Nothing particularly odd with that. As communication went on, the rules became clearer.."no pre-meet, no kissing, no gentle touching, no words of affection, no compliments.. apparently demands were fine. As this was unfolding I was wondering whose fantasy was this. I asked if his wife was totally comfortable and it was at least mutual. I got a blase and indifferent response. I did get an offer to meet with him a see some photos of "The Wife" which clearly in his mind was going to be the tipping point. This RHPer my be naive, however is it reasonable to have at least a brief photo call with the female party to gauge the level of enthusiasm or otherwise ? I get the whole mystery Ninja thing, however I don't think 60 seconds on the phone a a week or so before the hook up would kill the allure ?
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Justdoingstuff
9 years ago
We only send messages and flirts together, we have replied individually to approaches though. We have a no taking one for the team rule, so if one of us is not OK with a suitor we are able to say no. So when someone has approached us that one of us is not attracted to or just isn't feeling it we have replied with a no individually. Usually though we are both together when we read messages and reply etc.
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zzzyyyxxx
9 years ago
we tend to go through phases as to who does what. But we find it funny when in chat rooms & guys start hitting on wife when she is not even at keyboard, can be hilarious fun :) Our other site profile clearly say no single men so they are fair game.
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RHP User
9 years ago
so we both have the log-in details and share the messaging fun. Although I think Mr Fun may send a few more than me. He is not a chatter, I don't mind it - if the chats are entertaining - I have a short attention span. As for the forums, yeah, 99% of the time it will be me who'll blurt something out. Mr Fun will read them but rarely, if ever comment. I do forget to say it me though, sorry about that, I am probably too busy ordering my disordered thoughts. Having read the feedback, i promise to be a good girl from now on. :) Mrs Fun (oh, that really was easy!)
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Taby_DK
9 years ago
Like you @Stawberry I (female) set up our profile, wrote it, decided what photo's to use & Im also the one who regularly updates it. I also reply to any messages we are sent and when we get to the number exchange stage I always exchange numbers female to female and do all of the communicating and organizing when it comes to meets :) I also post amateur pic sets from time to time and post up events when we decided we want to host a swingers party and I post to the forums when I have time lol Mr logs into the account about once a day to have a look but thats about as much as he does on the site lol Taby xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I do 90% of the communication, on emails and chat....hubby gets frustrated with typing and how to word things correctly. He does most of the searching online. We tend to meet people at events and clubs rather than connecting online first. Has worked really well for us. Have come across numerous Couple and Female profiles that are actually men in hiding. We learned that rather quickly, and though not jaded, are definitely more circumspect. Cheers Shaz
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RHP User
9 years ago
We both have access to our profile and post individually and together, we find kik and what'sapp really works well and a few messages in and we will try and move the conversation to there. Kik and what'sapp are good because ideally all four of you can talk in a group conversation wherever you are and it's also easy to share videos and pics, We know it can be totally innocent but we're always suspicious of profiles with just the man talking especially if that profile is unverified with no validations. If we ask for a profile to self validate and they get shitty about it that's a massive alarm call. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Totally agree that it seems a lot of profiles and chat is driven by the male half. One only needs to witness how many couples cams are just the male half in a dark room wanking ...not that I am complaining - more eye candy for me!! Jamie and I both have logins but to date its only been me in the chat room and messaging as he is more into meeting at parties and clubs and he travels a lot! There is no hard and fast rule...just what ever works for you as a couple is the best path to take. xxSophie
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RHP User
9 years ago
Although this is a new profile (returning members) we have a system in place that we have used for the past few years while swinging. He corresponds with all the males as he knows what I like and has a (good) habit of weeding out undesirables although I do have input into who we pick in the end. I correspond with all the females & generally couples (if we decide to play with a couple), we tend to find this system works well. Only had a few misses compared to the hits which is unusual for these sites.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Im the female, i usually do the search but sometimes he does it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
The male here does all the talking, finding suitable new friends and weeds out the idiots. We will always meet a couple as a couple for dinner or a drink though and all chat from there before taking the next step.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mrs K here. I am the female, and it is me (90% of the time anyways) who does the answering and the talking. This is mostly because W is at work and I always am on the computer/laptop for studying or at home. I set up our account too, because W isn't so great with putting his thoughts into words. Yes those might be my boobs as a profile picture because I am not really that shy and I like that picture, but we have his photos in a private album and give access to view when hubby gives his approval. We talk about everything, he views/reads everything and if he disagrees with something I have said or agreed to he is more than capable of letting me know.We have no intentions of playing alone, so anyone we meet we would meet together.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I promise you all I am the f tying all the time
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RHP User
9 years ago
Typo
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RHP User
9 years ago
?!
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P69D69
9 years ago
Mr here, Mrs gets me to do the talking. We are about honesty, hence we don't care about showing our faces. Tried other sites but seemed to only get time wasters and people wanting nudes of which we would not do. Its good here where you can get validated as real people. Can someone, please tell me if they can see the profile picture as my wife when she died her hair pink? I changed it from my picture to hers last night but right now it shows as no pictures. When i check the pictures its labelled as main picture though appears not to be showing as the profile picture?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Im the female and do all the chatting / looking about, my partner Luke occasionally peaks over my shoulder and has a look but Im always driving. I guess its because im more confident in this situation I've been to private parties and clubs before but he hasn't so Im trying to ease him into the lifestyle.
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RHP User
9 years ago
How do we get verified? Also does it matter if your verified or not? Our picture was showing up yesterday but seems to be blurred today
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P69D69
9 years ago
Thanks for suggestion. Our photo's i hope are not being used elsewhere? We are varified. I think the problem was the photo size. I've resized the photos and they are now showing. If you have seen our photos anywhere else, can you please let me know. :)
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Sexygirlnus
9 years ago
We both reply to adds and we think that the chick half is probably a bit more direct and has a bit more sucsess
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RHP User
9 years ago
We're both new to the threesome/couples scene and it's difficult to only reply when we're together as we don't live in the same town. We both have access to our profile and I tend to be doing most of the chatting but Mr Ying has sent the odd initial message. Mr Ying tends to send more flirts but we communicate with each other a lot about interactions in here and have agreed on boundaries when chatting on behalf of both of us. I do try to remember to let people know which one of us has sent the message. Ms Yang
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ThingsnStuff
9 years ago
I am generally the one who checks the forums and thus end up checking the messages etc though before anything progresses to far we both get involved in replying to messages as in the end if we're both not keen on it then it just won't happen. Though we have not managed to meet many people using RHP. (And now our odds have dropped even lower due to location) I still find enjoyment in browsing the forums and seeing people opinions and the various subjects that arise. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
We both have access and Mrs checks messages and responds most of the time, but I join in the conversations as well. Any posting on the forums is me though as I do enjoy a good chat. We were on here previously where I looked after it all but this seems to work much better as we are both keeping up with things in real time.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I do almost all of the talking but hubby is happy with that and all messages are in line with what we both want - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ours is a couples profile but I'm the one looking for what I want. He's got a profile on another site and I have a separate one there to which is stated in our profiles. We are looking for different things at times but we discuss everything! Here it's more about me and how I want to say things! And I prefer to talk to the female, not the male! That way I know she is onboard and not just a bloke pretending cause we've all met a few of them! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
To be honest, I am the female of the couple who has been the main driver of this journey. I reply to all messages and do all the talking, communicating etc in chat, etc. I always run messages I send and receive by hubby. I do find that a great deal of men are doing the talking and as many have raised in this post, how many of these profiles are serious. I have been fooled too by photos where a man poses in many pics with an ex. We are enjoying our journey!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hello mr n Mrs a
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hello You like our profile
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OzRednecks
8 years ago
Hi. Great topic.I am the she of heshe and I do 95% of the communicating on here (I type faster ;) )But we are always together when we come on here. It wouldn't bother me if he came on here without me and vice vera but we just never do. Always together when we are online. Wishing everyone who reads this, an awesome morning/day/night
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spunkynhunky
8 years ago
I do most of the talking, I'm more patient with messaging etc though sometimes hubby will jump on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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larocker00
8 years ago
Ours is s couples profile where I do the posting after my after my wife's approval. She is usually occupied with other things :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Both of us read message and replies We always sign off whon has written the first message or 2 but after that people can assume who ever signed off last is who you are talking too. Most of the time the number you will get is Mr B as I have had to many strange experiences but will give you my kik because I can easily block if needed MrsB - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We both talk, I (mr) do more chatting overall. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Male here, I'm the more chatty of the two of us but we are always in contact and compare notes. We both have login details and would never meet anyone without both of us agreeing. Most nights we are together when we are online though. - Posted from rhpmobile
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