RHP

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Cum or not to Cum ?

June 11 2019

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If a guy doesn't have an orgasm and cum, does that turn you off? I get very turned on, on some occasions to stay hard, frustrated and horny but not cum. I can cum and I am happy to cum but once I cum I have an amazing rush then an decrease in my sex drive. Two questions : Would you be happy for me to keep pleasuring and going for hours and stay hard or preform and Cum? And for longtime I’ve preferred the control to cum over your body rather than inside you. Have I been missing out and not truly giving a woman what she wants by not cumming inside you ? I’m not a story teller so hope this makes sense.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    So I like it when a guy comes. It's my sole aim in fact. I would only have unprotected sex with a long term partner so I prefer a man to spray ON me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    I like for him to cum eventually as I know he has enjoyed it. Cum inside if with a long term trusted lover. Otherwise anywhere but the face

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I prefer Mr RC to come. For me I prefer him to come inside. However in saying that I do love to watch a man come

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Thanks K Flamingo I love sex and pleasing and it was learnt from an early age that cumin was over and was the best way for not getting anyone pregnant Fast forward 30 years it’s not about me and cumin and love to please so now feel it’s about the lady and I also want to cum and show how hot your are and fell

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Agree happy, it’s knowing what you like and trust to say

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    As a couple do you prefer cum in or over you. Respect it’s different from singles to couples

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    I understand what you are saying as I had a lover exactly as you described. It didn't worry me if he Cum or not. We just got caught up in the moment, soul fucking. That's what I loved more than anything. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I love to cum and that feeling with someone is intense. In the past it was the control maybe and not wanting to maybe cum and feel totally happy. Thanks for the comment :)

  • Anelide_88

    Anelide_88

    5 years ago

    It is a problem that occurs to me frequently when i am with someone i don't know well and i desire to please deeply. If i don't take any "help" (and i only take it on special occasions) it may be hard for me to have a second round in a short time, so i also tend to postpone my orgasm until i am too numb to come. I am a pleaser and i absolutely prefer not coming and having my partner having a good time rather then finishing relatively quickly and not letting her having the pleasure of feeling me inside her. On most occasions, i can tell there was a bit of disappointment for not having me climaxed, but it is a chance to get a second date to exchange the favour ;)

  • QLDtwo4fun

    QLDtwo4fun

    5 years ago

    At a party I don't cum tend to cum, mainly FOMO, what if I don't recover.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    God no ! It isnt a turn off at all.. in fact if it helps to keep you "in the game", then even better ! Lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Appreciate the message.

  • carl_louis

    carl_louis

    5 years ago

    ,,,is to get to a very specific point where I'm about to come...and stop everything. Mostly I can then ejaculate without having an orgasm...stay hard, and stay horny. That way, if the other person enjoys it, I can then massage all my come into their body. Over and over again.It gets quite intense...and filthy...and depending on what the other person likes, there's other things to do as well. Not coming but still ejaculating has some fun in many ways, not the least being keeping going...

  • usrightnow_Again

    usrightnow_Again

    5 years ago

    I'm certainly familiar with experiencing orgasms but not ejaculating, if I wish. That can extend the experience, or sitting on the precipice of orgasming, without reaching orgasm or ejaculating, read up on edging, for instance. Surely most have a ten to fifteen minute turnaround anyway, so why the concern? .. Mr. urn. .

  • MsFlirt

    MsFlirt

    5 years ago

    Firstly, you say you’re not a storyteller but your profile and post are both very articulate and give a good sense of who you are. So don’t be so hard on yourself! Now to your questions ... In an ideal scenario I love being with someone where we can both cum, preferably multiple times. But that doesn’t always happen. I’m a very giving lover and I get off big time in knowing I’ve emotionally and physically satisfied my partner. When there’s no obvious physical release in my partner then sure, I tend to wonder what I’ve done wrong and feel a bit anxious or disappointed. But I know I shouldn’t feel that way, it’s just a cultural, perhaps generational learnt behaviour. Or maybe it’s even deeper than that and it’s an evolutionary response based on fertility and conception! Either way, I know logically that sometimes, for a variety of reasons, sex doesn’t end in an explosive porn star climax to end all climaxes! And that’s ok. As long as there is honesty and communication it’s all good! And if the sex was great apart from that then there’s always the tantalising prospect of ‘next time’. As for cumming, similar to above where I mentioned evolutionary responses. I personally find a guy cumming anywhere else apart from deep inside me rather pointless and less than satisfying. And honestly, sometimes just gross. Having been someone who didn’t find having a baby easy, I learnt a lot about my own fertility, the biology behind conception and I’ve been able to reflect on how that affects my desires during recreational sex (recreational sounds so bad, but I mean as opposed to deliberate baby making sex!). I know how my pussy tightens and draws a cock in when I sense my partner is about to climax. I know how my cervix feels when it’s flooded with hot cum. And weirdly, most of those sensations are the same when it’s with a partner wearing a condom. There’s a reason ‘breeding’ and ‘fuck a baby into me’ porn clips are so popular! You have to remember though that sex no longer carries the possibility of pregnancy for me and for women who are fertile and who could accidentally fall pregnant there may be a layer of stress to cumming inside her that can be taken away by cumming elsewhere, even if a condom was worn during penetration. You sound like a very thoughtful, responsive lover and I’m certain your partners will benefit from your desire to learn and adapt to your joint needs!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    After i have blown my bolt, i lose the urge to continue, years ago it was so different, multiple cum's one after the other. I carry a bit of a belly at the moment, which affects my erectile function, but not my sex drive, and missionary seems to be the best position for me to gain the best erection for intercourse, although i still can't get as hard as i used to. Often during a sex encounter i will deliberately hold off cumming so she can enjoy herself longer, as she can go on for a very long time playing with herself and using her toys, having multiple orgasms and squirts while doing so, and i would prefer to hold off, or not cum at all so that she has a full on session and falls asleep feeling wonderful. After 29 years she still turns me on so badly when she plays with her toys, and being Asian makes it even more of a turn on, and i hope i eventually pass away watching her having an orgasm.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Thanks for the genuine and thoughtful message and insight. I liked your profile and it’s allot about the mind and connection as well as the physical. I always want to cum but live that moment now of being told please cum inside me. I will say over twenty years I had only done it a few times. I had missed out for me and my partners of the past.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    and feel your pleasure in other ways I wouldn't be concerned. I control the orgasm of the Sweet-Naughty-Cuck so his pleasure is not always linked to cumming... I love the mutual exchange of the pleasure journey. The destination does not need to be so orthodox.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

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