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Couples not turning up
May 02 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Consider yourselves lucky that you do get told 2 hours beforehand that they are not going to arrive, there are plenty of people who have bot been told beforehand and went ahead to "the meet" and sat around waiting for x amount of time before giving up. We organise parties and it is a big problem, that much so that we have implemented a ruling that if you simply just don't turn up twice then you will not get another invite, after all the arrangements to attend are done online and or by phone and if you cannot be bothered to get back to us by the same method to say you cannot attend (the reason doesn't matter) then you are just being rude and possibly stopping someone else taking your place at a party.bothtogether6
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Turn up.... for what? Meet? Lunch? Drinks?...... anonymously arranged hokey pokey without meeting first?! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
That is the main reason we choose to meet couples and singles at swingers clubs. If they don't turn up or we don't click there are plenty other opportunities.
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blondes6365
11 years ago
have to agree with bothtogether6 in all ways
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DTE_couple
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Turn up.... for what? Meet? Lunch? Drinks?...... anonymously arranged hokey pokey without meeting first?! - Posted from rhpmobile On our profile we say play meets only, so it would not be for lunch or or hokey pokey , lol. I just wanted to hear what other excuses people have said to them from couples.
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DTE_couple
11 years ago
Quoting 'spice68' That is the main reason we choose to meet couples and singles at swingers clubs. If they don't turn up or we don't click there are plenty other opportunities. Yes we are well aware of the clubs we frequent them too. But we just wanted to hear what other excuses people have had said to them is all. Most people do turn up and we have a great night. This was just the odd one out.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep paid for pricey motel rooms and everything
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have turned up to meet couples and nothing. I was contacted by them and even though it is not my fantasy, have said I would come and did. One couple wasn't home, apparently friends turned up and the other the wife chickened out, fair enough too, it is a hard ask having never done it to being expected to drop your pants and get into it. Both of the quite spontaneous, there probably wasn't even 2 hours within being asked to me knocking on the door.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your lucky to get any....we get the yes it would be great to play (after a face to face meet) and when you follow up by setting a date to get together.....we get the silent treatment LOL...all good though as we see this is part of the journey....
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Fun_playfull_cpl
11 years ago
Yeh we have had our fair share and now our membership has run out we are not too sure about renewing it for not only other reasons but that reason also.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Back then, a meet was a meet with no mirrors and curtains that the sleezes put up now.Now you have to wade through dreamers, liars and those that just do not tell the truth (liars also)For every genuine person/couple that has had this happen we do know how you feel, having it happen to us on a few occasions.But 2hrs is generous, we've had 1 that was silly enough to answer the phone after we were already at the meet. The slag hung up, so called from an unlisted number 15mins later and the conwoman answered again..Seriously, if you can't go through for what ever reason, let the others know early. But,,,, that would take the fun out of it for the conners.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes it's happened to us. Never out and out been stood up but been cancelled on on the day. It's a pain when we travel up from up from Canberra and pay for a hotel in sydney. We didn't think much of it with this couple then we talked a fe of our friends and this same couple has stood up a number of people. Hence why they get the cold shoulder at many sydney parties.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When are you going to give me a roll in the hay ralf74 - Posted from rhpmobile
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
Like spice68, we usually try to meet a clubs. Why waste a night if there is a no show. Let's face it how many genuine swingers don't go to clubs, and at a club you can still meet and bale if you don't click with another couple.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mrs Open isnt the type you'd want to pass up... so its their loss Big time..
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I think that 'play meets only' is more than half the reason they flaked, OP. Too much pressure and loaded expectation of people you haven't met. Sex isn't Fight Club. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DTE_couple
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I think that 'play meets only' is more than half the reason they flaked, OP. Too much pressure and loaded expectation of people you haven't met. Sex isn't Fight Club. - Posted from rhpmobile We know the couple in question you are way off the mark with those comments we only ever go with the flow. This is a couple / couple meet not singles. Keep to the question in hand on the top please.
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custardapples
11 years ago
Quoting 'The_team' Yes it's happened to us. Never out and out been stood up but been cancelled on on the day. It's a pain when we travel up from up from Canberra and pay for a hotel in sydney. We didn't think much of it with this couple then we talked a fe of our friends and this same couple has stood up a number of people. Hence why they get the cold shoulder at many sydney parties. When you have travelled such a long way and organised accommodation - we would be pissed!!!We have enjoyed checking your profile guys and if they were foolish enough and rude enough to stand you up - well bad luck for them - Losers!!We had planned to meet a couple for drinks one evening and waited for about two hours before calling it quits - the really annoying part was that they called us and said they were running late (just out of the shower) and would be just 20 minutes away. We had a great evening anyway!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'justfun1980' When are you going to give me a roll in the hay ralf74 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We too have been, as you say, "Stood up." It seems to be part of the lifestyle... That's why we prefer the private house parties to meet people. No chance if being "Stood up" at one of them.
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DonnaBrett
11 years ago
In nearly 15 years in this scene we have never been stood up by a new 'yet to meet' couple. Have had one single woman just not turn up...then text next day...sorry "I had jet lag & fell asleep"...yeah right! LOL No second chances for no shows!
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BrumbieEvents
11 years ago
We get a few share of no shows and last minute cant make its....but you have to look at it 2 ways 1 there is a problem that cant be helped or 2 they are full of Sh@# and only say they are turning up to make them look big and popular or better still its not a real couple a man pretending to be so when it comes to meeting up and crunch time caught out lol Giidy up
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Come on people half the profiles on these sites are fake, with the other half made up of dreamers, wankers and cybersexers. I reckon if 10% of profiles are real we are doing well!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'DTE_couple' Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I think that 'play meets only' is more than half the reason they flaked, OP. Too much pressure and loaded expectation of people you haven't met. We know the couple in question you are way off the mark with those comments we only ever go with the flow. This is a couple / couple meet not singles. Keep to the question in hand on the top please. I must agree with DG. When meeting for a play date there is more pressure than when having a drink in a public place.And what's the difference between couples and singles? Are you saying singles stand each other up more often? To the others: Why risk booking a hotel room when you haven't actually met your potential playmate(s)?
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madotara69
11 years ago
If we organise a meet knowing it's for a bit of a romp, then by then the idea of a meet in public first does not really fit into the equation. Sure playmeets might put some off as they would prefer too meet the others first, but I don't think that is the case in this scenario. I think it is wandering off topic. Though it would probably be best too speak with both of the couple first, as you will get a shit load of guys saying "fuck yeah lets go for it" and if there is a wife she just might not know it. Likely it sounds that the guy has failed too persuade his wife, if he has one. So chances are you would be let down in either case. We have invited a couple of people out too our place, they had us believing they were all but 15mins away, then nothing, always the pretty ones, he he. They stream past our home page every day since, and comment on everything , always looking for a date, log in every few hours too. It does not take that long too figure out if someone is just getting a buzz out of telling you they want too play all from their cumchair, but hey kinks are cool, just don't waste time and money on them. We even had a guy come out too meet us at our home, he stayed the night, no sex, as the only chance he had at the time too make it out just happened that nature took it's course and Tara was getting stomach cramps, it happens often enough to take it into consideration. So we watched movies and chewed the fat instead, he was the perfect gentleman and there was no pressure at all, we made a friend. Even if you meet for a play meet only, anyone can say no at any time. It's not a contract. Hopefully contact. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'the_albatross' Come on people half the profiles on these sites are fake, with the other half made up of dreamers, wankers and cybersexers. I reckon if 10% of profiles are real we are doing well! Would love to see the stats if you have them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
if a couple doesn't turn up or respond to you after an initial 'good meeting of drinks/chats' they just couldn't be honest with you; they aren't into you and are probably out of your league. - Posted from rhpmobile
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hotcple0069
11 years ago
We are sick of being stood up, our time & money wasted and just plain bullshit some have been very interested until we try to arrange a meet, think from now on it's swingers clubs only for us.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_4_cpls' if a couple doesn't turn up or respond to you after an initial 'good meeting of drinks/chats' they just couldn't be honest with you; they aren't into you and are probably out of your league. WTF?! HAHAHAHA
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe they mean that with two blokes at least one dick should be working on the night or couples are not as fussy and will fuck on the first date?
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RHP User
11 years ago
We had one female arrange to meet for coffee, we showed up, she was logged on here on rhp at the time of the meeting, sent her a reply message asking where she was, no reply until the next day saying sorry had to move house, can't have been to busy moving if she had time to be logged on here. She still messages us from time to time but hasn't gone through with any of her so called plans with us, we pretty much just laugh at her now and throw the ball back in her court. This being stood up isn't a rarity for us here, on the contrary it is the norm. We have not had one show up yet. At least the one moving house contacted us the next day even though the story was probably rubbish. Still can't get our head around why people do it but sadly they do, at least you were contacted 2 hours prior, we did not get that courtesy once.
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DBBandJBG
11 years ago
This happened to us last night. All dressed up with nowhere to go. A real bummer here in Rockingham, as there is NO nightlife for mature couples. Boring restaurants and pubs full of bogans.Iain
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rupamohan
11 years ago
Firstly nobody like being stood down and I can understand your frustration... For us being stood down at short only happened once in 100+ meetings. This was not a problem. Hubby doesn't need a Viagra...so no waste of a pill..and also we have regular backups... Now not sure I understand all the details but let me guess.. You made a choice to meet someone with out talking to the girl to confirm that she is present and interested. Does that sounds you trust people easily? Next choice you made to guess the reason for being stood down and show distrust in others? when things don't go right. Chances are your second choice is correct but it can also be wrong. Your flip between choices for trusting or not trusting others appears to me is bit judgemental and tells something about you as much it tells something about other couple. Take a balanced and stable approach in trusting others.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thats why we make it a rule that we only arrange meet if the girls speak first..... Girls speak on phone means more relaxed and get an idea if they are into it and not being pushed into it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have never had another couple not turn up. We do basic things like photos, phone call and obviously phone number swaps and all four talk beforehand. Or we are positive its not the guy pretending without his wife knowing to be a couple or a girl.
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