swngrcpl86

swngrcpl86

M39 F38

Couples playing alone

June 18 2017

Hi forumites We are newish to RHP, and as you do, we are updating our profile. We have reached a point in our swinging journey where we are comfortable for each of us to play alone, as Mr Swngr travels a bit for work and Mrs. Swngr is interested in exploring her bi side more,and as such we have updated our profile to say we do play alone. The issue we have run into is more for Mr Swngr, he has found that both couples and single women are a bit hesitant to engage in play. No reasons given, but wondering if this is part of the whole "cheating husband" thing, as in they wonder if he is a cheating husband. Wanting your opinions on what we could put in our profile to clarify there are no issues, that Mrs Swngr is happy with this, and to engage couples and singles better. Feel free to have a look at our profile and let us know what you think. Thanks Mr and Mrs Swngr

Comments

  • iCouple

    iCouple

    8 years ago

    We put in our profile that Mrs will play alone, if she feels like it, just so it is plain and obvious for everyone to see. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    8 years ago

    To play with Mr Swngr precisely because of what you mention, re the playing alone connotation. We say this because of past experiences where couples, on here, have ended up just being the male half, who has used the excuse that his wife / partner has given him permission to play alone. For us, we assume that either the couple profile is not really a genuine one, that it's been registered on here without her knowledge, or that there is no female other half, or he is simply playing behind her back / cheating. Not sure how you will get around this so as to enable couples / single females to trust and believe that you, the male half of the couple do indeed have your wife / partners "blessing"? Perhaps she could meet with your potential playmate (s) and explain the situation to them ? Ie meet as a couple first. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • megz85g

    megz85g

    8 years ago

    Part of a couple, but we mostly play separate, and as such do not have any joint profiles. I would say it's true that guys are more open to hooking up with a married woman, than girls to a man. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    We understand your problem Mr Swngr as on RHP we would probably say 50% that claim to be couples in fact are not but are single men trying to get pictures etc etc and always have an excuse for Mrs not being available. There are many ladies and couples on here who do entertain single males but don't like to be lied to in the process. Suggestion would be to offer Mrs Swngr to confirm by phone that she is aware and agreeable to your request. Also we are sure Mrs Swngr is inundated with play alone offers. Its all a matter of believing. Good luck

  • swngrcpl86

    swngrcpl86

    8 years ago

    A very good point by both of you, just sucks that muppets who pretend and lie on here ruin it for everyone else.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    It's a numbers game too the ratio of men to women on here then you add in that those women have a bunch of single men to choose from...single can be easier as it doesn't come with rules ( most couples in my experience have them) or any possible jealousy etc. Personally, I don't mind married and playing with permission for the right guy But will admit single is easier and that's probably where a lot of the issue is coming from. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    is right. Even if you get over the issue of people not believing the male half is in a legitimate open relationship, you'll almost definitely find that he will still struggle to find partners when compared to the female half. Many women just don't see attached men as an appealing play prospect, for various reasons.

  • MissRedFox

    MissRedFox

    8 years ago

    An attached man would have to be outstanding and have a bit of available time before I'd consider him over a single man. I tend to prefer a FWBs type arrangement and not all attached men can offer that. As for the possibility of cheating - you get that with men listed as single too - it's not too difficult to work this out and I'll walk away. XX - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Becomes just that. Irrelevant that he has a couples profile or not. Why should having a couples profile make you any different to the other thousands of single men who struggle here? There is no magic words to write that will make the male rise up like the phoenix above the mere single plebs. Without the attraction of the bait known as wife, you become mingled in the crowd.....

  • MrPlayful

    MrPlayful

    8 years ago

    go with what Annie and others have said here for sure... but keep this in mind... Because of the large proportion of male idiots on here (feel free to call me one of them lol), yes the ladies and couples may tread very carefully and just assume he is one just another one of those idiots. But then on the flip side, if he can stick it out and be patient, be genuine and his true self, and is in fact not an idiot like the rest of us mere males lurking around the pie, then he may just find that he will be recognized for the nice, genuine person that he is. Like a diamond in the rough.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    We play alone mostly and it's the same for us, Mrs D has no trouble finding someone when required but Mr D finds it a very long and arduous process to get to the point of meeting. It does happen but it takes a lot of time and effort and is never spontaneous or casual. It's lots of things; guys don't care if a woman is married, women generally don't like another woman being in the picture, the numbers game men:women, the cheating husband / fake couples profile stigma, etcetera etcetera. Megz85g - referring to your comment in a recent thread about polyamory - this may be why your husband would prefer a "girlfriend" type arrangement as opposed to your preference for casual. Casual is very difficult for a married guy as the time to find someone could be months as opposed to days for a woman. For me the preference for an ongoing arrangement (FWB, GF etc) is more about having a friend you can contact when it's play time rather than a deep connection (polyamourous) that interferes with your marriage. So OP if you (as a couple) decide to play alone us guys need to prepared to take a back seat as that is how it is. Mr D - Posted from rhpmobile

  • sweetnsensual

    sweetnsensual

    8 years ago

    My male partner has had a few offers while I am away from girls on here but has opted to wait for me. It was his decision and I was very happy either way as I know the girls

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    8 years ago

    There are men here who claim to be single , yet are married ? Yes. Are there ladies here who claim to be single , yet are married? Yes. Do the married guys get grilled for being here ? Yes Do the married females get grilled for being here ? NO... ? Point in question.. Megz85g ' mentioned she has a separate profile to her other half , and if I'm correct plays alone . BTW' not knocking you megz , just bought to my attention if a man , married or single said likewise he would be dragged across the coals and hung out to dry.. Yet not one whimper coming from a female. You did go on the mention men are more open to hooking up with a married woman , than the other way round, which is a very accurate observation.. Hence my point.. So that's it fella's , suck it up , the ladies of RHP have us by the balls and they have no intention of letting go .. Thank god for the real world where we can still get out and see and feel each other.. where our flirting brings smiles without so much judgement. Rant over... lol.. Jay...

  • MrPlayful

    MrPlayful

    8 years ago

    I play alone and the only coals I've been dragged across was when someone wanted to talk to my wife to confirm it was ok, and another backed out because she didn't think it was right to meet a married man. Neither on the forum and both fair enough in my book. I haven't read Megz' profile but I assume it says she has a partner the same as mine does?