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Couples/unicorn hunters
February 24 2020
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RHP User
5 years ago
Yes we have found that. We have spoken to many single ladies and unfortunately a lot of couples think they are their to please them. They don't worry about what the woman is after. We have even been in situation where they one want to play with Mrs even after we have clearly stated we only play as a couple
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RHP User
5 years ago
Maybe not always couples but pretending to be couples Thats pretty common They are even worse when you work it out and tell him so, then its really abusive
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RHP User
5 years ago
I’ve found that both on my single and with our partnered profile. Just recently we were contacted by a couple who’s profile seemed kind of similar to ours in that they were looking for friends with no pressure before deciding whether or not to go further...it took only 2 very brief, substance lacking messages for them to say they don’t like time wasters, I asked what their idea of a time waster was, they said people who don’t turn up or want to talk too much. We replied telling them that we like to talk and get to know people as part of the screening process and they went completely quiet, no further communication at all. That’s fine by me as it shows me that they’re not people I’d wish to be involved with anyway but I do think it was rude and possibly an attempt to put pressure on us to say “oh we’re not time wasters, we’ll jump in bed with you right now!”. There are many couples who think they’re it and a bit and we’re nothing more that food on a smorgasbord, they might be able to lie on their profile but their messaging style soon gives them away. There’s also lots of lovely couples out there too. Just be thankful that the rude ones show their true colours before things get too involved 😊 Ms Phoenix.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I like the name? Is there an age bracket to the people who are disrespectful?
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RHP User
5 years ago
It is an unfortunate part of it. But there are some absolutely beautiful people on here. You just get use to hitting the delete button on people that put no effort in.
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sweetnsensual
5 years ago
Not all couples are rude We value any interaction we have with couples or a single woman. We have found some couples to be dismissive if you don’t completely align but we are prepared for that now. We have a gorgeous unicorn in Perth and love spending time with her. Hang in there and trust your gut instinct! Xxxx
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LittleMissSTFU
5 years ago
Penguin: love your name!! Actually yes! Come to think of it! It's couples around my age and in their early to mid 30s The couples who are older are the most wonderful I'm currently speaking to a couple whom are in their 50s. Yes they are out of my age bracket but they have been very respectful and have been very happy to just converse and so on which is wonderful! I'm genuinely surprised by the feedback I've received when I posted this I had a feeling I was going to piss a whole lot of couples off and I would be attacked 😂 I am aware not all couples are rude and that it's the minority. It just pisses me off. I mean it states in my profile several times to not contact me asking me for sex as that doesn't get my rocks off nor am I here to please them. It's 50/50 or nothing. Hopefully I'll meet the perfect couple! If not oh well! T xx
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Many guys are rude, unaware how to approach, lost for words or in summary, are shit at messaging ( I said many, not all) And that's as a single. In a couple situation, the same male bluntness/uselessness is combined with the attitude that they have at their disposal, their female half which is often treated as bait to attract their prey. It is surprising how many guys have permission to run the profile and subsequent messaging. So therefore we have the shit male messaging services but with a couples label and attitude. Good approach and messaging from a couple will often be the female and not the male who has had a large proportion of his blood drained from the brain down to the crutch area.
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GeekCouple76
5 years ago
It was explained to us when we first started looking for a unicorn that many couples are just looking to use someone as a sex toy, and while we may not be like that, it’s that kind of reputation that we are competing against, or a view that we’d need to overcome when talking to any ladies who may be interested in getting to know us. My point is, based on that I guess it’s not a huge surprise, however I’m sure there are lots of nice people out there, best wishes in your search 😃.
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LittleMissSTFU
5 years ago
Annie: Actually I'm pleasantly surprised by how polite the single men are thus far! But yes male run couples profiles are where I believe the blunt rudeness comes from! The bluntness may help with other couples but it does nothing for me as a single woman. I've said this time and time again! Blow my mind with conversation and I may just blow you! I like to be stimulated in more ways than sexually. Shocking right? If there isn't good conversation, banter ect them the sex is just mundane and boring to me. I want to be able to enjoy the company I'm with and have a laugh! Yes if is the minority if couples and I've noticed that it's couples my age up until their mid 30s.. where's the older and clearly more experienced couples are incredibly polite and show a general interest in myself as a person? Maybe I'm reading to much into this My next question! How do I pin point jealousy and couples who have joined RHP for the wrong reasons eg: to prevent cheating/because HE wants to get fucked by 2 women Maybe I'm over complicating this whole trying to be a unicorn thing? I am a known over thinker I will admit that.
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Kentia
5 years ago
As a couple and over the last 2 years, we came across many different type of people. Single women and single men are very temporary. At one point, they want something else or find a partner. And at this moment, they have linked you too much with sex so they don't want to socialise anymore which is understandable. For couples, they already have friends most of the time. Lots of them don't want social. I believe it's quite common in couples even when they state 'friends' in their interest becquse yes, they like their own friends, who doesn't? :D In addition most of the time only one of the couple run the kik account or is present. So all in all it's very hard to socialise here which is a shame for us as it's something we really care about. It can happen from time to time with singles but it will be temporary. With couples, it looks very complicated to make friends, they want the sex, not the talk.
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Kentia
5 years ago
Mad just a little follow up on what you were saying LittleMiss about people who need to blow your mind and be interesting: Not saying that you don't agree but it goes both ways. It's so common for single women to act like divas around there or replying one liner / putting the minimum effort etc.. Reading the profiles of some is appealing. Being a minority shouldn't give a pass for just sitting and waiting. But yes, most single girls complain about who contact them but they themselves never contact anyone as they are guests here, staying on the receiving end. Indeed not choosing from a wide range of people on the site but just being able to choose in the subset of whom contacted them. That's why I don't like the term unicorn, it puts too much fairytale around these single women. Some are just jennies. So it's not just the couples or the single men who are sometimes an issue, it's everyone including single women and trans.
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teamaj2
5 years ago
Little Miss As the others have stated and I agree wholeheartedly with . Some couples are rude as are some singles .RHP is made up of many different people with different ideas , communication styles , wants and needs . Always trust your gut instinct. If you fear you are being pursued to save a man from straying or for whatever reason that does not fit in with your mode of thinking move on . Like most on here , we’ve found some couples and singles are not interested in any form of chat as a form of getting to know us better . We get messages like ‘I’m horny now let’s meet tonight !’ We are all for spontaneity but no ! Don’t take it personally , follow your gut , don’t be put off by rude responses , use the block button , be patient - the right people are worth the wait , continue to follow your bliss and have a wonderful journey . Best of luck . A x
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Freaky_Fun
5 years ago
Couples are the worst. It's like single women were put on the planet for their pleasure. You only have to look at the amount of forums asking for a woman to please their partners 🤦♀️
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LittleMissSTFU
5 years ago
Response to kentia I agree whole heartedly on that! As I've said 50/50.. if I could afford a paid membersbip at this time I would have one! As I like being able to make the first movie if I find someone I genuinely think I would get along with! On the friends subject... Us singles have friends as well? So that's a moot point? It isn't hard to have a general conversation and build a connection based on trust and respect... As I've said before if there is no banter, laughs ect... It's just boring brainless sex and that just isn't for me. It may be fine for others! But for me personally that doesn't interest me. On the subject of my profile saying "blow mind" that's on the subject of those pesky one word messages "hi" I have never sent just a "hi", to someone ever. I take the time to read profiles and find something we have in common and use that to break the ice :) (on other sites OC) I agree single women can be bitches! That goes for anyone though does it not? I don't really like the term unicorn myself but as if seems to be the term of choice I figured it was easier to refer to myself as such as apposed to using the long winded "I'm a bisexual woman who is interested in meeting and playing with couples" Unicorn basically fetishisez my sexuality which I don't exactly appreciate but at the sametime if I were to get butthurt over every different term and phrase to describe what/who I am.. I wouldn't be a pleasant or positive person 😂
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
I think your no friends scenario is a bit broad brushed. Sure, most aren't after a bestie or 2 but who wouldn't appreciate a 1 or few friends within the lifestyle that you can share some adventures/stories/sex that you couldn't with your vanilla friends that may judge you on your sexual liberation. People that rule out friendships from people they haven't met in here would surely be closed minded, interested in an orgasm or 2 and brush them off. Perhaps that's the reason they think it's fine to fuck you but not show simple humanity and treat you like anyone they may meet in a social or business world. Selfishness gets you no where in the every day world and in here is no different and thus the " hey want to fuck" messages are sent by people you don't want to get to know
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boobsandbusted
5 years ago
It’s a shame , but best not tar all peoples and couples with the same brush , there are good and bad in all dominations ,some are And some aren’t looking for unicorns , also it’s like tarring all single males as assholes and stalkers , liars and cheats ,same as unicorns there are good ones and bad ones not all are bad ,takes a lot of turning over rough rocks to find that smooth pebble that feels nice in your hand ,if anyone is rude and you are not ,their loss , keep moving forward don’t look back ,your time of happiness and winning will come Mr b
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ozmelbcpl4cpl2
5 years ago
Not sure how the couples are up in that state but we find the reverse here in melbourne .lack of unicorns or some are way over the top on the demands..but for the ones we have we have kept permanently. In saying all that its only a small portion of couples or singles who ruin it for others.
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
You could probably delete three quarters of the forum subheadings on here and replace them with communication in the lifestyle! It's not a couple or single thing, it's just some people in general. Just like Ms Phoenix has mentioned and probably Annie in many past posts, it only takes a message or two for the real face behind a profile to come out. We had one the other day that I shouldn't have replied to, just a hi... their profile was well written and a number of things lined up with us. The reply to our message was, "you got kik". Politely replied that it doesn't work for us with kids, shift work etc.. happy to chat here and get to know you. Radio silence... Mrs Kale in her wisdom had already asked why the heck I'd replied, sometimes you need to remind yourself how little effort people put in! As to the whole friends question, there's lots on here that are genuinely interested in friendships. It's our preference, we don't have to be in your back pocket, but we definitely need to like you. If you're after anonymous sex with someone that doesn't want to talk to you it'd be a damn site easier to hire an escort. Everyone is different on here though and you just can't generalise. Lots of good people if all persuasions on that will treat you well though OP, good luck and as a few have mentioned it helps with the vetting.
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Kentia
5 years ago
Agreed! I weighted my words and use plenty of some, most etc.. But yes, communication issues and sometimes (so not always) not being on the same vibes at the same time is usually the issue. And yes as said already, it's not just one vs others. That would be so easy. Though we can still analyse these behaviours. We can have a look on different sociological parameters of the current interractions between individuals vs groups, between genders and between generations and determine how it acts and how it polarises relations between people. It's easy to miss that as it can be comforting to live by the rules. Individuals needs guidelines and integrate values since they're born to simply be able to move inside our complexe and organised society.
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twowithnolimits
5 years ago
Quoting 'Kentia' As a couple and over the last 2 years, we came across many different type of people. .... So all in all it's very hard to socialise here which is a shame for us as it's something we really care about. It can happen from time to time with singles but it will be temporary. With couples, it looks very complicated to make friends, they want the sex, not the talk. Is that like couples who check you out , have heaps in common in your profiles, have similar attitudes and comments, but inexplicably block you without even a simple message of explanation?? With couples it's only as complicated as you are prepare to communicate.
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
*sight
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LittleMissSTFU
5 years ago
Thankyou so much for the feed back it's been incredibly insightful :) I am aware that the same can go for anyone on here and it's not just couples. Nor should couples in general be painted with the same brush due to a few negative interactions. When I wrote this thread I was i incredibly irritated 😂 so my apologies if I came off more bitchy than normal 😂 I can happily say that my interactions thus far have been pleasant ones.. :) I'm not sure if this thread has anything todo with it? (Who knows who reads the forums) I'm slowly finding my footing again. This is such a different ride from being partnered. Again thankyou for the feedback I will keep it all in mind :) ♥️ T xx
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Kentia
5 years ago
I think you got a lot of different feedback! That's good and so many different opinions. Have fun in your new solo adventure, and be safe! It's very relaxing to do this as a couple regarding safety so it can be easy to forget to be careful and trust your guts on this. Lots of love
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boobsandbusted
5 years ago
Totes agree with kentia,it is an easier to venture about in this scene when in the comfort of your partner man or woman ,cid you know deep down ,if all goes To crap , in a hand basket ,you leave and you go home with each other or even while there the comfort of knowing a partner has your back is huge ,it’s must be daunting and very courageous of single women and hot wives going about in this lifestyle ,I admire that courage and in awe of the inner spunk they possess even if they don’t realise it , Mr b
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boobsandbusted
5 years ago
Ps ,great profile name , Mr b
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funinsun5150
5 years ago
I would hope a reasonable person would not say “all couples”. Every lifestyle every walk of life will have a touch of bad and ugly. But it will also have caring nurturing and awesome. Listening to couples in chat rooms talking about “obtaining” “seeking” “wanting” a unicorn is often cringeworthy like they are talking of buying a dresser for the bedroom. We have had the pleasure of a lovely female joining us for some wonderful experiences. The relationship has many facets from friendship respect to of course that chemistry. The main aspect for us is that when indulging Mr F and I both see it as taking her on a journey. She isn’t just a “hook up” to sate our desires - she is to be revered and looked after. I can’t help but feel those that speak of a unicorn as a thing to hunt down to tick a box may be the couples you speak of. It is sad anyone needs to be rude -Mrs F
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MILFandMr
5 years ago
Hi little miss stfu. Liked the words on your profile, can relate to those experiences. Not so much real couples but in our experience more single guys and guys who are chatting without their partners knowledge with we assume the intent to convince them to swing etc. Regardless there are some toxic people on this site and those that take over the forums with negativity and hostility and those that are intent on spreading unfounded truths of others the do not even know! Hopefully that changes as this site and it’s people can be fun! Be gone the haters we say! We have met a number of couples and single ladies from this site. Had some great times, at others didn’t click but hey... it is what it is. K & D
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sensualcple2play
5 years ago
There are a lot of rude and pushy people on here So not suprised at all! We have very busy schedules so not always quick to respond and find rude responses because we don't repond or want to meet asap. Allways been polite and to be honest lot of the time if don't get a response we know "unicorns" are bombarded on here so why get abusive? Hope it doesn't put you off these rude people 😎
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Jackson1811
5 years ago
The only reason I can think of (apart from clueless males masquerading as a couple) that a couple would open up with a message like that is, they’ve tried other approaches without luck so resort to the disrespectful, crude message thinking that’s what will work. While we as a couple have had zero luck with unattached singles (the only ones who have expressed any interest have all been cheating on their SO, and that’s not for us) we would never resort to such a crude introduction. But that also may have to do with what we’re looking for too. We like to establish a connection first and progress to more a FWB type arrangement with the couples we see and hopefully any singles we may encounter down the path. Looking at you profile (we both loved it btw), nothing indicates that you would respond to such a rude intro so not sure why that happens. Good luck going forward though. Respectful, kind and sexy couples are definitely out there.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I have heard this a lot. I think some education on Unicorns for some people is very necessary. We have been looking for a Unicorn to equally share the experience with us and have found that it has been quite difficult. Understandably knowing that some couples have the perception of a Unicorn being a toy which makes me angry! All involved have their own sexual interests and desires that should be appreciated and explored with one another! Mutually beneficial and enjoyable!
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