Couples are "difficult" ?

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  Hottie1

  10 years ago

  Four people finding each other interesting, attractive etc to play with. We have found the same and it has only been through parties that we have played with other couples as a couple. Mary xx

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  MsSuperFoxy

  10 years ago

  Welcome....I would see that as "clicking with both people in the couple". I have read it time and time again on here about couples just clicking with one of the couple, not two of the couple. I assume it's harder for couples than being single on here meeting people, as dynamics are different.. More people to consider, personalities, individual likes/dislikes that sort if thing. Foxy

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Perhaps she meant she she felt like a third wheel or an outsider? Time and time again I see couples on here that are in it for themselves. The "I want to give you to my husband as his birthday present" or "I've always wanted to see my wife with another girl". I've been contacted by many of these couples myself, and always wonder what (if anything) would be in it for me. It's great they are so close and willing to give each other a special gift, but I'm not a toy.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  There are plenty of couples out there that we can all get along with socially but they don't necessarily lead on to a play. We have met some wonderful couples, their profile ticks all the right boxes, photos show they scrub up well and an exchange of a few messages tell us they could be fun and are looking for what we are looking for. We are pretty upfront with our play preferences and we make that clear in our profile and exchange of messages. We like what we like and as a result it will discount a number of couples. When you do arrange a meet you either find that there's a bit chemistry there or there isn't. It's not just me liking the guy or Mr TTF liking the woman it's the 4 x way thing! For us if we aren't all on the same page all feel comfortable with each other then then it's a no. That's our experience anyway!! Mrs TTF x - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  .. to find 1 to click with let alone 4... even 3 can be a challenge, so the odd's are against you from the start. I believe that to make it work without too much drama , someone might need to compromise or miss out all together..

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I would love to have you as a toy Meander. Sometimes with couples it's like an eye for an eye. If you make a move then the other side make a move. If I fuck your Mrs or Mr then the other couple respond with the same thing. But I think when it really works is when you talk about what you after and make it clear. If you start playing and start to do things that the other couple doesn't like or are in to then it won't be a very good outcome. Jealousy is a big thing. A lot of couples have a fantasy but they haven't run it through properly or talked about it. And when they found themselves confronted with the fantasy it might be quite overwhelming. Humans are individuals and even if we have partners we play and enjoy ourselves as individuals. We all want different things.And what is your fantasy might not be mine. I have had encounters when people have got too drunk and then things can get nasty and you end up in a domestic. I organize lots of parties and I'm very good at making people feel welcome. So if you want to meet some nice people come along to any of my events.

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  rootratandlady

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'Meander' I've been contacted by many of these couples myself, and always wonder what (if anything) would be in it for me. It's great they are so close and willing to give each other a special gift, but I'm not a toy. That is the problem we seem to find. We want to have fun where all are involved, more often than not end up with a couple where the guy has been so focussed on watching his partner, that our lady feels like the third wheel, or other similar situations.We aren't giving up, but feel your pain lol.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  A lot of people on RHP, want results 'NOW', especially new-comers. And they get frustrated when pushed back or made to wait. The more experienced people I have met - aren't beating their meat over the next meet-up. They have hobbies, work and social lives outside of RHP. RHP is just a tool, and is used for finding new prospects from time-to-time. So when you establish a connection, don't get impatient and feel like the other party is being 'difficult'. They are just living their lives, and your time will come. Just work on making more connections and maintaining the ones you have already made. There are three couples on here who are pretty much the only people I still see from this website. And I will only ever see them once every couple months. My sex life doesn't end with RHP. For a lot of new-comers this isn't the case. If you are getting impatient you might want to spend some time off RHP. I promise you, everyone loves sex.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  As per Surfside alludes too some couples have too many rules about the play & are difficult to meet due to time restrictions.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  To me meeting people in person is a far better read on what people are like vs the internet. Yes you have this nice profile section where you can talk about you, what you're looking for, put some pretty pictures up. Yet you could spend 5-10 minutes talking to someone in real life and get a much different impression. And part of the difficulty is, even though people communicate back and forth with messages, you've got no idea whether they were in the middle of sorting out their local business, between cooking tea for the family, or other factors going on that may effect their communication style and 'impressions'. So even though I may be getting a 'read' on someone online, I try to keep all this mind and be aware that some people appearing to be 'difficult' may in the right social face to face situation turn out to be lovely people. I also keep in mind more than likely whilst peoples profiles may state their 'ideal' situation, wants and desires, people do indeed change how they feel about certain things etc over time or under the right social setting. If you can't be bothered reading my long winded explanation - simple fact to me is, social gatherings or meeting people in a face to face situation where the phone isn't ringing, people are relaxed and there's no set expectations other than just a chat etc is a far better way to navigate people's wants, needs, desires... and if nothing comes of it, you've gotten to know a little bit more about who someone is really

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  DynamicCouple36

  10 years ago

  We have met several couples that we see regularly for dinner & drinks. Not yet played with them as we are getting to know them and as such they have become good friends. Our advice is not to rush into things that one may regret. At the least we have met some nice people and made new friends. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Freudian slip, Meeks? ;-)

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Bearing in mind that I'm relatively new here my idealistic outlook will probably be shot down in smoking flames by you lot in seconds 😝😝 but here goes.... In my opinion, if I'm invited to join a couple then I'm being invited into thier world and as such there's a little effort that I should make to ensure I engage both...me personally, I don't think this is any effort at all but considering there's plenty of people out there that can't even be bothered acknowledging a message then I wonder what effort they would put in in the flesh? Secondly as part of being invited into "thier world" I feel that there should be a significant level of respect shown to both, be a good listener, be attentive and above all else remember they are the couple so there are two people so you need to engage both...again I don't see this as an issue or hard work or whatever...it's just the way I am..again, from what I read here there's probably a lot that just want to get thier rocks off (ten minutes ago) and so they then are pushy....go back and refer to my comments about respect.. And even if it is just a one off afternoon roll in the hay (I'm not a fan of that) there is still a relationship of sorts to develope...so that may take hours, days, weeks or months as the case may be for a relationship (for want of a word) develops. Again, in my opinion...it's as much about the mental connection as the physical and in the couples I've met that's been really important to me..,so I've WANTED to build a relationship (even if it's only been over an afternoon, or a few hours in the evening) ....I wanted to have that before it went further...from what I see there's a lot out there that can't be arsed doing that... Read my previous comments about respect and engaging both... Finally, all parties want to enjoy the experience so make sure EVERYONE is involved ....again I think there's probably plenty that lean towards the "my pleasure is the most important"..... But again, my take is that if I see that what I'm doing is resulting in BOTH the others enjoyment then that is what gets me going.... First post so please be gentle and I hope my ramblings make sense 😎😎

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'woody50' Bearing in mind that I'm relatively new here my idealistic outlook will probably be shot down in smoking flames by you lot in seconds 😝😝 but here goes.... First post so please be gentle and I hope my ramblings make sense 😎😎 I don't think you should interpret the silence as death by silent flame throwing laser beams ;) It was a fine post. I have to say, I think it's unnatural to give exactly the same amount of attention to both parties in a couple. In that situation I always think it's best for the single lady to lay back and channel a starfish. Always works well for me and then no-one can complain about being left out or that I'm playing favourites! I think I may well have just found a solution to World Peace *And* Climate Change??!?

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  chevtrek

  10 years ago

  It could mean this as there are 4 people involved.He don't like her or him or she don't like him or her and because its 4 people all want to find people theyfeel they click with.

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