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Couples seeking ladies only?
February 28 2013
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RedHotCoast
12 years ago
....and then you see "seeking couples" on their profile a month later. We try skip them as its obvious they dont really want a couple.
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RHP User
12 years ago
the man is not comfortable with sharing. Or the woman has given in to pressure about realising a fantasy. Either way someone is likely not comfortable with the situation. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sexshinecoast' ....and then you see "seeking couples" on their profile a month later. We try skip them as its obvious they dont really want a couple. Agree with you there, I don't want my man relegated to the back line when all the other couple want to do is the chick. Not fair. It's either all in or none for us. Foursomes rock!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeah we fit in to this category!! Have to say that we have only met with one or two very briefly from here and none for a while. We have had more success in our daily lives, just lucky I guess...As for the why no seeking couples its nothing to do with male insecurity here, more the Mrs preference.Each to their own I say...
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enange63
12 years ago
Mrs en is bi, loves the touch and softness of a girl, weve played with a single guy and some lovely couples, but we still look forward to the single girl experience.So, no single girl "success " yet, but, no hurry just a good time for all. and all in good time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We think everyone is right: 1/ The guys are insecure and dont want to share or allow their wife with another guy. and / or 2/ The girls really are bi and dont want any other male except for their husband. and / or 3/ Apparently there are some pussy trained guys out there that dont want another female they just want to watch. Its just a shame when they find this too hard to get they then open up to couples...who wants to be second choice? We also read the words and if all the talk is about a extra lady, the soft touch etc etc And they are also asking for couples we move on.....next.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Couples looking for single ladies and couples.... You're not doing yourself any favours with the couples going on and on about single ladies. We both tend to give that a miss.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Its 100% my (ms) preference to seek a single lady. I honestly have no interest in being with another couple/man. Occasionally I enjoy same room (only with trusted/very dear to me couple), but I am 100% happier when it is just another lady there. I have also seen couples looking for a lady become frustrated with no success so "branch out" to couples...it does worry me a little, as I know its not what they are really looking for, its almost compensation. And yes, we have definitely met the elusive unicorn:) Msfun
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FourgasiM
12 years ago
Yeh we avoid profiles that prodominantly look for women only and couples as their second option. Couples fun all the way we say.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Apart from meeting one fantastic bi couple where the female reciprocated my wives attention completely (wont mention how well we guys got on ;) ) we haven't had a lot of luck with couples and none with the unicorns. We sacked our couple's profile and search independently. The mrs has had better luck since but now has to deal with the "couples looking for girl" or girl with guy hiding behind her.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 't00sexy'the man is not comfortable with sharing. Or the woman has given in to pressure about realising a fantasy. Either way someone is likely not comfortable with the situation. :) touche
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RHP User
12 years ago
might as well give up, have spoken to so many supposed unicorns from this site but 99% are fakes, couples posing as a unicorn, or a straight up horse with a carrot on his head.most cease contact as soon as you try to organize a meet or even talk, or when they realize that you wont send them nude pics..pretty lame :(
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RHP User
12 years ago
You hit our theroy right on the head, seems to be a lot desperate men and fake profiles, fortunately we have found a lady whom we have met and played several times, and we werent looking that hard, so there a few genuine ladies out there.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We look for single women as often as we look for other couples, and have had mixed results. Threesomes and couple swapping isn't a priority for us (we're having fun no matter what!) so we don't get burned if things don't turn out. We are seeking a single woman, but since each of us have been in the "single" position (we play seperately as we wish) we know how daunting it can be approaching or being approached by a couple and have used that experience to help connect with others, whether they are single or a couple. We also see a threesome not as being "couple + other" but three people coming together to explore and experience together for everyone's pleasure. This can get a little restricted with me and another guy because there's no sexual attraction or contact between us - I've always thought the best threesomes/group sex occur when everyone can touch each other freely and without problems eg. woman with two bi guys, 4 gay men, etc.Why are we looking for a single woman? For a few reasons: 1) We have a couple of guys we can talk to for a MFM threesome (never had a problem there)2) She is bisexual, and prefers women over men in most respects3) We have to feel comfortable and be attracted to both people when meeting other couples before swappingThere might be a few other reasons I can't think of right now. One of the things that irk us is finding another couple and then getting a message asking if she plays alone. If you're in a couple and ask this then you had better be comfortable saying yes when others ask you. We don't ask (wouldn't think of being so rude) and if she wanted to she would have found you first.
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wombat13at
12 years ago
We search for a Bi Fem mainly becasue we mainly on here for fems bi play and secondly all in 3 way fun only if offered and we have had 98% very bad results with Cpl meets they all say yes to what we looking for and when we meet it all changes and seems to us that the fem is there undersuferance and all they are after is the man wants extra Fem play and the fem plays for a few min then goes to sleep or leaves the bed room and because of this we now search for Fems only and have had MMF as well. We did add cpls to our profile again reacently hopping to find that elusive great cpl again (yes we did find 2 or 3 great cpls and had lots of fun with them for a long time) and only found it worse with meets the last was terrible. So we very unlikly to venture into cpl meets again without boundries to weed out the troubles we have found
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RHP User
12 years ago
Our preference is a couple for all to play; but the difficulty is finding four people who are all happy and willing to take part, with the chemistry flowing between all. We have had experiences in which the couple were clearly looking for either the male or the female, leaving the other as the 'fourth wheel' so to speak. So we looked for single men and single women. Looking for a single man to join us did not prove difficult, and the outcome was awesome. However, looking for single women to join us has not worked at all; we simply get no reply; even with women seeking couples. Its a real shame, as I want my man to experience the same fun I can (being a woman is so much easier on this site); but be it couples or singles, the woman is always much more discerning (even though I think my man is pretty damn hot)!
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RHP User
12 years ago
For us it was more that when we first started we were just trying to figure out what we were comfortable with.She has had Bi interest for a long time which is what originally started the thought process. our initial profile stated couple seeking girl then further talk we realised we would enjoy playing with a couple and that we had zero jealousy so we changed it to couples.In saying that the rare opportunity we had to bring a single female into our bedroom was some seriously fantasic sex that went on for ages. I wouldn't feel comfortable seeing mrs going out with a couple unless we had been playing together for quite some time and the same thing was reciprocated.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This post seems to have gotten of topic and we can't answer the original question but as far as having women and couples listed in our profile goes we don't see what all the fuss is about...We've just joined RHP and haven't played with anyone yet, we're slowly easing into the scene and who knows maybe we'll never play but our profile does list looking for women/couples/groups. We don't see a problem with it, the idea of having a threesome is very arousing for us, we probably would have included looking for males but we're time poor and don't want our inbox to fill up with messages from single men, if we decided to invite a guy to join us we'd look for him.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeh we are the same' we have been on this site and others. We also get out and about to different venues quite a bit with not much joy. But on the up side we are very good mates as well as lovers so we always have a really good time. If we do find a nice chick to enjoy our company some time that's a bonus.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Interesting reading guys. I am a single woman who has had the good fortune of experiencing a couple and hope to do so again. Thing is I have a male friend and we are both desirous of experiencing a soft swap or deprnding on the moment full. At this point in time even just the girls putting on a show would do!!! Am not accustomed to making the first move in these scenarios but I'm hearing what you are all saying about it being nearly damn impossible to find a couple situation that works :(. Have had gentle approaches ignored, met and then told we'd be in touch and nothing and also flat declined because of the lady's personal preferences not to have another man present which is of course ok too. Can anyone offer some advice about approaching another couple? We aren't pushy people and I believe the two ladies involved should get along and be attracted to each other. Also neither of us would approach either of the couple to play alone, I think that's wrong; one in all in. Any advice would be great as I'm about done in. Who would've thought making a fantasy reality would be so hard?
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Playful2looking
11 years ago
I think if the ladies want to have a play. they need to communictae this and met each other for coffee without their men. As for couples seeking a woman only I am never sure who's fantasy this is his or hers. Now I am going to get shot by the girls and yes I am generalising and there are many ladies who dont fall into this catorgry. Some girls are very selfish when it come to sex they want to be please by man or woman but arent very good at giving back. A gay or bi woman is usually more knowledgeable about their sex and gives more then most straight women Its not off topic what i am saying when you find that single girl she may not be as bi as you hoped or that the wife is not bi and just goes through the motions without any enthusiasm. Which makes me wonder what the single girl thing is all about.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I did approach a couple, do ask to meet the lady in particular because she and how we find each other is going to be the main deciding factor for both of us I think. Explained my stance on the enjoying the touch and feel of a woman, etc etc and then got a polite no "I want the full Bi experience" err should I have actually stated graphically what I was going to do to her or was she saying, sorry I don't want to eat you? Lol (shrugs shoulders and wanders off smiling). I too wonder in the FFM if it's actually more the male driving the encounter moreso than the lady?
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RHP User
11 years ago
My partner is actually the one interested in girls she doesnt feel comfortable with another guy yet and although im open and up for what ever we are here to try and live out her fantasy but so far not really having any luck finding a girl who is interested occasionally get a few replies but they always go silent. and the worst part is we are just getting spammed with flirts and msgs from guys who are interested.Love the site and there are alot of lovely people on here problem is there are alot of time wasters as well. i always reply to flirts and msgs even if we are not interested just to let them know and not leave people hanging.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi , Im interested in a couple that both want me and I want both of them so ffm, very interested to try bi.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi, I'm really interested in bi but may be a little old for you both
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RHP User
11 years ago
Im interested in a bi FFm, you guys sound great.
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sshwammy
11 years ago
Greedy......lol.....I am the female of the couple and I am bi and love the feel and taste of a woman ...then on the other hand 2 yummy big cocks to pleasure me ....sigh.....if we ever find anyone that's not a bullshitter so single girls or hot couples bring it on x
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a couple that have played with couples, and with other guys, finding a single female willing to play seems really tricky. We never really understood why though. Surely the girls that list themselves as bi or curious would be looking for a couple, but the majority list couples as a preference, then seem to copy and paste the statement "just looking for a male FWB. Why list couples in the first place I wonder. I dont necessarily subscribe to the numbers argument, just seems to be a lot of girls with false profiles.
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RHP User
11 years ago
coming from a very different prospective......I am totally bi now, but I have been totally into women all my life. My male partner is the only male I have been with all my life. We have only been together for just over a year, both love women and I don't want another male anywhere near me while we are playing. We have meet quiet a few girls from this site and other sites. We meet girls while we are out at nightclubs and seeings bands. Have no problems finding the 'Unicorn', who totally bi and loves both males and females. More often we find that on the site girls are more towards myself which my partner can well understand, and that is the sort of 'Unicorn' we look for out at clubs (not swingers), it is the oppersite way. The general way that we find is that there are so many fake profiles to dodge through that when you find the real girls that they are few and look at real people with real faults and you need to help them feel very comfortable, wanted and relaxed. I the female do all the texting, picture swapped and the organisation of the meet and greet. We chat on online, on the phone to establish a bond to help the experience along. So it is nothing to do with no wanting to share the female, or any jealous partners in our world and is preferance and a mutual love of everything female and seeing two girls enjoy each other and then me enjoying watching him with her and then the three of us, mmmmmmmm....sure you get it....T & j
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's fine we get it, our paths will never cross. Its the ones who want to meet couples as a second choice that are bad news.
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RHP User
11 years ago
we are a couple seeking a lady only because i dont have fantasies about other men , i am bi curious/experimental the touch of a woman gets my juices flowing and the fantasy of myself and my husband playing and teasing a woman is an ongoing fantasy of mine that makes me want to go back for more ,we have been with one lady but have had other meets but had to cancel due to family commitments , we will be meeting a lovely lady this weekend and are very excitied to see where the night takes us
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting reading but also a bit depressing really to know there really seems to be very few females genuinely interested in couple play?! I thought there woukd be a hell of alot more wimen like myself that want another female to join them?In our case I have zero sexual desire towards another male only female but I'm more than happy to let my man be With the woman .lucky him I say but lucky me too that's if we actually find one seem as everything I read seems so far to lean towards they are so dam rare!! Who would hv thought finding a sex date on a sex site could prove to be that hard?! Quite funny really to be honest .oh well very newly joined so will keep looking - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am bi and am a little different to most, I lean more to loving women and my partner loves women too...that is one of the reasons we get on so well....We both are not interested in men..We both love watching women only porn...We both love pleasing women and watching each other with women...Why would we want a male there if we only are into the female......Just saying.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Futurenomads' Its the ones who want to meet couples as a second choice that are bad news. This has been mentioned before, and I totally agree. Couples saying they are looking for single girls only, but later adding couples to their profile when they can't find a Unicorn. It's a big red flag, and couples need to be aware that some other couples are really just after the female half. So ask the right questions before you meet.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We are a couple that prefer to play with a single lady as we like to make her the centre of attention and make all her fantasys become reality... Also being a bi female it's easier having girl on girl time in a threesome , We do play with couples but its hard to get the dynamics of 4 people right but when you do it's fucking great :) We have had a lot of fun with single lady's and they keep coming back for more :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Speaking from the perspective of a couple that has played with both couples and single girls, we both just tend to like the girls. Its not a matter of comfort or jealousy just want, we do what we want and both want the girl :). As long as people are honest upfront theres usually no problems. That said luck on these sites? 0% so far, but hey you have to be in it to win it :D
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