Crazy for you

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  MissSarahCurious

  13 years ago

  I've had a monster crush on someone I met online, but we never met in person so it didn't suffer all the awful truths like discovering he had bad breath or poor penmanship or something atrocious like that LOLxx Sarah

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  The net can be a catalyst for the illusion of love or of fantastic sex. Sure people can fall in love on the net, it happens. But the reality is that when they meet love can just go, because there is no chemistry I kinda think the internet is like a colour in book. There is a basic outline of a person but we really colour them in with your cyber crayons. We have a two dimensional character When we step into 3d all those things come into play, sight, touch, smell and if a guy chews with his mouth open well, then the handsome prince on the internet falls from grace I had a friend fall in love with someone on the net, she flew to NYC to be with her darling, now this woman was well educated and had a high powered job. No idiot but she soon became one when she found out the internet text were from a 15 year old girl and the guy on the phone was her 17 year old male cousin. I think we fall in love with the idea of love. That’s what makes the great sex here, its the idea that gets your juices going, its the fresh flesh the new conversation. Love goes a lot deeper than that, its reality check time. But yes some people do fall in love on the net. Couple of my friends have and have been married now for ten years, they met on a bdsm chat room she was his online slave. Once they lived together the slave play went out the door , both found it to hard to keep up and neither of them now go on the net to chat. Net love is such a powerful force it breaks up lots of marriages. The internet grass has been photo shopped to look so much greener.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think intimacy can build up much more quicky online too. It's like talking to a stranger in a way, you tell them things you would never tell your family or friends.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  You can fall in lust and you can fall in love with the idea of love But for me true love only grows with time and proximity. You need time to know each other, time spent together......in the flesh to have that soul deep connection that is lasting. On line personas can be so vastly different to real lfe ones. We cannot tell until we meet. Even with the aid of webcam you cannot love someone on line. Yes the iintimacy builds up quicker and this adds to the illusions.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I have met soo many people who have fallen in love online its scary....   They committ to someone so much without even meeting them and they do it in a blink of an eye. Within a 10 minute chat you meet you new "best Pal". Some have worked but most fail..   I got caught up in it all in the early days of chat/msn because i was craving attention - it became like a drug.   Now I am very cautious online - friendly but need the face to face to make it real.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I know what you mean absolute. When I first came on the net it was a great game for me. I got a ton of attention and I was like Alice in wonderland. Down the wabbit hole head first. I used to chat all day on msn while the dinner burnt and the kids were forgotten and so was my poor husband. Addictive, as like absolute it was like a switch got turned on and all the stimulus as with drugs kicked in. I hooked into some poor guy and as you know I can write a thing or two, and I lured him to want me so bad he wanted me to go to him in the USA, he wanted to send me money he was so in love Insensitive idiot that I was I never saw the danger and my husband found out, and I said its just a game like as if I would leave and go there. My husband stood over me and made me write to this poor guy to tell him I was married. The response was leave your husband you cant be happy with him. I had to be cruel as hell and it took about three months for him to stop writing to me. after that about two years latter I got a letter and he said how I had screwed up his life,but he was ok now and found a real girl. My marriage fell in a heap because of my wanting more, more fairy tale, hotter sex, more more more when I had it all right in front of me. I know better now, I do not feed my ego nor anybody’s ego on line. I am a real as I can be here but also mindful of my privacy and I try not to have my profile say red hot mum-ma who will do anything and every body. Its a terrible thing to generate a love that does not exist and easy to do. I have to be careful with RHP as well, once you go there its hard to pull back from. I try to give myself a reality check every day, that I am no goddess , just a normal woman and not an avatar.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think it's similar to reading a book then seeing the movie. When you read the book, your imagination fills in the gaps. There are rarely any negatives. Then you see the movie and more often than not, it's nothing like you had "imagined" (fantasized) it to be.   It is a fact that with the anonymity of being online, people will quickly share far more details about their personal lives and often share things that even their closest friends in real life don't know. This can lead to one, or both people, bonding quicker and deeper.   As far as falling in love, per se *shrugs* define love first ;p Can online chat or interaction make my heart race, my pupils dilate, make me grin with anticipation seeing that someone pop up "online" and feel a level of sadness for not seeing them online - for me, absolutely! It invokes feelings but not love for "me".

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think its the expectations that build up that catch you unguarded.What you see here is a fragment of a person... a persona reveled to you in writing for instance on the forum. You have no way of knowing if I spend thirty minutes editing the words I say in a post for instance or whether it is stream of consciousness... No doubt, my character is different person to person, than it is percieved in a written forum... and I reckon that s true of everyone here.I think expectations can make us perceive a character which does not actually exist. We will see what we want to see after a while. A person's avatar for instance... will influence my responses. If we had no avatar at all, would you hold the same perception of a person? I doubt it.This virtual community is a distraction. A retreat for many of us I bet. It is a dangerous place for me.What is love.... I reckon you can't go wrong listening to a song for the answer... poets have ben struggling with that question forever. You can write your own song and let us all in on your perceptions... or just chooses something poetic that suits your personality and rely on that definition. :p HugsStalky

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  Just_Auzzie

  13 years ago

  I think alot of good stuff has been said already in this topic. Its a really interesting one thats for sure. I think if both parties are genuine enough people, then the love felt online can indeed be real and can be taken into that person to person realm and survive. But i guess far to often we have an "online" persona and a "face to face" persona, and often times these are really different from one another. I find it alot easier to talk openly about anything online, without that fear of judgement etc that comes with face to face. So i guess my online persona is somewhat varied to my face to face one. I think regardless though, feelings online can be felt, its just a matter of if they are the same feelings when that face to face meet happens. Great topic, would love to hear more.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think when you have sex with the same partner over a period of time there is a certain emotional involement ..That dosen't mean we're getting married..there is a nice intimacy between 2 people..   Connection on any level can build a closeness at that time..think about how many works friends you have had..but when one of you change jobs the level of communication drops as does the relationship..   yes you have seen a deep side of Taipan !! someone slap me ..

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  Onlylivetwice

  13 years ago

  There is something different in the intimacy online from the intimacy in person as we all know, we've all experienced a development in an online relationship which has a seperateness from an in-person development. Years ago I was chatting with a person in person and online where the conversations were completely seperate, one would not flow into the other.But the question is can you fall in love online and I believe you can, of course it's so dependent on what you think love is as you allude to Meeks and "what is love" is so vastly different for so many people.My understanding of love is very much from M Scott Peck's book "Road Less Travelled" in that love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.You can certainly do that online so I believe so. Love is universal.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  what..? Meeka like anal sex!!! dirty hoar   Words shared with someone online can certainly tug at the heart strings, some peeps have such a way with words, it build a whole picture in your mind. If you share on-line for too long and not meet in person, i believe there is a high risk that the picture/idea of what the other is like would be based on the truths you've learned, but with a lotta gap filling lol! One person writes a sentance with a meaning in mind, the reader reads the sentance and interprets in with a different meaning. One person dilberates over each word, reads all the messages over and over, analyses what they MUST mean. The other, writing their stream of conciousness as it comes thru their fingertips and once the words are written, may never give what was said a second thought!   Assuming you are both on the same page of reality (and that is if you were actually both totally genuine in your intent and are open), it still isn't enough to declare love?! It maybe a great way to meet someone you know you will like, but without meeting to find out if the attraction is hot enough to melt your pink bits, squeeze your heart in a bunch, make your pulse quicken to the point you can hear your own heart beating, sends the temp up, leaving you redfaced praying you don't sweat so much that it is obvious to the other and those butterflies going bonkas in your stomach so much that you could be sick, but you are too excited to worry!   I think full body and soul love, coupled with animal magnatism can't be experienced without a face to face relationship, and if after a month or few everytime you think of them all of the above still happens and when you see them it still happens... then maybe, just maybe, it could be love! :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Booba I have been called worse :-)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'Meeka100' I think intimacy can build up much more quicky online too. It's like talking to a stranger in a way, you tell them things you would never tell your family or friends. I doubt it can be called love but certainly intimacy and infatuation is common enough. I met someone online in a standard no sex chat room no cams etc and over 9 months we "courted" eventually moving to the phone and MSN then meeting.. the actual meeting was a nightmare of nervousness on both sides I guess and we didn't sleep with each other. We met again the next day and spent the whole day and rest of the weekend together.. all up it lasted about 3 years...with an amicable separation... I am still open minded to online relationships.. its just another medium where you can meet people in fact you can screen them to a degree that you can't at the pub LOL :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Tuscanred, that is a sad story... And yes this whole online thing is very ego boasting feel good stuff. For me too... Although I don't believe what people say though... I mean they haven't met me so how do they know I am hot and sexy? How do they know these photos are real, that I haven't taken 100 to only come up with the one decent shot. As Stalky says, it's all an illusion and yes the way I write and how We portay ourselves on line is different to every day life. But I have to say the same is true of every day life, it's isn't limited to the internet ... You are different people to your kids, to your co-workers, to your friends, to your fuck buddies, to your "I wear a gimp mask and get flogged every weekend". Stalkers, everyone is different with different people that's normal. To the person who is concerned that Meeka100 has fallen in love... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. Love to you all. ♥♥ Meeka

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Well, from the amount of spelling errors you can normally find in my posts you will see that I don't spend 30 minutes editing what I post... However it dedinitley isn't a totally free stream of consciousness. Gawd, if I did that people would think I am completely nuts! LOL

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  Moment_In_Time

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG' the attraction is hot enough to melt your pink bits, squeeze your heart in a bunch, make your pulse quicken to the point you can hear your own heart beating, sends the temp up, leaving you redfaced praying you don't sweat so much that it is obvious to the other and those butterflies going bonkas in your stomach so much that you could be sick, but you are too excited to worry! ... if after a month or few everytime you think of them all of the above still happens and when you see them it still happens... then maybe, just maybe, it could be love! :)   *Gasps for Air* I don't think I have heard a better definition.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  sweetness personified :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'Moment_In_Time' Quoting 'BoobaliciousFG' the attraction is hot enough to melt your pink bits, squeeze your heart in a bunch, make your pulse quicken to the point you can hear your own heart beating, sends the temp up, leaving you redfaced praying you don't sweat so much that it is obvious to the other and those butterflies going bonkas in your stomach so much that you could be sick, but you are too excited to worry! ... if after a month or few everytime you think of them all of the above still happens and when you see them it still happens... then maybe, just maybe, it could be love! :)   *Gasps for Air* I don't think I have heard a better definition.gr8 handle! the above sentance( with minimal punctuation) pretty much describes a moment in time too!

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